“Cishet people get called q***r, therefore they can reclaim it.”
Cishet people get called q***r in the same way that dudebros call each other the f slur. Like, yeah, it’s used to police normativity, but it does that in ways that are homophobic and transphobic.
When cishet people get called the q slur it’s intended to prey on and instill feelings of homophobia and transphobia because it’s used specifically to imply that the target is gay or trans and that that’s a bad thing that people should be ashamed of being associated with.
This idea that people can reclaim every slur they’ve ever personally been called is a complete failure to understand how slurs fucking work or, on a basic level, literally what words even are.