chopsticks manner

xmh; as it should be

Originally posted by minghaeo

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Summary: It had been a long day, and when you got to your apartment, there was a surprise waiting for you. (It’s really cheesy sorry)

Warnings: none, seventeen is too fluffy for warnings

Words: 1.1k


It wasn’t necessarily a bad day, just busy. Where you worked was always popular, but at least the regulars were nice. The really stressful part of the day was closing, you hated the job with a passion. All of your thoughts from the day could catch up with you then. You thought about Minghao, and his well-being. You thought about worst case scenarios and let your mind mull over them, and then roam to even worse ones.

What if Minghao hurt himself, and I wasn’t there? Would he hate me, would he be mad?’ You thought to yourself, you knew the answer to all of those worries were no, but sometimes you couldn’t be sure. dating an idol in general was stressful, especially when their group was getting more popular by the song.

Am I really what’s best for him?’ That thought had always been with you, since the first time he asked you out on a date. Were you really what was best for Minghao. It was painful to think that you weren’t, but you never asked him to reassure you. Most people think that an imagination is the best thing on the planet, but when your imagination roams to far, it starts to turn your dreams into nightmares. 

“(Name), go home. I’ll take care of the rest,” your coworker, and also the head waitress in the restaurant, prodded, “you’ve closed for three days in a row this week. Go relax.” You nodded, and offered her a small, tired smile. She grinned back, and motioned for you to get out the door.

On the way home, you wondered if Minghao would even be back at the apartment. Lately, he was always out with the boys, either filming V-Lives or practicing. While the cold fall air circled around your head, you let the good side of your imagination peek through. You imagined him leading you on a small scavenger hunt, with a huge kiss at the end. You imagined a big dinner, and a walk in the park. This imagination, you happened to like much better.


“Hey, Ming! I’m home!” You shouted, but got no reply. You walked into your bedroom, and dove onto your bed. It was soft and comfortable, and it still smelled like Minghao’s cologne. You snuggled into the sheets, planning to wait for Minghao to get home That is until your stomach had other plans.

You trudged to the kitchen, but stopped halfway there when you heard a voice.

“When is she supposed to be here?! I’ve been waiting thirty minutes! I even went to go get food!” The voice whisper-yelled to himself, and you smiled knowingly. The smirk on your face grew, as you slunk behind Minghao, hands contorted like claws.

“Gotcha!” You shouted, tackling Minghao onto the couch. He screamed, and started to thrash around. 

“I know martial arts!”

“I know you know martial arts, Ming,” you replied, as he stopped thrashing, “I’ve been your girlfriend ever since you accidentally punched me in the face on our first date.”

“Oh, it’s just you. I thought there was someone in our house,” Minghao laughed. You feigned a look of hurt, and lifted up a bit, so he could flip himself over.

“Just me?” You asked, “How rude.” Minghao laughed, as he brught you into his chest. The bouncing of his shoulders made you smile, and laugh yourself. It was unusual that you both were awake when the other was in the house, so you tried to make the most of it.

“Oh, I’m sorry, (Name). You aren’t “just you,” you’re just perfect.” His words make your heart flutter, like always. You glanced up at him and pecked him on the lips.

“Thank you, Ming.”

“No problem,” he laughed, looking behind himself for a second, “oh, and I also brought food. It’s takeout, so it’s not much, but it’s your favorite.” Grin widening, you clambered off of him, and raced to the kitchen, where you found two pairs of chopsticks. You knew table manners were important, but you were starving. You hadn’t had anything since your lunch break.

It had been a few minutes, and Ming still hadn’t shown to eat his food. Your brow furrowed, and you went in to check on him, in the living room. He was standing there, dressed in a professional looking tux, cursing and trying to tie his own tie.

“Ming, what’s going on?” You asked, wearily. He spun around, and the look on his face was priceless. It was a mixture of shock and embarrassment. You held in your laughter, and went to tie his tie.

“Well, I wanted to surprise you, but I couldn’t get my tie to tie,” he admitted. You burst into laughter, and looked up at his pouting face.

“You don’t need to do this, Ming. You love me, and that’s enough.”

“Stop ruining the moment, (Name). I’m trying to do something nice,” he protested, “and we both know I’m not very good with words, so, (Name), may I have this dance?” He held his hand out, and you reached out to take it, but pulled away with a smirk on your face.

“I don’t know … are you gonna punch me?”

“I might if you don’t accept my hand,” Minghao replied, playfully with an innocent smile on his face. You grabbed his hand, and he reached over, turning soft classical music on. he pulled you into his chest once more, and rested his head on your shoulder.

