comparing mind

“Creativity and ego cannot go together. If you free yourself from the comparing and jealous mind, your creativity opens up endlessly. Just as water springs from a fountain, creativity springs from every moment. You must not be your own obstacle. You must not be owned by the environment you are in. You must own the environment, the phenomenal world around you. You must be able to freely move in and out of your mind. This is being free. There is no way you can’t open up your creativity. There is no ego to speak of. That is my belief.”
—Zen Buddhist nun, Jeong Kwan, CHEF’S TABLE, S03E01

VIKTOR IS SO SOFT HE JUST MELTS AS SOON AS YUURI SMILES AT HIM AND I’LL NEVER GET OVER IT

ALSO YUURI GAINING SO MUCH CONFIDENCE IN HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH VIKTOR and being comfortable asking for favors and speaking his own mind, compared to the first episodes where he was withdrawn and unable to trust his own decisions

I MEAN

THESE BOYS

it’s just the small things like this that makes their relationship so believable and endearing I love them so much they were meant to be ???? what did we do to deserve this utter display of love and goodness

VIKTOR IS SO HAPPY TO GO OUT WITH YUURI im crying

these two own my heart and these moments will never let me rest it’s too good to be true

                   some pothead keith hcs to think abt
    [ don’t tag as sh//eith. don’t take these too seriously. pls be cautious around weed. ]
        these are set in a modern au. keith’s shiro’s adopted brother. possible klance/heith
                                  but ofc u can play with these how u like.

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on that note i should add that i finished watching korra and overall i loved it. i love politically driven stories so it was totally my thing. 

 honestly the entire show could’ve just been season 1 and i would have been totally satisfied. it would have been great just as a stand alone imo. season 2 was….not very good. it explained some lore and that shouldve been ¼th the length it actually was, the ending was just silly…attack of the 50 foot woman

 3 and 4 felt like one megaseason. i loved the worldbuilding and extensive cast added in the second half of the show. the final battle could have maybe been a bit more ‘grande’, but i was still satisfied with what we got. overall the plot past season 1 was somewhat predictable but the characters compensate for it well

HOLY HELL, I LOVED THE CAST?? and so many women of all age/ethnicity/class together was so refreshing and so good??? i especially loved the beifong family dynamic. the male cast was great too, i did find the ongoing theme of male villains having strongly drawn jowls amusing., oh and that one airbender child was very grating i hated him. 

 the love triangle was jarring but at least it was a step above twilight’s, which is honestly what i was expecting going in. i thought it was gonna be both brothers competing for korra lmao but instead it was just mako consistently fucking up. so yeah i could live with it, it could be something to sympathize with if you were a young teen watching and have a mind full of confused feelings and drama like most teens do.. its pretty harmless and if anything it shows a good example of talking things out with an ex, the value of communicating in a relationship, and moving on from drama.

my favourite characters by the end were asami and kuvira, the latter i wish was set up a bit more in the 3rd season so we could have had bigger build up and character arc but oh well. 

throughout the entire show my mind kept comparing it to fullmetal alchemist brotherhood.. did anybody else have that?? the political theme, time period, and the backgrounds, especially all the industrial stuff were reminiscent to me of fmab in a good way. by the end of it my roommate and i called korra a “combination of fmab and kung fu panda”, basically replace the science of alchemy with spirituality and martial arts and i think that description fits it sort of well

so yeah in conclusion i loved korra, its really good. it honestly tells a story of political movements and regimes much better than many ‘more dark’ live action movies and young adult dystopias. if you love politic themes, elements of fantasy, strange animals, female characters, and have a lot of hours to kill i recommend watching korra if you still haven’t.

also korrasami  👌 👌 👌

Oliver Queen’s Journey

In thinking about Oliver this season (and 100% inspired by this amazing gifset where I babbled in the tags), and the idea that Adrian is going to push him to the point where he loses everything, I’m reminded of Buffy and Angelus from Becoming, Part 2:

The situations are wildly different, but at the base of it is that Oliver needs to realize that he is enough. So much of what he does is dependent on those around him, whether it’s good or bad, and so much of that ties into his self-identity. 

