coming out

anonymous asked:

hello!! i love all your fic recs theyre so good !! Could you please rec me some drarry fics where Harry and Draco reveal their relationship to the wizarding world and all the responses that follow. the reveal could be the main part of the fic, the end of the fic or the epilogue!! i love all length fics and as long as the reveal is in there somewhere (even a tiny chapter or something) I want to read it! thank you so much in advance xxx

Hello!! Thank you! I feel like there are a lot of fics in which Harry and Draco come out in some way, so I’m really going to limit this to fics where they come out to the general public (as opposed to just Hogwarts or something) and the coming out/responses are a pretty memorable part of the story! :)

Date Blindness by dysonrules (24K)- Harry was perfectly happy with his life until Hermione decided to set him up on a blind date.
This fic is a great play on the “coming out” trope! The boys enter into a very business-like arrangement to fake a relationship so that Harry can come out to the press, but OF COURE THAT’S ALL A PRETENSE TO HIDE THEIR TRUE FEELINGS AND IT WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH YOU DEAR STUPID NAIVE BOYS. *Coughs* excuse me. Anyway, fake relationships are THE BEST and this fic is great.

A River in Egypt by cassie_black (3.5K)- Draco is not impressed with the surprise guest at his Birthday party.
This is a reeeeally cute fluffy little fic! I don’t want to say too much and spoil it, but it just warmed my heart <3

Chasing the Dragon by Calanthe (link to PDF download. No word count, but 329 pages)-  Harry arrives back at Hogwarts for his final year, nursing a huge crush on Blaise Zabini. Following a Polyjuice potion ‘incident’, Harry learns some VERY interesting things about Malfoy and starts to look at the Slytherin in a different light. Harry lets his imagination, and his wicked streak, run wild, with Malfoy on the receiving end of Harry’s game.
This fic is pretty kinky and involves quite a bit of dubcon and some d/s stuff, so be warned! Personally I love all of those things so I ADORE THIS FIC. Harry starts out with a crush on Blaise (silly Harry), but don’t worry because very soon THINGS make him realize the error of his ways and the fact that Draco Malfoy is his one true obsession. Harry engages in some not-quite-moral methods to get Draco’s attention, but luckily Draco is not-quite-moral himself ;). The “coming out” is in the later part of the fic!

The Love That Has To Keep Shouting Its Name aka Hero Harry’s Attention-Seeking Actions a Huge Howl for Help by twistedmiracle (41K)- In which Harry fights with the Wizarding press, befriends a Muggle role model, explores his political-activist side, and buys rather a lot of flowers.
This is another fic in which they start a “fake” relationship so that Harry can come out to the press! YES! It’s really funny because no matter how much Harry has tried to come out, the Prophet keeps photoshopping him with various women and Harry is just so done. ENTER SEXY DRACO MALFOY TO SAVE THE DAY.

Becoming Us Part 1 and Part 2 by VivacissimoVoce (84K combined)- Following the war, Harry Potter and friends return to Hogwarts to repeat their interrupted final year. To everyone’s surprise Draco Malfoy returns as well, but something has changed. Harry learns the weighty consequences of being marked as a Death Eater and must decide whether to help Draco escape his past. 
Although the “coming out” part of this fic is riiiiight at the end of part two, in a way I feel like the whole fic is about coming out because of the amount of time devoted to dealing with pervasive homophobia. It’s really great how they slowly work to overcome it! Also I LOVE the way they first come together!! Harry takes pity on Draco and takes him to get his Dark Mark removed the muggle way. How brilliant is that idea?! Also it’s an eighth year fic, which preeeeetty much makes it automatically amazing hahaha.

‘Twas Brillig by Queenie_Mab (74K)- Harry reads a chapter of Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland to his children before bed every night and through the story, he and his middle child find an ally in each other as they, along with Alice, discover a world that just doesn’t seem to make sense when taken at face value. The more aware Harry becomes - embracing his child’s reality - the more motivated he is to build a wizarding world that is fully inclusive, and by processing these life lessons finds he’s able to connect with another person in ways that have always eluded him.
YES YES YES this fic is great! It has so many different parts that are really memorable for me! Like… massage therapist Draco and a sexy massage! Trans!Al who is the sweetest! Surprise crossdressing! Great sex! Seriously, I think about this fic all the time.