The two of you danced in silence. He dipped you, and spun you around, laughing whenever you happened to step on his feet. Your favorite part though, was when he and you sat down on the couch, hand in hand, and just cuddled. He had his head in your lap, and played with your fingers, wiggling them and squeezing them. You, with your free hand, played with his dark brown locks.

“Did you know, that you aren’t only my girlfriend?” Minghao asked. You looked down at him, smiling.

“What else am I?” 

“You’re my world, and I love you from the bottom of my heart,” he replied. You leaned down, and kissed him. It wasn’t fast, but it wasn’t slow. It was soft and delicate, but passionate at the same time.

“Xu Minghao, how is it possible to love someone as much as I love you?” You asked. He grinned, and cupped your cheek with his gentle hand.

“It’s not. Our love is one of a kind,” he answered. With that, the two of you fell into a comfortable silence, and eventually, the two of you fell asleep. Minghao was still in his tux, and you were still in your uniform, but that didn’t matter. For a little while, everything was as it should’ve been. 

Everything was perfect.

hetaliafandomhubepsilon  asked:

Hello! To start off your Ambassador work, can you tell us about common superstitions in your country? Thank you! (If you would like a different question, let me know)!

Hello! Well, most Japanese superstitions are from other countries, such as China, and there are quite a number of them. Some superstitions are same or similar with some superstitions from Asian countries. Many of the Japanese superstitions comes from old folk wisdom and some had changed over the years and some stayed mostly the same. 

Here are some common/well known ones:

Good superstitions

  • If a black cat crosses your path, it brings good luck
  • Tea stalk floating, sign for good luck
  • Use Maneki Neko (good for business, and there are different types with different meaning!)
  • If you see a spider in the morning it’s good luck, but not at night
  • Keep a shed skin of a snake in your wallet and you’ll become rich
  • Hang “teru-teru bozu” and tomorrow’s weather will be sunny (hung it upside down for rain”
  • Make 1000 paper cranes and make your wish come true
  • Eat Kit Kat, to win (popular among students because Kit Kat sounds like 「きっと勝」/Kitto Katsu, meaning “a sure to win”


Bad superstitions 

  • Unlucky number 4 (because in Japanese 4/四 is pronounced “shi” which is the same pronunciation for “death/死”
  • Unlucky number 9 (in Japanese 9/九 is pronounced “ku” which is the same pronunciation for “suffering/苦”
  • Play with fire, you’ll wet your bed
  • Don’t lay down straight after eating, or you’ll become fat
  • Whistle or play flute at night, a snake will come to you
  • Sleeping with your head to north, you’ll have a short life
  • Cutting your nails at night, you will not be at your parent’s deathbed
  • Breaking comb or the strap of “geta” sandals, will bring misfortune
  • Writing a person’s name in red ink
  • Hide your bellybutton when there’s a thunder, or the lightning god will steal it
  • Sticking chopsticks upright into rice/or any food (it means that it’s food for the deceased ones)
  • Passing food from chopsticks to chopsticks (only done in funeral when the deceased is being cremated and their bones are transferred to the urn)
  • The middle person, from a photo of three people side by side, will die earlier than the other two people

There are more bad superstitions which causes bad luck or some misfortunes. Most of them are made or are said to avoid big accidents such as playing with fire and wetting your bed. This has a meaning of don’t play with fire or there’ll be a large damage in the future, in the context it’s wetting your bed but this is to avoid fire accidents. 
The chopstick ones are not just considered as superstitions and if you do them in public, it is very rude so learn your chopstick manners before you visit Japan!

I hope there’s enough superstitions to get you guys started!
If you have any questions feel free to message/ask me
お便り待ってまーす

