complex situation

I am really tired yall.

Lemme just preface this with saying that I am a writer. I have been writing for most of my life. I have taken actual classes about writing and about what fiction can offer you, me, and people as a whole. I have won an award for something that I wrote. I know and love fiction, be it in written form, graphic novels, or film. It is all so good and complex and it’s something I am passionate about. That said, let’s get into this.

A good majority of the discourse that goes on in most of the fandoms I’m in stem from the idea that violence and forbidden sexual acts in fiction will encourage those actions in reality. It is important to know, firstly, that the only time this happens is when a person is immature enough or not mentally healthy enough to distinguish reality from fiction. Growing up, my parents would often stop horror movies (back when I first started watching them) to ask me questions. To be fair, they were pretty shitty people, but in this one aspect, they were so good about making sure I knew this difference. “You know this is just a movie, right? None of the stuff on the tv is real.” They’d assure before continuing the film.

It’s not real.

Now, half of the stuff I read or watched back then was nowhere near pushing boundaries or making me think critically about society or whatever. However, I knew that what I watched wasn’t real. It was images on a screen. If I don’t like what I’m seeing, I can walk away. It doesn’t have to affect me, personally,  unless I let it.

Now, lets circle back. School. College. I took a writing class that used this book:

Granted, it was a screenwriting class and most of the chapters were about various script formats, but the beginning chapters focused on why we write and why we make the stories we do.

It had a section in it describing how human needs and desires are met through fiction. It detailed those needs in a list. This list:

Please draw your attention to the ones on the list that say that fictions helps people to:

Be purged of unpleasant emotions

To have vicarious but controlled emotional experiences

To confront, in a controlled situation, the horrible and terrible

To explore taboo subjects without guilt

Just because you personal don’t need various forms of ‘taboo’ media, doesn’t mean that others don’t. Media, in all of its forms, is a way for people to explore things safely. It’s an outlet that doesn’t harm anyone and it offers the creator and viewer/reader a safe way of exploring the complexities of situations (or in some cases relationships) that these people do not want to be involved in irl. Because we can distinguish reality from fiction. Because none of us are going out killing people or getting into abusive relationships or fucking our sibling.

While being critical of the media we consume is important and it is vital to dissect the whys of the media being created, there is a line between creating open discussion about these taboos, about the society and personal experiences that makes one need these outlets, and verbally abusing and harassing strangers.

If you want to create a dialogue about media or a ship you don’t agree with, fine. Talk about it. Dissect it. Really dig deep into the human condition and the psychology behind these outlets, but don’t shame people for them to the point of telling them to kill themselves or telling them they are human garbage or what the fuck ever.

Fiction isn’t always meant to be picturesque. It’s not always going to be SFW. If that isn’t your cup of tea, then great. Stop going into the tags of things that make you feel unhealthy. You do you. Keep yourself safe. Stop continuously exposing yourself to content that you can’t swallow. To keep getting involved, to keep harassing people, to keep abusing strangers shows that you don’t give a damn about the content. You need an excuse to bully someone else and indulge in holier-than-thou circle jerks with other people who also have no sense of what fiction is for.

One of the things that Daenerys haters who have read the books love to say to the show watchers (to convince them to join their ranks I guess?) is that the show version is an “ideolized version” of the character, that the show writers “whorship” her and that in the books she is much worse and it is utterly untrue

The show removed a lot of Daenerys’ kindness, her intelligence and political mind, as well as her emotions. The true Daenerys is softer, sweeter, brighter (without mentioning ten years younger) and her so called “questionable actions” are few in the novels. In fact, the only “questionable” thing I can think of is when she agreed to allow one of her advisors in Meereen to use torture on the only witness/suspect they had following the torture and slaughter of dozens of innocent people. But even that part - which is the darkest moment in Daenerys story - was made worse on the show, where she gave two Masters to be devoured to her dragons.

In the second novel, Daenerys never said the “when my dragons are grown we will lay waste to armies and burn cities to the ground” speech. She wasn’t insisting that the merchants of Qarth have to give her ships, she never locked up Doreah and Xaro Xhoan Daxos in a room to die of starvation, she didn’t plunder the city (not that I have a problem with show Daenerys about it, but she did not do that in the books). Doreah died in the Red Waste in Daenerys’ arms, and she gave her her last water although Doreah was dying and they were in a desert without provisions.

In the third novel, Daenerys didn’t enjoy the sack of Astapor and her quote was not “all men must die but we are not men” but “all men must die, but not for a long while, we may pray.” She really wanted to forgive Jorah despite his betrayal but his behavior towards her is what made her banish him (he was insisting that he did no wrong and that she had to forgive him, and that in front of others) - and even after he was gone, she thought a lot of him and wished for him to find happiness back on his Bear Island.

In the fifth novel, Daenerys is the one who is compromising and navigating in the very complex political situation of Meereen. She is the one trying to negotiate with the former slavers and slaves. She never ordered one of her followers to be decapitated, and she never let her dragons eat the Masters. It is not Drogon who rescued her from the Sons of the Harpy, but she who ran toward him to help him after Hizdahr’s men tried to kill him. She didn’t fly away leaving her friends behind in danger, she and Drogon were the only ones in direct danger and she needed to protect him from harm - besides it was the very first time she rode a dragon and did not know how to control him. 

Book Daenerys loves to hug children, kisses people on the cheeks, smiles and laughs and has a great sense of humor, doesn’t say things like “I am a Queen not a politician” and does not need men around her to restrain her from using dragonfire - it is actually the other way around. Everyone of her advisors in the fifth book wanted her to use dragons to burn her enemies but Daenerys was insisting to negotiate and build peace without using force. 

I love show Dany, but book Daenerys is amazing and anyone who tries to claim that the show version is “overhyped” or “whitewashed” or “idolized” compared to the real, canon version is a liar.

