comparing self

It’s not stupid. I promise. It’s not stupid to turn into your 5 year old self and get happy beyond measure for the little things. It’s not stupid to be proud of yourself for completing a load of laundry and washing the dishes. You aren’t lame for patting yourself on the back when you chose a salad over a burger. You’re taking care of yourself and each victory - no matter how small - is worth celebrating. 

You’re doing great :))

worry less about what others are doing and focus on you and your own progress.

Since last year’s 365 days of journaling was so successful here’s a new one to complete in 2016!

Feel free to share and tag me in anything you upload for me to have a nose at - although this is not necessary. Enjoy!

1. Do you believe in New Year resolutions? If so what are your resolutions for this year?
2. Review of 2015
3. How could you help others this year?
4. How can you help yourself this year?
5. What do you want to achieve this year?
6. List ways to succeed personally this year.
7. Your personality traits.
8. List ways to treat yourself this year.
9. Describe your sense of humor.
10. Is your family supportive?
11. List 6 things you love about Winter.
12. Compare your present self to your past self.
13. Would you want to live in a city, suburb or in the country?
14. How would you like to be remembered?
15. Your star sign.
16. Write about a recent adventure or travels.
17. What are your three largest priorities?
18. Write a letter to someone you need to forgive.
19. My goal tomorrow is…
20. My strengths are …
21. Technology – good or bad?
22. What’s your motto?
23. List words you most overuse.
24. What have you sacrificed?
25. Spirit animal?
26. What makes you unique?
27. List the worst books you’ve read.
28. Would you want to grow up in the public eye?
29. How much self-control do you have?
30. What are your best character traits?
31. List ten simple short goals for this month.
32. What emotion dominates your life lately?
33. Who made you feel good this week?
34. I want to always remember….
35. Do you believe in ghosts?
36. What hurts today?
37. In your imagination, what will the world be like in 50 years?
38. List of flowers.
39. List five acts you feel guilty about.
40. Walking in the rain is…
41. Did your parents sacrifice for you?
42. The things that make me laugh the hardest are…
43. How do you feel about your appearance?
44. How do you feel about Valentine’s Day?
45. List of favourite drinks.
46. Have you ever lost something valuable?
47. Ten ways I show those I love that I care are…
48. Do you like exercise?
49. What does forgiveness mean to you?
50. Dream job.
51. Recipe for a perfect night in.
52. List 10 things you love about yourself.
53. What you know about the day you were born? Tell any family stories that were told to you.
54. Summarise today using no more than forty four words.
55. A memory you wish you could forget?
56. Favourite colour?
57. Receipts of things you’ve bought this week.
58. List ten things that scare you about getting old?
59. Where do you escape to?
60. ‘I wish I could’ list.
61. Describe visits to your grandparents’ home.
62. Books or E-Books?
63. How do you feel about commitment in general?
64. What do you think is the greatest invention? Why?  
65. List 5 actresses.
66. Describe your parents’ philosophy of raising children: discipline, rules and outlook.
67. I wish there were no more…..
68. Favourite family story?
69. Do/did you like school?
70. Your proudest moment.
71. 10 television shows.
72. If you had only one wish, what would you wish for?
73. Where is home for you?
74. Favourite restaurant?
75. Five Things I’ve Forgiven People For and Why.
76. List 6 things you love about Spring.
77. How do you like to be romanced?
78. How do you indulge yourself?
79. What is your favourite Saturday activity?
80. What famous world festivals would you like to attend?
81. Are you a wallflower?
82. How well do you take criticism?
83. Did you have a favourite blanket or toy? Tell about it.
84. List 5 actors.
85. Describe a typical day in school.
86. List 3 things that went wrong today.
87. How would you describe yourself?
88. What do you like best about your home?
89. What makes you a good person?
90. What did you most enjoy doing this week?
91. Do you let people in?
92. Tell about your favourite aunt or uncle. Were you close? What do you remember most?
93. How do you stand out from the crowd?
94. Which quality best describes your life–exciting, organised, dull–and why?
95. I want to forget…
96. Write a fan letter to your favourite actor/actress.
97. What historical figure do you most identify with?
98. My worst experience today was …
99. Whose advice do you seek in times of need?
100. Something you have always felt was missing in your life
101. Name one thing you always wanted to do, but haven’t.  What has prevented you from doing it?
102. Helplessness: that dull, sick feeling of not being the one at the reins. When did you last feel like that –- and what did you do about it?
103. Favourite activities.
104. Do you feel lovable?
105. Review a book.
106. Today I overheard…
107. You karaoke/shower song.
108. Explore the room you’re in as if you’re seeing it for the first time. Pretend you know nothing. What do you see? Who is the person who lives there?
109. A list of questions you would like to ask future you.
110. Go to the nearest window. Look out for a full minute. Write about what you saw.
