common miscommunications

PSA about time.

One of the MOST common forms of miscommunication in the roleplay community is about TIME. People constantly assume that someone is either super busy, or they’re super available, and neither of these assumptions are usually TRUE. So, please be sure to remember that people have lives beyond the computer screen. They don’t have to be busy with REAL LIFE to not be online – things happen, personal things, or sometimes nothing might. It doesn’t matter how long it takes for someone to reply to you. We need to take more time talking about how comfortable we are with certain things when it comes to writing together, one of these topics pertaining to TIME. It should be more discussed throughout the roleplay community, and also UNDERSTOOD. Take the TIME to understand your roleplay partner before jumping to conclusions about why they may or may not be online.

TalesFromRetail: The longest check-out ever

Hey, I’ve never posted before and am kind of new to reddit, so I’m sorry if this is long winded and/or badly formatted?

So I used to work as a cashier for a superstore. I was one of many seasonal employees.

It was Thanksgiving day, and my store was open so people could get Black Friday deals even earlier. But it wasn’t anywhere near as busy as we thought it was going to be. I was at one of the further tills, so I wasn’t getting much traffic at all. Then finally this one woman and her kid, who was probably 12-13, came up with a cart full of clothes, so I figured I was going to be busy for a little while!

At no point did I fully realize.. just how long I was going to be busy for.

She was completely polite to me, and so was her daughter. But as she’s putting things up onto the belt, she’s stopping to consider every single item. Some, for over a minute at a time. And their cart was full of clothing, hung up over all the sides. I quickly got antsy but didn’t have a queue, and she wasn’t ever rude to me, so I figured I might as well stay calm and just let her do her thing. I’m paid by the hour and I was gonna be there until 3am, what’s the harm?

It got.. a little ridiculous when she started trying on some of the jackets and asking her daughter for an opinion. At that point I finally realized that I was going to be here for a lot longer than I anticipated. Some people were slow like this, yeah, and liked to consider some items for a bit before deciding to buy them or not. But this woman was still.. shopping! Luckily, there still wasn’t anybody behind her, and we had a surplus of cashiers on hand, so I just turned off my light. My manager came by and gave me a look, then glanced over at the woman. He vaguely realized what was happening and we shared a slight “I’m not really sure what’s going on but okay” shrug.

She started complaining about how she shouldn’t be spending all this money, kind of to herself. Her daughter and her had apparently already been all over for Black Friday deals (again it’s.. still Thanksgiving), so she was obviously stressed. That’s when she checked the total of all I’ve scanned, and got confused. She asked where her 30% off is. Cue my soul shriveling up. I then reluctantly explained to her that the only way to get 30% off of all the clothing was to have our store’s coupon app (A very common, stressful miscommunication). Obviously if she doesn’t know this, she doesn’t have the app, and that damn thing was a NIGHTMARE to try to download while in-store. The wifi plain did not work.

But no way was she going to spend 30% more than she anticipated, and I sympathized with that, so I continued to wait as she enlisted her daughter’s help to download the app. I tried to explain it as best I can, but we wasted over 5 minutes while they accidentally download the store’s app, which is completely different from the coupon app. And we went through the whole damn process, getting them signed up and everything, only for it to be the wrong app. I swear to god, when that poor girl showed me her phone and all I saw was the regular app… It was crushing. But we finally got the app downloaded, logged in, I taught them how to use it, okay. We’ve wasted more than 10 minutes at this point, but at least we have that figured out, and they’re both still very polite.

But the woman then continued to go through her cart! She gave me about half the things that were in the cart to put back, so my abandoned bin is overflowing, and she was still at it. And once again, she got stuck on a jacket! So she tried one on, and her daughter (who was getting frustrated at this point) tells her it looks good and she should just get it, but then.. Oh no! It’s too small. So she said she was going to go switch it out. The clothing section isn’t too far from the tills, so that’s not a completely ridiculous thing…. But she just walked away. Walked. Completely unhurried. Most people run, or at least speed-walk, when something like this happens. So I’m shocked. And she left her poor daughter with me.

I didn’t want her to feel bad, so I struck up some awkward conversation. She was very sweet, and it seemed like she was used to this… Also, I had noticed a few different times while her mom had been sorting through the clothing, that she had been placating her by saying she didn’t need most of the clothing they’d picked out for her… And well, her mom had left some of them on the belt, just sitting there. So I very casually asked if her mom would probably be buying these. She kind of hesitantly picked up on what I was trying to do, and said yes. So I smiled, scanned through the clothing on the belt and stuffed them into bags. They weren’t any big purchases, and hey.. They were on the belt! And that poor kid deserved some kind of reward, honestly, for being so incredibly patient through all of that. If that had been my mom, I would have died about 5 minutes in.