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I would do about anything
I would even learn how to love

Saying “ppl ship straight characters in gay ships all the time!!! It’s the same thing if we ship gay characters in straight ships!!!” Is the most ignorant, black & white, over simplified, idiotic way of thinking.

{Reaction} Monsta X as the Mafia

Can you do a monsta x as mafia?

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Lee Minhyuk

Originally posted by j00h0ney

It is unexpected of him due to his charming face, but this man is no innocent man. He is known as the ‘sweetheart scam,’ the one that uses his pretty face for money and secrets. He can seduce any man or woman alike into his false sense of security, and after that anyone is as good as his. He is known for gaining access for high security information from very important people, and it’s a mystery to a lot of people how he does it - but those are the kind of people that have never seen Lee Minhyuk in person, the kind of people that have never been under his intensive, lustful stare, they haven’t been conned by his tongue, he can dish out any desire that his lover wants to here for a few, vital words that could cost them a lot more than they had bargained for.

But meeting you was different, and falling for you was like a slap in the face. He didn’t know how to react, what to do - he couldn’t tell The X Clan, there was too much risk, and if any other mafia found out he felt attractions towards you it was almost set in stone that you would die. Even though he knew all this, and understood that any wrong moves could cost him everything, he still passed you by, said hello whenever he saw you. He still had hope that one day, things could be different.

{y/n}: “Back again, Minhyuk?”

Minhyuk: “How could I miss up the opportunity to see your-” *sees Shownu approaching* “Uh… you.”


Yoo Kihyun

Originally posted by klhyunnie

This man is known for his coldness, and it isn’t often that an enemy comes by him and makes it out alive. Kihyun is an assassin, a cold-blooded assassin that is behind the murders of some of the highest ranking people in the country. No one, not even in the x clan, asks him about the murders he has carried out, and even if they did, Kihyun probably wouldn’t be able to recall how many he has actually done, but he could give you specific gory details. Kihyun is lethal, and almost as high up as Shownu the leader, he has a lot of respect and no one dares to cross him.

But everyone has emotions, and Kihyun couldn’t stop himself from feeling them when he got to know you better. A part of The X Clan, you work alongside them, helping them plan out complicated procedures and worming ways out of complex situations, and Kihyun has a love for that. But his attraction to you is kept in the darkness of unlit rooms and distance between anyone else. You find yourself falling for him too, but you both know the consequence for falling in love in the business.

Kihyun: “Stay safe, I love you.” *Muttering*

{y/n}: “What was that?”

Kihyun: “w-what, I said stay safe, elephant juice!”


Shin Hoseok/ Wonho

Originally posted by kihqun

He may look sweet, but Hoseok is far from it. He goes under the name Wonho, and makes some of the biggest drug deals in the country. He’s a smart man, and knows how to get away unnoticed. A lot of women fall for his charms, but he knows how to play, and these girls are asking to be played. He has a lot of money, and lives an extravagant lifestyle. He never used to be like this, but after being poor and watching his family struggle, he changed, and now, he lives as though he’s a king and everyone else is beneath him. Everyone else except The X Clan, everyone except for you.

There’s a reason he sleeps around, not because he’s simply arrogant, but because he can’t stand knowing how he feels about you. In such a business, he would rather die than let you be killed, but being in a relationship, death for either is going to destroy the other.

Wonho: “Be careful, won’t you?”

{y/n}: “Careful is my middle name.” *grinning as you leave*

Wonho: “I love you…”


Son Hyunwoo/ Shownu

Originally posted by garisanee

This leader is anything but simple. He’s complex, and smart. He is the founder of The X Clan and has started such a revolution. He trusts little, but those he does trust hold high regard in his life. He may be a leader, and he may have all of the more important planning to do, but he is known to participate in the field too. He’s strong, courtesy of his constant working out, and has a good mind - he can take a little blood on his hands, especially when it’s for the greater good. He is highly wanted within the industry, a lot of people want his head on a stick. After all, he is known as one of the most successful leaders in South Korean history. But he never falls into the cracks, and his members are more than ready to help him and watch his back. Even though he’s tough, he gives credit where it’s due and can be the most caring person despite his occupation.

One of the members he treasures most is you, and you feel the same way about him. The two of you are together, even against all odds. You know the risk of it, but it seems as though it would be wasteful to live in fear. The X Clan are well aware of your relationship, meaning that they are all completely hands-off you, (who would want to cross Shownu, really?). You and him compliment each other, and the life isn’t ideal, but you have each other to work it out.

Shownu: “Did I ever tell you how gorgeous you are?”

{y/n}: “Plenty, but I never tire of hearing it.”


Lim Changkyun/ I.M

Originally posted by wonhontology

This man is not to be underestimated, and he is not to be crossed. He is an assassin, but never really works with Kihyun. Kihyun likes to work alone, and Changkyun can deal with either. He is perfect with his long range shots, but he’s even more lethal with a knife. If he intends to kill you, you’re as good as a dead man walking. He’s dangerous, and terrifying, and it isn’t often that his victim will escape his grasp, because he will get them one way or another. Changkyun has seen a lot of horrific things in this world, and has killed mercilessly, but that doesn’t stop him from what he thinks are flaws, his own emotions.

When he came across you, it was like an ice bucket had been dropped over his head. Changkyun didn’t believe in love at first sight, but seeing you changed that perspective entirely. He found himself falling for you, even though he tried his best not to. The two of you became closer when Shownu asked the two of uo to work together. The two of you were in training a lot, using each other to practice and gain strength. The two of you were like the dream team, god help anyone that tries to cross you.

