communication preferences

Question… why do Sims YouTubers romanticize “teen mom” challenges?

Like okay I get that it’s a unique type of gameplay challenge but damn, Alpha Haired Abigail and her Heartbreaker Jock boyfriend Brayden here should not be living in an expensive lavishly decorated apartment with their cute toddler son named Kieran

anonymous asked:

I've been told that autistic people have trouble with language mostly, so would it be possible for an autistic character to be super passionate about languages and even know about 7 of them?

Difficulty with language is one of many things that autistic people have to deal with - it’s not the “main” part or any more prevalent than any other part. Many autistic people are verbal (able to communicate verbally) most of the time. Some are nonverbal all the time. Many can talk sometimes but not other times. Many autistic people have a much easier time with written language than spoken (it’s processed differently by the brain), and even those who can’t speak can frequently read and write. There are even nonverbal autistic authors.

And yes, autistic people can be passionate about languages. Me and Cat are good examples: we’re both multilingual, even though we prefer to communicate in writing. I personally have studied thirteen languages and am still fluent in four. Sometimes I can’t talk, but that doesn’t mean I have trouble with language - it just means I have trouble speaking.

Languages in general (or specific languages) can even be special interests for autistic people, and we can learn them very rapidly. Some of us invent new languages for fun (I did this when I was younger). Then there are people like Daniel Tammet, an autistic savant fluent in over a dozen languages.

So if you want to make an autistic character gifted with languages, you can absolutely do that. It’s a common thing and a nice thing to represent.

-Mod Aira

City Solarpunk vs. Country Solarpunk

So lately it occurred to me that it seems like you could split people’s ideas about Solarpunk into two categories: “City” Solarpunk and "Country” Solarpunk.

 “City” Solarpunk:

 Tends to focus more on the idea of cities as humanity’s future, and how to improve them to that end. Better urban design/planning, apartment living, walkability, better streets, better communities, etc. Want to make cities “greener” in both tech and look.

"Country” Solarpunk:

 More of a focus on the idea of Earthships and the Homestead, as well as a preference for smaller communities closer to nature. Preference for self-sufficiency for the household and the community. 

Both of these outlooks are perfectly valid! (Though I’m partial to City Solarpunk myself) In my opinion, any realistic future is going to include a little of both. This is also very much based on my own observations and ideas, so take this with a grain of salt. I just find the differences in what people think about when they think of Solarpunk very interesting. 

Asynchronous communication

The other night, @emilociraptor was walking me home from work bc I was dizzy, and we were talking about methods of communication. I mentioned that I prefer asynchronous communication, i. e. e-mails, twitter @replies, tagging in tumblr posts, etc. They were shocked, they had never thought about methods of communication in this way.

I figured there are definitely other people who could use this term to explain their preferred methods of communication. I learned about it through a class in my masters program, for library science, where we were discussing different methods that people contact the reference desk in a library. 

There are the synchronous methods of communication: in person, phone calls, text messages, live chats. 

Then there are the asynchronous, which in the library setting mostly refers to emails. 

In asynchronous communication, there is an understanding that the other person does not have to reply immediately and often, it is a surprise if they do so. The assumption is that they are not sitting down at that method of communication at the same time, so there will be a delay in receiving a response. 

In interpersonal relations, there are the other methods I mentioned up there ^ where it is the same assumption. When you @reply someone on twitter, you don’t except them to respond immediately. Sometimes, you don’t expect them to reply at all. Same with many replies to tumblr posts; it can be a way of saying “I see this, I have something to add or respond to in regards to this post, but this may be a one-way street.” Sometimes it can be as simple as a message of support on a post about someone being in a bad place, where liking the post might be read in a different way.

Synchronous communication, which can apply to various forms of chat, text messaging (which can go either way, depending on the people using it), phone calls, and others, can be hard for a lot of people. I personally suffer from chronic fatigue, and I find many synchronous communication to be tiring, so I limit it and try to only participate in it when it gives me a positive feeling. 

For example, I am currently in a group chat with a handful of other people, and it is a good mid-point between synchronous and asynchronous for me: I can follow the chat, but there is never a need to reply. I only have to reply when I want to, or when I have something to say. 

