Deep clean your room - I’m talking about stripping the bed, going through clothes, papers, and belongings and having no mercy. Sweeping and damp mopping the floors. Dusting surfaces. Finding new homes for those miscellaneous items that just sit there in the way.
Delete old contacts - I went from having maybe 30-40 contacts to 14. In other words, delete contacts you haven’t messaged or called in the last two weeks to a month (if so long). If they text you don’t be afraid or feel guilty for asking who it is.
Go through your music library - Play all your songs and if you skip a song delete it without hesitation. The next time you hit shuffle on your playlist you won’t even notice it’s gone. What if you get in the mood for the song? That’s what YouTube is for my friend… or just add the song back onto your phone.
Go through clothes - That dress you haven’t worn once in the past year- toss it. The shirt you swear fits if you don’t raise your arms- get rid of it. Those worn out clothes- dump them. *Of course there can be exceptions but within reason.
Journal - Write down any thoughts to cleanse your mind. Any ideas you might have. Good things that happened that day. Bad things that happened. Things you’re grateful for. It helps so much. Try it for at least three days straight and you’ll notice how much better you feel. Problems might not disappear completely but it’ll give you the strength to get through another day.
Don’t try to force things to work out - It’s so hard and it can be upsetting when things don’t, but sometimes the best thing you can do for you is accept the way (some)things are.
Don’t be hard on yourself for messing up - It can be easy to physically or mentally punish yourself for making a mistake no matter how big or small, but I’ve learned that doing things like starving yourself, beating yourself up (literally), or just scolding yourself repeatedly doesn’t improve the situation and it doesn’t improve yourself.
Cut toxic people off - Remove them from your life physically (which sometimes takes time). Unfriend them from social media. Remove prominent traces of them from your life. It’s like suddenly a weight comes off of your shoulders.
Practice self love - I write/say this so often and sometimes I feel like it’s so hard to do sometimes but it’s not. I’m talking about taking a break when you need to. Drinking water. Moisturising your skin. Getting enough sleep. It’s the little things like that that count as self love.
Don’t runaway from your problems - It’s tempting and hard but it’s important to face any problems you’re facing. No one is saying you have to be strong 24/7, only that you should try.
Delete old files - Go through you computer, tablet, phone, USB drive etc. Delete old unimportant documents, old photos, music, apps and more.
Because I had been ignoring it for WAY too long and although most of it was scattered around the house, the crap that you can’t hide, the stuff that makes people go “so a witch lives here?” was all over a table I apparently claimed as “witch territory”.
Call me Semiramis I-don’t-need-an-altar-I’m-fine-thank-you Magpie
But where, oh where, could I store all my witchy shit?
The living room?
The closet that I haven’t cleaned in a decade?
Ok, so I rolled my sleeves up and set to work. I threw away the useless stuff and kept the memories of my long passed youth (? wtf Rami you’re 23
While I was cleaning I found some bad shit.
And I’m talking about some REALLY BAD SHIT.
Memories and mementos of things I had forgotten, from people that had hurt me as much as they possibly could without killing anybody. At least not literally.
Objects directly connected to them. For you to have an idea, the MOST HARMLESS of the things I found was a CD that my then-21-yrs-old physically, emotionally, and psychologically abusive boyfriend gave me when I was 15 (yup, those numbers are right).
And this is just the teeny tiny tip of the iceberg
Needless to say, I had one hell of a panic attack.
Now, the things per se weren’t bad, but the things they were connected to and the things they reminded me of were too fucked up for me to deal with alone. NO WONDER I had blocked this place from my mind and had postponed dealing with it for a DECADE.
So, what I mean to say is that I needed to cleanse this space before any of my witchy stuff touched it.
No, SCRATCH THAT.
So, what I mean to say is that I needed to cleanse this space before any of my witchy stuff touched it.
I know, I’m hilarious.
THIS SPACE NEEDS A SPIRITUAL DISINFECTION.
I threw some lemon incense in there (lemon=protection, motherhood, sheltering), but… it wasn’t enough so
Rosemary smoke cleansing!
Look how pretty my cellphone’s shadow looks! Also, the smoke curling against the roof of the cabinet looks pretty <3
Have a shadow bunny as well.