Changkyun: *Pins you down against the floor.* “You’re getting weaker, {y/n}.” *smirking*

{y/n}: “And your ego is getting bigger” *scoffs*

Changkyun: *starts tickling you.* “What was that? What did you say, huh? How would you like being tickled - you should take it back!” *grinning*


Chae Hyungwon

Originally posted by wonhontology

Hyungwon is somehow one of the most frightening in the group. Nobody dares to cross him. Hyungwon is a man of many talents, he isn’t just good in the field of assassination, he is also good at drug deals and the sweetheart scam, he’s an all rounder, and somehow he’s gained a lot of respect from a lot of gangs, there are many that refuse to cross him. He may appear to be very cute though, his sleeping habits give him an innocent look, like he is childlike, but far from it, sleeping isn’t the only activity that goes on in his bed.

Hyungwon and you had been dating for a long time, and honestly, even though there are risks, he still dates you because he figures that anyone that tries to even lay a finger on you has a death wish. He is very sweet with you, most unlike his attitude towards his job and The X Clan. some nights he will help you with training, others he will cuddle with you until it’s 3am and you start talking about the most random shit.

Hyungwon: “I love you Jagiya.”

{y/n}: “I love you too.”


Lee Jooheon

Originally posted by wonhontology

Jooheon is the more emotional of all of the men in the mafia, but he still takes his job very seriously. Jooheon is in charge of all of the technological side and tracking, he is the one on the other side of the ear piece when other members go on dangerous missions. He can hack any system and extract any information that he wants, he is very much wanted by the government for leaking vital information. He can do whatever he wants, hack CCTV footage, top-security information and leave no trace. He is very dangerous, you’d be very stupid to piss him off. As well as this, Jooheon is handy in the field, and there’s no denying that he can be popular with the ladies in his life.

When he met you, he started to like you almost immediately, and even under the dim lights of the casino, he still admired your face as though it was in the light of the day. Even since that moment, he has been a smooth talker, perhaps that’s what made you fall for him in the first place. His aegyo is killer, but that is only shown to you, it has never been portrayed before the other members. And unlike his job, he is very forgiving and kind. He’s very protective of you, and is very careful when letting you go on missions because he loves you and that will never change.

Jooheon: “Be careful Jagi. I’m only on the other side of the earpiece if you need me.”

{y/n}: “Thank you, Jagi.”

INTJ Weaknesses Examined

According to 16personalities.com, INTJs display the following weaknesses:

Arrogant
Judgmental
Overly analytical
Loathe highly structured environments
Clueless in romance
As an INTJ myself, I will try to discuss these different weaknesses and expand on it, adding on to other weaknesses INTJs have.

Arrogant – INTJs tend to be arrogant, especially at the earlier stages of their life when their exposure to more intelligent groups is limited. Once they find more intelligent peers (if they don’t, they will likely remain arrogant for the rest of their life), the INTJ will respond in one of two ways. The INTJ will humble themselves, and stop treating others as if they are much more superior, and will only consider themselves superior in the regards they know themselves to be (which may be most things still). Or they will deny the discrepancies to keep their ego intact, losing themselves into worlds where they are superior, leading to them developing issues such as workaholism or gaming addictions. INTJs even have books on the link between their type and narcissism too. INTJs will be inwardly arrogant, but they won’t directly tell you how much better they consider themselves to be than you. Unless the INTJ is younger/more immature, they would rather imply it passive-aggressively or not imply anything at all. Why risk having ego damaged?

Judgmental – Less developed INTJs tend to assume a lot, because their dominant introverted intuition has subconsciously analyzed many different patterns before, although the problem is that it may be an incomplete analysis. This leads to intuition that is unrefined and prone to being wrong, especially with more complex situations like those involving people matters. It’s akin to learning the mechanisms of a pond before stumbling upon a river and finding out the same principles don’t apply. The problem with this is that INTJs apply their auxiliary extroverted thinking too soon when it comes to matters that they think they already have a firm understanding of, when they would be better off making sure that they know all the details before making a judgement. This could easily apply for many personality types, but can be particularly troublesome with an obstinate INTJ who is convinced that their understanding is correct as it is.

Overly Analytical – INTJs tend to over analyze a lot of things which is helpful within the logical realm of theories and ideas but it falls short when applied to the real world, especially with people. Not every human act can be explained easily, and this will annoy the INTJ who wants an explanation for why things happen. This can also lead to quick judgements to relieve themselves of the pressure of finding out the real reason behind an act, or the possibility that there was no big reason.

Loathe highly structured environments – Contrary to what most would expect, INTJs tend to actually heavily dislike school. INTJs like learning a lot, but they would rather direct their own education rather than having a separate body telling them what they need to learn. The added factor of socialization within the school environment is also painful as it serves as just another distraction from their learning, forcing them to learn how to navigate the politics of multiple people being involved in a structure. However, just because many INTJs dislike school, this doesn’t mean that they won’t play the “game” and try to win by getting the best scores possible. For INTJs, their future vision of what they can accomplish by winning the “game” fuels their desire to withstand adversity. However, the weaker their vision as a result of completing a task, the less likely they are to invest time within it. This is also applicable for most people, but especially amplified for the INTJ who spends most of their time in their head.

Clueless in Romance – For the younger INTJs, this is especially true. They will have no idea when anyone is interested. But after being caught off-guard a few times, they become acutely aware of when people are interested in them. However, after that, the INTJ is practically clueless. Their humor is very different from most other types, their flirting is abysmal, talking can be a chore at times and they aren’t often aware of social cues and people’s feelings. It can be a disaster without an understanding partner that doesn’t judge immediately or without strong personal growth from the INTJ. As INTJs are less than 2% of the population, it may not be a surprise that this type is not in abundance.

My additions:

Weirdly Emotional – This depends on whether the INTJ has a “hot” or “cool” personality. The INTJs with a cool personality tend to remain more detached and analytical while the hot INTJs will be more in tune with their emotions. This can lead to them feeling emotions more greatly but also arising poorly, leading to an emotional reaction that is often more than it should be. INTJs with hot personalities tend to have more associations with their tertiary introverted feeling. Whether any personality type is hot or cool also seems to be more associated with their enneagram type.