The woman finally came back, after around another five minutes, and gave me the jacket to scan. She sorted through the last of her stuff, but finally we got everything either into bags or off the belt. She balked at the total, but was relieved after the coupon app brought it down significantly. She actually seemed pleased, and thanked me for my help. Pays, continues on her way.

So that’s how I spent around 25 minutes with a single customer during Black Friday’s sales, who just did not seem to know nor care about the passing of time. Thank god it wasn’t busy, I don’t know what I would have done if it had been.

By: ValentineRows

Of all the overused tropes that I hate, probably my least favorite is the Totally Avoidable Misunderstanding trope. Miscommunication is common enough in real life, so why do writers have such a hard time showing it in a realistic way? The most infuriating variant is the one that relies on the main characters being uncharacteristic dicks the whole time. Take yesterday’s episode of “King of the Hill” for example. Boomhauer finds out his brother Patch is getting married to Boomhauer’s old flame. While he is understandably saddened by this, he resolves to be supportive of his brother and agrees to be his best man. That is until he realizes his brother is still a philanderer who is very unlikely to be faithful to his new wife. He confronts his brother on this and that leads to a fight culminating in Boomhauer refusing to be the best man, and Patch asking Hank instead. Now here’s the first issue: Boomhauer was initially supportive of his brother in the wedding despite his personal feelings. Yet never once do any of his closest friends stop to wonder why he is now refusing to participate, and if he might have a good reason. They never even bother asking him why, they just assume it’s because he was overcome with jealousy.

Later, Patch’s fiancé tries to mend things with Boomhauer, asking him to please attend the bachelor party and be there for his brother. He agrees, but at this point he has continued to see his brother’s completely inappropriate and flirtatious behavior with other women, and he tries very kindly to warn her that he might not be trustworthy. But he’s interrupted by Hank, who once again assumes he is only trying to talk her out of marrying Patch out of jealousy and berates him for his behavior. Even despite once again being mistrusted and treated like a criminal by his closest friend, Boomhauer still decides to be the bigger person and go to the bachelor party. And it turns out he was right: Patch hired strippers for the party. Boomhauer tries to pay the women to leave just as the fiancé comes in. Not wanting to get in trouble, Patch accuses Boomhauer of hiring the strippers to make him look bad and EVERYONE BELIEVES HIM. No one doubts it. Everyone is so ready to believe that he did such a horrible thing without any evidence that he would have. Again he’s done everything right. He’s been respectful of his brother’s relationship, he’s been supportive of the wedding until he had a good reason not to be, and he’s tried to spare the fiancé’s feelings. But no one gives him a chance to explain himself and they just write him off for being a jealous creep. This is pretty much completely out of character, at least for Hank who generally is the most levelheaded of his friend group. I might excuse this behavior from Dale or Bill because they’re idiots, but it’s actually Dale who points out that Hank never actually asked Boomhauer directly for his side of the story. Then of course he does and finally everyone realizes Patch is a jerk and things are wrapped up in a neat bow. But the whole thing could’ve been resolved much faster if anybody had paid attention or trusted their friend or even stopped to consider that there might be another aspect that they’re missing. The same thing happened in the first half of “A Canterlot Wedding” in MLP:FIM, when even freaking Celestia is willing to write Twilight, her most trusted and loyal student, off as a jealous nutcase for trying to point out that her brother was about to marry a changeling.

There’s nothing wrong with a realistic misunderstanding, but if the only reason the misunderstanding is happening is because everyone suddenly decides to treat their closest friends and family like liars and idiots for no reason, it makes for a pretty poorly written story.

Comm 3070: Week 2 Blog Post 2

2. Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwabisch Hall, or Tubingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?


The issue of denialism was seen during our visit to AFRICOM. Caption Asuncion introduced us to Cori Fleser, a woman in charge of explaining the gray areas of gender to military personnel. While Cori was speaking, captain Asuncion, or munch as they called him, continually interrupted her. However, the most interesting part was that Cori was discussing the difficulties in speaking to military personnel and specifically men within that group while maintaining her authority and credibility with them. She said she had to learn how to maintain her aura of confidence in order for them to take her seriously. While she was saying all of this, munch would intervene to let us know that they weren’t sexist at all, and other comments about how not all military men look down on women. What is crazy to me is that in him interrupting her, to completely deny the fact that there are sexist military personnel made him one of the men she talked about. His interruptions actually furthered her point. His outright denial of being sexist and that the military treats women with less respect was a perfect example of his treating Cori, a woman, with less respect than she deserved.