This is what Adrian is banking on. This is what Slade was banking on. (pleasebehissonadrianthatwouldbeamazing)

Part of this season’s journey is Oliver realizing that he is the hero - all of him. It’s not just Oliver Queen, it’s not just the Mayor, it’s not just the Green Arrow, it’s not just a brother, a son, a father, a friend, a significant other, etc. It’s all of it and all of that is tied into who he is at the core. His success and his failures have all been contingent on his ability to separate himself, to adapt to certain situations, to be the “right” person in any given situation. But there’s always something missing, because it’s not all of him.

So when he is presented with the final question - what is left now that Oliver Queen has lost everything?

HE IS. 

It’s the final piece that needs to shift into place in his mind, in order for him to reach that full realization of who he is. (Or at the very least setting him down this very new path that we’ll see in Season 6.)

It’s also why he will finally come out as the Green Arrow because it will no longer be a separate part of him - it’s who he is, just as much as being the mayor, as being a lover, friend, brother, father, etc. He’s all of those things, and he needs to be pushed to the point where he loses everything before he realizes that, before he can stand up and fight not only for himself (finally) but for his loved ones, for his friends, for his city.

Felicity is the obvious linchpin here, which makes her journey so much more fabulous: she’s going into darkness in order to save him, but he needs to lose her before he can be the person who will be able to fully bring her back from that darkness. (The same that she did for him. She will save herself in many instances, I am about 100% certain of that, but there is also that point where you need that final push - she’s done that for Oliver countless times, and now it’s his turn to do that for her.)

5x16 just left me with a lot of feelings, and Josh Segarra’s amazing performance as Adrian Chase is really what shoved me face-first into them.

He’s going to rip Oliver’s life to shreds and he’s going to succeed, because it’s personal, because he knows Oliver, because he knows what it’s like to lose everything.

Except he didn’t realize one thing: Oliver has already gone through several variations of hell, both at his own hands and at others’, and he’s learning from it each and every single time (whether he actively realizes it or not). 

If Adrian had come after him even one season ago, he would have absolutely fallen. But he won’t now. Because Oliver’s journey is learning the light is inside him, and it has been this entire time, and it’s only when he fully realizes that that he can be and do everything he is meant to.

5x16 really turned the tables for me, I wasn’t feeling everything I wanted, and now I’m suddenly really excited to see what happens next! (And I want to high five Josh Segarra because a lot of it is a result of his amazeballs performance!)

anonymous asked:

enj and R 77 pleaseee

“Are you jealous?”

Rumour had it Enjolras was not a cat person. Rumour had it, Enjolras was not a dog person either. Sources varied, but apparently his affections didn’t extend to decorative plants and other cacti and succulents. That why his decision to foster a litter of adoptable kitten raised than one eyebrow.

“Are you sure?” Joly had asked as Enjolras had announced the news at an ABC meeting.

“Yeah. Feuilly says the shelter is crowded. His apartment doesn’t allow pets, but mine does. It’s a temporary situation that helps everybody.”

There were four kitten in total. And although Enjolras had been told not to name them, he couldn’t help it. What was he supposed to do, call them One, Two, Three, and Four? Surely cats weren’t like dogs. They didn’t recognise their name of anything. Right?

Robespierre was a fiesty one. He liked to climb on Enjolras leg and viciously mauled toys put at his disposition. Desmoulins was very vocal, which was both sweet and infuriating when he decided to make himself known at 5AM. Danton was an acrobat and part-time snorer, enjoying occasional fights with Robespierre.

Saint-Just was Enjolras’ favourite, though he disapproved of his own favouritism. His white fur was soft, and he always settled by Enjolras when he read on the couch, purring all his heart’s content. But if Saint-Just was Enjolras’ favourite, Enjolras might not have been Saint-Just’s.

Grantaire, evidently, was Saint-Just’s favourite. Whenever he popped by, the kitten forgot up to Enjolras existence to rub himself against Grantaire’s legs, demanding all his attention. When Enjolras called, he ignored him royally, perhaps purring too loudly in Grantaire’s hands to hear him.

“I don’t know what it is about you, but Saint-Just just deserts me when you’re here!”

“Are you jealous?” Grantaire smirked, giving the white kitten a belly rub.

“Don’t be ridiculous.”