Just Weird – INTJs spend a lot of their time in their head or on the computer/phone gathering information. For someone who is generally very detached from the world, this can lead to them developing a very niche personality that will deviate greatly from the norm of the social groups they have access to. Pair that with their natural unwillingness to talk to many people, they can become very closed off from others and hide their real selves as a result. They can fear showing what they really think due to being ridiculed, although it prevents them from finding out who would actually appreciate those thoughts too.

Self-Doubting – INTJs are so self-doubting about themselves, they are the most likely out of all the types to try researching their own weaknesses. They have to know what’s wrong with them and how they can get better. This self-doubt can be transparent when they speak because they are willing to show their level of certainty or lack of it, which can come off poorly in the workplace and in relationships because other types would prefer certainty in their explanations.

Too Serious – Younger INTJs often don’t know when people are joking, at least immediately. They will generally take many things at face value because of how often they take themselves seriously within their own thoughts. INTJs have high opinions of themselves in relations to others, “armor up” for social interactions and are constantly analyzing what people are saying, all of which leads to their solemn outlook when dealing with the external world.

INTJs have a lot of work to do when it comes to their weaknesses, but a well-rounded and mature INTJ will generally become a powerful force to be reckoned with if they are able to master these weaknesses.

Some of the worst things Ciel has done to people

Everyone knows that Ciel isn’t exactly a good person, yet I often overlook what awful things he has actually done! So it seemed like an interesting idea to compile them all for reference.

NOTE: It goes without saying that Ciel is a young teen who is being manipulated by a demon and has a lot of mental health issues to boot - so his actions are hardly “evil” but highly complex. Ciel also feels remorse for many things and does have a moral compass even if he chooses to ignore it. However, that is not the focus of this post so I will not be exploring that.

In order of least to most offensive:

Insulting Agni (right before he died)

Ciel was clearly broken up over Agni’s death and couldn’t have known he was going to die, but that doesn’t make his harsh dismissal of Agni’s words any less cruel - especially since Agni was more than justified in his complaint to Ciel.

Removing “Colett” from Weston College simply to take their place

We don’t know what Sebastian did to ensure Ciel gained a place at Weston College, but it probably wasn’t anything good. This is pretty minor in comparison to the other things Ciel has done (and it’s hard to care since we didn’t even see it happen) but it’s still pretty bad!

Threatening Sieglinde with her life

Even if he was never intending to follow through it’s undeniably harsh to threaten an 11 year old with a gun; it was hardly the only solution.

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The people who really make me laugh are the ones who can’t seem to comprehend how the Doctor being a woman can work if River were to show up.

Like, some people are gay, Linda. Or in the Doctor’s case, pansexual. And River is a well known bisexual woman. I’m fairly certain this is not as complex of a situation as you imagine it to be.

The Straights™ need to start getting a clue because I can’t deal with how embarrassing they are anymore lol

[character].

[character] who [elevated description of sensible, low-risk action].

[character] who [basic survival tactic reframed as shocking altruism].

[character] who [nakedly hagiographic oversimplification of complex situation downplaying or erasing other significant actors].

[character in all-caps with “fucking” inserted between first and last names].

You have to tell me (Zach Dempsey, 13 Reasons)

The tapes were a complex situation to say the least. Zach Dempsey knew everyone’s dirty laundry. He did and everyone’s tape varied in how much it weighed on him. Justin’s second tape, that was shitty. He had to admit he didn’t look at his friend the same way anymore. Zach, he had a girlfriend now. He’d been talking to her for months until she finally agreed to go out with him. Quiet, but in theater and dance, Y/N never really wanted to date jocks. He pursued her for a while.

She had the wrong class with him, biology. Watching him in the class was captivating. He was so engrossed in the material and it was obvious he loved it more than basketball. She’d gotten stuck at basketball games because her friends would want to go. She’d seen how good Zach was. Probably the best on the entire team. But there was a look in his eyes that he got when he learned more about biology. AP biology was the only advanced placement class he took.

That’s when she knew he was different. After being made table partners in biology, she noticed him staring at her during tests and other activities where the teacher wasn’t lecturing. He started sitting with her at lunch. At first her friends stayed, but then they moved over a table, leaving the two of them alone. His friends watched from afar, with huge grins on their faces. She didn’t really know what Zach Dempsey’s intentions were.

He seemed different, but at the same time, at times he would speak like any other jock would to a girl. She tried to bore him at first, it didn’t work. Even if she was completely silent, he would sit there, watching her eat, a slight smile on his face.

After two months of lunches like this, she opened up to him. She began to like him. He began to sound like a person when he talked, rather than a fumbling idiot. And sooner rather than later she was his official girlfriend.

It was Tuesday, the day she and Zach would get together and study. Or ‘study’ depending on how much biology they had to work on. The last few Tuesdays had been weird. Usually, they’d get home right after school so they could beat her parents home, and they’d fool around. Right away, he’d get handsy. The last few Tuesday’s it hadn’t been like that. She had to initiate everything. He’d let her do some things to him, but he wouldn’t really do anything for her. On this Tuesday, she leaned in and kissed his neck, he didn’t really move and continued to read out of the biology textbook.

“Okay, I know I’ve gained weight. We just need to stop going for dessert so much. But am I really that gross? We haven’t been together that long. This is the honeymoon stage. We’re supposed to fool around. Like constantly.” Zach shut his book, laying back on the bed, looking more than beaten down.

“Not every couple’s the same- we don’t have to do stuff constantly.” He said, still reading out of the textbook. She felt herself turn bright red.

She backed away from him, cuddling up to a pillow at the head of the bed. He sighed, shutting his textbook.

“It’s not you, of course it’s not you. Come here.” He laid next to her, his arms snaking around her waist. He eventually moving to where he was on top of her, hovering.

