I just “unfriended” maybe 200 people on Facebook and “unfollowed/unliked” a bunch of pages that I don’t really like anymore. You should give it a try, for some odd reason it feels super refreshing. After I washed my phone in the washing machine last week, I noticed how good it felt to get rid of “digital/social media” baggage. There was so much clutter from my old life, and I admit I like Facebook to stay in touch with friends I met while traveling or my close friends from tumblr, but I was just annoyed by how much crap I was looking at on a daily base. I didn’t wanna delete it for good, but never thought of changing some things. I guess that’s me. It’s always all or nothing, I never think of the option to simply adjust.
Really organized people are not born organized people. They have to cultivate healthy habits, which then help them to stay organized. Here are the essential ten habits they use to keep their lives in order :
1. Write Things Down
We all know someone that remembers every birthday and sends cards for every holiday. It’s not magic and they don’t use memorization. Trying to remember things will not help you to stay organized. You should try writing things down. A pen and some paper is our way of remembering things externally, and it’s much more permanent. You can also use a computer or a smart phone. You will only further complicate your life by trying to contain important dates and reminders in your head. Write down everything: shopping lists for groceries, holiday gifts, home decor, and important dates like meetings and birthdays.
As an experiment, try writing down people’s names shortly after you meet them (when they’re not looking). I’ll bet you remember a lot more names that way.
2. Make Schedules and Deadlines
Organized people don’t waste time. They recognize that keeping things organized goes hand-in-hand with staying productive. They make and keep schedules for the day and week. They make deadlines and set goals. And most importantly, they and stick to them! Similarly, by living a cluttered lifestyle, you will not have the time or space to make your deadlines or achieve your goals.
As an experiment, look at your bucket list or make one. Write down the things you want to achieve this year or in your life. Then write down what you need to do to achieve them.
3. Don’t Procrastinate
The longer you wait to do something, the more difficult it will be to get it done. If you want your life to be less stressful and less demanding, then organize as soon as you can. Putting in the effort to get things done as soon as possible will lift the weight off of you from doing it later.
As an experiment, think of one thing that you should organize in your life. Write it down. Then write down when you can do it and what you need to get it done. If you can get it done right now, then go do it!
4. Give Everything a Home
It’s easy to get lost if you don’t have a home. Keeping your life organized means keeping your things in their proper places. Organized people keep order by storing things properly and by labeling storage spaces. Make easy-to-access storage spaces for things you use all the time, and don’t let your storage spaces get cluttered. Be creative about finding places for things. In addition, as a BIG NO : never label a storage space as “miscellaneous!”
As an experiment, choose one place in your home that you can re-organize. If there are scattered items, then group them together. Once you’ve sorted everything, find or make a “home” for similar items, label the “homes,” and put them in the proper places. For example, a cup holder for your pens and pencils should go in an easily accessible place, but the rarely used craft materials can be stored out of sight.
5. Declutter Regularly
Find time each week to organize. Highly organized people make sure they find time every week, or more, to organize there things. Stuff does not stay organized on its own; it needs to be reorganized continuously and consistently.
As an experiment, look at your schedule and find a time to organize, then do it.
6. Keep Only What You Need
More stuff means more clutter. People who live organized lives only keep what they need and what they really really want. Having fewer things also means that you enjoy those things more and feel better about using everything you own, rather than letting half of what you own collect dust. Have you ever felt like you don’t have the space to keep all the stuff you own? Instead of renting a storage unit or buying a larger home, get rid of some things.
As an experiment, write down the number of things you think you actually need. Then, write a list of all the things that you own. If the number of things you actually own exceeds your ideal need list, then it’s time to organize.
7. Know Where to Discard Items
Do whatever you can to get rid of stuff. Less stuff means less clutter. Donate to thrift stores. Sell on Craigslist or eBay. Take a trip to the recycling center. Set up a garage sale. Find a place to get rid of your things.
As an experiment, choose one space in your house to purge. Go through shelves, drawers, and boxes. Everything you find that you don’t need, set aside. Make a pile of things to maybe keep, which you can go through later, and a pile of things to discard now. Then find a way to kick those things out the door immediately.
8. Stay Away from Bargains
You have removed the things you don’t need. Will you replace them when you see something on sale? Instead of bargain shopping without planning ahead, write down down exactly what you need and buy only those items. Organized people do not give in to false advertising. Items on sale will only produce more clutter.
As an experiment, go to a shopping mall with no money. Just look at all the things on sale that you wish you could buy if you had brought your wallet or purse. If you find nothing, then good for you. If you made a list, then keep that list somewhere and look at it a month from now. If you still want it, then it’s safe to buy.
