cisgender people

Um lol yeah excuse me, but if you’re straight, white, cis, and a man or any of the above??? You are literally equally as deserving of love, respect, kindness, and understanding as any LGBT+ person, racial/ethnic minority, or woman, I’m sorry sweaty I don’t make the rules :)

Here’s another “friendly” reminder that the LGBTQIA+ community is not a fucking pissing contest to see who suffers the most oppression. The only people who do not belong in the LGBTQIA community are heterosexual, hetero-romantic, cisgender people (as in, ticking all three categories).

You’re biromantic, asexual, cis? You’re in.
Bisexual aro enby? Definitely in.
Asexual, aromantic, intersex? STILL IN.

Our community is built on inclusion and love. Finding peace and comfort with each other when we can’t find it elsewhere.

Stop fucking gatekeeping. You look like an asshole. You don’t get to decide who can or cannot be part of the community. We are not some elite club, where each member must adhere to some standard of queerness.

It’s not a competition. Fucking stop acting like it.

In just one week

Lady Gaga said “transgender” live during the Super Bowl.

Laverne Cox said “gender nonbinary” live at the Grammys.

National Geographic released a documentary about trans/nonbinary people called ‘Gender Revolution’.

Tens of millions of cisgender people witnessed this and are now learning more about them. Trans/nonbinary people witnessed this and are now feeling seen, valid, and loved.

2017 is shaping up to be the year of trans/nonbinary visibility.

Unpopular opinion time
  • Cisgender people aren’t automatically transphobic just because they’re cis.
  • White people aren’t automatically racist because they’re white.
  • Men aren’t automatically misogynistic, rapists or abusers, just because they’re men.
  • Everyone can be racist to everyone else of a different race. Reverse racism doesn’t exist, it’s just racism, everyone is capable of it.
  • Anyone who lies about rape accusations should receive prison time.
  • Everyone is entitled to a proper course of justice in the court of law.
  • Transgender men should be put in men’s prisons, transgender women should be put in women’s prisons.
  • Women can be abusive to their partners. Do not automatically victimise women or say “this motive means that the man deserved it” are you fucked in the head?
  • People who are incapable of looking after their child should not receive custody over the other parent.
  • Feminism is great. Everyone deserves equality, and the proper precautions should be put in place at demonstrations. However, extreme feminism is not great. It gives feminism a bad name. If you go out there shouting “MEN ARE PIGS!” “MEN DESERVE TO DIE!” and all that bullshit, you’re a fucking moron.
  • Transpecies and transrace are not things. You cannot be cat, or a horse or a fucking bunny rabbit. You cannot be black, or Asian or anything else to the race you were born. I’m sorry, but it’s true. Go ahead and call me transphobic (even though I’m not)
  • The amount of genders and sexualities that Tumblr is creating is fucking ridiculous. “Angeligender– A gender found only among angels, that is hard to describe to non-angels. For godkin and angelkin only.” “Lichtgender- A gender represented by a ball of light.” “Zodiacgender– A catch-all gender term that is used to describe when one’s gender is related to a (or their specific) zodiac sign.” I’m sorry, what?? What the fuck? No.
  • There is not 76 fucking genders. Fuck off.
  • If you are transgender male and deliberately present as female, or transgender female and deliberately present as male, and then complain that someone misgendered you, that’s your fault, nobody else’s.
  • NON-BINARY, GENDERFLUID AND AGENDER PEOPLE ARE ENTITLED TO HAVE THEY/THEM PRONOUNS USED TO IDENTIFY THEM.
  • If you are 13 and your boyfriend is 20, I’m sorry, but he’s a paedophile. “Age is just a number” yeah, then prison is just a room.
  • Stalking celebrities to a point where you find out where they live is NOT okay. Stop being a creepy little weirdo and play outside or some shit.
  • You are not edgy because you hate people. You are not edgy for self-diagnosing mental health issues. You are not edgy for self-diagnosing other medical issues. You’re a twat.

There’s a trend on tumblr that is more than rampant, and since it’s been going on for so fucking long i feel the need to speak on it.

