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I haven’t been feeling so great lately. I know why but I can’t talk about it with anyone and it’s killing me. Life is actually going pretty well but it’s just this one thing that clogs up my mind on the daily and it drives me crazy. I haven’t been able to think clearly about anything I want it all to stop.

5 Signs You Treat Your Reader Like an Idiot

(1) Overusing Adverbs

For Example: “Get out, Michael. I swear to God, get out before I try to kill you. I wasted two years of my life on your pathetic cheating ass. Get out!” Tara yelled angrily.

Adverbs are, more often than not, useless additions to your writing. Looking to the example above, adding “angrily” to the end of the line tells the reader nothing new. The reader knew Tara was angry, because Tara is clearly yelling at Michael. The dialogue alone is enough to portray this, and I’m sure with the full scene, the reader doesn’t need any extra help. Adverbs clutter up your writing and weaken your writing. Trust the reader to catch on without the adverb.

(2) “As if” Phrases

For Example: Mrs. Winters lingered over Bryan, her stern face glaring down at him, as if daring him to speak out again.

You don’t need to explain why characters are doing what they do. “As if” phrases are explanations we don’t need. Your writing needs to be strong enough to portray that Mrs. Winters wants Bryan to shut up.

(3) Exposition in Dialogue  

For Example: “Hello, Bridget, my ex-girlfriend who cheated on me with Brad”.

I wrote a whole post on this last week, because exposition in dialogue is absolutely terrible, but I will say it again. Using dialogue to explain things is usually just lazy writing. Dialogue needs to sound the way that people actually talk. Keep in mind that the characters know more than they say, and rarely need to explain it.

(4) Lazy Research

For Example: The curtains opened and Jared lifted the wand. With a wave, he instructed the winds start playing. The hall filled with the melody of flutes, clarinets and trumpets.

To the untrained eye, Jared is a decent conductor, and is doing a fine job leading the orchestra. To a musician, this scene would come off as weird. The stick a conductor uses is a baton, not a wand. Trumpets are not wind instruments. These details aren’t enough to completely ruin a story, but if you have a character interested, you need to do research. Know what you’re talking about. Using the right words, terms that are only used within the community (for this example, words like staccato or laccato tell musicians how to play a note).  If you have a character who is a musician, learn about music. If you have a character who does ballet, learn what a pliée is, and what an arabesque is. Don’t assume your readers won’t notice if you mess up on small details. The small details matter.

(5) One Dimensional Characters

No matter how minor a character is, it is your job to make them matter. Every character should have some sort of story. It might go untold, but characters need to be people in the universe you created, not plot devices there to guide your main character to what they need to do. This is especially true when writing women. Many female characters are written with the purpose of being a love interest to your main character, and they deserve more than that. 

Can I just have a lot of Levi and Eren absentmindedly touching each other? Eren scratching lightly at the base of Levi’s skull, Levi palming the soft fabric of Eren’s shirt, them leaning against each other whenever they’re close enough. I want them so comfortable with each other that they’d just lean, and meet the other person - there’s no bubble of awareness to separate them, just skin on skin, dry palms against a forearm, the surety of a grip on a shoulder, and the knowledge that neither is alone while the other is there.

 So, I have three asks in my inbox that are all fairly similar regarding service dogs, so I’m going to answer all three of those here with an anecdote from tonight. The asks were all in the same vein of agoraphobia/anxiety/service dog making things easier. Can a SD make things easier in these situations? Yes and no. Yes, because your dog will have tasks to help mitigate your disability and help you in your day to day life. No because OTHER PEOPLE. Here is a quick story from tonight illustrating this. This was not an unusual night - it was fairly average on the people-encountering scale:

(Note: I do not have any kind of anxiety, Rogue is a cardiac alert dog with a bright pink-very visible-vest with clearly marked patches saying to not distract. This was at 10pm on a Friday night at my local Shaws. I needed a frozen dinner, located right by the entrance.)

Normal 1-item run to grocery store. If I had chosen to quickly run in, get the item, pay, and run out, leaving Rogue in the car, the trip would have taken less than five minutes total in the store itself. I use the self checkout which no one ever does at Shaws for some reason, and the item I needed was right by the door and the checkout itself.

My heart rate and BP have been iffy all day and I’m having a weird balance day, so I opted to take Rogue in. We have both just come off an eight hour work day. We’re hungry and tired. Halfway from the handicap parking spot to the door, I get stopped by an employee asking if Rogue is a service dog. I say yes (actual gatekeeper question), and he says Rogue is pretty and we go on our way. I step into the store, immediately have a small child run over asking to pet Rogue. I politely decline, she asks me why. I tell her Rogue helps me and she needs to pay attention to me (Rogue remains at a heel). Kid runs off to her parents. I approach pre-made dinners, put Rogue in a sit-stay at my side out of the way of the aisle, debate if I want steak or chicken, an adult approaches me asking what kind of dog Rogue is. I give a quick “german shepherd,” look back to the dinners and she starts asking me where I got her and how old she was. I give quick answers and TURN MY BACK to her, hoping she will go away. I get my food and she makes kissy noises at Rogue, to whom I immediately give a “pfui” (no/leave it in german) and “fuss” (heel). Woman calls that I don’t need to be rude and I ignore her. 

I get up to the self checkout and another employee comes up and asks if she can pet Rogue. I say no, she’s working, try to rush through my checkout while Rogue is in a sit-stay. Employee calls over other employees and they discuss my dog to each other, about six feet from where Rogue and I attempt to check out. Finally, my receipt prints and I leave. On my way out, the first employee stops me and asks me if I’m training her for someone, I respond that no, she’s for me, and hurry to my car.