So, I give you these terms, tumblr! Use them to help people understand why you hate picking up the phone when they call, or when you feel like you have to apologize for being bad at responding to facebook messages or texts. Overall, remember that you don’t owe anyone your time, energy, or attention. 

On November the first, Autistic Speaking day, I decided to write an actually rather long Q&A with things I and other autistic people get asked most often. If you’d like other people to know these things or just agree with me, feel free to reblog!

Q: Autistic person, or person with autism?
A: I prefer “autistic person”, because I don’t feel like autism is something separate from me, my brain and my identity. It’s not an ink splotch on a picture, it’s more like a color filter that covers the entire picture and changes the way it is. Autism is not what I have, it’s who I am. More than that, there is no reason to put the person first since nothing about autism negates being a real person. Which is why most people in the community also prefer “autistic person”.

Q: Is autism a mental illness?
A: No, it’s a developmental disorder. The main difference between those two things is that mental illnesses typically have a start and sometimes a finish - they can be caused by something, and they can be treated and sometimes even cured with therapy and/or medication. Autism doesn’t have a start because people are born autistic and they die autistic. And it can’t be cured or treated, only accommodated.

Another reason why we separate them is because in my opinion mental illnesses cause distress and suffering just by being present, while with autism the distress and suffering mostly come from lack of accommodations, bullying, abuse and neglect. Which is why we are now trying to move away from this classification and call autism a “neurotype” - not a malfunction, just a different type of nervous system.

Q: Is autism a disability?
A: Yes, in the social model of disability. Meaning that the neurotype itself isn’t disabling, but the society and the world is. Autistic people make up about 1-2% of the population, so the vast majority of people in the world are allistic (not autistic). So the world wasn’t built for us. However with enough accommodations, help, understanding and acceptance we can change the world, and then autistic people won’t be disabled anymore.

Q: Should we search for a cure for autism?
A: No, mostly because of scientific reasons. Research shows that autism is more likely to be an anatomical brain difference rather than a biochemical one, meaning that it can’t be fixed or altered after birth or a certain step in prenatal brain development. So the only “cure” we can develop is a prenatal screening test that will allow us to detect it and give parents an option to abort. I stand with the pro choice movement and the right to abortion, however I do thing that we can come up with a better use of money than stopping autistic people from being born in the first place.

And the second reason is that the majority of autistic people don’t want a cure! As I’ve said, autism is an integral part of our neurology and curing us would be akin to killing us and creating a brand new person. Autism comes with problems and challenges but it also has many traits that I love and wouldn’t want to lose. And even for people who do want a cure, a more manageable and realistic goal would be to invest in support and accommodation that would help them with their problems.

Q: What about therapies for autistic people?
A: Sure. There are several reasons why autistic people might require therapy. A lot of us have comorbid anxiety disorders, often due to mistreatment, bullying and abuse, so therapy for anxiety could help some of us. Sensory integration therapy might benefit autistic people by helping them better understand their sensory perception and learning how to deal with negative aspects of sensory processing disorder. Some autistic people choose to attend social skills classes although we have to understand that being a social butterfly isn’t a requirement to be respected and accepted, so no one should be forced to take them. And of course autistic people can have mental illnesses that they might want to get therapy for. However don’t view autism as something that needs to be cured and fixed. So autism isn’t something you need therapy for by default.

Q: What about ABA, applied behavioral analyses?
A: ABA is to autism is what conversion therapy is to being non-straight or non-cisgender. It doesn’t help the autistic person, it just forces them into seeming more neurotypical which on the surface looks like they got better. It is often abusive, it leaves children and adults with higher rates of mental illness including PTSD, and it comes from a basic premise that autistic people are not whole, real people with thoughts, feelings and consciousness. Read more of my thoughts on ABA here:

Q: What kind of autism do you have?
A: Autism! It’s true that we used to have different diagnosis for autism, such as Asperger’s Syndrome, Kanner’s Syndrome, PDD-NOS, childhood autism, atypical autism and so on. However further research and investigation lead the psychiatric field to realize that this separation was unnecessary because the diagnostic criteria for these disorders weren’t different enough. For example the only thing that separated Asperger’s and Kanner’s in DSM-4 was the time of developing verbal speech which said nothing about persons needs and abilities later in life. As a result we now recognize that autism is a spectrum with vastly varying combinations of traits, needs, talents, abilities and problems, but of the same nature. So there’s just one diagnosis (in the DSM-5) - autism spectrum disorder.