“Is this okay?” He mumbled. She nodded, guiding his hands up her shirt. She didn’t respond verbally, she just ran her hands through his hair as he kissed down her neck. He suddenly rolled over, moving to sit on the edge of the bed and button up his shirt.

“Okay, you have to tell me what’s wrong, Zach. Do I bore you now? What’s wrong?” He was breathing heavily, but he wouldn’t look up at her.

“I just never want you to be overpowered. Or trapped.” His head was now buried in his hands. She couldn’t tell if he was crying or not.

“What are you talking about? If I was uncomfortable I would tell you.” She crawled over to him, wrapping her arms around his neck from behind.

“Promise me that.” He mumbled, interlacing his fingers with hers.

“I promise. But why are you freaking out about this all of a sudden?” She asked in almost a whisper.

“I’m huge, I’m 6'3 and your so small an-” she cut him off, letting out a breathy laugh.

“You’ve always been a tree, and I’ve always been small, compared to you. There’s something else going on.” She got off the bed and went to her desk, taking a makeup removing wipe and beginning to take all of her makeup off. She was simply finding something to do.

She didn’t know what to expect of his answer. She wondered if he knew how much this was eating at her.

“Y/N it’s not your fault. I don’t want to hurt you. I’m sorry if you don’t get it I-” she sighed, not understanding how he was so dense.

“You’re hurting me by not telling me what the hell is going on, Zach! You’ve been acting weird for weeks now.” Her eyes became watery.

She wasn’t sad, necessarily, but she had severe anxiety that would force her to tears at times. Whether she was sad, or nervous, or frustrated. Sometimes even if she was confused. This was one of those times. Zach knew she was getting anxious and concern filled his eyes as soon as he saw the tears.

“Hey, hey-” she turned her back to him sharply, bowing her head as she tried to catch her breath.

“Get out. Now. Leave.” She said, still not turning to look at him. He rubbed the back of his neck, not knowing what else to do.

“Okay, okay. I’m sorry. Some stuff has happened and I don’t know how to feel.” She felt herself softening. She sniffled, biting her lip as she regained her composure.

“Specifics.” She said simply. He rolled his eyes. He didn’t know how to tell her. But he knew he had to. He could feel her trust slipping through his fingers.

“It’s just- a friend of mine. I found out he raped a girl. Actually, he raped two. And it got me thinking- I just- I don’t know how I’d live with myself if I ever did something and you were uncomfortable. I love you. I hate the idea of hurting you.” She turned around, he wasn’t crying, but he was trembling.

She covered her mouth, tears spilling out of her eyes. Someone she likely knew was a rapist. She didn’t know what to think. Of course she was curious. Who the hell was the rapist among Zach’s friends?

She felt dirty, as it was true that she hung out with them quite frequently.

“You’re not a rapist, Zach. I’d tell you if I didn’t want to. You have to trust that I trust you. You have to trust yourself.” She took his hand and led him to sit on the edge of her bed.

She sat on his lap, hugging his head against her chest. She did this quite a lot. He said he loved hearing her heartbeat, that it made him feel less lonely.

“If you’re worried about consent, I give it to you every time. I’ve never been uneasy or wary about anything.” He let out a groan. She looked at him as he looked around.

He acted as if he was thinking about what to say next.

“What qualifies as consent? Words, I guess. But how else am I supposed to know for sure?” She smiled at him. It wasn’t a great topic, sure. But he cared. He was showing how much he cared and that was beautiful.

“I guess I don’t really know. But, do you know how many times I’ve shoved you off of me? A lot. But guess what?” She looked at him. He bit back a smile, probably thinking of how hormonal he could be at times. He mumbled for her to continue, his cheeks blushed over a bit.

“After I push you away, you don’t keep at it. You accept my answer. All the times I haven’t given consent, you’ve listened.” He smiled and she grabbed his face, making him look at her. She looked him in the eyes for a while.

“Maybe you’re trying to keep me out of this for my benefit but.. please tell me you’re going to report this. Or that someone has already reported it.” He looked away from her. How was he going to tell her that he’d given the evidence to the next person?

“I-I don’t have the evidence anymore. It’s this process. I wish I could tell you, but I can’t. It’ll come out, though. And if it doesn’t, I’ll- I’ll go to the police.” She smiled sadly at him, wrapping her arms around him. He would, she knew he would.

DIDNT KNOW ID GET TWO UP TODAY! Keep requesting all! If I haven’t responded to you, don’t think that I didn’t get them, I’m working on them all and have a lineup. There will be a part two of this to simply fill the request’s specifics more, so look for that. Thanks :)

Let’s start using positive labels.

Dyslexia

  • Creative
  • Great spatial awareness
  • Photographic memory
  • Always quick during a debate
  • Can oversee complex situations at a glance
  • Good at organising
  • Often great drawers
  • Has a lot of fantasy
  • Visual thinker

ADHD

  • Creative
  • Spontaneous
  • Highly empathic
  • Strong intuition
  • Great sense of humour
  • Good at finding solutions to problems
  • Quick thinker in crisis situations
  • Not angry for long
  • Energetic
  • Open
  • Driven and enthousiastic
  • Honest

Autism

  • Creative
  • Eye for detail
  • Honest
  • Realistic
  • Objective
  • Perfectionist
  • Analytical thinker
  • Always specific
  • Lives by rules
  • Great at deductive reasoning
  • Focused on facts

Armin might be known for often-cited quotes such as this:

This is certainly something that guides Armin as a general principle. It was something he saw in Erwin and other leaders in the Survey Corps and admired.  However, the reason why I hate Araki’s insinuation that Armin’s character is like the growth of a future dictator is for these reasons.

