clothing and gender

whoa okay so how do you think that conversation went when RJ went back to their boys with newfound gender identity knowledge

because ten to one Stephen and Ollie and Johnny were like “oh my god WHAT IF I’M NOT A BOY WE HAVE TO TEST THIS” and they all spent days trying different pronouns to see if it Felt Right and poring over RJ’s zine and Having Revelations

Stephen DEFINITELY whipped out a dress and threw it on, like, immediately because “gendered clothing is a conspiracy I ALWAYS KNEW IT” and Johnny went around spreading the word that RJ’S PRONOUNS ARE THEY/THEM, IT’S A THING, LOOK IT UP KIDS, I’M BEING DISRUPTIVE FOR A GOOD CAUSE THIS TIME MISS BAXTER, and god help you if you forgot and misgendered RJ, Ollie would LOOM, they all fought so many kids that week

And eventually all three were like “sorry dude I think I’m still a boy” and RJ was like “obviously that is okay” and it took them all a little while to unlearn subconscious things 

BUT 

that’s how Johnny got his heart shirt! because he saw it in a store or something and for ½ a second was like “nope I’m not allowed to wear that it’s a girl shirt” and then he remembered “oh right clothing is arbitrarily constructed symbols and gender stereotypes are fascism and my friends will love me no matter what” and so he took the shirt

and Stephen sometimes still wears dresses

anonymous asked:

So I've been secretly identifying as genderfluid for a while but I've been feeling a lot more like a transboy for about a year now. I don't know what I'm supposed to identify as and I think the only thing stopping me from being trans is my parents who would hate me for it. I prefer male pronouns but I need to still be female. I wear both gender clothes and I'm attracted to males which I've been told is 'fetishising gays' if I became trans. Would you consider it more transgender than genderfluid?

IT IS NOT AT ALL FETISHIZING GAY MEN IF YOU ARE A GAY TRANSBOY. 

If you feel like you are solely male, then i’d look into being a trans guy. Try imagining a life where you were only referred to as male, seen as male, would be a boyfriend/husband/dad. See how it makes you feel. If it doesn’t feel right, maybe you are genderfluid and just haven’t had a gender switch in a long time.

I’m sorry about your parents. If you truly think there will be an issue with it, i’d suggest not coming out until you are out on your own and financially stable.

-jessi 

tactileintrovertedace  asked:

So, if I can get deep here for a second, what exactly does gender mean to you? Is it another way to express yourself, like the way fashion or hair color or interior design is for some people? Is it a state of being that you want others to know about you? I'm asking because I've never really felt strongly about giving a label to myself as far as gender is concerned. Most of the time, I'm fine when people call me a girl, but I usually think of myself as neutrois or something similar like agender.

Kohai, we can always get deep on my blog. ESPECIALLY ABOUT GENDER.

OH BOY HERE WE GO!

It can be a another way to express yourself. And dysphoria from haircuts and certain clothes is entirely reasonable. But it doesn’t always have to mean clothes are gendered. That’s for a person to decide for themself about themself.

‘ Is it a state of being that you want others to know about you? ‘ Most certainly! This is about as close as it gets to how I feel gender is. So yes. Absolutely.

As a neutrois who is genderfluid- It can be sometimes you don’t conform to a gender and sometimes you do. 

As I was telling @c-oldasice and I think @sakurakurei and possibly someone else- Gender is a bit of trial and error at first. The only way you can really know is try out pronouns- see what you like- what labels fit and make you happy. And it doesn’t have to be consistent. 

GENDER IS A SPECTRUM AND CAN BE FLUID.

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‘My Hijab Has Nothing To Do With Oppression. It’s A Feminist Statement’

Not all Muslim women cover their bodies. Not all Muslim women who do are forced to do so. Like freelance writer Hanna Yusuf, who chooses to wear a hijab in a daily act of feminism. In a new video for The Guardian, Yusuf challenges stereotypes by setting out to reclaim the choice to wear a hijab as “a feminist statement.”

For more on on how the hijab helps women reclaim their bodies watch the full video here.

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Watch Evan Rachel Wood Break Down Gender Stereotypes And Get Stoned With Grandmas

Is there anything Evan Rachel Wood wouldn’t do? Apparently not.

In a new video produced for Willdfang, a tomboy-style clothing line, Evan Rachel Wood becomes #EvanRachelWould and says yes to every adventure she comes across. 

See her awesome escapades with Beth Ditto and Sonic Youth’s front woman Kim Gordon. 

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Watch: This girl just performed English-paper-worthy analysis on why the girls’ clothes section totally sucks compared to the boys’

8-year-old feminist Daisy Edmonds is here with a message about just how not here she is for mega-corporations still pushing out gender-controlling product to her and her girl-power-proud friends. And the way she decides to troll the gender-segregating store is just perfect.

Gifs: Lolly and Doodle

WATCH THE VIDEO

PSA for fellow binder-wearers *IMPORTANT*

So I was recently talking to my friend and we were talking about binding and he told me he was starting to experience chest pain because he’s been wearing his binder Every Day for /Months/. This obviously concerned me because you are NOT SUPPOSED TO BIND THAT OFTEN. IT IS A SERIOUS DANGER TO YOUR PHYSICAL HEALTH. When I told him this and that he should only really bind in public, he simply shrugged it off and said he was too dysphoric not to wear it constantly.
Guys, I get it. As a dude who binds myself, I know how nice it can be to have a flat chest, but it is not worth the risk. Honestly, you can only bind for 8 CONSECUTIVE HOURS at a time, so your body has a chance to heal and take a break.
For instance, I rarely, if at all, bind when I’m at home. Not only do my parents not know about my identity, but also it’s a lot more comfortable to wear my tighter sports bra than to worry about how long I’ve been binding and to make sure I’m stretching out my back muscles (IT IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO STRETCH YOUR BACK EVERY COUPLE HOURS WHEN BINDING). Now I know for some, the dysphoria is too much to handle, but your health is more important. I know a guy that bound so often that he ended up breaking a couple ribs, and he was using an actual binder, not tape or bandages or anything. Because of the injury, he can never bind again.
Basically, what I’m trying to say, is that binding isn’t meant to be used as a Constant curve to dysphoria. It literally is squeezing your torso to press down your breasts in a way that isn’t natural. If done right, you should have minimal to no side effects at all, but only if Done Right. If you’re just hanging out at home or with people you’re comfortable with, just wear a tight sports bra and a loose shirt. No one has ever broken a rib by doing something like that because they’re actually built to be worn 24+ hours at a time and aren’t putting your body at risk.
Be safe, y'all. Please drop an ask in my inbox if you have any questions or concerns and send to anyone you think needs this information.

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This Mom Is Thanking A Girls’ Clothing Store For Making Her Gender-Nonconforming Child Feel Welcome (x)

In her post, Sirois explained that her 10-year-old had been wanting to shop at Justice, a chain that markets its clothing as “just for girls,” since he was 4. Often he ended up enviously watching his older sister shop there.

One of the store’s managers, Stephnie, assured the family that “everyone is welcome at Justice.” Sirois wrote that on the Friday afternoon they arrived at the store, her son’s eyes were “huge and overwhelmed with possibilities.”