Saint-Just once fell asleep on Grantaire’s jumper, and since neither Grantaire nor Enjolras wished to disturb him, the jumper stayed. It was soon covered in white hair, but much beloved. Enjolras almost forgot it was Grantaire’s, up to the day he washed the jumper and slipped it on. It was too big for him. It felt strange, but in a good way. Perhaps he too liked being wrapped in Grantaire’s clothes.

He showed up to the next ABC meeting wearing it. Grantaire choked on his drink.

Wife swapping in India - some tips

Wife swapping in India - some tips
STRANGER OR FRIEND?
One – there are lots of fake ‘couples’ who are basically blackmailers. They will usually appear very attractive (especially the woman) and will even send their explicit photos to you as part of the introduction. It is very difficult to figure out which is a genuine couple and which is just a bunch of scamsters. The wives may actually be prostitutes.
Two – Diseases. There are some 'master’ swappers – older couples who have been involved in this for a long time. These people are usually emotionally shallow and hardly fit the definition of a 'couple’. They are more interested in using their 'couple’ status to get more sex, and with as many different people as possible. They often want only single-time encounters. Such professional swappers are bad news for various reasons, and not just because they too may try to blackmail you or your wife.
Three – whether you like it or not, swapping is not just about physical needs. You may think it is, but it is not, it is also emotional. It is about the lack of excitement and change and emotions in a relationship. Women usually develop feelings for the other guy in such relationships and you too may develop some feelings for the other woman (though men may be better able to control it.) If you don’t know the guy well, you don’t want your wife to develop feelings for him. Worse, you don’t know him well, he may try to take advantage of your wife’s feelings for him and cut you out.
Four – Most Indian women will not sleep with a stranger. This may be different in other cultures, but in India, 95% of the women won’t sleep with a stranger. So if you are trying to go in for a Internet-based thing, you are pushing her. Sometimes, she may agree if you pressurize her enough, or perhaps because she doesn’t realize how it feels like. But she is unlikely to enjoy it. If she doesn’t like it, it is rape. And you have just been an accomplice to your wife’s rape. It’s not a good feeling and she’ll hate you for it. This is something many men don’t realize because most men are ok with sleeping with strangers. They don’t really care. Women hate sex with strangers. This issue may be overcome through non-sexual introductions lasting for a couple of months (including combined trips, slumber parties etc., but it’s frankly too much bother to make a new friend for swapping, instead of just using an existing one. Besides, halfway through, you may realize that one of you or both of you don’t like the other couple much and is not interested in having sex with that person.) That said, if your wife is willing and eager to sleep with a stranger, you should perhaps get yourself checked for HIV.
Five – Imagine you rented a car for a week. How would you treat it? You’ll try to take maximum advantage of the situation and use it rough. You’ll try all your stunts and fantasies on it. What if it was your best friend’s car? If you are true friend, you won’t abuse it. You know you’ll have to answer to your friend sooner or later. It’s the same with wives. You lend your wife to a stranger, he’ll abuse her. He might force her to do things she doesn’t like. He might even make her pregnant. She’ll suffer and you may not be around to help her. Even if you are, it might turn violent. So don’t lend your wife to a stranger you found on a website, no matter how 'gentlemanly’ he looks.
Six – Swapping is a complicated matter. Human emotions are involved. There will be unforeseen twists and turns. There has to be love and kindness between all the four people for this to succeed. Jealousy will show its head and friends can solve such complicated emotional issues. Preferably, both the men and the women should be friends. If only one pair (man-man or woman-woman) are friends, spend enough time together for the other two also develop a friendship and understanding between each other. If they end up hating each other, find a new couple, otherwise life will become living hell for all four parties involved. If they are so-so friends, it is still ok. (Women are mostly so-so friends with other women..)
SAME ROOM OR DIFFERENT?
The ideal order of how events should unfold is the following:
1) Couples already know each other for some time