(Chapter 77, after the 104th uses the thunder spears to seemingly kill Reiner)

(Chapter 54, Armin, after he and Jean are rescued from the MP)

(Chapter 59, Armin is horrified at his first kill)

(Chapter 85, Armin is informed that he was given the titan serum instead of Commander Erwin, and then ate Bertolt)

My point is- yes, Armin does believe that sacrifice is necessary to achieve victory.  He demonstrated this when he was willing to give up his own life and dream if it meant buying Eren the opportunity to take down the colossal titan.  However, this doesn’t mean that Armin doesn’t care about the repercussions of these actions.  He’s usually one of the first to point out the morally grey situations that the SC is often entangled in- he just doesn’t think that morality is the best answer to complex situations.  Armin is more than willing to give up his own life if need be, but when it comes to causing harm to others, he really struggles internally.  It’s not something he’s been able to accept easily, and it weighs heavily on his conscience.  

This is why I so fervently disagree with Araki’s “future dictator” vision of Armin- because he is one who is able to throw away his own personal goals and even his life if need be, but his humanity? Not that we’ve seen.  He’s had to make some tough choices, but he has always retained his empathy and distaste for actually having to carry them out.  I think the anime director’s vision of Armin is kind of surface-level and fails to realize the nuance in his beliefs.  

I’m just gonna say that ace discourse on this website is the final form of this weird “points” system most of y'all who interact with oppression on this website have. You try to quantify your oppression wrt your identities and completely disregard the intersections of, and personal interpretations with those identities. You believe that being a cishet ace gives you 1 Oppression Point over gay non-asexuals because you have this weird disconnect with the context of oppression. You want your identity and oppression to exist in a vacuum and you also want to quantify it in a way that is simply unrealistic.

The spiritual consequences of mistreating others

Few people realise the suffering they can cause someone when they bully, physically harm, emotionally or psychologically abuse someone, or generally mistreat others with harmful words and attitudes. Yet the consequences for these actions are much much more severe than what we are taught.

Spiritual bondage
As a spiritual healer I have found people completely held down by what I call “spiritual bondage”, where they have been so mistreated their whole lives that they are emotionally, spiritually, and physically bound to and by their suffering. And it wont always be huge traumatic experiences. Often times, it is simply someone yelling at them which has bound them to their suffering, or something they brought on themselves by mistreating others. But from my experience as a healer, I have found people with energy shackles, essentially negative energy so heavy and so accumulated that their body suffers as if bound in shackles. I’ve had people come to me with backs hunched over and unable to walk without crying in pain, and yet when the negative energy is removed they can walk again like normal. This is spiritual bondage. And this is the result of mistreating others. If left untreated, it can carry on into the next life.

When we hurt someone, we direct negative energies to them. These negative energies sometimes can be so hateful, so angry and so resentful that they become a curse on that persons body. We curse others without even realising, and today more and more people are mistreating each other without realising the true spiritual nature of what they are doing to someone.
It is not a small thing to curse someone with spiritual bondage. Spiritual bondage lasts for years, decades, or even someones entire life. This type of suffering is emotionally, physically and mentally draining and cursing with spiritual bondage essentially prevents someone from accessing the divine blessings and protection that they need in order to flourish. You are cutting them off from the spiritual nourishment that all of us need and are deserving of.
Yet it is so easy to do.
How often have we yelled at shop assistants trying to do their jobs? How many of us yell at our parents, at our friends or partners? How many of us have suffered abuse and mistreatment? How many of us send hateful messages to others? How many of us manipulate and take advantage of others? How many of us discriminate or harm others because they are different?
Every word, every action you take matters, and has real spiritual consequences, not only on others, but on your own body.

Ancestral spiritual bondage
Spiritual bondage can and usually is also an ancestral inheritance. Not only do we take on spiritual bondage from past lives, but we can inherit it from our ancestors. One of the most common ways that this can be inherited through our ancestors is through abuse or mistreatment from a parent to their child in which the cycle of abuse continues with their children’s children and so on. In my own family, a the of abuse and mistreatment of my grandfather as a child resulted in neglect of my mother whom in turn became manipulative and controlling as a result of her suffering under my grandfather. When she has raised myself and my siblings, we have all grown up cursed with the negative spiritual energy of my grandfather’s abuse. When I had broken free and gone to heal the others in my family, the level of spiritual bondage upon each person has been so damaging and so heavy.

Mindfulness: The fundamental teaching of the Buddha
One of the fundamental teachings of the Buddha was the concept of mindfulness. He begins this teaching by asking us to focus simply on the breath. With regular practice of mindful breathing, we can begin to apply the concept of mindfulness in our everyday lives in more complex situations than just breathing. But this is such an important teaching. Why? Because being mindful of our words and actions allows us to think before we speak and act, which is extremely important when we want to minimise harm to others. While it is normal to feel anger, rage, sadness, desires and overwhelming emotions of any kind, we need to take care in how we express these emotions. We can always choose our actions, and we can always choose our thoughts. But we cannot know the true suffering of others, and we cannot take back the harm we cause to others. So it is vitally important to treat others with love and respect regardless of how angry they make you, because you do not know what curses your hate may place over them. 

We live in a world full of war, disease, starvation, hatred and suffering. The best thing we can do to fight is to love others from our heart. This is the best form of rebellion, the only way to bring light into the world if only for a brief moment. Love is a magic that can overcome pain, and we need more of it in this world. So love others, be mindful of the consequences of mistreating others. Love comes first.

The way the show handled the flashbacks was so incredibly well done because they not only connected them to what was going on in the present, they also connected them to each other. So Alec jokingly asking for the time and saying he has to go to the institute makes more sense when you realize that the first night he slept over at Magnus’ loft, he said the same thing and couldn’t get out of Magnus’ loft fast enough after realizing he’d let his guard down and spent the night. It adds another layer of nuance to the look on Magnus’ face.

