choosing a blogging platform

the-mad-sherlock  asked:

Do you have an Irish accent Arty?

Artemis: You have the opportunity to ask any question, but you choose to use that privilege to inquire, 

on a written blog platform,

if I, Artemis Fowl II, heir of an ancient Irish family, have an Irish accent.

The thing that annoys me the most, @staff , is how little sense the “best stuff first” update makes except as a vehicle for ad revenue.

  • We already have “recommended for you” posts and blogs
  • The whole point of reblogging is to share things with our followers, so to arbitrarily decide what order people see things in is abjectly against what I believed the whole point of this “micro-blogging platform” was!
  • Having an algorithm choosing post order means queued posts are all but pointless! 
    • This is not an excuse to get rid of that functionality.  
The Difference Between Friends and Friendly

The popularity on the internet post that no one asked for.

So a very short while ago I reblogged a post about how “popular” people on the internets do not owe your their time, energy, or friendship and how fans writing in asking to be friends with said popular person rarely actually become lasting fans. OP had gotten a lot of pushback for the post, if you look in the notes, which prompted me to write a standalone on it as well.

But I feel like there’s still some points being missed, here.

Being a fan of a few “popular” folks myself, I can understand where some people are coming from when they feel as though they could be friends with a friendly persona. Taking a random example- I watch a lot of Markiplier videos. I have a heart condition that makes playing any jumpscare games a very much dangerous idea for me, but some have really good stories, so I watch them through let’s plays and that means sometimes I watch Mark scream like a baby. And, you know, the persona is friendly. He seems to genuinely care about his fans (certainly says so in many videos). We know a lot of little snippets about his life as he shares stories about his family, his health, or his past. And it can seem, almost, like he’s one of our friends.

He’s not. I’m sure he’s a friendly guy, but he’s not our friend. We know bits and pieces about him that he chooses to share on his own time with the power of video editing. Some of us may have met him at conventions or gaming events. But we don’t know him personally, he’s not an active constant in our lives outside of his videos, and we only see what he lets us see. Markiplier, for most people, is friendly.

A friend is more than that. A friend is the person you call at midnight to talk you out of hurting yourself. A friend is the person you rant about your negative feelings to. A friend is the person who knows more about you than just the front you put up for everyone else. A friend is the person who sees the best and the worst of you and still chooses to keep your company. A friend is the person who you end a chat with “thanks for always listening to me, man, you’re always there for me”.

And I’m not saying this because I am his friend- I’m not. He doesn’t know who I am. He’s never met me. We’ve never interacted outside of me subscribing to his channel. I don’t comment on his videos, I don’t reblog things from his tumblr, I don’t leave messages on his FB. It’s not how I roll. I say it because I can distinguish between “friends” and “friendly”, and because I respect him enough as a person to understand that in his shoes I don’t think I could deal with 10 million or more fans not knowing where that line is drawn either.

And it can be hard, at times, to distinguish the difference in platforms like tumblr, in which user interactions are front and center. Between asks, fanmail, reblogs, replies (whompwhomp), and messages, there’s no shortage of ways to contact each other. And sometimes, friendly communication happens, but it doesn’t automatically make you friends.

I’ll give another example- being labeled a “popular” dogblr after hitting 1k earlier this year and 2k last week. I host streams every now and then. I interact with followers who choose to watch and type directly, by speaking to them or occasionally taking suggestions. Whether or not I am necessarily friends with the people there, I suppose that would depend on how well I know them. There are some people who show up where I know their url and the name of their dog and that’s it. And- I’m friendly to those people, but they aren’t my friends. I don’t know anything about them! We barely talk, if ever! It’s not like I’m necessarily going to drive someone away just because I might not know them, but my first reaction isn’t going to be “oo! new person talking to me! instant friend!” My first reaction is going to be to greet them, make conversation, and continue chatting with everyone else there whether they are friends or just people with urls I recognize.

And it’s not like I’ll never be friends with anyone that shows up in my streams, or like there’s no people I consider friends in those streams. Just that not everyone there has the status of “friend” to me. They are people I am friendly with, but they aren’t people who know the things about me that my friends do. There is distance there, and some distance can be healthy, even crucial, to maintaining certain relationships or personas.