Tumblr hates trans men.

“But thehomosexuals!” you might be screaming. “I see positivity posts every 5 minutes on my dash! They’re always saying trans men are valid!” And to that I’d ask you how many of those were about trans men, and how many of those were about feminine trans men.

If you said that more than 90% of those posts are for feminine trans men, then you are definitey using the same website as I and thousands of other trans men are.

Now, feminine trans men are so fucking valid and they deserve all the love and support, but when every single positivity post is about feminine trans men….. that kind of reaks of something more malicious. While it’s true that feminine trans men would face more discrimination for wanting to adhere to traditionally feminine things while also identifying as a male, there’s something more insidious going on.

It’s not an unknown fact that tumblr has ill will toward every sect of men. It’s went beyond the type of “down with cis” joking attitude to actual malicious will. And in my opinion (and others opinions as well, believe me this isn’t the first time i’ve brought this up to anyone), this is bordering on fetishization and erasure.

there are people on this website who are more than happy to praise feminine trans men for their femininity, but the minute a trans man wants to be more “traditionally masculine” theyre seen as disgusting and horrible and adhering to toxic masculinity. there are people on here who believe that feminine trans men are superior and Braver. there are people on here who think masculine trans men deserve fuck all and could basically be the cisgender people of the transgender community. there are people on here who use feminine trans men as a token that they don’t hate men, when really theyre attracted to the “female” aspects of their identity and erase the fact that they are men from their minds.

you heard me right. there are people on here who use the femininity of some trans men to erase the fact that they are still men. there will be post after post saying that men who look like women are wonderful. not valid as men, not manly as hell, they’re wonderful. and thats true, but theyre still men. theyre not your UwU babbies to love and cherish like little newborns. they are not women. they are not for your eyes. they have their own identity.

again, im gonna end this with the fact that feminine trans men are wonderful and valid and theyre still manly as hell even if they adhere to all “traditionally feminine” things. they are still men. they are still valid.

and using feminine trans men as your scapegoat for “not hating men” while simultaneously only harping on the “female” aspects of their identity is transphobic.

Dear cis people,

When I tell you I’m trans:

Please don’t act like you know more about it than me, trust me the chances are you don’t.

When I tell you my prefered name, thank you for using it, but there’s no need to mention it. Please don’t mention it at all. I am my chosen name and always have been. I don’t need to be told that I don’t look like my birthname.

Please don’t laugh when I do strange things which help my dysphoria.

Although self explanatory, don’t refer to me as a girl or assume my pronouns. If you don’t know, please just ask.

If you have a question, please ask. But make sure you listen to the answer instead of asking and reasking several times.

Sincerely,

Your friendly neighborhood trans guy.

“you hate cis people just for being cis so i can hate trans people just for being trans!”

listen

listen real nice and close

i don’t hate cis people just because they’re cis; that’s not how this shit works. i don’t even hate cis people, not in the way you’re thinking.

when i say “i hate cis people” i’m not saying i want cis people to die–you know, like how when cis people say they hate us they mean they want us to die. 

what i’m saying is i hate the transphobic shit i have to put up with every day. i hate hearing the kids at my school make jokes about how they want to “kill all tr**nnies, i hate that my own family talks about how disgusting i am, i hate that there are people who actively campaign against my basic human rights, i hate that there are people killing my trans siblings every damn day, and i hate that when it comes down to it, cis people just don’t care about us.

there is a fundamental difference between a cis person saying “i hate trans people” and a trans person saying “i hate cis people” and if you can’t understand that, you should really go outside into that “real world” you’re so fond of.

When I was in my third year of college, a classmate who had attended a panel I was on tweeted for me to stop looking at her and that I was “no better at being a girl” than she was. While the statement was obviously a specific instance of transmisogyny against me, I couldn’t help but feel that this was something I wasn’t alone in. I reached out to several other trans women who, like me, had trouble making eye contact yet were scared of being perceived as staring. I know my brows are powerful and glare is intense, but I still have trouble merely looking directly into another person’s eyes. Trans women are perceived as inherently predatory and dangerous and cisgender women are socialized to fear our presence. Trans-exclusionary “feminists” likewise view us as possessing the male gaze, something that is unavoidable unless we are not looking at all. Many trans people did not grow up having normal relationships with others and may be awkward with eye contact. Perceiving the moments when trans women look at people as us having bad intentions is never okay. In fact, it is usually cisgender straight people who stare at us who have the bad intentions instead. By getting to know trans people instead of making judgments like these, you can help end the stigma of our very ability to interact with others.