Q: Are you high-functioning or low-functioning?
A: I’m a real person with a complex combination of abilities and needs that can’t be put into one of two rigid categories. Depending on how you describe me, I can be labeled as both. If you say that I’m an adult who can’t live on their own, can’t do most basic housework, can’t even speak on the phone, struggles with severe executive dysfunction and anxiety and needs daily assistance, then I sound “low-functioning”. If you say that I’m a student at a university studying their special interest, fully verbal and eloquent speaker, had no developmental delays, can pass as neurotypical most of the time and is considered smart, then I sound “high-functioning”. In reality I’m neither.

Functioning labels don’t really serve their purpose as a descriptor of needs and abilities, rather they simplify them and lead to more discrimination. High-functioning means your needs are neglected and your problems are denied. Low-functioning means your talents and abilities are ignored and you are denied respect and autonomy. Both are really detrimental to us, so most of us really dislike functioning labels. Some other descriptors that might work are “verbal/nonverbal”, “living independently/requires some level of assistance”, “has an intellectual disability/learning disability/a mental illness” and so on. You’ll have to speak about each person individually cause we are all very different.

Q: Should I support Autism Speaks and Light it up blue?
A: No, by all means no. Autism Speaks is a terrible organization that cares more about money than autistic people. They call is a tragedy, a burden, a disease, the reason for divorces, worse than cancer and AIDS combined, a fate worse than death and so on. They use autism as a fear-mongering tactic to earn more money that goes to staff salaries and advertising (with less than 5% going to autistic people and their families!). They support ABA and abusive fake treatments of autism. They refuse to listen to us and basically they speak for us and over us. Boycott Autism Speaks and Light It Up Blue. More info here:

Q: Which autism organization I can support?
A: ASAN - autistic self-advocacy network, and the Autistic Women Network, are the two good organizations I know.

Q: Is the puzzle piece symbol a good symbol for autism?
A: Personally I dislike it because of the association with Autism Speaks. It can be interpreted as “autistic people are missing pieces” which I think is rather dehumanizing. I prefer the neurodiversity symbol, which is the infinity symbol in rainbow colors. If other autistic people wish to use the puzzle piece for themselves, I’m okay with that, but I don’t like it being pushed on others, especially by allistic people.

Q: Are you professionally diagnosed with autism?
A: I am, but no one needs a paper diagnosis to know they are autistic. You can figure it out with research and help from various resources. There are many reasons why someone wouldn’t be able to get a professional diagnosis. Money and accessibility are the biggest barrier, however systematic oppression also plays a role. Autism is under-diagnosed in girls/women and people of color, and many people are denied a diagnosis because they don’t fit the stereotype of an autistic person. Typically an autism specialist is required to give a paper diagnosis and they aren’t always available - and non-specialists make a lot of mistakes.

Also a paper diagnosis might put the person in risk, depending on where they live. In my home country, Russia, a professional psychiatric diagnosis on your official record will mean denial of education, employment, adoption and even a driver’s license, which is why my family had to pay for the diagnosis out of pocket in a private clinic. All these are reasons why I, as well as most good autism organizations, support well-informed autism self-diagnosis.

Q: Where can I learn more about autism?
A: From other autistic people! No-one can be a better expert in autism than an actually autistic person. If you need answers, ask us. Some good resources to start are: YouTube channel “Neurowonderful”, ASAN official site, , and other autistic people on tumblr. Don’t speak over us, listen to us and accept us.

Nothing about us without us.

