cissexist

if u had told me last month that i would be getting anonymous cissexist hate on a blog dedicated to shitposting abt frogs i would probably have beleived you because transphobes are like fucking cockroaches except you can’t even feed them to ur pets

anonymous asked:

This might sound weird, but do you (or have you ever heard of any bi people) have a hard time saying the word "bi/bisexual"? I've been out for about a year, and I'm confident in my sexuality, but I still find saying "bi" out loud to be hard.

It’s not weird at all! I had, and sometimes still have, trouble talking about my bisexuality. It sometimes feels like ‘bisexual’ is a dirty word, because the examples we see of bisexuality in pop culture are people who cheat, who can’t be satisfied, who are hypersexualized. Or, my personal favorite, who “just don’t want to be labeled.” And from the home front, the LGBT+ community, we sometimes hear that ‘bisexual’ is somehow cissexist, or trans-exclusionary, or unnecessary because of other words. I’ve dealt with this for the entire time that I’ve been out, and it can be more than a little confidence-draining. It can make you shy away from saying the words that you know are best for yourself. But it is perfectly fine to be bisexual, to be a proud bi person. Bisexual isn’t a bad word or a bad thing, no matter what backlash you may see about us.

So, maybe start by telling yourself that you are bisexual–just say those words to yourself, “I am bisexual.” Make them comfortable words in your mouth, and then they may be more comfortable to say to others.

I hope this helps!

~Arin

Like for as much as people wanna be like ‘nurrrr don’t be cissexist don’t be heteronormative don’t center being straight and cis as being normal and everything other than that is a deviation weehhh’

SO much of what aces want to say is the reason they’re totally q*e*r too is that they aren’t not ace. When again being ace is about frequency of desire not what body is feeling it or who for. When again being ace doesn’t bar you from fucking gainful employment like being ‘identifiably’ gay/trans/nb can.

Like it’s really gross to then trot out corrective rape as a go card when that doesn’t happen nearly as often and again the existence of ‘people do a bad thing to your kind of person’ doesn’t fucking make or break whether or not something is in the spectrum?

Again, this is why you have stupid people going ‘being a woman is being q*e*r bc the world is cishetmalenormative and also women are oppressed uwu’

There are literally other things to aspire to than being in the LGBTQ* spectrum? You’re not fucking INVALIDATEDi just because someone contests your tenuous relevance. Stop acting like anything’s been taken away from you you’re going to be fine, finer than pretty much any of the other identities well-established in the spectrum. And that’s what makes it so gross. This fucking id tourism of it all. If you can’t go for the oppression gold oh noooo people are invalidating your identity!

What if being ace was its own thing? Would the world fall apart?

“Calling Planned Parenthood solely an ‘abortion provider’ is like calling McDonalds ‘a saald place.” - @alisonleiby”

And even if Planned Parenthood’s abortions weren’t just 3% of all of their services, even if it was hypothetically 50%, 75%, or even 95%+… it is a reproductive healthcare service provider. We know that the World Health Organization has stated:

“When abortion is made legal, safe, and easily accessible, women’s
health rapidly improves. By contrast, women’s health deteriorates
when access to safe abortion is made more difficult or illegal.”

Stop with the obsession with fetuses. Start with prioritizing the health of actual people.

Cissexism through Biological Determination: On why it’s not okay to assume trans women experienced male privilege

TW: Cissexism, being a young trans girl, body dysphoria

[accessibility: it is dark, probably in a cave.  there are two girls, one much younger than other, sitting side by side.   the older one, in a green dress, is hiding in fear.  weak and hurt very badly.   the younger one, in a pink dress, holds up a magic wand.  the magic wand is protecting them from a very intense fire trying to burn them alive.  it is a struggle.  they are surviving]

There is this thing that cis people, particularly queer cis women, insist they know about my life as a trans woman: that before I transitioned, I had male privilege.  That the male privilege I acquired during puberty and used all the way up to the beginning of transition as an adult informs and invalidates my “understanding” of what it means to be a “real” girl and subsequently, a “real” woman.

