comparing self

Just because you don’t look like somebody who you think is attractive doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.

you know what doesn’t matter? what other people are eating. seriously. stop. just because your friend karen got a salad does not mean you shouldn’t have the pizza. order that fucking pizza and do not for a second think you’re worth any less than her

worry less about what others are doing and focus on you and your own progress.

3 Steps for Loving Yourself

Cases of self-hate are worryingly increasing among adolescents. In addition to the bad body image that the media portrays and the social expectations of perfection, some unlikely culprits are also fuelling self-hate. Identifying the problem will be the first way of turning that car around, driving away from the self-hate and into a haven of respect and love for oneself.

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It’s hard to draw a comparison where there shouldn’t be one.  The thing is, Henry is a human being, with human proportions – to put him next to his toon self is gonna look odd no matter which way you slice it… because as a cartoon, his proportions are all completely different.

Theoretically, his height shouldn’t change.  After all, he’s still the same guy.  What’s changing about him are his proportions and if you made him the same height with cartoony proportions, well… his cartoon self would look like a freak.  

If the ‘toons were to be given realistic, humanlike proportions, they’d be the same height to his human self comparatively.  But because they DON’T have realistic proportions when coming into the real world, well… certain things change on the way out, let’s say.  It’s not that Henry becomes taller – it’s that the toons actually become SMALLER, while retaining their original proportions.

And thanks to comparing Henry to the height of the ‘toons between the inked studio and reality, it’s possible to draw a height comparison between Henry and his ‘toon self.

Yes, the ‘toons are conspicuously oddly-proportioned in the real world.  People DO notice that their heads and hands are unusually large when compared to real humans, especially for their statures.  Even Alice, the only one who could theoretically get away with disgusing herself as a very small human, still has difficulty because of this.

(I threw in some bonuses because I felt like it.  Maybe soon I’ll add in the height for Joey, and some of the others who fell victim to the studio.)

You’re not going to be happy all the time. No one ever is. Sometimes you’re just going to sort of exist, and that’s okay.

Learn to be satisfied with “content” and “calm” and “not sad.” Not sad is good.

Not sad is great.

—  happiness is awesome, but the universe doesn’t revolve around a smile

People will judge you regardless of what you do. Don’t look to them for validation, simply accept all that you are.

honestly most western written “religious characters” suck cause a vast majority of them are obviously written by some edgy atheist and their idea of “character development” for said character is having them have a “revelation” that GOD’S NOT REAL!!!!!

or they’re some sort of stupid cheap shot at religious people again, written by some edgy atheist

HAHAHA THIS GUY IS SO FUCKING DUMB AND TOO NICE COMPARED TO MY ALCOHOLIC SELF INSERT CYNIC NFHNDDNGHGNH I’M A GOOD WRITER HURRRRR

It’s not stupid. I promise. It’s not stupid to turn into your 5 year old self and get happy beyond measure for the little things. It’s not stupid to be proud of yourself for completing a load of laundry and washing the dishes. You aren’t lame for patting yourself on the back when you chose a salad over a burger. You’re taking care of yourself and each victory - no matter how small - is worth celebrating. 

Self-Comparison

Comparing yourself to another person is an act of violence. It is an act of self harm. Even if you compare yourself favorably to one person or group of people, you are building a house of cards that will collapse as you try to stand on it. Self-comparisons are hard to avoid. If we do not compare ourselves to others, others will compare themselves to us. They will lump us into categories, according to their particular expression of ignorance. Because comparing ourselves to each other is so common and so destructive, we have to learn how to use all the comparisons to expose our egos and set us free.

To be free from our ego we become humble. If we think we are big, we look at a mountain. If we think we are small we look at a mouse. If we think we are smart, we think about solving world hunger. If we think we are stupid, we have no business thinking at all. When we think about all the comparisons we can make, we see that it is a futile game that our ego plays, trying to figure out which is prettier, a flower or a sunset.

When we catch ourselves bringing ourselves down or building ourselves up by comparing ourselves to others, we can remember that we are playing an ego trick, trying to pretend that we are moonbeams or pimples. When we step out of the comparison game, we become humble. When people put us into their categories, we greet their confusion with compassion. We no longer have to pretend that we are something more or less that we are.

Humble is neutral. It is greatness, without being great. Understanding our basic humility, helps us to cut through our confusion. We don’t have to make ourselves out to be anything other than we are. What we are is beyond compare.