2) Check with your friend (male or female) in the other couple if he or she is open to the idea of swapping. If yes, proceed as below:
3) Couples should do activities/trips together and hang out with each other in a group of four.
4) Each person spends time in a secure public place (cinema, park etc.) with the opposite-sex partner from the other couple till they are comfortable in each other’s company.
5) Each couple have sex with their own partner (husband-wife) in the same room, either with lights on or off. If it is with lights off, then later, with lights on. This gives an opportunity for all parties to see their future sexual partner without clothes on. It also helps fuel their fantasies about each other.
6) Introduce the idea of swapping into partners’ minds (“he thought you were hot and said i was really lucky. i think he wanted to have a go at you too.” “I saw you eyeing her, you thinking of new partners, is it?”) If you are trying to introduce the idea into your wife’s mind (and your friend’s wife is already willing), get help from your friend’s wife to bring your wife into the loop.
7)Create a situation where the room is totally dark and all four of you are naked. There should be opportunity for the mixed couples to touch each other (could be a game, or sleep situation, 'accident’ or something else.) There can be sex immediately or there can be just touching etc. (depending on the situation)
LIGHTS ON OR NOT?
Don’t look at your partner having sex with someone else if you are not sure you can take it. A lot of people who think they can, find out that they cannot when the actual situation comes about. They feel angry, or feel cheated by the partner. They feel that the partner enjoyed more with the other person. They start feeling insecure about their ability to satisfy their partner. Don’t worry, there will come a time later on when you will be able to see it and not lose control. Wait for it, don’t look initially, keep it dark.
DO I TALK ABOUT IT?
Never ask about it. What your wife or husband does with his or her partner is totally his or her business. Of course, you have to make sure that the other person does not abuse your partner (wife) when he is alone with her and that your wife continues to enjoy the relationship as time passes (and is not just putting up with it for your sake.)
Never talk about it. Don’t compare, even in your mind. Tell your partner you don’t ever want to talk about this. It just happens, that’s it.
FALLING IN LOVE?
Realize that initially the other person may feel better than your existing partner. You may even feel like you are in love with the new partner, but it will wear off. Don’t burn your bridges and spoil your existing relationship. Put in extra efforts to reassure your partner that you still love him/her. Continue to have sex with him/her. Tell all this to your partner also. Tell your partner it’s ok if he or she feels like he or she is falling in love with the other person. It’s just the hormones. It’s how human beings are designed – they seek variety and thrills – it’s nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty about. Enjoy your life and let your partner also enjoy.
There will be temptation to take things 'private’ between two of the 'new couples’ to add spice to the new relationship – such as through phone calls and emails. It is best avoided, to make sure jealousy and suspicion does not come up. Resist the temptation to go overboard. Don’t spend half an hour on the phone with your new 'boyfriend’ or 'girlfriend’, even if your wife or husband is not there. This should, obviously, not be done under any circumstances if he or she is there. It is a sure-fire recipe for disaster.
Similarly, there might be a temptation to move 'permanently’ to the new partner. It is a sign that you are in love with the new partner. At this point, remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. After spending a year or two with the new partner, you will feel just as bad as you did with your first one. The only difference will be that you will have spoiled your relationships with all three of the other members in your group. Be an adult and resist the temptation. If you think you won’t be able to, don’t get into this swapping thing at all. This is for people who have been through two or more relationships and know what relationships are about, how they change and evolve etc.. This is not for someone who has never fallen in love before. Such people will think 'this is it, the love of my life is here’. Preferably, the couples should have at one time been in love with each other, at some point in life.
It is perfectly ok to go out on dates with your new partner etc.. as long as it is done in a transparent way and all four members of the group have agreed on it.