At the time of the 1x06 flashback, you could tell Magnus was hurt by Alec’s reaction to having spent the night - he’d thought that Alec was different, that Alec saw him differently than the other shadowhunters, which is how Alec was able to begin breaking down the walls around Magnus’ heart without even trying. Yet here he was, jumping up from the couch so as not to sit next to Magnus, rushing to get out the door, telling him he couldn’t tell anyone he had been there. He was ashamed, though not necessarily for the reasons Magnus thought, and that shame brought out the defensive side in Magnus because it was something he’d dealt with his entire life.

Gone is the vulnerable Magnus, and in his place is the man who couldn’t understand why Dot would risk her life for a shadowhunter. He reminds Alec of something he probably never thought of before - which is that he has just as much reason to not want anyone to know he let a shadowhunter spend the night. That Alec is as much a pariah to the downworlders as Magnus would be to the shadowhunters. It’s not exactly the same, obviously, because although downworlders are powerful they’re not the ones in the position of power in their society. But it’s a connection that he and Alec have - that they both had every reason to not let their guard down, to not want to spend more time together. And yet they both went against their beliefs because their instinct was to trust each other. To help each other.

Alec smiles a little when Magnus says there must be something in the air influencing their decision, but I’m fairly certain Magnus already suspected it was more than just simple trust. He also learned something important about Alec - that he had walls around his heart, too. That Magnus, if only for a moment, was able to knock them down. And maybe Alec put them back up that morning, but if Magnus could get through them again, maybe both of them could find a reason to not need those walls anymore, and maybe they could both finally be happy. You could finally see exactly what it is that Magnus saw in Alec that night that made him feel there was a connection between them.

And ultimately, Magnus was right. Every time Alec or Magnus let down another wall around their heart, they achieved a new level of happiness together. Alec facing his fear of losing his loved ones and his career, because for once he wanted to put his happiness first. Magnus facing his fear of rejection, even after being rejected, because after a hundred years of not feeling anything, he had to at least fight for the connection he felt. Alec letting himself be vulnerable enough to apologize when he made a mistake and hurt Magnus, and vulnerable enough to go to him when he was hurting over the demon attack on the Institute. Magnus letting himself be vulnerable enough to take the next step in their relationship, even though he was afraid Alec would want to leave if he let him in too much, and even though he was afraid of how Alec would react once he finally saw physical proof of the demon blood in his veins. Both of them trusting the other not to break their heart. 

When Alec teases him the next morning and asks if he was really that afraid he was going to leave, Magnus says no, but the truth is that’s exactly what Magnus is afraid of. That the more he lets himself feel, the more he has to lose. That’s how he’s protected his heart for the past century. And when he thinks he might lose Alec in 2x10, he’s willing to do anything, risk anything, to ensure his safety, because he already knew he loved him. He’s known for a long time, which is why he was so afraid of doing anything that might push Alec away again. And then when he sees him again and Alec says he loves him, it’s like he’s in awe that Alec would actually feel the same way, that not only did he not want to leave after everything, but he was just as terrified of losing Magnus as Magnus was of losing him.

In fact, Alec continues to surprise Magnus with his acceptance and understanding. He doesn’t judge Magnus for having killed his stepfather, because he understands he was only a child and that this one act doesn’t define who he is as a person. He doesn’t just stop at telling Magnus his eyes are beautiful, or that physically he finds him attractive - he tells him that nothing about Magnus could ever be ugly, contradicting what Magnus has always felt deep down about himself. He makes him feel beautiful, desired, loved… everything he’s never truly gotten to feel before.

Which is why it’s so hard for him to choose between Alec - a once in a lifetime love that may never come again - and his people - innocent people who never asked to be born the way they were, who have had their lives controlled by people who barely distinguish the difference between their humanity and their half-demon blood, and who are just as entitled to life as anyone else yet continually made to feel otherwise. People who depend on Magnus to do what’s best for them. In some ways it’s the same struggle Alec went through in the first season, having to choose between his own happiness and his duty as a shadowhunter, but for Magnus it’s more complicated than the because the consequences of choosing his happiness won’t just be his to bear, should the worst case scenario happen. And even though Alec tries to convince Magnus that he doesn’t have to choose one or the other, it’s easier for him to feel that way because while his people are dying, they aren’t the ones being targeted for total annihilation. And it’s not that Magnus doesn’t recognize Alec’s attempts to bridge their worlds, even in light of his mistake - I think he just knows that the situation has accelerated beyond that, and the time it would take for it to work is time they may not have now that Valentine has escaped.

It’s just such a complex situation and I feel so blessed that the show is exploring how that impacts their relationship, as well as their individual journey’s as characters. I love that you aren’t completely sure of what the right choice actually is in this situation, because neither are they, and that’s kind of the point of this storyline. The only thing you do know is that they’ll find their way back together again, and when they do, they’ll be stronger than before, because that’s what happens when you face an obstacle and learn how to overcome it. 

Healthy Love, Unhealthy Application

Or how I, a huge Touken shipper, have mixed feelings about Kaneki’s focus on Touka this chapter, and think Ken still has a lot of growing to do. I’ve written this and this so please don’t take this as me criticizing the ship, because I am not at all. I love Touken and think they are fundamentally good for each other, but that doesn’t mean everything is flawless in their relationship.

Ken’s fighting to save her life here, but he’s forgotten that a) she’s said before she doesn’t need him to protect her. It’s true though that she absolutely does need help here, but he’s been thinking about how he wants to protect her since he married her, and that’s not really acquiescing to Touka’s explicitly stated wishes.

And b) she loves children. Touka’s choice–the one she said she believed was the right choice–was to protect the children. Specifically, it was to protect her child, but when she left Hinami, it was to protect all the children in her care.