This blog has a
deep VS light
tone problem, I know
So I’m there smoke cleansing stuff, suffering because I shouldn’t burn things ‘cause I’m allergic…
Made a hematite barrier, and also rosemary water is very good for cleansing! Pro tip!
PUT IT IN A BOTTLE YOU CAN USE AS A CLUB.
*Unintelligible screaming in Spanish*
Sound cleansing too!
CHIME CHIME SONS OF BITCHES
EAT PURIFYING MINT, MOTHERFUCKER
AND THROW THE CAT IN FOR GOOD MEASURE.
Ah, now THAT looks like a cleansed space!
A E S T H E T H I C C
I’ll give you a walk around my witchy supplies someday, and I’ll also explain the Stag figurine there (I’m a secular witch, as y’all know, but if I were to follow a Spirit (never a god), it would be Great Stag, the master of the Wild Hunt, emblem of virility, untamed wilderness, respect, willpower, adaptability, aid, caring, salvation, honor, and king of the Fae). This is me acknowledging his power and thanking him for his cooperation.
So anyway, what I really wanted to show you was how to cleanse a space where trauma has left its mark.
You can use things like
-A poor innocent cat
But most importantly!
It’s nothing new that laughter can cleanse the soul, same as singing.
Laugh in the face of your trauma.
Show it that it can’t own you anymore.
If you’re safe now, banish its leftovers with a giggle, exorcise yourself from the painful memories.
Do not let it steal and hog space in your house and your mind.
Do not let it transform you into nothing but Something That Happened To You.
Let yourself be free of it.
At the end of the day, it’s not just a cabinet or a room or a house that we’re cleansing.
Tips for keeping my apartment clean? Tips for motivating myself to finish unpacking?
Apartment Cleaning 101
1. Make a list. Start by making of list of everything that needs cleaning in your apartment. I like to let lists like these sit out for a day or two, to adjust and add to them as need be. Give yourself a couple days to brainstorm, and try to prioritize chores based off of how time consuming they are.
2. Chore frequency. You’ll notice that some chores become more time consuming the longer you wait to do them, while others do not. Dishes are a prime example- I try to get them done twice a day at least. Vacuuming my apartment, on the other hand, always takes around the same amount of time, so it doesn’t really matter when during the week I do it, just so long as I get it done!
3. Chore schedule. Basing this next bit off your findings above, plan your “chore schedule”. If you live with roommates and will be dividing chores, you may find it easiest to actually create a hardcopy of a schedule. You’re looking to divide this into three categories:
Chores that need to be done every day: Dishes for example
Chores that need to be done once a week: Vacuuming or mopping for example
Chores that need to be done once a month: Cleaning your refrigerator or closet for example
If you are a pet owner or live with multiple people, you may need a fourth category called “chores that need to be done twice a week”. Things like changing the cat litter or doing a load of laundry.
4. Divide and conquer. I’m adding this bit for those of you who live with roommates and/or significant others. You can look at doing chores two different ways:
Every man for himself (you do your own dishes, your own laundry, you’re responsible for vacuuming your room or living space)
Division of labor (my boyfriend cooks, so I do the dishes)
Find a happy medium for all parties concerned, especially if you’re splitting chores with someone you’re sleeping with. I do think it’s important to take into account each person’s business in terms of their work and school load. On days when my boyfriend works eleven hours, I don’t mind picking up the slack and vice versa.
5. Cleaning floors- the complete guide.
Allow to air-dry
Use a hardwood cleaner (like Bona) to get any difficult spots out
Allow to air-dry
Use a bleach-based cleaner (like Clorox) to get any difficult spots out.
Vacuum (use the vacuum’s highest setting)
Use an all-purpose cleaner (like Meyer’s) to get any difficult spots out.
6. Mopping. Forget about mixing your own bleach-based chemicals and using one of those raggedy anne mops. Get yourself a Swiffer Wet Jet to save yourself some serious time and headache. Buy the generic brand pad refills for a fraction of the name brand price!
7. Vacuum. You’ll make your life 100x easier if you find yourself a semi-expensive vacuum that doesn’t require vacuum bags. This is my vacuum and I love it.