Facts about Demosthenes for your (and by your I mean my) extended metaphor purposes:

  • Was friends with actors who helped him improve his oratorical performances
  • Born with a speech impediment, he had to design exercises to train his voice.  These included:
    • speaking with rocks in his mouth
    • reciting speeches while running
    • speaking over the roar of the ocean
  • Became famous for his speeches against the invading Macedonian King, Phillip II, (Alexander the Great’s father)
  • Was admired by Alexander the Great, therefore not killed.
  • he tried to lead a popular uprising among the conquered Athenians, and when his capture was imminent, committed suicide by taking poison he’d hidden in a pen.
We think we have to be a certain way because we have been taught to be a certain way. Actually the only truth is to keep quiet and see what happens from there. When I feel ill-tempered, when I feel sad, when I feel distant, it’s just something that is happening. When I don’t compare it to the past and project it into the future, then it’s just something that is happening now. It’s a way of dying now.
— 

H. W. L. Poonja

Antivan Crow training meta based on historical assassination training, brought to you by Bella

Disclaimer: this loosely references several historical assassination groups, mostly the Israeli sicarii, the original bad mf’ers

Canonically, we know the Crows take children and infants from various sources, usually elves, but humans and halfbreeds too. Zevran (elf) was purchased from a brothel, Taliesen (human) was found in a shipwreck, etc. Considering they were the only two in their group to survive, we can surmise that training is, predictably, brutal, and perhaps punctuated with one large, very dangerous test before officially becoming a member. We also know, thanks to Zevran in the Fade, that they are tortured to prove their pain endurance. This implies that they were tortured often over a long period of time to accustom them to it.

We can safely surmise that they are trained according to their strong points as they manifest, although all probably dabble in every aspect of training. We know Zevran specialized in poisons and seduction, Taliesen was ‘muscle’ and Rinna was a planner. It follows that the Crows would view training, for example, Zevran to be something like the muscle was a waste of time as it wasn’t his strong suit, leading us to believe training was customized after a certain point.

The fact that Rinna joined up with Taliesen and Zevran later after training implies (to me) that they are separated either by sex or age or both in training, which would make sense if they trained based on strengths and skills and not a base training for all types.

Antiva is not known for a wide array of weather, which makes me think some branches would employ mages to recreate snow, storms, high winds, whatever weather for which they need to train, since they travel for assassinations.

I would also imagine they would develop immunities to certain poisons through slow-dosing to either avoid mishaps or to weed out the weak. Canonically, they have no problem killing young trainees if they make a mistake

Languages seem important too, especially for espionage and date gathering. I would expect them to be well-versed in most commonly spoken languages, especially since it’s easier to learn tongues in childhood. In a similar vein, they are probably schooled in cultures as well, since they might need to blend in with marks and victims. This would be greetings, faux pas, military ranks, noble addresses, prominent or notable people and trends, etc. 

Physically, endurance training would be crucial. Hiding, running, climbing, hot and cold exposure, swimming, breath holding, etc. Some assassins historically could hold their breath up to seven minutes to hide in the water or pull others under with them. (Fun fact, the world record breath-holder was a freediver and held it for 22 minutes. What the fuck.)

OVERVIEW:

  • Stamina training
  • At least basic maths and reading

  • Weather endurance training

  • Weapon training

  • Cultural training

  • Language training

  • Herbal training (poisons and self care)

  • Tactical or strategic training

  • Charm school/sex ed (for the seductionz)

not to be salty, but why do people keep calling romantic f/f scenes in shows as fanservice?

like, i don’t mean sex scenes, but romantic scenes of the couple just interacting with each other?

if an m/f relationship, no matter how poorly developed, interacted on screen, you wouldn’t dare call it fanservice, but somehow if an f/f couple does it, it is??? fuck off mate.

I mean, it’s great that Pharmercy is #18 on that list of f/f ships despite having so little to base the ship on (aside from hope and potential, and game play mechanics).

And I’m glad Swan Queen has so many fics as well.

But yet at that same time, the number of f/f ships is paltry and pales in comparison to the m/m ones.

I mean, I just did a quick search and saw that Stony has 20,000 fics, while Stucky has 28,000.

And those aren’t even the most popular m/m slash ships.

The point is, the f/f content is mainly created by wlw, while a lot of the m/m stuff is created by women (usually straight, who love writing about their ‘sinful’ male pairings).

And it’s just mind boggling how the f/f content is dwarfed by, and not as popular in comparison to those yaoi ships.

anonymous asked:

Hiya! Love your account it's great! I have a request though! Could you pretty please with Sprinkles on top do a RFA react to a bisexual MC. Please and thank you my fellow defender of justice

This was a very good request because I can very much relate, being pansexual. To all my queer friends out there- you rock and keep being gay you ~H x

RFA with a bisexual MC

Yoosung:

-At first, this poor bean thinks that you’re telling him because you want to leave him for a girl
-So he gets all upset
-You’re confused
-“I- I understand if you want to leave me, MC,” he manages to choke out
-You have to explain to Yoosung that you don’t want to break up
-The reason you’re telling him is because you don’t want to leave this vital piece of information out of your relationship
-He understands after that and manages to compose himself
-Yoosung totally gets it, though
-He has friends at school who are bi and gay and pan and ace etc.
-He’s very happy to support you
-And as long as you’re not leaving him, he loves being with you no matter what

