I’ve been gone for a while, and during that time I decided to cut all of my hair off. Cutting my hair was something that I contemplated for a while. A few months ago I told myself “One day you’ll find the courage to cut all of your hair off”, but that day actually came sooner than I expected. While I was in Belize over winter break I decided to take a trip to the barber shop on new years eve. My decision to cut all my hair off was not something that my family agreed with, I can’t tell you how many times I heard “but why would you cut off all of that beautiful hair?” My response was always, “It’s going to grow back.” I remember sitting in the barbershop and feeling so sure that this was what I wanted, and after my hair was all gone… I knew for sure that THIS WAS IT- Exactly what I needed! After cutting my hair there were a whole bunch of unexpected lessons that came with along with the chop, but I embraced these lessons because they taught me things about myself.
1). Cutting my hair introduced me to my face, growing up with big/long hair it never dawned on me how much my face hid behind my hair. I was able to see my facial structure and my features looked way more defined. I remember looking in the mirror for the first time and saying “wow, you’re so beautiful!”
2). I also learned to listen to myself, and not to worry about anyone else’s opinion, especially when it comes to the little things like hair. The people in your life will accept you for who you are and the decisions that you make as long as you’re not hurting yourself or anyone else… and here’s the big part: If they love you, they’ll learn how to accept your decisions or at least respect them.
3). People will form their own opinions (even before they’ve started asking questions) and the truth is you don’t owe them ANYTHING! You don’t owe them an explanation and you definitely do not owe them answers to any questions you don’t feel like answering.
4). Last, I learned that we go through stages as human beings and we owe it to ourselves to embrace our evolution and the stages that we’re in. Personally, I knew that in order for me to evolve and move forward to my next stages in life I would have to leave behind a few things and my hair was one of them. It’s okay to grow, and it’s okay to leave a few things behind in order to prepare for a new awakening.
Just. Be. Free.
-Francesca Chaney xoxo