“I was able to help Maddie achieve one of her biggest dreams and goals. And I immediately saw this as my opportunity to give back the gift that I was given of helping somebody–truly selflessly helping them achieve their goals.”
This concept was one of the most life-changing things I ever learned, so I wanted to share it. It’s probably something you’ve thought about without realizing it.
If you have something you want to accomplish, or a change you want to make in your life, there are two ways to set goals: you can set process goals, or endpoint goals.
Example of endpoint goals:
Lose 10 lbs by Christmas
Write a novel
Get $5,000 into savings
Get straight A’s
Examples of process goals:
Cut down to one soda per day
Write 500 words a day
Save 5% of each paycheck
Study 1 hour a day
Endpoint goals represent an outcome you want to achieve. Process goals represent the steps you are taking to achieve that outcome.
But here’s the rub: process goals are better, and generally more effective.
Endpoint goals set you up in a yes/no dichotomy. Say you want to write a novel. Have you done it? Yes? Great. No? You fail. You’ve either achieved the goal, or you haven’t. Endpoint goals also don’t provide a roadmap for how to get there. It’s vague, and its typically far-off deadline doesn’t provide much mental impetus to take steps to achieve it. If you say “I’ll write a novel by one year from now” it’s super easy to say “ehh, meh, I’ll work on it some other time.”
Endpoint goals also set you up for disappointment and failure. It’s like putting all your eggs in one basket - you’ll either meet the goal or you won’t, and given that a lot of endpoint goals tend to be somewhat pie-in-the-sky, not meeting them is pretty common. Which just gets you discouraged.
An endpoint goal can seem like a big mountain you have to climb. Setting process goals instead of endpoint goals is focusing on the individual steps to take, instead of staring up at the peak, which will just make you trip over something. It’s carving switchbacks into that mountain.
A lot of advice you’ve probably already heard amounts to breaking down endpoint goals and focusing on process goals. Take cleaning or de-cluttering, for example. How many times have you heard the old “clean for 15 minutes at a time” or “break it down into multiple small tasks” advice? That works because what that’s doing is breaking down the big endpoint goal of “clean the entire house” into process goals.
A big area that uses this concept is in fitness. Saying “I’m going to be able to bench press 300 lbs by New Year’s” isn’t super helpful. So weightlifters focus on goals like “Each workout I will do x reps, increasing in weight.” That’s a process goal. And it’s more forgiving, too. Not every workout will be successful. Sometimes the bodybuilder may feel tired, or might not get in as many reps, but he’s still working the process, so he’s still accomplishing his process goals. I’ve found this very useful for my own fitness. I’m not focusing on hitting a certain lifting weight, or losing X amount of pounds (exercise isn’t for weight loss anyway) - I’m focusing on going to my classes regularly, walking on a regular schedule, getting those Active Minutes on the FitBit. That’s a process goal. And I always feel like I’m succeeding, even if I miss a workout or can’t walk because it’s raining - the process is still a go.
Sports teams do this, too. The endpoint goal might be “win the Stanley Cup,” but how they do that is by focusing on process goals. We’re going to practice these skills, and run these drills, and condition X many times per week.
Ultimately, your endpoint goal is the final reward of having met your process goals. Achieving your endpoint goal isn’t always within your power - if your endpoint goal is to publish a novel then you’re gonna need some cooperation from publishers - but achieving your process goals is always within your power, and taking yourself through that process may provide you with rewards that you didn’t anticipate.
Process goals give you a constant stream of positive reinforcement, which is something an endpoint goal can’t do. Any behavior that’s meant to achieve an endpoint goal is easy to rationalize stopping once the goal is reached (”I’ll run every day until I lose 10 lbs!”) but a process goal is an ongoing practice that will help you achieve goals beyond the endpoint, and other goals you never even thought to set yourself.
So if you have an endpoint goal you want to achieve, it’s okay to know what it is, but sort of - put a pin in it. The reward of achieving that goal is far away. Focus on process goals, and you’ll start feeling rewarded immediately.