9. Delegate Responsibilities
A really organized life is not overfilled with responsibilities, meetings, and deadlines. In fact, it has less because things that create stress have been slowly organized out.
As an experiment, look at your to-do list or make one. Go through the list and find one task that you can remove from your list or give to someone else. Now feel the stress of having to do it fall away.
10. Work Hard
Put in a little effort. Actually, put in a lot of effort when necessary. Once you have delegated responsibilities and made a schedule, then you can organize what you have to do and when you can do it. Staying organized is not all a breeze. It requires that you work hard with recognition that when you work harder, you can enjoy your clutter-free home life later.
As an experiment, worker harder when you feel like giving up today.
Michael: Protection, courage, confidence and safety; life-purpose guidance, fixing mechanical and electronic items.
Raphael: Healing of people and animals; guiding healers in their education and practice; guidance and protection for travellers; connecting you with your soul mate.
Gabriel: Delivering important and clear messages; helping who are messengers, teachers, writers, actors, and artists; assisting with all aspects of parenting, including conception, adoption and birth.
Uriel: Intellectual understanding; conversations; ideas, insights and epiphanies, school and test taking, writing and speaking.
Chamuel; Universal and personal peace; finding whatever you are seeking.
Ariel: Connecting with nature, animals and nature spirits (for example fairies); manifesting your earthly material needs; guidance for a career or avocation in environmentalism or animal welfare.
Metatron: Sacred geometry and esoteric healing work; working with the universal energies; including time management and “time warping” helping highly sensitive people (especially the youths who are often referred to as Indigos or Crystals.
Sandalphon: Receiving and delivering prayers between God and humans; guidance and support for musicians.
what would you chose : simplicity or complexivity ?
Is that even a possibility?
Simplicity and complexity are so intertwined that they can’t be practically separated. I mean, complexity is made up of simple thoughts, but you can arrive at simplicity through a complex thought process.
If you have only simplicity, then you get no critical thinking, and really very few simple pleasures, since sometimes you have to wrangle to get the simple pleasures out of life. If you have only simplicity, you tend towards stupidity. Thoughts and emotions are dismissed as cluttering up life.
If you have only complexity, then you get no rest. Everything is a vast tangle inside your head and probably a mess outside, too. You have to view everything in a roundabout way, and while seeing all sides to an issue is helpful, if you can’t boil anything down to something simpler, you’ll probably just go mad.
So, I think I need a balance of complexity and simplicity in my life. They are both necessary to my continued happiness and sanity, and, thankfully, this hypothetical situation is hypothetical, because I don’t think I’d be able to exist long after choosing one or the other.
Reblog If You Suffer From A Speech/Communication Disorder
I have a speech disorder called cluttering. I was diagnosed with it in college by a speech pathologist that my supervisor recommended for me. Basically cluttering is a speech disorder that causes your brain to struggle to process too much information at the same time and when you speak, your speech has a difficult time keeping up with your thoughts causing you to speak too rapidly and sometimes, wind up tripping over your own words. It’s often confused with stuttering.
What having a cluttering disorder is like (or at least for me):
- When I speak, I have a very difficult time controlling the rate of my speech. I speak waaay too fast sometimes 90% of the time people can’t understand what I’m saying. So I often have to repeat myself several times.
-I dread public speaking and speaking to people so badly that I often try to avoid having to speak to people in general unless I really have to. It also doesn’t help that I’m introverted. So I’m usually very quiet unless I’m around people who I feel comfortable being around or if I’m really happy. This is pretty bad because I started teaching an after-school illustration class to middle-school students this year and I always worry that the kids aren’t going to be able to understand me and they’ve already noticed that I speak very fast and they ask me about it. But I have a really hard time speaking the words “I have a speech disorder” so I don’t usually tell them about it. Which leads to my next point…
-There are so many words that I can’t say properly without tripping over my words. Like for example, here’s a list of some words and phrases that I have trouble saying:
1) What does it look like?
4) Specific and other words that start with “sp”
6) Sometimes (when saying it at the end of a sentence)
7) Say that again
-Since I have so many things running through my mind at once, I often struggle with multitasking when I’m dealing with people. I have no problem writing, listening to a YouTube video and watching TV at the same time and being able to pay attention to everything I’m doing but if I have to perform a task while speaking to someone, my brain starts short-circuiting. I can’t comprehend what they are saying. I’ve noticed this for a while but just recalled while my girlfriend was speaking to me as I was writing this.