Planets in astrology and what they represent


  • your ego
  • your nature
  • not changing part of yourself
  • the dynamic expression of your will
  • what’s obvious about you for others
  • your actions


  • what you see in yourself (not always)
  • your emotional nature
  • your (immediate) reactions
  • unconscious behavior patterns you developed
  • what satisfies you emotionally
  • how you treat/nurture others
  • usually only comes out when you’re in your comfort zone
  • how you feel
  • shows relationship with mother and women in general
  • why you feel the way you feel


  • communication
  • thoughts
  • way you analyze and understand
  • transportation
  • learning
  • what kind of learning and communication you prefer
  • “day-to-day” cleverness


  • love
  • joy
  • beauty
  • harmony
  • represents female
  • how you express affection
  • what you feel attracted to
  • what you attract
  • the way you spend your money


  • represents male
  • conflict, aggression/forcefulness
  • outright war
  • sex drive
  • physical energy
  • vitality, energy level, style of action
  • represents human will-initiative


  • good luck, success
  • generosity/charity
  • optimism
  • knowledge, higher learning & breadth of vision
  • frankness/honesty
  • good-will
  • confidence
  • search for meaning and truth
  • represents law & justice, philosphy, religion & metaphysics, education
  • urge of self-improvement
  • ethical, religious, philosophical standars


  • limitation/boundaries
  • safety
  • practicality
  • reality
  • seriousness, structures
  • ambition
  • career & authority, hierarchy, conforming social structures
  • concerns sense of duty/responsibility, discipline
  • indicates the area in life in which you probably feel shame
  • shows areas where you have to learn specific lesson


  • unconscious urge to be aware of inner individuality (sun)
  • flashes of insight
  • revolution, change
  • shock, disruptions
  • forces sudden changes when necessary
  • encompasses technology, electronic devices


  • dissolves life’s patterns to teach new meanings
  • things that are different from their appearance
  • the illusive, unreal/unreality
  • receptivity 
  • imagination, cloudiness
  • confusion, delusion, illusion
  • associated with acting/movies, compassion
  • represents intangible (and makes it real)


  • unconscious urge to live out your role in society’s evolution
  • sexuality (act itself)
  • obesssive desires
  • transformation
  • power
  • ingredients of great wealth (investments, banking, etc.)
  • drastic changes in civilization can be linked to Pluto since it’s the slowest planet and a whole generation is affected by it
  • recklessness
  • mental obsession, compulsion
  • emotional resistance
  • overall transcendence

okay here’s the thing

when tv execs and writers use the word “preference” w/ regards to sexuality, they are NOT using it the way we in the bi/pan communities use it

“preference” has always been a nice sneaky way for them to avoid specifically labeling the sexuality of a character. it’s been used with gay characters to allow the writers to do 180s and make them “straight again”. it’s used to explain why bi characters have 1 slightly substantial relationship with someone of the same gender before its dropped and never mentioned again

before you start accusing people of blowing this thing with sara out of proportion, do even just a tiny bit of digging. that same scene where sara said she had a “preference”, laurel then asks her “are you /sure/ you prefer girls? he [ray] was hot.” sara is bi. why does a preference for one gender affect her ability to find any person of any gender attractive? it doesn’t

or how about when jonah hex made a sexist remark about a man “breaking sara in” or w/e. and mick butts in to tell him that won’t happen. not because sara would hand any man’s ass to him if he tried. but because she’s into girls. implied to be exclusively into girls. and sara isn’t even given a line to correct him.

or how about when one of the lead writers during s2 of arrow said they didn’t want to label sara bisexual because it would be “salacious”? how about that the cw has a shitty track record with wlw characters? how about that it has been reported the cw has been pushing the writers to clamp down on sara’s bisexuality and make her exclusively attracted to women?

don’t act like we’re pulling this out of the god damn air. as a bi woman, with a preference for women, i KNOW that scene in the 100th ep wasn’t for me. and god knows if it had been a scene that led to sara saying “you know i prefer men” people would be sharpening fucking pitchforks

Autistic Questions!!

1. What are your current special interests if any?

2. What have been some of your past special interests?

3. What is guaranteed to make you overload/shutdown?

4. What is guaranteed to make you happy stim?

5. What are some of your happy stims?

6. What are your favourite stims/things to stim with?

7. What are your favourite textures?

8. What are your favourite tastes?

9. What are your favourite sounds?

10. What are your favourite smells?

11. What are your favourite visuals/things to look at?

12. What are your favourite things about being autistic?

13. Is there anything you don’t like about being autistic?

14. When did you first figure out or learn you were autistic?

15. If you’re non verbal, what method of communication do you prefer?

I deactivated my twitter account this morning. Ten years and nearly 14K tweets into the experiment, it was time. I thought about doing it yesterday and hesitated, deciding to sleep on it. This morning it was clear what to do, and I killed it before I left for work this morning. I felt a little sadness, having made some friends and gotten some good laughs. It may still be the best place to get breaking news, if you’re willing to accept the possibility that early reports have a lot of variance in them.