I strike up friendly conversation on tumblr all the time, of my own volition. I share details about myself all the time, of my own volition. But that doesn’t mean that knowing what I choose to share means you know me. You don’t.

I’ve brought up before, on here, how sometimes I forget to share negative experiences I’ve had with Creed, because this is a blog that I choose to use as a platform to celebrate my life with him. I don’t want a lot of negativity on this blog as a result, so I choose not to share frustrations or “bad” things until after they’re resolved. It’s not like I’m trying to hide it, it’s just not what this blog is about and thus it doesn’t get talked about unless someone makes a lucky guess and asks about it. A lot of people who see him working with me were surprised to learn that at one point I was so frustrated with him that I thought about, more than once, giving him back to his breeder. I didn’t, obviously, but the thought had occurred to me.

Because that was never shared, what was shared colored people’s expectations of what our journey was like, and quite a few were not only surprised but also really angry to hear that I was so close to giving up. Some were angry because they were mad that I would even contemplate it. Some were angry that I wasn’t the perfect dog owner they thought I was (still not that, sorry). Some were angry that I hadn’t shared that fact sooner when they were struggling with their own dogs, as they thought it would have helped them push on through.

And that is my point. Those who are not “friends” are not my friends because they don’t know anything about me outside of what I choose to share. For better or for worse. And while I’m certainly very happy that apparently 2032 people think my blog is worth reading, I can honestly say that I don’t see myself being close friends with even 10% of that. I’m an extrovert, but relationships with me are so much more than all the positive Creed things I share on this blog.

When you are a fan of someone who is friendly, you set yourself up for disappointment when you turn them into some gold standard human ideal and then become infatuated with the idea of being friends with that ideal. I’m human! I make mistakes! I sneeze and fart too! So is every person the internet has labeled “popular”. You cannot admire someone, no matter how friendly, and actually be their friend. You must accept their faults and weaknesses as an equal part of them to their strengths to be their friend, and you can’t do that if you put them on a pedestal.

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Photo grabbed from Ate Yesha’s blog.

Way back then, my idea of having a tumblr account is just merely for photo and literary masterpiece reblogging. Though I know some people who use this site to express and showcase their talents, abilities, insights and even their personal lives, I still feel indifferent about this function. Until last year when one of the worst times in my life came and all I can do is to find an outlet to express what I feel inside. That’s the beginning of my journey as a tumblr blogger.

I can still remember how I feel so out-of-place every time I read the interaction of other bloggers saying that they get bundle of TAs, fanmails and even reblogs. During those times, I don’t really care for as long as they are following me and so I am. But this feeling change when I bumped into a beautiful (yes, I mean it) blog run by Fatima Eayesha S. Sali. I am guilty of love-at-first-sight upon seeing her theme. It was so organized and full of passion; it reflects her personality. Added to that is her dedication to make blog entries every now and then which probably came from her heart – her love story with Amado. From then on, she became my inspiration, my cyber friend or more likely – an influencer

I became interested (and even affected) with her posts. Sometimes, I’m wishing that I could be like her. She blogs with her emotions and she make sure that she can interact with every people around tumblr. Here’s a sneak peak of my interview with her:

Why did you choose tumblr as your blogging platform?

I have lots of different blogging site account, but Tumblr is the best because it lets you talk/communicate easily to other bloggers. I also had a chance to meet different people, not only from our country, but also from different countries & continent! And I definitely love how nice tumblr people are.

Why do you blog?

I blog because it is my only escape. I blog to express my own feelings, to let people know who is the real me — inside & outside Tumblr.

What do you feel when you get feedback from your followers?

Butterflies in my stomach, flying above the clouds, and of course, I feel like in heaven because of happiness! I can’t believe how nice people from Tumblr are, way different from the “real” world. No lies & pretenses!

What are your strengths and weaknesses as a blogger?

My friends here are my strength! They’re one of the reason why I blog, and of course, my inspiration and my other half, Amado.

One of my weaknesses are those bloggers who stabs me at the back(yes, I know some). Of course, my haters. No matter how kind I am, there are still some who hates me, I know that & I can feel it.

Get to know Ate Yesha! Click this!

She is not literally crazy, she is crazily gorgeous!! Won’t you agree with me?