-Whenever I speak, I wind up having to correct myself mid-sentence because I know that what I’m saying doesn’t sound right or that the person that I’m speaking to isn’t going to be able to understand me.
-Whenever I’m angry or upset, my speech is at its worst. My speech becomes incoherent, I jumble my words too much and I have to wait until I calm down before I speak.
-I say “um” way too much when I speak because I am trying to catch myself before my speech falters and to give myself time to process my thoughts before I speak.
-I often slur my words together and when I hear what I say after I’ve said it, more than half the time, I ask myself “what the hell did I just say??”
-I have a problem breathing when I speak sometimes because speaking is physically and mentally draining for me. It’s really embarrassing because I’ll be trying to say one sentence and I can’t get out what I’m trying to say because I have to take a deep breath.
-I constantly dread going to my teaching job on Thursdays and Fridays because I have to get up in front of a group of kids, present a lesson, speak to them about their work, ask them questions and explain other things to them. I also have to communicate with my supervisors in person which is something I don’t do at my other job. We mainly communicate through email because my worksite is separate from the main site. But with my 2nd job, if I have to speak to my supervisors, I mostly have to speak to them in person.
-I hate speaking on the phone. The only people I feel comfortable speaking to on the phone are my mom, girlfriend and a few close friends. And this is terrible because I’ve missed networking events and opportunities to collaborate with people and have gallery shows because I was too afraid to call people.
-Working retail was a nightmare because it involved so much speaking and communicating with people. I always volunteered to work on the register (even though I hated cashiering) so that I could avoid being on the sales floor longer than I needed to and have to help customers. Dealing with one person at a time at the register was a lot easier than dealing a million people coming up to me at once all asking for help. Since then, I’ve avoiding applying for retail/customer service related jobs like the plague.
-I’m constantly angry and frustrated because I know that my speech disorder limits me from doing a lot of things like have a conversation with a person I’ve never met, public speaking and expressing my thoughts. It makes me feel as though I can’t function as a human being.
I don’t know how common this speech disorder is now. I’ve seen some videos on YouTube and it made me feel a little better knowing that there are other people out there who have my speech disorder and that I’m not alone. So please, reblog this if you have a speech disorder and can relate. Also, below are videos of myself speaking about my disorder.
when i was busy all the time i felt like i couldn't keep up with anyone. my mind cluttered, life full of things to do. i could only keep up with like 3 people yet a bunch more would want to keep contact and i never had energy to. i still loved them, it just becomes so hard. i wish people could understand this more, that even if you reply very slow you can still be friends and care about each other.
i know man… i know. this is so relatable to what i’ve been going through lmao i hate this. glad to know i’m not the only one tho… oh well.
Don't worry, you can always get another scooter later down the line when it's more reasonable! I had to sell a lot of things I loved when I moved too, but after getting settled the things I thought I loved I didn't really need, and the things I really missed I was able to re buy and cut clutter out of my life. :)
Yeah. <3 I keep telling myself that! I hate that I’m so sentimental and it makes me into a bit of a hoarder. We’re planning to get rid of like… nearly everything except our NICE furniture/electronics (TVs).
I’m super excited about the starting new and having no clutter! I’m honestly thinking about not taking any of my old broken crappy dishes with us and donating it all so I can just start over with my kitchen cause all my stuff is just.. mangled and awful (very not disabled friendly!) and man that’d be nice not to have to worry about moving any breakable dishes……
Maybe I could just junk my life and put new stuff on amazon for people to get me. weeps, I can dream. lol
concept: it is spring. there is a light, cool spring rain washing away the grit and snow. i have cleaned my apartment and cleared the clutter from my life. i have been accepted to online courses at a college of my choosing and will receive enough in grants and scholarships and loans to work only one job in the following holiday season. i have finished an outline, a first draft, and several additional drafts of my novel. my apartment is filled with the smell of cooking and i am curled up by the window with a comfy blanket, a purring cat, and a good book.
Okay so I just watched the Babadook directed by Jennifer Kent. As someone who generally watches a lot of scary movies and genuinely enjoys being scared, this movie was a wild ride. With intense characters and Kent’s beautifully dark sets, this movie was the perfect recipe for a good, classic horror flick.
The simple imagery kept audiences guessing about the physical appearance of any “monster” throughout the film. This also left a lot to the imagination as far as where these images were coming from. One theory is that the Babadook is actually Samuel’s father returning to his family in a darker form. With Sam’s obsession with magic tricks it would not be too far fetched to believe his father could have been meddling with black magic, in order to ensure his immortality.