In addition to being pregnant herself, she cares for the Aogiri kids… whom it doesn’t appear Kaneki was thinking of at all this chapter considering the fact that he implied he still doesn’t consider ghouls to be people

Yes, it’s impossible to protect both Touka and her kids and all the Oggai here, but we’ll get into that in a bit. There’s likely a reason Ishida brought up Touka’s lingering resentments towards her father for choosing to pursue vengeance rather than nurture his own children at the beginning of this arc, which all leads to me asking: do we really think Touka is going to be a-okay with Dragoneki slaughtering the Oggai and just brush it off? I think that would be out of character for her.

Yes, Kaneki had no other options here because basically everyone was going to die. But he had like a trillion options before it came to this that he should have explored and didn’t. I don’t think Touka is going to let him off the hook for this because she never has let him off the hook before. That’s what I love about her character and their relationship: she is upfront with him about his shortcomings and identifies his faults to him. I doubt very much Touka will be “well, since it saved us, it’s fine.” She may understand, but I think she’s also going to have mixed feelings if not outright anger at her husband for letting it get to this point and for going as far as he did. That doesn’t make her love for him any less strong, because all relationships have conflicts. If there’s hope for Dragoneki, and I believe there is, he will have to face what he’s done, and Touka’s perfectly positioned to point it out to him since that’s what she’s been doing the entire time they’ve known each other. 

And there’s another reason why Touka may have some anger towards Kaneki for this: taking that first bite, even a few kills, is understandable given the circumstances. But did Kaneki need to shred all the Oggai? Certainly he’d have to kill some of them to be able to save his loved ones, but is this all really necessary?

The Oggai that Ishida made a point of showing as terrified children before this raid began? (I doubt that wasn’t intentional.)

Did he need to send his kagune into Hajime’s 11 year old face? 

Was that so he could live and see Touka again, or was that because he was furious, even if understandably so? I can easily see Touka making this exact point to Kaneki. Kaneki’s paralleling Arata right now: he’s pursuing vengeance rather than simply saving those he loves. And it’s turned him into a Dragon–a mythological monster creature that thrills and fulfills the plan of the story’s nihilistic villain. Even if Kaneki really did have to kill them all, I don’t think the narrative is suggesting this is a good turn for Kaneki. 

So, basically: choosing to live because he wants to see Touka again: good. Having someone or something to hold onto when you have nothing else is something I relate to and it’s not a bad thing.

But applying this by murdering children whom he likely did not have to all brutally murder: not a healthy application of said good choice to live (and given the themes in TG of war affecting the children most, I kind of don’t think we’re supposed to see it as a yay Kaneki moment, but rather more of a gray moment: it’s good he wants to live, but it shouldn’t have gotten to this point and shouldn’t be carried this far). 


Because this choice–to slaughter more than necessary–doesn’t have to do with Touka. It has to do with Kaneki himself and what he wants, not what she wants. I’m not saying Kaneki’s love for Touka is toxic, but love shouldn’t be more about you than about what the other person wants, and Kaneki needs to learn this (it’s kind of a calling card of his character: he struggles with this). I’d bet on Touka pointing out his own self-focus to him because she’s done it before, so again, this isn’t me saying their relationship is doomed or unhealthy, just that it needs good communication, and that it’s a more complex situation than “yay Touka inspiring him to live!” or “look what Touka made him do!” (not that she made him do anything, blame Fruit and blame Kaneki himself for that). 

anonymous asked:

Eve, I am so confused. Sorry for coming to you with this. Miss you leaves me so anxious in a way...who is he singing about? some of the lyrics and the whole vibe is about missing someone so much it hurts, that you even have to fake happiness, numb the pain & of course the line about being in love in past tense. i just do not get it. BTY also is about a break up/toxic relationship. I was expecting some happy/in love songs like during 1D times. but he said he is honest on this album? x

i mean… personally this is what i get from it:

  • you have missing someone so much it hurts, not being able to be with them when the lights are on, (we’re not who we used to be / i’m just trying to remember how it feels to have a heartbeat)
  • you have going through a rough time, which is pretty self-explanatory when it comes to louis, like if the album is truly honest i definitely wasn’t expecting a horde of happy songs. 
  • you have trying to play tough, hiding how you’re truly feeling because maybe you’re trying to protect someone, bc you care about them more than you care about yourself – even though they might want to be burdened with your sufferance and feel frustrated when you shut them out (i always think about you and how we don’t speak enough).

bty is a whole other story to me, bc louis himself said it wasn’t personal, which, for me, had the double purpose of 1) protecting the stunt so people wouldn’t say that his relationship with eldemort is toxic and 2) being like… chill out people, this isn’t actually personal as in about the real relationship i’m in, so basically, it’s not about harry. i personally think it actually is personal, and that it’s about either his complex work situation (record label etc) or an environment in his home town which he has partially outgrown but that he somehow can’t fully escape. i haven’t made up my mind but i don’t feel like i have to. i just don’t see it as being related to love.

as for the happy / in love songs… i’m sure we’ll have them, no worries. what leaves me more shook, though, is how what louis sings about seems to complement what harry sings about. even though it’s not always happy, it doesn’t mean it’s not love. x

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The philosophy known as Stoicism has inspired generations of thinkers and leaders with its teachings of virtue, tolerance, and self-control. Today, we colloquially use the word stoic to mean someone who remains calm under pressure and avoids emotional extremes. But while this captures important aspects of Stoicism, the original philosophy was more than just an attitude. The Stoics believed that everything around us operates according to a web of cause and effect, resulting in a rational structure of the universe, which they called logos. And while we may not always have control over the events affecting us, we can have control over how we approach things. Rather than imagining an ideal society, the Stoic tries to deal with the world as it is while pursuing self-improvement through four cardinal virtues: practical wisdom, the ability to navigate complex situations in a logical, informed, and calm manner; temperance, the exercise of self-restraint and moderation in all aspects of life; justice, treating others with fairness even when they have done wrong; and courage, not just in extraordinary circumstances, but facing daily challenges with clarity and integrity.

From the TED-Ed Lesson The philosophy of Stoicism - Massimo Pigliucci

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