But mostly I felt relief. As the preferred communications platform of the fascist takeover, it had become a source of anxiety for me. Seems like more than half of what I was seeing there was reaction to the latest chaos tweet from the Führer-”elect”, and any amount of filtering to prevent that neutered the rest of the content to the point of meaninglessness. 

And any counter-response to any of that risks death threats, which is ultimately the reason I choose not to associate myself with that platform any longer: they are completely uninterested and unserious about dealing with hate speech and threats of violence. Pepes and eggs by the millions search for keywords or replies, and upon finding them promise to rape you to death with no fear of retribution at all. They might even dox your kids for a laugh. The ones who do get their accounts suspended can create new ones in seconds and pick right up where they left off, all while the anarcho-libertarians who run the place cry that to do anything about it would violate free speech. 

Eat shit, Jack Dorsey. I mean that from the heart.

None of this is to judge those of you who will stay there. We all have our reasons and our tolerances. If we’re friends, we’re friends. This is something I had to do for myself and I make no proscriptions for others. 

In the meantime, I’m reinvesting in my RSS reader and feeds to get my news and sports fixes, and refamiliarizing myself with various blogs and other forums for analysis/discussion. I subscribed to NYT, WaPo, and the Tribune to support their reporting. I’ll probably be a bit behind, but I lived the first 40 years of my life that way and survived just fine.

Autistic Fictional Characters Asks

I’ve never seen one like this so decided to make one, I’m Autistic myself so some of the questions are based on my own experiences as  an autistic person.

put a number or a few in my ask and a fandom, & I’ll pick a character(s) I see as autistic & tell you:

1. How are they with clothing textures? are they fine with fashionable but uncomfortable clothes or do they prefer casual & comfy? or other? 

2. Stimming head canons?

3. how do they feel about touch?

4. favourite foods & textures?

5. hated foods & textures?

6. how do they feel about music?

7. what calms them down?

8. Do they know they’re Autistic? if so when & how did they realise? 

9. if you hc them as self diagnosed how did that impact their life? 

10. do they have friends? if so, are they accepting and accommodating? 

11. how do they prefer to communicate? are they non verbal/have periods of being non verbal? do they use sign language? do they talk? do they prefer text, etc? 

12. Is there any senses they struggle with particularly? (hearing, taste, etc) 

13. their special interests? 

14. are they open about being autistic or do they prefer to keep it to themselves?

15. if you ship them with anyone how is the other person(s) with them? (do they like listening to them info dump cause of how happy it makes them. do they know what smells/textures/places/etc to avoid so not to stress them out. etc)

16. if you ship them with anyone how are they with the other person(s)? (do they figure out code words together to understand what each other is feeling better, etc)

17. how do they prefer their hair? (if they have hair of course), is it a big issue sensory wise or is it not?, do they have their hair for style? comfort? do they find it hard to take care of it? or is it well maintained? do they have to have a certain product or is any ok?

18. are they generally well kept? or do they find it hard to keep up good hygiene?

19. what would be their ideal happy place?

20. what would be their idea of sensory hell?

Rogue One: Cassian Jeron Andor [ISTJ]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / the Mod

Introverted Sensing (Si): Cassian bases all his expectations on his own personal former experiences; he’s very nervous entering a situation with which he has no prior experience to guide him, in how to interact with the environment. He sometimes references previous events, but is more meticulous and careful than anything else. He’s good at engaging the environment, but often Jyn leads the way (he’ll follow her out onto a precarious platform, but isn’t as good at reacting in the moment). Jyn gets on his case for “just following orders” and “doing what he’s told.”

Extroverted Thinking (Te): He has good leadership abilities, and knows how to manage a team. Cassian is driven to accomplish things, rather than directly question them; he is purposeful in his actions, direct in his communicative style, and prefers facts and planning to spontaneity or flying by the seat of his pants. Jyn expects him to have another plan, if the first one falls through. He likes to get the lay of the land, before deciding what to do (seeking the best tactical advantage).