**(long post but very important)**

  • In Japan, chopsticks are used for eating. The two thin sticks are manipulated using four fingers of the right hand (or the left hand if you’re left-handed), and are used for all eating maneuvers, including picking up, tearing, and cutting
  • In Japanese homes, each person has their own set of chopsticks. There are various rules on how to use them, and things you’re not supposed to do with chopsticks include licking them, sticking them into food, pulling dishes with them, and placing them on top of plates.
  • Chopsticks have to be picked up with both hands. First, lift up the chopsticks with the right hand. Put the left hand under the chopsticks and lift them with the right hand, and move the right hand under the chopsticks to support them from below. The upper stick should be placed between the middle finger and the index finger, fastened by two fingers. The upper stick is the only one to move. When you put down the chopsticks, just follow the procedure in reverse. First support the chopsticks with the left hand, and place them down with the right hand. (see title photo above for correct positioning)
  • You should not hold your chopsticks and dishes together in the same hand. If you want to eat dishes placed on your left side, you will naturally pick them with your left hand. In this case, it is perfectly ok for you to already hold your chopsticks on your right hand. However, when you want to eat dishes placed on your right hand, you will reach them with your right hand. In this case, you first pass the dish you picked to your left hand to empty your right one, then, hold your chopsticks with your right hand. So, in this sense, you should not already hold your chopsticks on your right hand.
  • In the middle of a meal, where do you place your chopsticks? If there is a chopstick rest, you can place them right there. If there is no such thing, you can use the paper wrapper that came with the chopsticks and fold it into a shape like an accordion. If the chopsticks did not come with any paper wrapper, you have no choice but leaning the tip of them against some of the plates, or place them straight over some empty plates. When you finish eating, put the chopsticks and toothpicks back into the paper folder they came with. Those are good manners.
  • When hosting guests, it is actually more polite to serve disposable chopsticks made of willow, or plain wood, etc. than laying out reusable ones. Therefore, it is very likely that you as a guest encounter disposable chopsticks called waribashi (割箸) . When splitting them open, waribashi should be brought down close to your knees, so as not to hit any of the plates on the table. Use both hands to break them into two horizontally by pulling the stick that is closer to you. Using the image of opening a fan might help break disposable chopsticks more neatly (see picture below). Using your mouth to break them might look cool, but contravenes table manners.

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Chopstick Taboos: (things you shouldn’t do while using chopsticks)

  • Age-bashi: (あげ箸) Lifting chopsticks above the mouth, which makes it easy to drop food.
  • Chigiri-bashi: (ちぎり箸) Tearing food apart by holding one chopstick with each hand.
  • Furi-bashi: (振り箸) Shaking off liquid at the tip of chopsticks.
  • Furiage-bashi: (振上げ箸) Swinging the hand that is holding chopsticks.
  • Kaki-bashi: (かき箸) Shoveling food into the mouth by chopsticks, with the mouth at the edge of a rice bowl.
  • Komi-bashi: (込み箸) Stuffing the mouth with a lot of food by chopsticks.
  • Kosuri-bashi: (こすり箸) Rubbing off a fine split of disposable wooden chopsticks.
  • Mayoi-bashi: (迷い箸) Roaming chopsticks around plates wondering what to eat next.
  • Mochi-bashi: (持ち箸) Holding chopsticks with a hand already holding a dish.
  • Mogi-bashi: (もぎ箸) Picking a grain of rice at the tip of chopsticks by month.
  • Namida-bashi: (涙箸) Conveying food to the mouth while dripping liquid from soup or soy sauce.
  • Neburi-bashi: (ねぶり箸) Licking the tip of chopsticks.
  • Nigiri-bashi: (握り箸) Gripping chopsticks tightly with one hand.
  • Saguri-bashi: (探り箸) Fumbling the dishes such as soup to see what’s inside using chopsticks.
  • Sakasa-bashi: (逆さ箸) Using chopsticks upside down.
  • Sashi-bashi (tsuki-bashi): (刺し箸) / (突き箸) Sticking the dish with chopsticks. When dish is slippery, it will slip out of plates.
  • Sora-bashi: (そら箸) Not grabbing any food even though you brought chopsticks near the dish.
  • Sukashi-bashi: (すかし箸) When eating fish, scraping out fish meat between back bones of fish.
  • Takegi-bashi: (竹木箸 ) Eating food with unmatched pair of chopsticks.
  • Tataki-bashi: (たたき箸) Tapping plates with chopsticks.
  • Tate-bashi: (立て箸) Sticking chopsticks on rice in a rice bowl.
  • Utsuri-bashi: (移り箸) Moving chopsticks from one dish to another, which leaves the taste of previous dish in the mouth.
  • Utsushi-bashi (hiroi-bashi): (移し箸) / (拾い箸) Passing food from one person to the other by chopsticks, which is especially abhorred as it is done at crematory for picking up bones of the deceased.
  • Watashi-bashi: (渡し箸) Laying chopsticks over a plate of dish.
  • Yoji-bashi (seseri-bashi): (楊枝箸) / (せせり箸) Using chopsticks as substitute for toothpicks to pick between teeth.
  • Yose-bashi: (寄せ箸) Pull dish to yourself by using chopsticks.