choosies

Some notes about Hauen & her mamae

  • Some of the more intrinsic, subconscious level clashing between them (from Hauen’s side, really) comes from Hauen being Chaotic Neutral & Arlu’vunen being Lawful Evil
  • Arlu’vunen is too rigid, step by step, and goal oriented for Hauen’s more laissez-faire ways
  • Hauen is Arlu’vunen’s first and eldest child, but Hauen has several half-siblings
  • Hauen, being the first, also provided Arlu’vunen, who is simply a cold and distant person by nature, with some very important lessons on the fact children really need open affection and nurturing atop the underlying lessons
  • Hauen doesn’t actually know how many half-sibs she has (spoiler: ~7, give or take a couple) due to Arlu’vunen being deeply secretive & choosy by nature & has children for strategic choices, atop their own desire to continue their lineage
  • She could well have a sibling born within the Dragon Age (and could be elf or half-elf of some combo as Arlu’vunen is choosy only in the sense of what best works for them)
  • Atop the fact Arlu’vunen has a large adopted (literally and mentor-speaking) brood as well
  • Hauen gets twitchy (even as an adult) knowing that her sibs got more open affection than she did, even if she is loved equally by her mamae, because open, blatant affection + praise is what she craved the most as a child
And how hard is it to land even a minimum-wage job? This year, the Ivy League college admissions acceptance rate was 8.9%. Last year, when Walmart opened its first store in Washington, D.C., there were more than 23,000 applications for 600 jobs, which resulted in an acceptance rate of 2.6%, making the big box store about twice as selective as Harvard and five times as choosy as Cornell. Telling unemployed people to get off their couches (or out of the cars they live in or the shelters where they sleep) and get a job makes as much sense as telling them to go study at Harvard.
We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.
—  Ryan O’Connell, You Don’t Have to Be Friends with Everybody 

“One beautiful thing about advocating for the poor is that feminist ideals are advanced naturally. In order to fight eviction from their homes, women whose patriarchy has kept them secluded have been allowed to emerge into public life. Their husbands have been forced to choose their homes over their idea of honor. Even within my organization, the patriarchy is being broken down. Energetic young females are beginning to share influence with older male members. When you’re in a tough fight for a common cause, you can’t afford to be choosy about where the best ideas are coming from.”

(Hunza Valley, Pakistan)

8 Things No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Are people confused whether you’re an extrovert or introvert? When you’re out enjoying your social life the world buzzes around you. You have fun and you do what excites and stimulates you with friends. Everyone likes to unwind after a long day, but your mind and body require it more than most.

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19 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Introverted

Posted on July 22, 2014 by Christian M. Lyons

1. You’re not anti-social, you’re selectively social. It’s not that you don’t like going out, it’s that you are very choosy about when, where, and for how long. 

2. At any given point, you have one (maybe two) best friends who are your entire life. You’re not a “group of friends” person. You can’t keep up with all that. This small group are those you know well, trust implicitly, and with whom you feel the most comfortable. 

3. Social gatherings that are supposed to be “rites of passage” like prom and dances and other such typical nonsense is just… not for you. You don’t understand it. You want nothing to do with it.  You don’t need a flimsy reason to go out, and these events seem just like that to you.

4. When you do choose to grace a party with your presence, you are the life of it. You’re dancing on the table and doing body shots until 3 a.m.  This is not to imply that you’re arrogant or snooty…it’s just that once you decide to commit to it, you actually commit to it. 

5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover. Naturally.

6. You go out of your way to avoid people, but when you inevitably have to interact with them, you make it seem like there’s nothing in the world you’d rather be doing.  Because you are such an active and interested listener, you are able to fully focus on others when you find them interesting and engaging.  That is, you don’t participate in small talk (and why should you?), but if it’s a topic you’re truly interested in, you’re an amazing conversational partner. 

7. Dating is weird, because you’re smiling and laughing and talkative at dinner, and then you don’t want to answer their texts for days, because like, you just want to be left alone…  And there’s nothing wrong with that. 

8. You’re accused of being flirty with everybody, which is hilarious, because in reality, you can only tolerate like four people.  Flirting is your way of being in control of social situations.  For you are not entirely comfortable in such settings many times, you can always find a way to make it bearable.  

9. You retain an air of mystery about you, completely unintentionally. (There’s no mystery. You just feel no need to update the social sphere on what’s going on in your life every two hours.)  You can blame reality television for others’ need to continually provide updates on every little thing they’re doing, because non-introverts often act as if they’re appearing on their own reality show.  

10. Not to mention the fact that you either have days in which you’re tweeting and status updating every five minutes… or you delete your accounts for a month.  We’ve all done it.  Sometimes, you just. need. a break.