The problem here lies in one very flawed cissexist assumption: that a girl designated male at birth (a transgender girl) experiences puberty just like a boy designated male at birth (a cisgender boy).  It is also implies that trans girls, and subsequently trans women, experience their bodies in the same way that cisgender boys and men do — which we already know is not true.   This type of logic is biological determination at its best, and transmisogyny at its worst.

So I implore you, gentle readers, especially cis women, to consider the following.  Consider what it would be like if you were born into a different body than your own.  A body that did not “match” the gender you know you are.   Consider what that would be like, then travel back in time with me - to puberty.   

What would it be like for a girl at 14 years old to have no control over their body?  We all went through that, yes?  Take it in a different direction.  What if you, a girl, were in a body that suddenly got big, hairy and overwhelmingly tall overnight.  A body that wasn’t developing breasts and hips like the rest of the girls your age.   What if your face, your shoulders, your legs - your whole body - what if it kept getting more and more masculine.  To the point that you don’t even recognize yourself in the mirror anymore.  You start disassociating from your body because it hurts so much to be in it.  You can’t even imagine surviving past the age of 25 because you’d rather be dead than live a life in a body poisoned by testosterone.

Consider this as well - being in a body that can’t make babies.  Can’t have friendships with other girls because they see you as a predator.  Can’t wear the clothes you want.  Can’t a whole lot of things that only are given to girls and women with cis privilege.  Being called a faggot.  Being outted as gay by your mother to your entire family, and not gay as a lesbian, but gay as in liking boys.  Being given gifts by your family that were made specifically for men, repeatedly, every year.  Being told how handsome you are.  Being forced to live your entire life — of which only happens once, in this particular form in this particular time period  —  in a certain way, under a very firm set of rules, because of the gender assignment not consensually given to you at birth.

Think about all of that.  This is what it’s like to be a trans girl growing up.  It is a very lonely, isolating experience.  And it is not a privilege. 

So, cis women, the next time you insist on asking me what I miss about male privilege, remember everything I’ve written here.  Remember a little girl that was robbed of an estrogen based puberty because of a cissexist society that told her she was crazy, mentally ill, sick, and perverted.  Remember a little girl crying herself to sleep wishing the changes would stop.  Remember a little girl praying to God every night that she would wake up the next morning in a different body.  Remember me.  I was that girl.

Remember.

[accessibility: we pull back from the two girls in the painting above.  we can now see a gigantic three headed dragon breathing the very intense fire at them. the girls are fighting back.  the battle rages on.  we are still here.]

Morgan Potts: Cis Fragility

This article was rejected by the trans publication which commissioned it because it’s “too alienating for cis people”. The irony of coddling a cis audience by protecting them from an antagonistic piece on cis fragility, in a publication which alleges to be focused on trans experiences, is not lost on me.

To be perfectly clear: I am not interested in toning down my writing to make it palatable for cis readers. I don’t write for cis people.

Cis people exist in a social environment which validates their genders and reinforces a gender binary which corresponds to their lived experiences, giving them relative privilege to trans people. Cis people therefore have a low tolerance for that which challenges their gender identities and their conceptions of gender more broadly. Cis fragility (drawing on white fragility in critical race theory) is rooted in a desire to restore and reproduce cisnormativity. It is a combination of lack of stamina in interrogating their conceptualizations of gender, as well as a resistance to challenging those conceptions.

The very idea of trans people challenges the cisnormative notion of gender: gender is not easily defined by genitals or a falsely dimorphic understanding of “biology”. Non-binary trans people further challenge cisnormativity simply by existing and refusing to define their genders in cisnormative terms.

When cis people encounter challenges to their conception of a binary gender, they often react with defensiveness, forcing trans people to do the emotional labor of comforting the cis person in addition to educating them and explaining basic concepts about gender or divulging personal experience to satiate cis curiosity and confusion. This derails conversations about trans experiences with oppression and devolves them into assuages of cis guilt and potential violence. The too-familiar “I’m sorry I misgendered you, singular ‘they’ is hard for me”, centers cis difficulty in remembering a new name or pronoun over the discomfort and disrespect toward the trans person they misgendered. This is an attempt to redirect social resources (time, attention, emotional labor), prioritizing cisness over transness.