Another popular theory I found while researching points to Amelia’s psyche as a rationale behind the manifestation of the Babadook. With the death of her husband and her troublemaking son always causing problems, she has finally cracked and is using the babadook as a way to express her true feelings. The theories available on the internet are endless and offer up a whole host of interesting ideas.
Overall, I very much enjoyed this film and the acting was impeccable. Even if there had been no monsters and this was just a dark film about a struggling widower and her odd-ball son, it would have been freaky. Noah Wiseman’s portrayal of Sam left me with goosebumps even in the “normal” scenes in the film. Kent’s use of fast cuts and long shots did an amazing job of showing how Amelia was feeling. The clutter of her life and her generally messy look just gave the film an overall feeling of exhaustion without taking away any of the horror.
I would highly recommend the Babadook to anyone who is at all interested in horror or psychological films. I can’t wait to watch it again, maybe during the day this time though.
Remember when you were a kid and you personified so many inanimate objects around you? You’d group all your stuffed animals together so they wouldn’t be lonely at night or you’d think about cars in a parking lot talking to each other while they wait for their drivers to return?
I never really stopped believing this, not totally. I like to park my Jeep next to other Jeeps because I consider them family. The few action figures I have all stand next to each other on the same shelf. I don’t really believe that they talk to each other at night but I think the grouping together just makes them content. I kinda talked about this awhile ago here about obsolete devices and I’ve just been doing a lot of thinking about this lately. Marie Kondo has a book about de-cluttering your life and it involves getting rid of the things that dont explicitly bring you joy, but only after thanking them for the role they played in your life. It’s not necessarily for the object’s peace of mind, but for yours.
But I do sincerely feel that if we as humans create something with a particular purpose in mind, that there’s some kind of harmony that exists within the object when it fulfills that purpose. A toaster, for example, wants to toast. Pens want to write. A car wants to drive. That’s what it was made to do. Moreover, a car gets familiar with a driver and their specific way of driving and, if you’re not pushing the car too hard beyond its means but actually taking it out for long, scenic excursions (since that’s what cars want to do), it’ll stay in relatively good repair. A car, just like a pet, doesn’t want to be shipped off to a new owner, which is why so frequently cars break down immediately after being sold to someone new. You give a cherished knick-knack to a friend who expressed interest in it and they lose it within weeks. Those things didn’t like their new life. They have a sole function they want to complete: serving you.
I dont know that I would call this a spirit because I dont think it goes as deep as that. But when something is fulfilling its purpose, when you have that harmony within its parts, I can only equate that harmony with some kind of happiness or at the very least a tranquility. All its inner mechanisms moving in unison to complete the task it was designed to do. It just makes you appreciate your things a little bit more, but on the same note, you gotta allow them to be themselves. A car doesn’t want to sit in a garage all winter long. A house falls apart when people are no longer living in it. Sure, these things will deteriorate over time no matter what, but so do people so maybe they’re also deserving of your love.
this is going to be half meta, half uncontrollable screeching because i have a LOT OF FEELINGS about seeing Castiel’s room in 11x06 and I need to VOICE THEM
first things first, it absolutely ruins me to know that castiel not only has his own room in the bunker but that it already looks cluttered and thoroughly lived in, like he’s been there since 9x03. his sheets are a mess (cas has actually been sleeping/laying in a bed. my precious son), he’s accumulated files and trinkets. it even looks like he has his own wash bag???? I AM NOT OKAY WITH THIS. the mirror that sits behind him looks like it was placed in the room with every intention of getting hung on the wall but somebody just hasn’t got around to doing it yet (what’s the betting dean tried to set up the room for cas before things went to shit?)
cas finally has a home, and a bed, that are just for him and BOB SINGER CAN SUCK MY DICK
next thing is that i want to talk about cas’ room in relation to dean’s.
we’ve seen dean’s room on a number of occassions.
(most importantly during THAT PRAYER SCENE which still kills me every time) the cross and the hatchet on either side of the bed. the lamp only on the side dean sleeps… and it upsets me even more because the two times we’ve seen cas in bed (in 10x01 and again in 11x06), he sleeps on the left.
The whole left hand side of Castiel’s bedroom is lit with lamps, and cluttered with his life.
Whereas whenever we’ve seen Dean relaxing on his own bed (9x14 Captives) it’s been on the right.
Cas’ left-hand room is literally balancing act to Dean’s own right-sided one.
tl;dr DEAN AND CAS ARE UNCONSCIOUSLY LEAVING SPACE FOR ONE ANOTHER IN THEIR BEDROOMS AND THIS MAKES ME A SOBBING MESS ON THE FLOOR