8. Wood floors vs. Carpet floors. I personally prefer hardwood floors because they just have a nicer “foot feel” than their counterparts. However, they do require more upkeep than carpet floors, because you can actively feel them getting grotty as your week progresses. Thick carpet is more time-consuming to clean, but you can go two weeks without properly vacuuming and nobody will be any the wiser because the grime just blends in. Disgusting but true.
9. Scented garbage bags. Literally cost the same as regular garbage bags, but help you trash smell fresher for longer. I like to wrap any disregarded food bits (chicken bones, rotten vegetables, etc) in a plastic garbage bag before throwing them in my trash, and this really makes a difference.
10. Kitchen countertops. Unless you’re butchering meat in your apartment, plain old soapy water is the best countertop cleaner. I try to clean my countertops multiple times throughout the week, but sometimes I’m in a rush and only get to it once a week.
11. Washing dishes. I’ve tried lots of name brands and generic brands, and in my opinion the longest lasting and best bang for it’s buck is Dawn dish soap. I’m partial to their Caribbean Escapes which make your kitchen smell like a tropical island. Remember to never leave your sponge sitting in the sink, a moist sponge is prone to all sorts of bad bacteria. If you have a dishwasher, run your sponge through it once or twice a week with your regular wash.
12. Some cleaners to invest in.
Windex: Bought a bottle four years ago when I’m moved into my first apartment and still have about 1/3 of it left. Use to clean windows, mirrors and sliding glass doors.
Cleansing and charging my altar space ✨Happy Solstice! ☀️
I think I’ll write my cleansing water recipe out and share it with you guys either later today or sometime before the end of the week, so keep an eye out!
Ignore the ratty washcloth that I’m drying my stones on, not everything can be pretty all the time I guess 🤷🏻♀️
About a month ago, I randomly stumbled across the tumblr @unfuckyourhabitat , which is based off a book by the same title that gave practical strategies for cleaning and maintaining your environment in a practical way. The author makes posts daily reminding everyone to make their beds, and I, being a devout anti-bedmaker, was prepared to dismiss that. But the rest of what she was saying made sense, so I decided to give it a try, and I can say without exaggeration that this habit has changed my whole home life. I’ve made my bed every day for the past month, and starting the day with that one quick act of tidying makes me feel prepared to spend other minutes in other areas of my house and car and classroom, because if I can get up at 3:30AM and muster the energy to better my habitat then, surely I can manage to wash a dish or sweep a floor in the evening.
My house is sparkling, y'all. You know how many dirty dishes are in my sink right now? Zero. When was the last time I cleaned the base of my toilet? Why, every Thursday actually! And what did I do last weekend, just for giggles (and because it needed doing)? I washed my blinds. Washed. My blinds. Like with a bucket and rags and the whole shebang. A month ago you would never have caught me willingly spending my weekend doing something that labor-intensive for a reward as small as not having a decade of dust on my blinds. But I find myself wanting to do those little things now, because I’ve been living in this clean and organized habitat and I love it. It doesn’t take much, just one or two quick tasks a day to keep things from getting out of hand, and I honestly credit my continuing enthusiasm and motivation to this bed.
If my bed is all pretty and made, surely I can put the clothes into the hamper when I take them off instead of a pile on the floor. And if I have a clear floor, I suppose I can avoid dropping my junk on the tables too. And if my room is organized, I guess I can keep my bathroom tidy too. And if my bathroom is tidy I might as well keep the kitchen clean. The chain of logic goes on and on until eventually it just clicked somewhere in my brain that I want a clean habitat and I’m willing to do a little work each day to have one.
And it starts with a bed that’s made.
So thank you, ufyh, for kicking my butt into gear in this one eensy weensy area of my life that turned out to be not so eensy weensy at all. The light switches I Lysol this afternoon will be dedicated to you. ✊
A guide inspired by YouTuber Kalyn Nicholson on getting your shit together (for the most part) in a just a day. It’s broken up into a few categories: cleaning, beauty, planning, and food.
I like to start off with cleaning because cleaning alone makes a dent in having your shit together more or less because everything is clean, tidy, and organised. So…
Depending on where you live clean your room(s)/house. Go around and sweep/mop/vacuum the floor(s).