111. Write about your school life, your grades, what you wish you had done differently.
112. List favourite desserts.
113. How important is loyalty to you?
114. List 15 characters from movies.
115. Your most embarrassing moment.
116. What’s on your calendar for tomorrow?
117. Best decision you’ve made?
118. ‘Things to try’ list.
119. Rainy days or sunshine adventures?
120. What would you do if money were no object?
121. Who do you relate with the most – your mother or father?
122. I’m thankful for…
123. Write about regrets you may have.
124. Create a moodboard that reflects today’s feelings.
125. Ten things you hold most dear.
126. Who was your first crush and what made them special?
127. When have you felt lonely?
128. Your most satisfying victory.
129. Something you have always felt was missing in your life
130. Write a letter to someone who believed in you even when you didn’t believe in yourself.
131. What does being a friend means to you?
132. How would you change the world to make it better?
133. What’s the most surreal experience you’ve ever had?
134. Favourite childhood memory?
135. Are you an emotional person?
136. A-Z list of favourite things.
137. When was the last time someone gave you butterflies?
138. Write about turning points in your life – what would be different now if you had made a different choice.
139. Is physical attraction important to you?
140. Is money important to you?
141. Explain why you chose your blog’s title and what it means to you.
142. Do you have/want any tattoos? Their meaning?
143. What did you learn this week?
144. Who are your heroes?
145. List 3 things that went right today.
146. How do you feel during a thunderstorm?
147. Do you forgive things easily?
148. Write about lost friendships.
149. My weaknesses are …
150. Favourite emoticons.
151. Are you more like your mother or father?
152. Night or day?
153. List of countries to visit.
154. Describe the area you live in.
155. A secret no one knows.
156. List of favourite languages.
157. List of favourite designers.
158. What qualities do you want in a romantic partner?
159. Research and find a new poem today.
160. List 5 things you hate/dislike.
161. Write something inspired by a recent dream you had.
162. What excuses keep me stuck?
163. Your lucky number?
164. List 5 animals.
165. Tell us about something you know you should do … but don’t.
166. Favourite animation movie.
167. Do you apologise too much?
168. List of things that stress you.
169. Favourite recipe?
170. When was the last time someone told you they were proud of you?
171. Favourite places visited.
172. Write about your childhood.
173. If your life had a soundtrack, like a movie, what songs would you include? Why?
174. Optimist or pessimist?
175. Take any poem or short story you find anywhere. Rewrite it in your own words.
176. How do you feel when you’re leaving home on vacation?
177. Open up a dictionary to a random word. Define what that word means to you.
178. List restaurants to visit.
179. Choose an animal. Write about it!
180. Write a celebrity crush list.
181. What are you afraid of? Why?
182. Five things I love about relationships…
183. Close your eyes and imagine the kind of world you would like to see.  What is it like?
184. My best experience today was …
185. ‘Books to read’ list.
186. What does religion mean to you?
187. ‘Rainy day’ list.
188. The biggest challenge you’ve faced?
189. Your favourite instrument (to play/listen to)?
190. List of fears.
191. List of everything you’d like to say yes to.
192. Favourite pieces of art.
193. My worst experience today was …
194. Ten things that scare you about getting old?
195. List the cheesiest jokes you know.
196. When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
197. A character that you relate to.
198. List toys from your childhood.
199. What talents do you have?
200. List of unhealthy habits.
201. What is your favourite sound?
202. List things that make you feel safe.
203. Find an image in a magazine that reflects your current emotional status.
204. List 8 music artists.
205. When have you experienced heartbreak?
206. I feel most energized when…
207. List things that make you laugh.
208. Choose – Harry Potter, Twilight, Hunger Games or Maze Runner?
209. List the 5 most expensive things you’ve bought.
210. Receipts from today.
211. If you could become an expert in any subject or activity, what would it be?
212. List of rituals.
213. Favourite authors.
214. List hobbies.
215. So far I’ve learned these lessons about life …
216. What’s the funniest thing that happened to you this week?
217. A moodboard of patterns.
218. Using 10 words, describe yourself.
219. Movie review.
220. What are your thoughts on camping?
221. What’s one thing you’d change about your appearance if you could? What’s one character trait you’d change?
222. What would your perfect day be like?
223. A fictional place you wish you could visit?
224. List of websites.
225. Favourite menu.
226. What are things you can do in 15 minutes or less that improve your mood?
227. Favourite fast food.
228. If you could get the answer to any question, what would you ask?
229. List things you find beautiful.
230. Describe your alter ego — someone who is your exact opposite.
231. 3 pieces of advice for past you?
232. What is your mission in life?
233. If you could go back and relive one day of your life, which day would it be and why?
234. What would you do if you could travel into the past?
