Hi! I'm going to be assigned a dorm/roommate for college this fall, and I'm really worried abt it bc im aroace and gender questioning, and I have no idea how my roommate is going to react. Do you have any advice?
Look to see if your college has ‘safety/inclusive dorm mate assignments’. Some colleges will gladly pair together people who require a fellow non-binary/queer/lgbt+ student, rather than leave it up to chance.
Confess in your RA about your worries beforehand. Keep trusted dorm authorities on your phone. If your roommate causes trouble, you can text or call them, and confess the incident. This could be a mere ‘my roommate is making constant cutting microaggressions’ or even ‘I don’t know if they meant to insult me but it made me uncomfortable’. Build a record of bad behavior, and it’d make it easier to kick them out if things come to blow.
Remember; your living space should be a safe location for you. It’s against (American) law for colleges to allow bigotry or hatred under their premises.