I was in the store for fifteen minutes. Ten minutes longer than I would have  (at least) if I had left Rogue in the car. This was an average trip for 10pm at night. Had I gone during normal hours, I would have been in the store longer.

Think very carefully if this is a reality you can deal with if you choose to have a service dog as part of your medical arsenal. Your dog ends up attracting SO much attention to you, and you need to be able to handle it - and so does your dog!

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We’ve got 6 members that have talked to me about being interested in joining the Dual<3Sign team for HSWC.

But I’d love to know if there were more people interested in joining us!

New to HSWC? Start here.

Art Sources: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 - a, b, c, d, 8 - a, b, 9, 10 - a, b, c

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▬   ユーリ!!! on ICE 自分を好きになって…完成!!フリープログラム (04/?? )
Until now I thought I was fighting all by myself. But now that Victor’s here, that’s totally changed. Some things are still the same. Some have changed. Now everything feels so new. I may never be able to regain what I’ve lost, but I can clearly see what’s in front of me now. 

French Toasted Thoughts

Sometimes when I am sitting in my booth at Denny’s, I start to wonder how I got here. Like, where do we come from? And why are we the only species that is aware of our own mortality? Is our life some pre-determined track and we’re completely helpless to change or stop it, or are we free spirits and our destination is our own choosing? Is time reallllly a flat circle?! Are flying squirrels reallyyy necessary? Do regular squirrels really need that extra skin? I mean, they’re already agile. Isn’t that a bit much? And why were sad clowns ever popular? And why should I care about someone’s feelings when they clearly made a poor career choice? Who elects to be horrifically sad? But then my French Toast is delivered and all of that goes away. Because priorities. 

You are unhappy. That thought was there, between a ‘busy’ schedule created by me and my unconscious ways to supply my heart with temporary hobbies. Friendships, travels, books, movies. How can I be unhappy? I have everything I need, wonderful parents, a comfort house, friends, college, I like my job, I make sports on weekends, nevertheless I slept and woke up with that uncomfortable thought. You are unhappy.

It was You the whole time, I’m seeing it clearly now. It is that thought that make us realize that no matter what you experience in this lifetime, nothing will ever make any sense if God is not on your side. Yes, you will have happy moments, some of them even are gift from God, you will reach some life goals, you will find a person who will make your heart double in size, know new places, new people.

But everything is transient, temporary. Eternity is what God works with. Live your life, love, laugh, hope, cry of happiness, but always remember, before or after putting your head on the pillow, the true and full happiness is in the one who created you. Everything else is incomplete, everything else will just wake in you to where will find your so very wanted happiness - God Himself.

—  5:15 PM | March 14, 2015
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Real life is a funny thing, you know. I think most of us fear reaching the end of our life regretting the moments when we didn’t speak up. When we didn’t say ‘I love you’. When we should’ve said 'I’m sorry’. So there’s a time for silence, and there’s a time for waiting your turn. But if you know how you feel and you so clearly know what you need to say, you’ll know it. I don’t think you should wait. I think you should speak now.

So on these two pages, I wrote down my short term and long term goals. Some of them are not a must thing but it would be nice if I can achieve them. :)

I love writing down my goals from time to time because it just organize all my thoughts and allows me to clearly see what needs to be done or what kind of more interesting things are in my life.

Sometimes I don’t even look at them again for a while after I write them down, but it does feel good and proud when I find the list in one of my old notebooks or journals a few years after I wrote them and if you can check off lots of things on the it.

It’s one of my favorite things I like to do when I’m alone with a notebook and a pen.

I was just thinking about that time in 2.10 when Lexa tells Clarke to leave her during the gorilla attack and well these are just some ramblings...

Lexa clearly places very little value on her own life. I remember back when episode 2.12 aired there were people saying that Lexa was being selfish, that she was only trying to save her own skin (because she would let the generals and the people in the village die but would run off to save herself). But all you need to do is look at this scene to know that’s the farthest thing from the truth. Lexa runs away not out of a want to save herself but to save her people. She knows that her survival, as well as Clarke’s, is necessary for the sake of the alliance and to get her people out of Mount Weather (as Clarke pointed out in 2.10 by saying that she needed her when Lexa disapproved of her insistence to save her). Lexa would lay her life down without thought or regret for the sake of not just her people but for those who aren’t as well (she wants Clarke to leave her during the gorilla attack in order to save herself). However Lexa is a commander, not simply a warrior or a soldier.  This means that what the situation usually calls for is the sacrifice of others and not herself. It is more important that she survives, and so she does this even if the easier choice for her would have been to die. If she could have died to save her people in Tondc (and not have it ruin the chances of those in the Mountain) she would have. If her life was the price for freeing her people from Mount Weather she would have given it instead of betraying Clarke. The gorilla attack must have been such a rare chance for her. Here they are just the two of them and she knows (or thinks she knows) that they will both die if Clarke doesn’t leave her. Logical thing then is for Clarke to leave her. And she tells her to do exactly that, no hesitation. And a part of me thinks she might have been relieved in some way, to finally be presented with this option. Where she can lay down her life for another instead of watching everyone around her lay down their lives for her (as she said to Clarke, part of being a leader is looking your people in the eye and saying ‘go die for me’). But Lexa cannot die for others, she cannot make the ‘heroic sacrifice’. She does not have that right because in the end her life is not her own to give away. It does not belong to her but to her people. 

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In which everyone tries to figure out who is the father of Onoda’s baby. #How I Met Your Father #Everybody Loves Onoda