A lot of people said it in January, let’s say it again: the large number of laws and measures that attack transgender people is a deliberate attempt to devide the LGBT community. Republicans know that a lot of cisgender LGB people won’t raise a finger to help transgender people or will actively support transphobic measures, which is why they’re attacking transgender people first and hardest. They will come for gay rights once they have sufficiently devided the LGBT movement. So if you care about gay rights, what you need to do right now is fight like hell for transgender rights.

Cis positivity

Cis people are so beautiful and important…I love them… They r nice n good and very precious and we should protect them 💕

Equality vs. Hate

What I am here for, equality

Racial equality

gender equality

LGBT equality

What I am not here for, hate

Hating white people in the name of racial equality

Hating on cisgendered/heterosexual people in the name of LGBT equality

Hating men in the name of gender equality

social justice warriors

Straight and cisgender people are the most visible people on planet earth, not just because of their sheer numbers, but because their relationships, sexuality, and gender expressions are seen as the ‘normative’ expressions, and therefore, uplifted and repeated in every community around the country. Straight, cisgender people hold hands as they walk down the street without fear of getting accosted. They watch television shows and movies, listen to music, and read books that center on their relationships and gender expression. The majority of advertisements on billboards, websites, and television center on heterosexual and cisgender people. And our government is set up to privilege and favor heterosexual relationships above all others. In short, straight people flaunt their straightness all day, every day, in every part of this country. And despite the far-right narrative that the 'gays’ are taking over our country, for a majority of LGBT+ people in America, it is still incredibly uncomfortable at best, and dangerous at worst, to express ourselves in our communities. In a majority of states across our country, our rights and dignity are not fully protected by the law, and, in fact, there are fierce movements that seek to oppress and marginalize us and our relationships.
—  Why Pride? An Explanation For Straight People | Brandan Robertson for the Huffington Post 

Trans Women: Go through intensely painful medical procedures like having our faces literally burnt by high-power lasers for the express purpose of avoiding violence at the hands of cisgender people.

Cisgender People: Act like being asked to call us by our real name and pronouns is some kind of huge imposition.

“the A is for ally because it represents people who are closeted uwu”

Ok, no.

So you’re an exclusionist trying to prove the A isn’t for ace. You have one of two options. “A is for ally” or “A is for ally meaning closeted people” Either you actually DO want cisgender heterosexual people in the LGBTQ+ community, so long as they’re not ace, or you cling to the idea of “yeah we say allies are included, but we really mean closeted LGBTQ+ people, not actual straight cis allies”

And as a closeted bisexual you know what? Fuck that. Do you know how dangerous that is? You’re so desperate to exclude aspec people that you’re just going to willfully endanger the people you pretend you DO care about? If it becomes commonly believed that calling yourself an ally means you’re really a closeted member of the community, people like me who have to pretend that no we really are straight and/or cis we just support those who aren’t (and my super homophobic family is already super upset about the fact that I don’t think it’s good to hate gay people) are going to be put in potentially dangerous situations.

If my family heard that “A stands for ally, which really means closeted LGBTQ+ people” they would be trying to bully me into conversion therapy immediately. Would they physically harm me? No. But they would drag me to church to be prayed over and quite probably disown me if they couldn’t “fix” me with prayers and therapy. And other people would be at risk of physical harm and abuse from bigoted and abusive families, partners, etc. But exclusionists don’t care about that as long as they can claim the A is for anything but aces/aros.

Aspec people are part of the LGBTQIA+ community if they want to be, they obviously need support more than actual straight allies, and for the love of all that is good don’t out people to further your shitty “discourse”