In the reading by Stobbe the author addresses the issue of correlation and causation not being the same thing. He goes on to explain using popular examples, like more drownings happening because of the increase in ice cream sales, when in reality more ice cream is sold in the summer and more people go swimming in the summer. In this article, Stobbe mentions how we as a people can make quick assumptions that aren’t correct, and I saw this in our visit to AFRICOM. People assume because Cori is a woman that she isn’t correct in her information briefing. She mentioned that sometimes she can state information, and have the military personnel not listen however if a male counterpart states the same facts, the men start to listen.

Oversimplifications: Organic doesn’t mean healthy.

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?

At Schwäbisch Hall, one message was constantly incorporated into the media and briefings; this was the message that ORGANIC IS BETTER. In this post, I am going to explain why this statement is an oversimplification.

Over the past few years, the word organic has become a buzz word when talking about different foods and what is more healthy for you. The organic industry has built a high profile reputation for themselves as being always the most healthy option as well as being worth the higher costs, but often times this is not the case. It is important to remember that these are not reached by nutritional standards, but earth/animal/human friendly processes. 

Through advertising, organic brands have pushed the immediate connection between organic and healthy. However, just because something is organic, doesn’t mean that it is good for you. Organic Certification is solely based on the techniques of production and transportation of the goods. For example, I could be eating organic sausage and it could have the same amount or perhaps more fat and calories than the non-organic version.

Another aspect to consider are local farms that are still small carefully run farms, however, they may not have the money or resources to meet organic standards. Most of the times these products are fresher and have used fewer resources in order to get to your refrigerator or kitchen counter.

This oversimplification is similar to that in Nebel’s article about causes of autism. The oversimplification of both topics remains largely unnoticed because of the “overwhelming discordance between what the public knows and what the field knows” (Nebel). The public in the case of organic foods gravitates towards buzzwords like organic as well as other non-certified words such as natural or whole grain. However, we are buying these products without truly considering the dietary factors.

Also as a small end/side note, one could say that thinking that organic farming is the solution to all health and food problems is also a very utopic way of thinking. By ignoring the complexity of the situation, the whole point of organic farming gets lost in these advertisements and communications.

A + B does not always = C

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?

The four common issues in miscommunication are as follows: oversimplification, correlation vs. causation, denialism, and utopia vs. disutopia. Although each of these could be applied in some sense to multiple venues I have visited, Schwabisch Hall holds the most applicable in regards to correlation vs. causation.  During a discussion with our tour guide named Hardy, the question of whether or not intake of organic food really made that large of a difference for one’s health.  He explained that the reason the organization exists is because they wholeheartedly believe organically grown food is essential for the environment and well-being of people. Furthermore, they believe that their products are producing not only quality life for their customers but possibly a longer life-span as well.  According to Stobbe, “The problem comes when we incorrectly assume that two characteristics connected to each other are“causally” related (1).”  In relation to the conversation with Hardy, I think there may be some slight miscommunication on his end.  

For example:

A: Organically grown food (correlation)

+

B: Consumption of this food (correlation)

=

C: Healthier, longer-lasting life (causation)

However, I believe A + B does not always have to equal C.  Meaning, the correlation is not always directly related to the causation.  Just because their customers consume organic food, does not mean they will see an increase in life expectancy.  Alternative possibilities to longer life-span: No lineage of disease. Athletic dedication. Consumption of fruits and vegetables of non-organic quality. 

The options are endless.  

Post 5: Utopia vs Uto-tally Wrong

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?

One of the most common issues in miscommunication of science and technology is Utopia vs Distopia. This becomes such a big debate because it is, for the most part, dependent completely on the mindset and thoughts of individuals which can always differ and be biased. For instance, in Sun’s reading there is a debate about vaccinations and the disagreement on whether vaccinations are beneficial can be seen in two different lights. Some believe that they are an easy solution to outbreaks of diseases that will create a medicinal Utopia and others believe that they can have harmful effects that are not worth the risk (Sun, 2). 

Schwabisch Hall serves as a great example of this idea because on this plot of land, they believe that they are doing work that is best for everyone that invests and takes part in their business and mission to eat and live healthy lives. This entire idea would be a Utopia, in the way that they describe and promote it. 