235. What is the one thing you feel always brings out the good in people?
236. A quote that inspires you.
237. What relationships matter the most to you? How can you maintain and improve them?
238. What is your favourite room in your home and why?
239. Do you believe in the afterlife?
240. ‘Inside my bag’ list.
241. How often do you leave your comfort zone?
242. I am happiest when…
243. Cold or hot?
244. Do you believe one person can change the world?
245. Describe a time when you were brave.
246. Favourite Games List.
247. I’ve been putting off…
248. List ways to relieve stress?
249. When do you feel underappreciated?
250. Define your personal style.
251. List 8 things that you enjoy.
252. Did a teacher ever have a profound effect on you?
253. Three things I value about myself are….
254. Random Facts About Me List
255. What role do you play in your family?
256. List sports you love/hate.
257. What would the title of your biography be and why?
258. A promise you have broken?
259. List the emotions you’ve felt today.
260. What effect does music have on you?
261. Favourite poem.
262. Doodle here.
263. Favourite piece of jewellery.
264. List 15 characters from books.
265. Are you hard on yourself?
266. Summarise the day in one sentence.
267. If and when I raise children, I’ll never…
268. Write about your first kiss.  Was it everything you wished or hoped it would be?
269. Book review.
270. What does family mean to you?
271. Your favourite photo of you.
272. List of things that annoy you.
273. How productive are you?
274. What was the title of the last book you read?
275. List 6 things you love about Summer.
276. Doodle here.
277. What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
278. What did you learn today?  What did you learn yesterday?
279. Shuffle your iPod, list first 10 ten songs.
280. Make a list of 30 things that make you smile.
281. I couldn’t imagine living without…
282. What would you do if you could travel into the future?
283. Quotes that ignite something in you?
284. I really wish others knew this about me…
285. Your biggest achievement?
286. I feel happiest in my skin when…
287. Organised or organised chaos?
288. List of everything you’d like to say no to.
289. Who inspires you?
290. List your top 10 movies.
291. Write the words you need to hear.
292. List your responsibilities.
293. What is your favourite holiday? What makes this holiday special?
294. Why you get up in the morning.
295. Tea or coffee? Why? Favourites?
296. What do you want to know about yourself?
297. List of House Rules
298. The biggest headline of today and your feelings on it.
299. My best birthday was…
300. List of things that make you worry.
301. Land or Sea?
302. My imaginary friend growing up was…
303. List 10 songs.
304. What is your passion?
305. What kind of day have you had, and why?
306. List of favourite subjects at school.
307. Most romantic date you’ve been on?
308. Tell about an event in your life that has caused a change in you.
309. Best thing that’s happened this month?
310. What’s the Most Memorable Thing You Ever Got in the Mail?
311. List of friends’ names.
312. What are your most prized possessions?
313. Favourite type of weather?
314. Who has had the most impact on your life?
315. List of favourite snacks.
316. What song have you listened to today?
317. List 6 things you love about Autumn.
318. Your feelings on war.
319. What are all your thoughts on god?
320. Make a list of 15 escapes you would like to indulge in.
321. What is a mistake people often make about you?
322. What makes you a bad person?
323. How your parents met.
324. What kind of day are you having, and why?
325. Favourite family photo?
326. I was most angry when…
327. List 10 skills you bring to a work environment.
328. What were your favourite picture books when you were younger?
329. A-Z list of things you’d like to try.
330. If you have brothers or sisters, how are you similar to them or different from them? What about with your friends?
331. What song was No.1 when you were born?
332. List of favourite childhood shows.
333. Do you follow fashion trends?
334. Your favourite season?
335. Can you be alone with yourself?
336. List of favourite magazines.
337. Your beliefs about Karma.
338. What’s something you disagree with about the way you were raised?
339. Growing up, what did you really want but never received.
340. Favourite lyrics?
341. Is love at first sight possible?
342. List 12 shops.
343. Have you ever been in love?
344. Favourite month of the year?
345. Do you have any family traditions?
346. Is Christmas a big holiday to you and your family?
347. Favourite Christmas images.
348. Who is someone you miss?
349. List of names you will by buying gifts for this year.
350. What are you planning to buy as a gift this year?
351. What’s the best gift you’ve ever given?
352. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received?
353. When did you stop believing in Santa?
354. Favourite Christmas song?
355. What are your initial thoughts when you hear the word ‘Christmas’?
356. Your Christmas shopping list?
357. Favourite Christmas song?
358. Favourite Christmas memory?
359. What does Christmas mean to you now?
360. How was your Christmas?
361. Do you celebrate Boxing day?
362. Would you change anything about this year?
363. List things you’ve learnt this year?
364. What have you achieved this year?
365. What do you want to achieve next year?
366. Things I am looking forward to next year…