Zen:

-C’mon we all know Zen is a ‘deny the bi’ kind of person
-We all see you flirting with Jumin, honey
-But when it comes to you, he’s absolutely thrilled to find out
-He thinks it makes you really interesting
-However, he also checks that you haven’t thought of leaving him for a girl
-Just to tease him you say that Jaehee’s been looking very hot lately
-His face is priceless
-When you crack up laughing he knows it was just a joke
-You weren’t really joking- she is very hot
-He’s not that up to date with all the terms, though so you have to educate him
-But he totally supports you

Jaehee:

-Her initial reaction is to internally go ‘yessssssss’
-Because she’s in love with you and this means that you are actually into girls and gives her a chance!
-Meanwhile, you’re trying to drop a subtle hint that you like Jaehee as more than a friend
-So you’re nicely surprised when she responds
-“Me too.”
-Wait, what?
-The two of you end up hugging and laughing at the sudden confession
-“I only recently discovered it actually,” you said.
-“I did too actually,” Jaehee laughed.
-You’re getting your hopes up here
-A bit too up
-Naturally, you end up blurting out
-“It was you that made me realise.”
-Jaehee goes bright red
-Oh no, what did you do, you just ruined the friendship
-Until Jaehee replies
-“I really need to stop copying everything you’re saying,” she smiled, “But me too.”
-You stand there in shock for a minute
-Did Jaehee just… confess back?
-To answer that question, Jaehee steps forwards, cups your face in her hand and kisses you
-That coming out went better than expected

Jumin:

-He was raised in a homophobic environment
-And he only ever met people who had bad things to say about the LGBT+ community
-So you were very nervous about telling him
-Jumin himself is very opened minded compared to his colleagues and peers
-And he’s very happy that you tell him
-“I can’t believe you didn’t tell me earlier, Princess,” he said.
-“I was worried you wouldn’t accept me,” you admitted.
-“There is nothing you could say or do that would make me not accept you,” Jumin smiled.
-Awww now he’s making you blush
-“Maybe that’s why you can appreciate Elizabeth the 3rd’s beauty,”
-Ok, never mind
-You have to explain that No, Jumin, you are not into bestiality
-Just bisexuality
-You say that you’ll make sure to keep it secret from the reporters that come butting into your life
-But Jumin says not to
-He tells you this is a part of who you are and he doesn’t want you to hide it
-Not from him, not from anyone

Seven:

-You have nothing to worry about around Seven
-He’s lived life as a secret agent- there isn’t really anything he won’t accept
-So when you tell him, his response is
-“Same!!”
-You’re a bit surprised by that
-“Well, I say I like all genders so I guess that would be pansexual, but we’re close enough!”
-Either way, you’re very happy that he accepts you
-And that would explain why he’s always flirting with Yoosung
-Next time you go on a date, Seven suggests that both of you point out hot boys or girls and the other has to rate them out of ten to see if your tastes are similar
-You’re regretting telling him already
-Because of the similarity, though, it really strengthens your relationship
-Until Seven jokes about a threesome
-At least you’re pretty sure he’s joking
-You quickly shut that idea down

Saeran:

-His reaction is a confused expression
-“What’s that?”
-Poor bean is too precious for this world someone please protect him
-You explain what being bisexual is and he looks even more confused
-“I thought you were just meant to go off personality, not gender. Why does that even matter?”
-You’re pretty sure that means he’s probably demisexual
-Or MC-sexual only
-You explain that most people usually go off the gender of a person as to whether they’d date them or not
-Saeran thinks that’s stupid
-But he’s very happy to support you because this is obviously very important to you
-You’re relieved because at least he isn’t judgmental about sexuality
-Even if he is about everything else

V:

-As if this boy isn’t going to support you
-As soon as you come out, V starts a huge encouraging speech
-All about ‘embracing yourself’, ‘never being afraid of who you are’, ‘he loves and supports you no matter what’ and ‘always tell him everything about you.’
-He also mentions how thankful he is that you told him
-He would have supported you no matter what
-This boy just loves you so much
-But please don’t be a cult leader because that he might not accept