Throughout the tour, they continually fed facts about Rudolf Buhler, the international engagements and food production that all had positive spins on them. More specifically, they take pride in the processes that they go through to make sure the spices and products are all handled and mixed by hand and not thrown into machines that are typically used to speed processes up and add unnatural elements. However, other companies may say that this is a waste of time and money and would create a distopia because a plant run by machines could run so much more quickly, effectively and concisely. Utopia vs. distopia is really much like comparing benefits and costs of a situation and how they apply to values, operations and individuals. 

Miscommunication & Mercedes

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?


“The problem comes when we incorrectly assume that two characteristics connected to each other are ‘causally’ related.” (Stobbe, 2011, p. 1)


This quote from Stobbe’s article relates directly to the concept of correlation vs. causation that Sarah discussed with us in class. Simply put, people tend to jump to conclusions and assume that one thing causes another, without looking further into context or background information. I saw this happening in the Mercedes-Benz Museum, specifically in the timeline wall exhibits throughout the entire building. These wall displays contained information about Mercedes-Benz’s technological milestones alongside major historical events. This timeline-like structure of this wall exhibit leads viewers to almost see these technological advancements made by Mercedes as the cause of major historical events. For example, the exhibit included a piece on the target markets and products that Mercedes had to offer in the late 1890s, which was followed almost directly by a piece on the beginnings of mass tourism in 1900. The order of these pieces causes the viewer to think that Mercedes-Benz’s technological product advancements were responsible for the beginning of mass tourism. However, if you look at more information and context, Mercedes-Benz’s technological advancements were not the sole cause of mass tourism, despite these events happening at a similar time. This causation miscommunication occurs with multiple different major historical events, like the women’s movement, throughout the museum. This example is similar to the ice cream and drowning example found in the reading. Like the advancements made by Mercedes and the beginning of mass tourism, an increase in ice cream sales and in drowning occurred at the same time, however they did not cause one another. Researchers failed to realize the context, which was that these events are both more likely in summer months.

Comm 3070: Week 2 Blog 2

Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel, or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from the readings?

           In the Schwäbisch Hall area, the farmers are very vehement that organic farming practices make better quality food, and thus it is better for you. Some even take this to the extreme and follow the Demeter standard. Because organic farming is more labor intensive and a costlier agricultural practice, the pricing in supermarkets for organic goods is higher. According to Rudolf Bühler, this can be as much as $0.40 more. Because organic foods are more expensive then it’s inorganic counterpart, one can easily assume that those on a lower budget are less likely to buy the more expensive version. Therefore, it is reasonable to conclude that those with a higher disposable income are more likely to buy organic foods. Having a higher disposable income will not only effect one’s buying habit in the super market, but also other aspects of life such as healthcare. It can also be reasonable to assume that those with a larger budget can afford and have better healthcare then those straddling the poverty line. Using this process of reasoning, on can conclude that organic food is not a cause for better health, but merely a correlation with the third ignored variable being income level.

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(Different levels of organic certification achieved by  Schwäbisch Hall)

           Organic foods and better health is not the only time that the causation and correlation have blurred together, especially when being publicized by media. This is a common occurrence with many health related studies. As pointed out by Stobbe, “Media loves to grab your attention” and will use buzz words catch the public’s eye. Unfortunately, the implied meaning of these words often lead to one taking the outcome of the study to implicate a causation instead of a correlation. Income level is a common hidden third variable that is ignored when distinguishing whether the relationship between two factors is a causation or a correlation. A well-known study that drew the conclusion that HRT can aid in preventing coronary heart disease is used to as an example as an example to demonstrate this phenomenon. Like the organic food and health case, this study also failed to consider the effects of income level. Miscommunication is a common occurrence in all realms of media, and they can lead to the public drawing an inaccurate assumption.

COMM 3070 Prompt #5

Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwabish Hall, or Tubingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobble, Nebel, or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?


During the tour of Schwäbish Hall, Rudolph Bühler was unintentionally oversimplying the information he was giving us about the farming standards that his company holds, specifically on organic farming. For instance, he talked about how organic farming is a more advantageous type of farming compared to the more mainstream types because it provides the “healthier” foods that people desire. Due to the stigmas of foods from organic farming and mainstream farming, Rudolph’s information formed the impression that organic farming is better than mainstream farming. However, his information lacked solid evidence, miscommunicating the real information behind organic farming and misguiding our impressions of it. Since we don’t have an abundant amount of knowledge on organic and mainstream farming, we are left up to believing in what Rudolph was telling us. With hard evidence, we would have been able to have form our own impression on whether organic farming is as advantageous as Rudolph claims it is by better communicating the science behind the two farming techniques.