Self-Comparison

Comparing yourself to another person is an act of violence. It is an act of self harm. Even if you compare yourself favorably to one person or group of people, you are building a house of cards that will collapse as you try to stand on it. Self-comparisons are hard to avoid. If we do not compare ourselves to others, others will compare themselves to us. They will lump us into categories, according to their particular expression of ignorance. Because comparing ourselves to each other is so common and so destructive, we have to learn how to use all the comparisons to expose our egos and set us free.

To be free from our ego we become humble. If we think we are big, we look at a mountain. If we think we are small we look at a mouse. If we think we are smart, we think about solving world hunger. If we think we are stupid, we have no business thinking at all. When we think about all the comparisons we can make, we see that it is a futile game that our ego plays, trying to figure out which is prettier, a flower or a sunset.

When we catch ourselves bringing ourselves down or building ourselves up by comparing ourselves to others, we can remember that we are playing an ego trick, trying to pretend that we are moonbeams or pimples. When we step out of the comparison game, we become humble. When people put us into their categories, we greet their confusion with compassion. We no longer have to pretend that we are something more or less that we are.

Humble is neutral. It is greatness, without being great. Understanding our basic humility, helps us to cut through our confusion. We don’t have to make ourselves out to be anything other than we are. What we are is beyond compare.

People will judge you regardless of what you do. Don’t look to them for validation, simply accept all that you are.

STOP 👏 POINTING 👏 OUT 👏 YOUR 👏 CHILDREN'S 👏 FLAWS 👏👏 IT 👏 DIMINISHES 👏👏👏 OUR 👏 SELF 👏 CONFIDENCE 👏👏👏👏
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AA3 was the first game to show front sprites of Phoenix, namely during his trial about the murder of Doug Swallow. But what I found interesting is that all of his sprites show him facing the ‘camera’. This highlights his once innocence and how unguarded he was in showing his emotions.

Come AA4 and we have sprites where he’s looking to the side from then onward. I chose this particular one above because I felt I’d seen it somewhere before, even though the two of of them convey different emotions. Maybe it wasn’t meant like that, but Phoenix did adopt some tactics and traits of Dahlia…

As for the other sprites that have Phoenix looking to the side from AA4 on:

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love your curves and all of the little pieces of you that makes you unique :))

i don’t know why people are so obsessed with dichotomizing everything in the muslim world. the moment we start talking about saudi arabia is not a cue for you to start garbling about how “on the other hand!! iran does xyz” like if you’re young enough to think saudi arabia and iran can be compared, or self-proclaimed sunni supremacists are somehow justified in their actions because of iran, or because of hezbollah, or because of anything dumb propaganda shit you’ve heard: you’re too young to be talking about the muslim world. 

not everything needs comparison, not everything has an explanation which can be pinned on “the other side” and not every side is equal. these conversations CAN happen in silos. not everything needs to be intrinsically linked all the time. the persecution of minority sect muslims can be honoured without immediate derailment. 

People keep asking me if I mind being a role model to teenage girls, and I don’t know if that’s actively a thing I am doing but if there were some things that I could hope to inspire then these are them

Always be learning - spend free time in books or museums, try to understand- your interests and tastes will widen and everything will become more enjoyable (ignorance is not the bliss you should want)

Learn to enjoy being on your own (if you don’t I think the above things are 10x more fun alone)

Try not to compare your physical self to other girls, enjoy your body, wear whatever you want! Especially strange clothes when it’s night time and you go to the nearest shop to get treats

Try to exercise every day, it’s addictive and chic, especially running outside to Rihanna

Try to be constantly moving forward, but also able to do nothing for a full day without feeling guilty

Try not to indulge in humour from mocking each other

Walk everywhere if you have the time, and don’t be on your phone while walking only listen to music (Brian eno is cool to walk to, I always see things I hadn’t before)

Try and let love that’s not working go

If you don’t like your job, get a new one, when you’re young you should be constantly changing

Try to make up quickly with close girlfriends, it’s fine to fall out, but they’re the most valuable

Someone else's success does not equal your own failure.