Nineteen Years and 5 Minutes Later by TheMightyFlynn (203K)- Five minutes after his happily-ever-after, Harry finds himself locked in the public loos with an angry Draco Malfoy and a need that he has denied for 19 years.
Aaaaah this fic! Okay I feel kind of horrible about this and I love Ginny as a character (when she’s not with Harry lol) but SOMETIMES I just really want to read a good Ginny-bashing fic anyway, you know? And BOY is this some satisfying Ginny bashing. The coming out in this fic is, if I remember correctly, not done with the consent of our boys, but public opinion is really important to the plot here, so there’s a lot of them in the press, and a lot of reactions! Also I JUST noticed that there is apparently a sequel?! Which I haven’t read yet?! I will get on that ASAP

What You Do With Your Life, A.H.K.B.C.B. (After the Hero Kills the Batshit Crazy Bastard) by oldenuf2nb (39.5K)- Draco Malfoy had waited years in hope of seeing Harry Potter utterly humiliated….
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THIS FIC IS GREAT, OKAY??? Both Harry and then Draco have horrible exes, and then both of them help each other save face in front of the public when they have to confront those exes. There’s lovely angst (as opposed to annoying angst, which is hard to do) and lots of fluff and smut and everything you could ask for! Just yes yes yes! 

As always, if anyone else had a rec to add, feel free to leave a reply! :)

anonymous asked:

more coming out stories I got you my dude. so I was absolutely terrified of telling my parents. my dad is a pastor at a roman catholic church. my mom is super religious and both have said some not wonderful things about gay people. I broke up with my bf because we really were better friends and it was mutual and I was crushing hard on this girl from another school. so it wasn't fair to him so I got home and they had heard (small town) and absolutely flipped their lids. (1/?)

it was so bad so I ran away from home (because i’m an extra hoe and emotional ok don’t judge). I went to the diner across town and was sitting there fuming and my mom was spam calling my cell so I finally answered it and she was like where are you, come home this instant, etc etc. but mostly why did you break up with bf (his parents are influential) because he’s so great blah blah blah. so I yelled because I was in love with a girl before I realized it and kinda froze. (2/?)

after a silence that seemed like ten years but was probably a cpl minutes she just said have you always felt like this? and I said yeah. so she said come home and hung up the phone. I was terrified but it was getting late and it was winter so I went home and she hugged me really tight and gave me a cup of cocoa, wrapped me in a blanket, and just said tell me about her. we spent all night talking about me and my stupid crush. (3/?)

That stupid crush and I are actually engaged and we get married next year. my mom is my maid of honor, and my dad is going to officiate. coming out is terrifying but I believe in you - you can do it! (4/4)


this day - the sunday of memorial day weekend - holds such a tender place in my heart.

  • on this day in 2015, my wife + i walked down the aisle at camp wandawega and were married by one of our best friends in the world
  • and in 2016, we snuck back to wandawega, just the 2 of us, to celebrate our anniversary and the little secret we had yet to let the world in on: my wife was 6 weeks pregnant with dashiell
  • and today, 2017 - naps & coffee & neighborhood walks with our little family. a little quieter, perhaps, yet our whole world is spinning on a different axis
I just … I can’t believe how lucky I am. I lived for so many years in some version of the closet. initially self-imposed, then a double life, then kept in the closet by family.

it feels like life has turned on a dime, but it’s actually been a slow march toward uncovering - to living only one version of myself. I am finally out-out-out, with a beautiful wife & amazing son, & i can’t help but let the joy pour out of me.

haveanaceday  asked:

Panromantic ace Lee Jordan being advised by Fred and George on the Hogwarts express in Harry's first year after the bombshell of Charlie announcing he was aroace at the end of summer just before going to Romania - R

“Hey, Lee-”

“-you’ll never guess what Charlie-”

“-announced this summer!” the twins announced to Lee as soon as they found him on the Hogwarts Express.

Lee smiled up from the comic he had been previously engrossed in, having learned that it was easier to sit and let Fred and George find him than him seeking them out. He carefully marked his place but set the book down.

“Fred, George!” Lee hugged each of the twins. “Charlie’s becoming a dragon animagus?” he guessed.

The twins both laughed. “Close,” they said in unison.

“First things first-”

“-he’s actually going to Romania to work with dragons,” George finished.

“Wicked,” Lee grinned.

“But secondly-”

“-and more importantly for you-”

“-he dropped the news that he’s an aromantic asexual,” Fred said.

“Aromantic asexual?” Lee asked. Didn’t sounds magical, so Lee wasn’t sure what to think or how this was important or relevant to him.

