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Since it’s Pride Month and I’m pissed off...

Something I haven’t seen discussed nearly enough (i.e. Not At All) is the fact that asexuality/romanticism is essentially the Sexual/Romantic Orientation Equivalent™ of non-binary genders. I say this as somebody who is non-binary, experiences different-sex attraction, and is on both the ace/aro spectrums. If you can’t be bothered to read it, go to my TL;DR

With sexual orientation and gender identity, there is a “default” (or at least, something which is considered to be a default). These “defaults” are:

A. Cisgender (i.e. identifying as your assigned gender).
B. Heterosexual/romantic (i.e. experiencing “opposite”-sex attraction).

In the cases of both non-binary genders and asexuality/romanticism, these “defaults” are deviated from. Non-binary people don’t identify as their assigned gender, and ace/aro people don’t experience “opposite”-sex attraction. Many people in the LGBTQ+ community believe that aro/aces are not LGBTQ+ because they don’t experience same-sex attraction. I can kind of see where they’re coming from, but that’s putting attraction into two categories:

1. Experiencing, to some extent, same-sex attraction. (LGBTQ+)
2. Only experiencing “opposite”-sex attraction. (Not LGBTQ+) 

Saying that asexuality/romanticism isn’t LGBTQ+ is saying that in order to be LGBTQ+, you must fall to some extent into the first category, and that if you don’t, you’re not LGBTQ+. Again, I kind of see that argument. But let’s look at this in terms of gender identity.

1. Identifying, to some extent, with the “opposite” gender. (LGBTQ+)
2. Only identifying with your assigned gender. (Not LGBTQ+)

Following the same logic as before, which we just used with attraction, these are the two “identity categories”, if you will. Now, I’m non-binary, and you know what? I don’t identify even slightly with either male or female. I identify and feel comfortable with aspects of both masculinity and femininity, but not with either of those genders. I don’t fall into that first category. I was assigned male at birth. I now identify as non-binary. I do not identify to any extent whatsoever with “female”. Would anyone even fucking dream of telling me that I’m Not Fucking LGBTQ+ simply because I don’t identify enough with my “Opposite Gender” to satisfy their Queer Quota? No! So why would they tell ace/aro people that they’re Not Fucking LGBTQ+ simply because they don’t experience enough same-sex attraction to satisfy them? Double fucking standard. Again, I say this as someone who identifies with elements of both non-binary and asexuality/romanticism. 

TL;DR By all means, keep on thinking ace/aro people aren’t LGBTQ+ and making posts about them not being qualified to celebrate Pride. I’m not going to unfollow/block you. But understand that when I see that, I feel that you also don’t consider my non-binary identity to be “LGBTQ+ enough. And if you read this and think “well, of course non-binary people are LGBTQ+, that’s obvious!” (which, hopefully, you will) then just bear in mind that the same logic you apply to non-binary genders should also be applied to asexual/romantic sexual orientations. 


Hilarity in the original eraser stamp making session: 

Jun’s: “This Year’s Me” makes me happy with the purple and pink (which I’m blatantly interpreting as subtle RED okay?)

Sho’s: “I’m back” elicits screams of terror? laughter? intense reaction from the audience.  Really, Sho?

Masaki’s: his two-pronged approach creates “Please take good care of me Nittere-san” Nandarou-kun (Jun clarifies that “It IS a bird right?”) and “Riddled-with-Injuries Masaki” stamps. Aiba-chan~ gambare~

Kazu’s: His initial confidence in presenting his own creation… only leads to his own embarrassed laugh?

Satoshi’s: His “Stylishly Suspicious Person” serves to tickle everyone, and especially Jun who asks if it’s actually Johnny-san.  After trying to hide his creation, he fails to convince that it’s “just a suspicious character” when Kazu outs him for calling his own company president “a suspicious character”.

Arashi ni Shiyagare 90-min SP 10.10.2015