My school has gained a bit of infamy in the teen productions at the local theater, because we’re bored teenagers hanging out backstage and have nothing better to do than compare the high schools we go to. Some notable things that have happened include: -That one study hall supervisor who was fired and arrested after sleeping with a student, then made his sentence worse by contacting her after his trial or something like that -The honors biology teacher who has, among other things: -Made us dissect squids without gloves -Wouldn’t stop lecturing about the symbolism in some staircase in Gattaca, because it looked like a double helix. My class was spared from this lecture because someone almost passed out in the hallway from dehydration -Once started class with “so I got stung by like 40 bees over the weekend” and then proceeded to tell in extreme detail the story of how he got stung by “like 40 bees.” The next day he brought a bee in a jar to class to show everyone the kind he was stung by -Lectured about how tough he was as an 8 year old because he got stung by a man o’ war jellyfish -Lectured about that time he “ran Costa Rica for 10 weeks” -Lectured about that time he did a presentation on snakes to a Korean cult -Basically he gets himself off topic really easily and I know how to kill a sea urchin because of him, but I can’t name all the differences between plant and animal cells -There’s the Jesus Fountain, which is the best water fountain -Someone’s senior project was to paint a rock -The Pizza Incident, in which aforementioned bio teacher got pissed at a student for ordering a pizza to the school, so they ordered him one the next day -The ridiculous amount of pencils stuck into the ceiling -The ceiling tiles that bulge out, leak, and collapse during the winter -Drive Your Tractor To School Day (to clarify, I go to a public high school in north east Ohio) -The ridiculous amount of bomb threats at the Middle School last year, which happened so often that they stopped evacuating the school to look for evidence of bombs -The carbon monoxide leak earlier in the year that lead to “happy gas leak day” -Our slightly ridiculous mascot, some German guy with a giant moustache standing on a mountain, holding a pick-axe, wearing short shorts -The fire extinguisher incident, where one kid set off a fire extinguisher in the band hallway. He later on taped a picture of a fire extinguisher in the front of one of the bio books in honors bio room -There were rumors that said kid also somehow climbed onto the school roof during homecoming, but nothing was confirmed. Knowing him though, I’d believe it. He climbed the goal post during band camp.
My brother went to the same school and graduated way back. In his days the gym ceiling looked like someone had fixed it with paper and duct tape, a girl passed out in gym class after smuggling alcohol in her water bottle, and there was a bathroom that was closed every year after the first quarter because people kept smoking in it
Summary: series following the events of loot– takes place during events of star trek beyond. in this chapter, jim doesn’t let you say it.
Warnings: language, violence (but it’s canon)
A/N: the beginning of this chapter is all beyond but the SECOND reader comes in, y’all. i’m livin’. i love the reader character. also, this id definitely one of my favorite parts
Jim ducked under the partially agape doorway as he exited the crashed Franklin. He did his best to dodge any and all peaks of broken pavement tiles and ship shrapnel, immediately looking to the sky in the hopes that the atmospheric regulator had stopped its continuous spinning.
A sigh of discontent left his lips as he followed its motions with his eyes, his hands digging his communicator from his pocket. “Mr. Scott, why is that thing still on?”
He ran past the Starfleet officials that entered the Franklin with the intention to help the remainder of the crew, his shoulders bumping into the panicked pedestrians that seemed to not hear his racing breath and heavy, quick footsteps.
“We’re working on it, sir,” Scotty replied, his voice doing little to calm Jim. “But, as you can imagine, there’s a lot of safety protocols surrounding the thing that, you know, keeps everybody alive.”
The Starfleet officers leaving the maintenance tower seemed to understand Jim’s urgency, quickly moving from his path so as to let him pass. Jim wanted to smile at them in appreciation, but there was no smiling at a time like this, not when his chest felt so sore and empty and the panic forced his stomach to flip upside down.
“Figure something out,” he told Scotty, finally giving himself the time to catch his breath as he slid into an empty lift.
“Be careful, Captain. Gravity’s gonna get a bit screwy the closer you get to the center.”
Jim tapped the toe of his boot against the floor nervously as he felt the lift rise. He placed his hands on his hips and took several breaths.
He kept his mind blank as the lift continued to ascend, nodding to himself and jumping twice on nimble feet.
“Captain, you’ll be needing to take the stairs next. It’ll put you closer to the regulator’s controls.”
When the lift shook a bit and halted at the highest level it could reach, Jim ran through the metallic doors and to the stairs. He took the steps two at a time, his lungs contracting in his otherwise vacant chest as he reached the white doorway.