Cis fragility is so delicate that cis people seek to reaffirm their genders in every step of their lives: everything from clothing to beverages to occupations are gender coded. This serves the interests not only of cisnormativity, but patriarchy and heteronormativity in an extremely boring but ubiquitous triple threat. Cis gender expressions are not named such: women wear feminine clothing, men perform masculinity, and these behaviors go unnoticed and unexamined until there is deviance from them, as though these norms are “natural” rather than dynamic and constantly redefined and reproduced.

Trans identities are not afforded the level of complexity that cis ones are assumed to have. Trans people are presumed to be constantly shaped and defined by their transness as though it is the primary, if not singular, aspect of their selves; but cis people are just people. Because they occupy an identity of “normalcy” it is not considered an identity at all, and they presume that they have an objective perspective on gender uncolored by their own experiences of it.

Trans people are also expected to be “ambassadors” of transness. Cis people feel entitled to trans people’s time in educating them and indulging their invasive questioning without considering that the trans person they’re interrogating might not have an academic interest in gender. Trans people are presumed to know all about all things trans and to accurately represent all other trans people, which is both impossible and exhausting. While trans people experience transphobia and cissexism on a regular basis, they may not have the vocabulary or framework to analyze their experiences at the systemic level. This contributes to creating or leaning on existing hierarchies of palatable transness fit for anti-critical cis consumption in order to survive an interaction unscathed, even if it means sacrificing other, “more deviant” expressions of transness to do so.

Cis people who pride themselves on being “progressive” might learn correct terms and make efforts to use the right pronouns, but will still be unlikely to confront cissexism and transphobia as it manifests in their lives. They will congratulate themselves for asking the pronouns of a “visibly” non-binary person (whatever that means), but refuse to examine why their gender identity needed clarification when those of the apparently-cis people around them didn’t. Or perhaps they’ll never assume anyone’s pronouns, but they also won’t intervene in street harassment and violence directed at gender non-conforming femmes. Privilege deflects the responsibility of accountability. There is no neutrality in issues of oppression, only complacency and antagonism.

The burden of interrupting cissexism and transphobia belongs with cis people, but trans people have already proven that we are more than capable of disrupting the power structures which oppress us whether cis people are interested in helping or not. There is power in challenging cis fragility. There is power in protesting cisnormativity by refusing to center cis experiences or use cis frames of reference. There is also power in survival, which is often opposed to confronting cisnormativity. Transness is antagonistic by nature; it is enough just to be.

This shit pisses me off so much. It should be called “pros to dating straight trans men from a Cis straight woman’s perspective”.

This post COMPLETELY erased trans men who sleep with men. Like are you kidding me?

It also assumes all trans guys are ok with periods ….. And have good hygiene. Well let me tell you… I know more trans guys who can’t handle periods because of the trauma they went through before they got on hormones. Also good hygiene. Lol. Ok yes all Cis guys are nasty and tran boys r so hawt hehe XD

Like. No.

ALSO assume the only women dating trans men are Cis. “No pregnancy scares” oh Mann I know so many trans women who have sex with trans men. Both are pre op. Do. The. Math. It happens to other people too. Not just straight Cis couples. Jesus Christ.


ALSO LOL YES LETS POINT OUT that trans men look like fucking children before they get on t omg this post is making me so angry I can’t

If I started out poor and got rich I still wouldn’t give a dime to the poor. I mean it’s proof enough that I made it, anyone else would be able to. This is just how the world works, y'know?
—  Forming his opinion off of some completely hypothetical bullshit that didn’t even really make sense, rich boy, Senior Finance Major on: “Why I hate poor people.”

anonymous asked:

Hi! Um, this blog left a comment on a post saying that companies like HRC and FCKH8 are damaging, and I'm honestly confused as to how. I am a very big supporter of LGBTQIA rights, being bisexual myself, but I don't understand how they are disrespectful towards the community. I was just wondering if you could explain a bit. Thank you! (:

FCKH8 

FCKH8

HRC

HRC

HRC

FCKH8

FCKH8

FCKH8

FCKH8 - putting families and children at risk by sending unwanted and illegal materials

HRC

If you need more examples, I’ve got ‘em.

tl;dr/gtfo

FCKH8 isn’t even an organization - it is a company. Both are unapologetically horrible towards the BTQIA portion of the LGBTQIA community.