Change your bedding- ideally, you should change it every week but I don’t have detergent to be throwing extra loads of laundry to I change my sheets once a month and wash my pillow cases every week.
Speaking of laundry now is the perfect time to do a load or two is yours have an in-home washer and dryer. Also handwash any delicate clothes, squeeze out any water and hang it on the shower curtain rail on a hanger to dry.
Organise your spaces (kitchen cabinets, desk, storage, fridge etc)
After cleaning it’s time to do some planning, so gather your pretty pens, planners, bullet journals, calendars, and whatever else you might own and get ready to go in hard.
Calendar/Planner/Bujo- fill out whichever one (or all three) with any events coming up or events that passed but weren’t accounted for.
Write down your to-do list for the upcoming week/month
Review your goals and edit them in necessary maybe you might be able to skip over a step towards reaching your goal or maybe you have to add a few more.
Manage your expenses. If I have any receipts sitting around I’ll go through them and add what I purchased to my expense tracker. Not only does it help me assess where my money is going, but when I need to buy something again I can go through my expense list and see how much I spent on it.
This one is fairly simple, and depending on your lifestyle you might not need to do most or any of the stuff listed here.
Next, I’ll work on my dinner menu for the following month. It seems like a lot of work to come up with dinner every day of the month ahead of the time but you can always edit it and it makes grocery shopping WAY easier. Just pull up the recipe, write down the ingredients and you’re set.
I also like to make a list of what I plan on taking to school for snacks/lunch and what I’m going to eat for breakfast for the upcoming week so I’ll make a list of what I’m feeling.
Next, I’ll take inventory of canned goods, fruits, vegetables etc and then write my grocery list for that upcoming week.
Last but not least is beauty… think of it as a watered down version of a spa day. Once the above tasks are finished I try to catch up on whatever beauty stuff I was supposed to complete. This includes but isn’t limited to….
Exfoliate my body, lips and face
Whitening my teeth (I use one from the dollar store and it does a pretty good job)
Bad Juju (as my mother calls it) is when you’ve attracted negative/heavy energy. This can be just not regularly cleansing, others casting the energy onto you, or visiting places that attract negative energy (busy public transportation stations, graveyards, toxic work environment, etc.). This can really put stress onto you, such as creating bad dreams, accumulation of small and annoying incidents, and just constant bad days. Here’s what I what do to get rid of this juju HARD:
1) Clean your entire living space. Whether it is an apartment or house: CLEAN. If your bad juju is particularly bad, DEEP-CLEAN. Wash your floors, deep clean your carpets, scrub those countertops. Act like you’re about to get a ton of guests over in a very short amount of time. Do laundry also!
2) Purge. Throw out expired food, trash, recycling, etc. Yes, it can be part of cleaning, but this is important. My mother and I used to throw out the dirty mop water from our windows before I moved out into an apartment. Now, I throw out my trash at the end of every clean session.
3) Burn cleansing incense. Sage (white or different variation), Palo Santo, Sweetgrass, Patcholi, or any other incense that makes you feel clean. Burn this after you’re done cleaning.
4) Listen to witch playlists or instrumentals that get you going. There’s plenty of these playlists on Youtube. I love listening to Slavic Drums and songs while I clean, as the drums really get me motivated.
5) Cleanse your bed. Take out the sheets, pillow cases, and blanket/comforter. Wash them all and/or replace with new sheets, pillow cases, and blanket/comforter. Then, dose your bed with sage or palo santo. I prefer palo santo as it’s easier to obtain and more ethical than sage.
6) Take a shower/bath and cleanse. By this point, you have worked up a sweat. Not only is a shower great, but you can visualize cleansing yourself in the shower/bath. Ultimately, you need to unwind and relax.
7) Meditate. If you can or want to, meditation really helps. Guided meditations are on Youtube. I personally listen to instrumentals and visualize peaceful places and really concentrate on the details of the location. 15 minutes minimum.
8) Drink water. Hydration is very, very important. A natural cleanser for your body, but it will really help with relaxing and feeling clean and better.
I welcome you to add more to the list and you can add/change to your own routine! I’m also interested in hearing how other people get rid of bad juju! :)