Entering the code that Scotty read out to him, Jim heard the door beep twice and shoved it open. He ignored the warning stickers plastered on both sides of the door and kept his eyes on the command gold tunic before him.
He held his phaser up and shot the figure once, Krall grunting as his more human-like form fell from the circular compartment he was attempting to crawl into.
“Stop!” Krall said in a wet voice harsh from pain. He struggled to stand upright again, holding the Abronath before him as he fell against the glass compartment barrier behind him. His breaths were quick, shallow.
AM I FALLING INTO NOTHINGNESS // OR FLYING INTO SOMETHING SO SUBLIME?
AND IF I FLY OR IF I FALL // LEAST I CAN SAY I GAVE IT ALL
are lyric stanzas in full solidarity as the former is sung by a lesbian and the latter by a gay men and they are both semi triumphant lyrics which still acknowledge the fact that their un-hetoronormative paths in life can have cataclysmic results which could almost ruin them in places but they’re still going to climb to sparkling goals of success and happiness and there’s nothing you can do about it happy pride week
I worked out for about 30 - 40 minutes today because I have a friend coming over, so I didn’t have much time. But I did complete a goal of mine, so yay! My workout was:
-20 flights of stairs on the stair climber (I conquered it! I wasn’t intimidated!)
- seated leg press machine - 25 lbs x 10 reps x 3 sets
- leg extension machine - 25 lbs x 10 reps x 2 sets, 40 lbs x 10 reps x 1 set
Man, I’m not going to be able to walk tomorrow. Just walking out of the gym, my legs felt like jello. But I’m so proud of myself!!!
There’s always these super buff people on the stair climbers, and they’re like running up the stairs. I’m always so intimidated by them because I think if I go slow, they’ll judge me (even though they’re probably very nice people and are too focused on their own workouts). But today, even though I was afraid, I conquered the stair climber! And I went slow and didn’t care!!!!
I hope everyone has a wonderful workout today or a wonderful rest day :-)
Extroverted Sensing (Se): Nathan is a man of action, adventure and excitement. He isn’t satisfied with just reading about lost relics, he wants to go out and find them for himself. He doesn’t usually mind the physical exertion required, or the dangerous obstacles that he has to overcome to achieve this ambitious goal. Climbing, swimming or shooting, anything is fair game. One of the major plot points of Uncharted 4 is that Nathan becomes bored with his newly found home life, as it is not exciting enough for him. However, by the end of the game, Elena understood that he needed the occasional excitement that adventure gave him, as he couldn’t live without it.
Introverted Feeling (Fi): Nathan understands the consequences behind his actions. He has a very personal and strong moral code that he abides by during his adventures, and he doesn’t like putting anybody in any danger if he can help it. There have been many instances throughout the series where he has felt like giving up on an adventure or going it alone because he didn’t want to see his friends or family get hurt. This often led to them trying to convince him otherwise, to varying degrees of success. Nathan only kills because he has to, as he is usually attacked first, and he is only protecting himself or the people that he cares about (which is something that Lazarevic tried to use against him after being defeated in the Tree of Life). His Se can sometimes make it look like he is enjoying it, however.
Extroverted Thinking (Te): Nathan loves gathering treasures and writing or drawing down notes or pictures in his journal to help him solve the mystery that he is currently interested in. He is a natural at taking charge when escorting his friends or family through his adventures, giving them frequent orders or helping them find the next ladder or thing to climb to get to the next area. In each game he wants to reach his goal of finding the treasure and solving the mystery, and he doesn’t typically care how he goes about achieving this (like a Ti user would). He also talks to himself a lot when trying to figure something out.
Introverted Intuition (Ni): Nathan isn’t future minded at all, and usually acts without planning ahead. This often gets him into serious trouble. In Uncharted 2, when Elena asks him “how do you plan on getting her (Chloe) off that speeding train?” he retorts “I haven’t thought that far ahead!” Under stress, he worries about if what he is doing is worth it (“God damn it, this is not worth dying over”) or starts doubting the existence of what he is looking for. When Nathan was young he didn’t believe that he had a meaningful future, due to his bad start in life. He was very underhanded and devious in order to get what he wanted - sneaking into a museum to steal Francis Drake’s ring, or sneaking out of his orphanage to see his brother, Sam, never considering how this might get him into trouble.