in high school i told a friend i was never going to say “i don’t know” ever again, and if someone asked me a question i really, really didn’t know the answer to, i was just going to make something up. you know, for the giggles.
but instead she got this horrified look and put her hand on my shoulder and said,
“emma, no—that’s what men do.”
anyway that’s how i realized what mansplaining was.