I’m sorry…I have been pretty understanding and sometimes supportive of Cl/xa’s relationship, but rewatching the show is really putting into perspective for me how absolutely unhealthy their relationship was. What L did at MW was such a huge betrayal and dick move overall to begin with, but if you look at the relationship on a macro level, L had her army attack the 100 when they first landed because she didn’t need them, then Clarke convinced her that they had to work together so she suddenly welcomed Sky People into an alliance and used their resources to attack MW. The only reason she was able to get to MW was Sky People. They did all the leg work, all L did was give fancy speeches and bring an army that never even did anything. Then, after using Sky People to get their, when she was given an option to save her people and basically screw Sky People over, she chose that and left them to die because she didn’t need them anymore. Then, she didn’t give two fucks about anything until 3 months later when Azgeda started moving against her and the legend of Wanheda came into play. Now suddenly she was weak and needed Clarke again so she sent Roan after her and had her kidnapped. When Clarke confronted her, she tried to convince Clarke that Clarke’s anger at her wasn’t validated and that Clarke would have done the same thing (even though we know that she wouldn’t have), when Clarke didn’t fall for it, she basically said “okay get over it, you can’t dwell on the past” and told her that she had to bow in front of her and become the 13th clan to save her people.
It’s basically a cycle of L needs Clarke/Sky People and uses her/them but then when she doesn’t need them anymore she fucks them over and leaves them to rot and then when she needs something again she comes back to them and tells them that they have to help her or they’ll be in trouble and if they do anything to hurt her (300 grounder massacre) it takes her 2 seconds to want to kill them all. Just the power dynamics of the relationship are so off, it’s freaking me out just thinking about it. I can’t believe the writers and media tried to pass this off as a revolutionary, healthy relationship.