(Sorry to annoy you!) So, I've lived with my parents for 24 years. However, they're moving overseas tomorrow and leaving me with their house. The thing is, I'm terribly close to them and my little brother, and this whole situation has brought me to a depressive mess. The house that's full of laughter is going to be quiet and lonely and I just can't deal with it all. I know I need to grow up and live my own life, but this is too much for me. I don't know what to do. :(
No bother at all! This is what I’m here for.
I’m sorry that you’re going through this, but I promise it will get easier as time goes along. Let’s start with your family- years ago you would’ve relied on telegrams and long-distance phone calls to see your family. But nowadays, there are so many ways to stay connected with the ones you love. You can Skype or Facetime, instant message, group chat, even sync your Netflix accounts to watch shows together.
Use this technology to stay in touch! Skype your little brother every day if you need to. A true connection is what brings people together, distance does not matter. I never see some of my best friends, but we text all day every day and stay close.
I’m also going to recommend that you get a couple of pets. A couple cats, a dog, a bird, etc. Fill your house with plants- flowers, tomato plants, crawling vines, etc. Buy yourself beautiful things and hang them everywhere, fill your pantry with delicious food, and invite your friends/family over for a house warming party.
Keep busy- join a knitting circle, start a Dungeons and Dragons league, volunteer at an animal shelter. Leave the radio on so the house is never silent. Learn how to bake pies and invite your friends over for pie tasting parties. Start gardening, I know it’s getting cold, but you can probably clean a few weeds up anyway. Cleaning is so cathartic, it will make you feel amazing. Use bath bombs and give yourself a spa day. Light incense and make your house smell like a fucking apple pie.
Trying living on your own for a while, to see how you do. If you find that you absolutely can’t live alone, you may want to look into renting out a room to a college student. Get in touch with local colleges and work with them to ensure that you don’t rent to a homicidal maniac.
Please stay in touch friend, even if it’s just occasionally, to let me know how you’re doing. Lots of love xx