“Mate, he’s got zero interest in romance or sex with other people,” George explained.

“Apparently aromantic means ‘lack of romantic attraction’,” Fred said, imitating Percy’s serious tone for the last bit.

“And asexual, ‘as you might have guessed, means lack of sexual attraction’,” George added, also imitating Percy, indicating Percy had helped Charlie do a bit of schooling to his family.

This Lee did perk up at. “Wait, that’s a thing?” he asked. “Like a legit thing?”

Fred gave Lee a friendly thump on the back. “Apparently, old pal. And you thought you were special.”

Lee laughed. “Well, asexual-”

“Also known simply as ace by us cool kids,” George cut in.

“Ace,” Lee corrected, “sounds like me. Aro?”

“Aro,” Fred confirmed.

“Aro not so much,” Lee said. “Say, did Charlie or Percy mention any other… possibilities?” At the end of the previous year, Lee had confided in the twins that he was glad he had them as friends, as they seemed as uninterested or uneager for a relationship as he did, which had led to a serious discussion amongst the three friends about their relationship and attraction feelings.

Fred and George both grinned ear to ear. “We thought you’d never ask,” they replied. “We did a bit of digging just for you.”

~Hufflepuff Mod

I just came out to my mother. She was talking about how I’d have to start considering who I’d be taking as my prom date next year, suggesting I ask my cousin who’s graduating this year, and I took the opportunity. After asking her not to freak out, I told her. For her part, she just kept rolling her pie dough and told me it didn’t matter to her who I was attracted to, as long as I was happy and I was myself.

It feels like a huge weight has been taken off my shoulders now that she knows. Part of me just wishes I’d been brave enough to do it sooner.

anonymous asked:

Hi! A 16 year old girl here, I've known I'm bisexual since I was 10, i finally put a label on it when I was 13, but here's the deal, my mom's extremely Homophobic, and I wanted to tell her since we're really close, but I wanted to way til I was 18, now? I'd rather take my sexuality to the grave, or never tell her, but I've been developing a crush on this girl, and she's so perfect. But once again, today my mom said she'd kill us if she found out one of us is LGBT, I need your advice, please. -BG

Your safety comes before anything else. If you think there’s the possibility that your mother could get violent or might kick you out of home if you come out to her then it might be best to hide it from her till you’re 18 and more financially independent.

You don’t have to come out to her, even if you feel like you should because you’ve been close to her. And tbh it doesn’t sound like she deserves to know. It’s a privilege for a person to be trusted enough for someone to come out to them, and she doesn’t get that privilege if she’s going to behave like a bigot.

You can always tell her in a couple of years when it’s safer, and you never know, she might surprise you. My nana surprised my auntie when she came out as a lesbian decades ago and she surprised me when I came out as trans.

Also, a lot of homophobes are actually just hypocrites and they’ll do a big 180 if their own kid turns out to be LGBT+ (it’s hypocritical but it’s better than being rejected). And if she reacts badly then that’s fucked up and maybe she doesn’t deserve to have you in her life. Some homophobic parents come to their senses when they realise they could lose their queer kids because of their bigotry.

Texas Mayor Comes Out As Transgender
“Society finally has a chance to see and learn about who we are."

Eight months after taking office, the mayor of a small town in Texas has come out as transgender.

“As your Mayor I must tell you about something that has been with me since my earliest memories,” New Hope Mayor Jess Herbst wrote in an open letter on the town’s website. “I am Transgender.”

She is believed to be the first openly transgender mayor in Texas, The Dallas Observer reported.

Herbst has been documenting her journey on the blog, She told The Huffington Post that the reaction to her news has been overwhelmingly positive.

• 12 years ago, I sat in a nearby church abashedly asking god to help me get over my feelings for a girl

• 6 years ago, my mom & I both cried as I told her I was dating a woman, a coming out confession long overdue

• tonight, my son & I are having a dance party while my wife hums along in the kitchen cooking us dinner

Life can be so sweet, if only we can hold on & find the courage to be our authentic selves.

“I thought I would be disappointing them if they knew I was gay. So I never did anything. When they found out that Garry and I were together, they were so happy. The reaction was so beautiful — strangers commenting, ‘Great for you!’ I’m just so grateful for it.”

Barry Manilow has officially come out as gay, telling People magazine about his marriage to his manager and partner of 40 years, Garry Kief, and how his fans have reacted. Congratulations! (via People)