After finishing your freshman year of college, you have learned a few things. You have experienced good times, bad times and unthinkable times. Freshman year wasn’t exactly what you expected and that’s okay. Here are a few things to remember:
1. Trust God and trust Him with all of your heart. God has a perfect plan and when you are down in the dumps, feeling lonelier than you’ve ever felt before, just remember that God has a way to working all things out. Think of sea glass; broken away from the whole, the glass is tossed and tumbles through the waves and sand, never seeing an end in sight. Soon the waves wash the glass onto shore where someone finds it; edges and surface all smooth and rounded. A true and rare beauty for the beach-comber.
2. Letters don’t define you. Greek life is a wonderful opportunity. Go outside your comfort zone and rush a sorority and meet new people. Don’t put your eggs in one basket. Go on meal dates with girls from your favorite sorority and with your least favorite sorority. If there isn’t a group you can call “home” that’s okay too. If your #1 didn’t choose you, don’t get caught up with it. LETTERS DO NOT DEFINE YOU-ESPECIALLY letters that we don’t use regularly in America. You are NOT the only girl who isn’t in a sorority; Greek life, like anything has its benefits and it’s drawbacks. Choose what is right for you in your heart.
3. You’re GPA doesn’t define you. Worry about learning and not about the grades. The grades will naturally come when you are concerned with learning.If you work hard and put 110% effort into your school work, that’s all you could ever want. You are NOT going to get an A on every assignment-you won’t get a B on every assignment either and that’s okay. There are going to be classes that just don’t click-spend extra time with those courses and give it all you have.
4. Time management! Time management! Time management! Time management is honestly THE NUMBER ONE IMPORTANT THING TO HAVE IN COLLEGE. No one is going to be there to do your homework; you have to do it yourself. Get assignments done early and when they are assigned. Use your Saturdays to get caught up and ahead on work and spend your Sunday’s relaxing, you’ll feel so much less stressed knowing you can take your time on your work instead of cramming on Sunday night at 8pm. You’ll realize how important managing your time is when you have two tests, a paper, a group project, dirty laundry to do, dirty dishes…all the while, it’s Sunday night at 11pm. MANAGE YOUR TIME.
5. Be honest. Be honest with your college friends. You are living with them. Whether they are your roommates or not, you can’t escape them. They’ll be the ones you go to at 2am for pizza, they’ll be the ones that you run to crying over the grade you got on your paper, and they’ll be the ones you bitch and complain to about that girl on your hall who sings in the shower. If something is bothering you, speak up and say something. Your friendships in college mean so much more. You’re in college, not high school anymore, be intentional, honest but also, give your friends the benefit of the doubt because one day, you’ll sure as hell need it too.
Moving to college can be a scary thing. Call your mom, take a nap, cuddle with your stuffed animal and (sparingly) watch Netflix. Getting a C (or even a D or an F) is not the end of the world. All of the petty little drama and the hard grades are not going to mean anything in 4 years when you are graduating. You are going to remember the memories made-the good, the bad and the ugly. You are going to understand why certain things happened and it’s all going to be worth it. There is no “perfect” college experience. Live and let live.
Allison, one year of college completed.