The truth is that, I say I hate it sometimes, when in reality I hate it all the time (constantly)…
I hate it the most when I’m doing things I know he(she) would enjoy. I hate it when I want to feel a little extra loved. I hate it when there are things going on but we can’t physically be there for each other. Or the times when I’m sitting on my bed alone and I just wonder how different it would be if we were together. I hate distance, I hate missing the one I love. Honestly I think there is always a time that I hate it. (except when I get to talk to him(her) or I when I know the time is getting super short like days or weeks)
The truth about long distance is that it’s hard. It will always be hard (yes there are ways that you can deal with it but it doesn’t make it easy, just a little more bearable.) People will always have something negative to say (yup there is always that person), you’ll always want the person you love a little closer or there with you. They never leave you’re mind that’s for sure. The truth is that you’ll always have something that reminds you of them with you, as a way of having them there. You won’t always find someone that will understand what your going through (but that’s ok there’s always the LDR community or your other half trust me the know what you’re feeling). You’ll feel that long distance hits you hard on somedays, harder than usual. Tears: happy or sad, oh trust me they exist in long distance.
Now in all honestly the truth about long distance, the one that isn’t like anything els I said. I’ll tell you what the truth about long distance is; that all the love that I have for THE ONE is what keeps me going with this long distance. The way that I feel when I’m with him (her), all the happy tears and all the smiles that he puts on my face are what keep me going. It’s the love that keeps a long distance relationship strong. Yes of course there are other things but, if you don’t have love as a base you can’t have the other things that make LDRs strong.
If your reading this you may be able to relate or you’re probably in an LDR (maybe not). But I want you to know that whether you’re waiting on him or her all the negative things we hate about LD it will never beat the LOVE that we have for them. Continue to stay strong and know your not alone, they miss you and need you too.
I’m so glad to have such a beautiful person to spend my life with. Through all the hardships and distance put between us we always overcome the obstacles together. Our strength and love is unshakeable and I know we can make it through anything. I’m walking into this with no doubt we will be Ok. I have such an amazing wife. I couldn’t be more thankful. I love you so much, baby. Thank you for living this life with me.
Words said by my husband right before he shipped off to Afghanistan
Don’t give up. If you can’t seen each other in a while, don’t give up. If you haven’t heard from them in a while, don’t give up. If you meet them tomorrow, don’t give up. If you want to punch them in the face, don’t give up.
We are their light, and their hope. They want to press on and keep going because of us.
The hardest part of it all is watching him walk away again at the end of the day. Knowing he’s leaving again. Saying “see you later” each and every time, hoping with each one, you’ll never have to say it again. When they leave and you watch them, helplessly, tears streaming down your face, that’s the hard part. The part no one tells you about. The part that tears you to pieces. But there’s always another reunion, sometime down the road, that keeps you going. Another chance of seeing them again which makes you get up in the morning. The knowledge that you’ll once again be in their arms after the wait which eases you to sleep at night. It’s not an easy life but it’s the one I’ve chosen and wouldn’t trade for anything.