My father and I always fight about cleaning my room because I really can't notice what is out of place, I'm in process of diagnosis and I was wandering if that could be part of ADHD so I could explain him why it's so hard to clean it he doesn't tell me specifically what to do
Yes, this is related to executive dysfunction on the one hand and the way our brains take in the environment on the other. One of the common things with ADHD is that we are really good at “gestalt” thinking—that is, we’re good at seeing the big picture, and not so great at the details. This can lead to overwhelm with tasks like cleaning a room because when we look at the room we don’t see the little things, we just see one big mess. We then can’t break it down into steps because we don’t see the steps.
Here are two posts that might help you get this sorted without your dad.
First, a submission to this blog about how someone cleans their room and makes it visual and interesting to do!
Second, my steps to crash-cleaning a room. It’s quick and dirty and will get it done, but it won’t be organized. It’ll look good, though!