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Cassian doesn’t open up about his feelings, or try to bond with anyone, but he has such strong convictions that, when ordered to assassinate someone, he hesitates, and winds up not doing it. He forms a strong, silent connection to Jyn, and neither of them feel the need to say anything sappy to each other at the end.

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): BE CAREFUL! THINGS COULD GO WRONG! Cassian believes in this mantra. He urges his companions to take care in the environment, to not act in haste, because you never know what could blow up in their faces.

This past week I learned my professor is part of the LGBTQ+ community;

That she prefers the term queer like I do, that she’s learning to introduce her pronouns at the beginning of her classes, and that the anxiety of coming out to her was so worth it.

anonymous asked:

Hi! If you're still taking requests for altar ideas, could you do a list for Persephone? Thanks in advance!

- Pomegranate
- Daffodils
- Spring and Summer blooming fruit and flowers
- Asphodel
- Wheat
- Deer
- Bones
- Bees
- Black ram and sheep
- Seeds
- Iron
- Flower crowns
- Bats
- Dirt (Graveyard dirt)
- Wine
- Preferred Spirit Communication tools
- Pressed/Preserved Flowers

Altar Ideas
Amphitrite - Aphrodite - Apollo - Ares - Artemis - Asteria - Demeter - Dionysus - Hades - Hebe - Hekate - Hemera - Hephaestus - Hera - Hermes - Khione - Persephone - Poseidon - Selene - Zeus

Imagine: First Kiss

Before this day, you had never been kissed. Yea sure you had been kissed before but none of them had been memorable to you. You and y/c/n had been friends for awhile and you two were very close especially considering how short you guys had known each other. You guys just clicked. Today was you and y/c/n’s weekly hang out which normally consisted of old 80’s and 90’s movies and lots of junk food. Ever since he had gotten to your house he had been acting weird, almost nervous. Despite this weird behavior the two of you had still cuddled on your couch and you started to notice that his hand was lightly touching the spot where your shirt had risen up. Your skin burned where his hand was but strangely felt good. Trying to pay attention to the movie was hard, considering you could feel y/c/n’s eyes on you.

“What?“ you question self consciously touching your face.

“You don’t realize it, do you?” he asks incredulously.

“Are you okay?“ you say looking at him curiously.

“How can I be okay when you don’t realize how I feel about you!? It should be obvious but you’re so oblivious that it hurts!” he exclaims.

“I know that you care about me y/c/n,“ you say smiling. He groans loudly and buries his face in his hands turning away from you.

“Nevermind y/n. It’s clear that you don’t understand. We can talk about it later.” he says dismissing you.

“No. You cannot just walk away after what you told me. I won’t let you.” you say firmly while kneeling down in front of him.

“I love you, y/n! You don’t even give me the time of day as anything more than a friend!” he exclaims, frustration clear in his tone.

“That wasn’t so hard, was it?” you say smirking at him.

“Why are you laughing at me?” he asks scowling.

“It’s funny,” you start as y/c/n looks at you in shock. “It’s funny because I could not imagine loving anyone but you.” you say looking into his eyes.

“Why’d it take you so long to say so then?” he questions indignantly.

“I was scared. Scared that it could ruin everything, and I couldn’t have that. Not after we built this friendship, you’re my best friend and I—–,” you say passionately before y/c/n cuts you off.

“You’re rambling love.” he says softly as he leans in and presses his lips into yours. Immediatly you start to feel the sparks that everyone in the movies had been talking about.

Eli is failing to consider the following: Ian is already miserable anyway. Everyone hates the boy . He genuinely thinks eating spaghetti with a spoon is good clearly he is depressed anyway !!! Choose to give him the misery and nothing will be different

So I had this 3edgy idea right

Where I would kinda personify all the shit I struggle with so I could make vent art with it

So here’s the 3edgy illness monster ocs

Blue is Bacillus / Baz, they’re sad and tired and made of goop so they constantly leave messy trails of slime around everywhere they go, they can’t really speak and prefer to communicate through gargles
Pink is Socors / Scoots, they’re perky and reckless and eat everything that gets too close to their gaping maw- which they’re self conscious of, so they cover it with a mask, they also don’t have a heart