Listen when someone makes posts that go “it’s okay to not to want date aces” instead of like. Being more specific. I’m gonna assume the poster does not like aces much.
Like ppl have said this stuff while equating being ace to not having sex and there’s also the thing where “ace” can be and often is used as an umbrella term for various ace-spec identities and it’s at best just super unclear and unnecessarily hurtful to have a dozen posts going around about how it’s totally okay to not date aces? It feels pretty othering and shitty like
If someone is honestly meaning to say they would not feel comfortable in a relationship where the other person(s) is not sexually attracted to them, you’d think it would make the most sense to put it like that and not make it specifically about aces? And if someone is honestly meaning to say they want sex in a relationships, it would also very much make sense to just put like that.
There is no general social pressure to date aces (and ppl often have very gross opinions about aces in relationships or otherwise), so when a while ago I saw a lot of posts like “it’s okay not to date ace ppl!!” that seemed very…
(Also I find this really bewildering in light of how many exclusionists condoned that vile “talking with anyone about being ace who’s not a partner™ is TMI” shit. But hey whatever)