11. You become unintentionally awkward because you at once feel the need to be a social life jacket for other people, though you’re just as uncomfortable yourself.  You are sensitive to the discomfort of others, so often because it reflects you’re own discomfort in such settings.  But you’ve developed you own personal safety feature to rescue yourself, and therefore cannot abide by allowing others to suffer through the same intense feelings.  

12. You’ve never really understood the whole “introvert vs. extrovert” dichotomy (can we call it that?) Because you’re… both…  And that’s where the term “ambivert” comes in.  No one truly falls on that spectrum at the extreme ends of it.  

13. You’re always run through the ringer because people think you’re best suited to be the one who gives the presentation, confronts the boss, gives the speech, etc. Meanwhile, you’re practically throwing up over the thought of it.  Your choice to keep to yourself often gives others the impression — wrong or right — that you are much more capable of saying things to others, and that they’ll listen…because you speak so infrequently, your words carry more weight. 

14. You ebb and flow between wanting to be noticed for your hard work, reveling in the attention and achievement you receive, to sinking and panicking over the thought of somebody else paying more than 30 seconds of attention to you.  You prefer to operate behind the scenes.  Let the extroverts take the spotlight.  That’s where they thrive. 

15. The entirety of your being is a conundrum, so needless to say, indecisiveness is your Achilles’ Heel.  This is not always true.  Many introverts are fully capable of being decisive.  But when it comes to leaving your comfort zone, you really have to wait until you determine how prepared you are to participate.  And sometimes, that doesn’t come until the last minute. 

16. You’re at your happiest in places like coffee shops and cafés: surrounded by people, but still closed off and keeping to yourself. In this way, you can feel like you’re part of the crowd without actually having to immerse yourself in it. 

17. You prefer to travel alone, but meet up with people once you’re there, on your own terms and at your own speed.  Not only in traveling, but in most situations, you prefer to be in control of your comfort levels. 

18. It’s taken you years to figure out that you’re different than many introverts you know. Literally years.  Because the spectrum has always been presented as either/or, you may not have realized that ambivert was also a choice.  Until now.  

19. While we were chastised as children for daydreaming, we do so deliberately as adultsas our inner lives are rich, fertile, and sustain us.  And daydreaming doesn’t necessarily mean that your head is in the clouds.  It also means that you could be contemplating issues that no one else is aware that you even know about.  And then you come up with — as if out of the blue — stunning solutions that no one else had taken the time to think through. 

We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.
—  Ryan O’Connell
The Venus Signs - Your art, beauty and love

Your Venus sign is how you approach love, how you appreciate and express beauty and art.

Venus in Aries: Venus in Aries’ love to be flattered and desire affection. Their passionate in their love and are attracted to dominant partners.

Venus in Taurus: Venus in Taurus’ are sensual lovers who tend to be quite jealous and possessive. They are affectionate and faithful.  

Venus in Gemini:Venus in Geminis’ desire mental stimulation and it can be quite hard to keep them around as they fall in and out of love fast. They are flirtatious and fickle.

Venus in Cancer:Venus in Cancers’ desire consistency and faithfulness in a partner, they can be moody and emotionally possessive and are attracted to maternal types.

Venus in Leo:Venus in Leos’ desire adoration and are very amorous and warm-hearted. They are generous yet vain and are attracted to strong personalities

Venus in Virgo: Venus in Virgos’ are quite choosy and idealistic when it comes to partners, they are sensuous and reserved, they are attracted to “perfection”.

Venus in Libra: Venus in Libras’ look for completion in their partner.They Charming and romantic as well as accommodating and self-indulgent. 

Venus in Scorpio: Venus in Scorpios’ are seen as lusty and jealous, they are attracted to mystery and are intense and faithful.

Venus in Sagittarius: Venus in Sagittarius’ look for companionship in a partner, they are independent and flirty, yet can be promiscuous

Venus in Capricorn: Venus in Capricorns’ likes respectability, status is important to them and they have a cool demeanor until they get hot under the collar. They are faithful partners

Venus in Aquarius: Venus in Aquarius’ needs emotional freedom. Falling in love isn’t a walk in the park for them but they make supportive and loving partners.

Venus in Pisces: Venus in Pisces’ are very accommodating and romantic, they desire emotional synchronicity and are naturally seductive.

I can’t bring myself to do fanart of something unless I really, really love it… nothing against fanart other folks do, I just am choosy in what I want to paint! Well, I really, really love Legend of Zelda, and Majora’s Mask especially has SUCH neat imagery. I was psyched about the re-release about a year or two in advance, when it was still just speculation, and it was really cool to see it come to fruition!

Anyway, I actually finished this painting… several months back? But had some minor edits to get around to, and then I forgot to actually post it, so uh… here you are!

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