anonymous asked:

I'm genderqueer and want top surgery, but I'm woman aligned am an only attracted to girls and woman aligned people. Can I call myself a lesbian or not?

We say that Sapphic-Sex-Ed is trans inclusive, and we mean it! Woman-aligned nonbinary, genderqueer, and non-westernly gendered folks can absolutely be sapphic if they wish to call themselves such, and indeed that includes being lesbian. A lesbian is just a woman-aligned person who likes other woman-aligned people and doesn’t seriously want anything to do with exclusively man-aligned people.

Identities are a personal thing, and if you want to call yourself a lesbian then go for it! The only exceptions are things like exclusively binary trans men getting into lesbian spaces because of their birth assignment. That is cissexist and gross.

-*Mod Star*

LMAO the cis are at it again. It’s been suggested that the facial model for the statue of liberty was a dude and so now all the news orgs are like “is the statue of liberty actually a man?” Well I for one just want to congratulate Lady Liberty on being the largest trans woman in North America if not the world.

Please don’t infantilise trans guys. Especially trans guys in their late teens/20s who look younger than their cis counterparts because of a lack of T. If you treat a cis boy as mature, you better not talk down to a trans guy of the same age as if he’s somehow more ‘innocent’ or in any way less mature just because he might not have the “”“signs”“” of being a grown male.

  • straight people: *sees a baby boy make any gesture of acknowledgment to a girl* w0w wHAT a ladIES MAN!!! such a stUD!!
  • also straight people: *sees someone age 13-19 being romantic with someone of the same gender* i just don't understand??? like you can't know that you're gay until you're an adult??? why do you have to force your gay agenda on the children™???
The "born this way" narrative falls apart due to four (4) distinct failures

1. It is not actually an effective argument for dissuading homophobes or transphobes. Take a look at the developmental disability community for some examples of what oppressors do when we’re born this way.

2. It contradicts the idea of actively introspecting to discover your sexual orientation and/or gender identity, invalidating anyone who didn’t just know automatically.

3. It implies that our inability to change is the only good reason to accept us, and by extension implies that we ought to change if we could. Therefore, it actually reinforces that notion that there’s Something Wrong With Us, rather than challenging it.

4. It erases the experiences of people whose queer identities were developed through trauma, who were not in fact born this way.


Tre av de tio illustrationerna jag gjorde för ett utbildningsmaterial om normkritik och HBTQ för Uppsala kommun, utvecklat tillsammans med Antidiskrimineringsbyrån och RFSL.

Three of the ten illustrations I made for education material about LGBTQ and critique of harmful norms. The project was made for the municipality of Uppsala in Sweden who developed the education along with Antidiskrimineringsbyrån (swedish organization agains discrimination) and RFSL (swedish organisation about LGBTQ matters)

  • Trans people: We're being murdered and our killers aren't being persecuted.
  • Bi people: We're being alienated and erased and because of this are 6 times more likely to commit suicide than straights.
  • Lesbians, trans people and bi women: We're far more likely to experiance sexual harassment and assault.
  • Pan, asexual, aromantic, non-binary, agender, and omnisexual people: our identities aren't aknowledged by mainstream society.

What Cis People Say To Trans People Vs. What We Hear

By Meredith Talusan and Rory Midhani

TRANSlator 3000: Amazing technology translates cissexist BS!

“Oh you’re trans but you look so good!”
“Trans people are ugly.”

“I’ve never met a trans person before.”
“I assume I can identify any trans person.”

“I would date a trans person.”
“Trans people are usually undateable so I deserve a prize.” 

“You look just like a real woman.”
“Trans women aren’t really women.”

“I’m glad you’re being honest with me about being trans.”
“Trans people who don’t tell me they’re trans are deceivers and liars.”

“I loooooove trans people!”
“I fetishize trans people.”

“It’s so hard to switch pronouns.”
“Trans people are an inconvenience to me.”

“I don’t have a problem with trans people.”
“I have a problem with trans people.” 

anonymous asked:

I’ve never really thought about the Her app community this way (admittedly I don’t really use the app because it stresses me out). I always thought that trans men might be looking for the bi/pan/etc people on the app, but never thought about it all that critically. Would you be up to explaining why a trans man on her might have internalized transphobia? I’m just learning and it’s helpful to hear different peoples perspectives.

It’s an app that’s specifically marketed to wlw looking for women to date. That was the reason it came into being, to help lesbian and bisexual women find other women to date, without having to deal with men.

I sort of get your logic here about trans men looking for bi/pan women, but in that case, the HER app would allow cis men access as well, so they could find bi/pan women to date.

But they don’t. Cis men are outright rejected.

Because it’s an app that is built for women and serves women clients. When you apply for a profile, you send them proof of identity, and they have historically used this to screen out cis men. This process has also been used to screen out trans women, and it’s why there’s been constant issues for trans women throughout HER’s existence, because transmisogynists will report trans women’s profiles as being men, and we’ll get banned (temp or permanently). There’s a definite leveraging of birth assignment as ‘true gender’ on HER. 

So it’s pretty well established that HER is meant for women, but that they often take a cissexist interpretation of that.

Trans women rallied to get the service to improve for them, to stop being cissexist, and to be more inclusive for them. 

A section of trans men, in turn, rallied for more trans inclusion in the form of being allowed to list themselves as trans male in a women’s app. They hadn’t had issues with being kicked off HER, not like trans women did, but it wasn’t enough for that implicit cissexism to be used. It had to be explicit. They wanted to be included, and fought for that inclusion on cissexist rhetoric around their historical alignment with and membership in wlw communities. 

And they were ultimately included. On a women’s dating app, a women’s space, because they leveraged their “history” as “female/women” to get in, relying on cissexism (afab = woman) and welcoming the transphobic implications of them not being real men so long as it gained them access to lesbian, bi, and pan women’s sexuality.

Meanwhile, trans women are still getting kicked, if less often than before.