The oversimplification of information in Rudolph’s case is similar to the one presented in the Nebel article. In the beginning of the article, Nebel describes how the results of a study on the effects of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) used during pregnancy, specifically during the first trimester, and risk of the child being born with autism were modest. However, a commercial that she later saw miscommunicated this information, making the study seem way more significant than it was. Nebel, with no knowledge on the topic, believed in the commercial, forming the impression that the drug manufacturers should have a lawsuit brought against them for allowing pregnant women to take their SSRIs. Rudolph had miscommunicated the information on organic farming in a similar way. With knowing as much about farming as he does, he knows the actual facts between organic and mainstream farming. The information he gave us, though, lacked this evidence, leaving us to believe that organic farming is the best technique and mainstream farming is the worst.

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?

During our tour of Africom, we got to listen to a number of speakers talk about how the organization operates, some of the missions they are involved with, and how women are treated throughout the organization.  Our speaker, Corey, talked about some of the difficulties she has seen and experienced being a woman in a predominately male organization. She talked about how she has to give her briefs in a very direct manner because if she even has one joke incorporated in her brief then the men there would automatically write her off as not being as competent. This is a clear example of denialism, which is when there is evidence something has occurred but the person or organization is so stuck in their way of thinking that they refuse to accept the new conclusion. She talked about how she is working to educate other members of Africom on the issues of women in the armed forces but some of these members were not receptive to the information she was presenting. This goes against what Stobbe said in the reading about how “The problem comes when we incorrectly assume that two characteristics connected to each other are “causally” related. In other words, one of the characteristics is responsible at least in part for the other one.” Here there is clearly a correlation between women not being well respected purely because of the fact that they are women. This implies that one directly correlates to the other, which in this instance is what is going on. For example, Corey was the only one employed at Africom to educate on these issues, which implies that the organization does not take problems associated with women in the armed forces as seriously as other organizations. She also gave some examples of how women have been mistreated and when these issues were brought up to management of the company, they did little to fix the issue. The science they are refusing to accept is the knowledge Corey gives about issues associated with being a woman in the workforce. 

3070 Post 5

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?


An example of miscommunication occurred during out trip to Schwäbisch Hall within their standards of organic farming. Their Demeter standards are standards which surpass the ones set by governments. This world they create of high standards; organic farming represents a Utopia of a “perfect world”. A utopia is an unattainable world of ideal perfection.  The strict farming of only ground up, organic foods sets the stage for a Utopia that the association wishes to be. This utopia is free of pesticides, animal cruelty, chemicals and etc. However, this example actually relates a dystopia, for it is not so simple to make farming completely organic. By eliminating manufacturing, processing, and pesticides, we see a loss in jobs in these markets. It may be ideal to have healthy foods free of pesticides and processing for consumption; however, it does affect the lives of works in the field of these natures. Therefore, the utopian world of organic farming is unattainable because a balance is unattainable.
This relates to the article by Sun about Anti-Vaccine Activists because as we have developed vaccines, we hope to eliminate diseases to help save lives. It’s a common belief that we would not wish deathly illness upon anyone; we would prefer a world in which people are healthy and do not contract deadly illnesses; however, as with the organic farming, this utopia world of illness-free is unattainable without complication. We thought vaccines were our stepping stone towards a “perfect world” but they have brought about much more complications than we expected. The article mentions how the arguments over vaccine shave grown increasingly controversial because there have been suspicions of vaccines causing other issues. The article mentions a quote by Sahra Osman saying, “For God’s sake, I want to know if vaccines are safe"! This cry of hers is easy to resonate with as we all would like to know if the vaccinations are safe or if we are poisoning our bodies. A utopia created by vaccinations is not as attainable as we would hope for. This is similar to how we saw the organic farming as wanting to be a utopia but there are much more complications that come along with it, as so with vaccinations. Also, if we were to attain the utopia of low illness rates because of vaccinations, we would run into the eliminate of a higher population and all the problems that would arise from it. The problems of overpopulation could lead to worse living conditions as well which would diminish the level of health that was increased by vaccinations. Altogether, it makes sense why the term utopia is greek for “no place” because there truly is no perfect balance.  

