that scene in repilot when jeff says to troy “your entire identity has been consumed by your relationship with another man” but instead of troy he’s talking to me and he’s talking about my relationship with the nbc sitcom community
it’s weird how tumblr just Doesn’t talk about community??????? like most popular sitcoms half at least a couple dozen sets of popular screencaps/reaction gifs/etc going around but the only things i ever see for community are the infamous troy walking in with the pizzas scene, “i can excuse racism but i draw the line at animal cruelty” “you can excuse racism?”, & “if i was ever turned into a donut–” “you’d eat yourself” “i wouldn’t even question it” and that’s IT like. this show is such a goldmine it is THE sitcom that defines sitcoms and it’s so fucking meta and it’s. god this isn’t a coherent post but i love community and i’m so constantly puzzled by the fact that i see so little of it
Dan Harmon’s NBC sitcom, Community, had a running gag which says that the perfect length for a TV show is “Six Seasons and a Movie.” The fans took this joke and made it into a campaign that got the show six seasons, despite its low ratings and multiple cancellations.
Here’s how Dan Harmon ended the first episode of his next show:
I have so many childhood memories at that lake house that in the back of my mind I always pictured taking my kids... or taking our kids there. I wanna start our family. I mean, I know things are crazy but there's no 'good time' and I wanna do it. Now!
Well, buddy, I got some good news for you.
I love romantic comedies. I feel almost sheepish writing that, because the genre has been so degraded in the past twenty years or so that admitting that you like these movies is a form of mild stupidity… I enjoy watching people fall in love on-screen so much that I can suspend my disbelief for the contrived situations that only happen in the heightened world of romantic comedies.
From Mindy Kaling’s Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?
Because you love it and I love you.
This starts off the AV Club recap of the Mindy season finale and it feels right here too. I love romantic comedies. I grew up on them with parents who really and truly loved Nora Ephron and a grandmother who showed me the screwball/comedy of manners predecessors to this genre (Bringing Up Baby, The Philadelphia Story, blah blah). It’s weird because I’ve always loved romantic comedies but I’ve only been comfortable being kind of open about that in the past few years. It’s not so weird i suppose, what with a series of one eye rolling pretentious ex boyfriend after another.
I remember telling a guy I was seeing that I really and truly loved You’ve Got Mail, that it meant a lot to me not only as something I loved and shared with my mom but as this sort of document about how talking to someone, really talking to them, is the most important part of falling in love with them. He looked at me with what can only be described as a cross between a sneer and a frown and shut the conversation down. I was really young and still unsure of myself and I mentally noted to never, ever bring this up again. I watched When Harry Met Sally… once in his apartment when he wasn’t home, quickly turning it off when I heard his key in the door. Other people make the things you enjoy guilty pleasures, shaming you for even admitting you’ve watched or listened or been in the presence of this objectionable thing.
I got over that eventually. Growing up helped, falling in love with the right person helped too. I remember watching You’ve Got Mail and When Harry Met Sally… for the first time with my now husband and being so nervous he was about to shit all over these things I really liked which of course didn’t happen; I’d picked a better brand of dude this time around. And he did enjoy them! And I was so pleased. And I understood, of course, that he didn’t like them in the way that I did, that he could enjoy them without having them be important to him, that he could enjoy them in a huge part because they did make me so happy. This is a huge idea that used to seem impossible or terrible to me but is one of the biggest parts of really loving someone: you don’t do things you wouldn’t normally do just because you love someone, you want to do these things because you love someone. And you enjoy them too. Trust me, it goes both ways. And then you want to talk about it all some more.
This is something The Mindy Project gets so right: the communication. When people talk about chemistry, I’m convinced they are talking about the inescapable draw to be in someone’s presence, to take in every part of them, especially all the thoughts and blips and feelings that make them who they are. Sexual attraction fluctuates, it grows and wanes and is affected by all sorts of things in life, but that pull, that desire to be present with someone else whether you’re talking or not, that’s communication.
Despite the sitcomness, the more romantic comedy elements, this is exactly why Mindy and Danny and so many couples in good romantic comedies ring true: they communicate in ways that are true to life. Watching them fall for each other is a delight because it is exactly like that when you are with someone who gets you as much as you get them, just easy. Everything else could be falling to shit but that back and forth, that rapport, that ease, that’s always there. Other stuff can make you fall in love but communication is what keeps you in love.
My husband has never survived being hit by a car on his way to meet me at the top of the Empire State Building and I’ve never run up its 104 flights of stairs to meet him but we’ve done things, big and small, over the course of our relationship for those moments to really make it clear that we love each other. Some of them were things we would love to do anyways but some things we did happily but solely for the benefit of the other person; I mean, that’s love, right? Romantic comedies aren’t just wish fulfillment, they’re grand scale enlargements of what goes on when you really love someone.
The last time I went to the Empire State Building, I was almost 24 and just a few days shy of breaking up with my then boyfriend; I knew I was going to do it while he would be blindsided. I looked over the city and teared up behind my sunglasses, scared to make this change but no longer able to settle for less than what I wanted. I thought of Kathleen Kelly in You’ve Got Mail and how she had “the dream of someone else.” Two years later, almost to the day, I married that someone else not too far from that very spot. Whoever says that romantic comedies are unrealistic has never felt how big every day love can feel. It’s this love, big and easy and all in, that rings true right off the screen, that makes the everyday, the hard parts of life worth it. Life will always be hard but that feeling, that communication, that love, that’s the easy part and it makes everything else easier too.