Animals treated well: Here is one pictured in a pasture of much room to roam

Manuals avialble for the farmers in the media center

Demeter’s guide to making a biodynamic farm by their standards

COMM 3070 Blog Post 5

Prompt 2: Choose one of the common issues in miscommunication of science and technology that Sarah discussed with you. Find an example of it in Stuttgart, Schwäbisch Hall or Tübingen. Explain clearly and in detail how it exemplifies this kind of miscommunication. Relate it to one of the readings (Stobbe, Nebel or Sun): How is your example similar to or different from one of the examples from a reading?

The four common issues in miscommunication that Sarah talked discussed with us are oversimplification, correlation versus causation, denialism, and utopia versus dystopia. I have chosen to find an example of something in Stuttgart that represents a dystopian society. A dystopia is a society that is trying to be perfect but is failing due to flaws. It is usually a negative view of society. An example of this from the Mercedes-Benz Arena is the idea that “doping” or using steroids is ruining all of sports. This is a typical kind of overgeneralization that would come from someone using a dystopian view after just one athlete getting in trouble for using steroids. In the arena they have a “dopingkontrolle” room which is used for testing the soccer players for use of performance-enhancing drugs. In Stobbe’s article, he mentions that miscommunication can be due to unrecognized variables, and I believe that this is apparent within this example as well because the people that believe doping is ruining all of sports are not recognizing the fact that although the use of steroids is a big problem within the world of sports, the majority of athletes do not use them.

(“Dopingkontrolle” room in the Mercedes-Benz Arena)

(Infographic about steroid use in sports)

It’s fucking hilarious that I see posts on Tumblr all the time like “omg when someone on Facebook/Tumblr is vagueposting and you’re CONVINCED it’s about you even if it’s not omg that causes SO MUCH ANXIETY” and yet as soon as that happens to a celebrity they immediately jump on her (always her) and say “OMG she’s trying to make it all about her! What a bitch! Fuck you!”

Because y'all realized that’s exactly what happened, right? Nicki was talking about the music industry and awards in a general sense, but Taylor saw her friend posting about something that DOES, actually, still relate to her but thought it was maybe ONLY about her and became paranoid so she responded. That’s why she deleted the tweets after Nicki responded. That’s why she wants to invite Nicki on stage. Because they are, actually, friends. And women in an industry where they know it’s super important to support each other. Taylor deleted the Tweets not because she wanted people to “forget she said them”, she’s not stupid. Twitter lives forever in one way or another. She deleted them to try and stop the exact thing that’s happening anyway: people calling it “a feud”, when in reality it’s just the common miscommunication that happens so often on text based social media, especially when you’re only given up to 140 characters to say something.

Does that lessen Nicki’s legitimate concerns? No. Does that mean Nicki did anything wrong? Also definitely not. Does that mean that Taylor is completely off the hook? I mean no not really. There’s still an underlying issue there, but it’s more to do with maybe asking for clarification in private before using social media so publicly so as not to derail completely legitimate conversations that need to happen, but I feel like it’s probably a lesson she’s learned now.

However the way in which Tumblr immediately took this opportunity to declare Taylor “the worst” is disgusting especially considering it only ever happens with women (this happens with every woman in the entertainment industry in a way that never happens with men and I mean EVERY woman). The people that need to be called out and shamed are the entertainment “news” media, not Taylor and Nicki (because yes there are people pissed at Nicki too and like what? No. Fuck off). Taylor and Nicki are clearly friends who support each other and I can bet you Nicki has already had a conversation with Taylor about this in private. Taylor is also 25 fucking years old. I’m 25 years old. That is still REALLY FUCKING YOUNG! Especially for someone who basically grew up in the public eye. It’s a fucking miracle that Taylor is as observant about issues as she is and has the insight to even be like “oh hey, these songs I wrote when I was young are actually kind of perpetuating a gross narrative. I should change that and call myself out!”

And if your first instinct in this whole thing was to immediately post on Tumblr about how you always knew Taylor was “the worst” you need to take a few steps back from the computer and take a few thousand deep breaths and some insight into yourself as to why you so gleefully want to tear another woman in the public eye down to the lowest level and THEN also realize that just because someone is famous doesn’t mean they’re not STILL HUMAN and have the ability to MAKE MISTAKES!

And if your first instinct was to immediately demonized Nicki for “pitting women against each other” then 1) you’re an idiot and 2) 99.9% likely also racist.

ironically one of the more common miscommunications between an autistic person and an allistic person is the autistic person speaking in metaphor (echolalia) and the allistic person taking them too literally