children with aids

  •  if someone is not responding to you, they may not be just acting rude. They may actually not be able to hear you
  •  when you find out out someone is deaf, please try not to let the first words that come out of your mouth be “I’m sorry.” or “I could never live like that.” Deafness is not some terminal illness that we suffer through everyday.
  •  If you see someone struggling to communicate, please do not make them the center of attention. Trust me. The last thing I want when I can’t understand is someone pointing out that I can’t understand.
  •  if someone is struggling to communicate, and you know sign language, please ASK before you start interpreting. Yes, we appreciate the kind offer, but not everyone is comfortable with some stranger intervening. Also, not all deaf people know sign. 
  • -When you see someone with hearing loss jamming to their music in public, and you can hear it, please do not ask them to turn it down. It’s really ruse, considering it may just be loud enough for them to hear it or feel the vibrations.
  •  NEVER cover your mouth and ask if we can hear/understand you.It’s really insensitive. Most of the time, reading lips is very important for people who are deaf to communicate.
  •  Obviously, never ask how they get and keep their jobs. I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain this one.
  • Do not, DO NOT, under any circumstances, encourage or promote the use of technical devices such as hearing aids or cochlears to ANY deaf person. Many of us struggled with these devices as children. As we get older, we start to decide for ourselves if we want to use them. I respect people who their devices, but i do not respect hearing people who know nothing about them suggesting them.
  •  do not ask “if you’re deaf, how can you speak so well?” It’s basically the same kind of thing as above. many deaf children are fitted for hearing aids/cochlears and sent to speech therapy the minute their hearing parents find out. Some deaf people can speak, some people can sign and speak, and some can sign. It’s honestly their choice, and sometimes it’s not a choice.
  • if there’s anything else that you want to know, but just for a slight moment you think “I don’t want to come across as rude,” DO NOT ASK.
  • Thank you for reading. The Deaf Community would love it if these were actually followed. :)
Haven’t we done this already?

I don’t get why anyone votes republican anymore. I get that these are new faces, but does no one see how the folks in congress and in trump’s cabinet are the same guys we’ve been fighting against since Britain?

The Revolutionary War

Patriots: “Lets fight tyranny and have the rights of the people on this land heard and held by themselves.”

Loyalist: “These violent radicals are going against the government. They’ll ruin our very way of life. We should try to find a more conservative route and not be so loud about our problems. It’s to soon to be talking about these issues right now. Our leaders will handle it in their own time. I hear they’re considering ending slavery.”

Civil War

Abolitionists: “Slavery is Bad. Lets end it.”

Slave Owners: “These simpletons are destroying state’s rights. They’re literally ripping this nation apart. Our economy depends on this. Farm families, which are the lifeblood and backbone that this nation prides itself on, will be forced into bankruptcy, and it will all be because of these insane instigators of our traditions.”

World War 2

Franklin Roosevelt: “Nazi’s are bad, and we need to stop them by any mean before they take over the world.”

Congress: “This is not what the american people want. This is being taken out of proportion, and negative Nancy boys are just not understanding another point of view and rushing to judgment about this man. We don’t need to blow up this situation but should instead be focusing on all those immigrants hurting and killing real Americans.”

Civil Rights

Blacks: “We want equal rights.”

Democrats: “Communists! Drug dealing communists! These people are trying to smash the sacred system of government, and we need to send police forces into their meetings where all those drugs and guns are before they cause anarchy with their terrorist intentions. Also, while we’re here, gays are trying to molest your children and give them aids.”

Right Now

Everyone not Republican/fascist/ alt-right: “Stop trying to destroy the environment, take away women’s/gays/trans people/any race that isn’t white/ any non-christian man’s rights away, remove regulations that keep companies from abusing us medically and financially, and spend our tax money on improving institutions every person in this nation should have so that we can become a strong nation that pushes the world forward to a brighter future from the bottom up instead of a failed trickle down.”

Most Republicans except maybe John McCain: “Shut up. Fake News. PC bad.”


So … my husband is kind of the best person on the planet.   I know, I know.. everyone has their own awesome people who they would challenge me with. But here’s just another reason why I’m so unbelievably grateful for mine.   This was his post on FB in response to SNL’s  HILARIOUS joke:   

So this “humor” is infuriating to me on many different levels.

First of all, there is the basic assumption that diabetes is caused by poor lifestyle choices. The cliche is obese, weak willed folks who would rather sacrifice their independence for another bite of cotton candy.

Diabetes kills more people each year than breast cancer and AIDS combined. Diabetes is hilarious.

By the way, where are the jokes about the slobs who gave themselves breast cancer or AIDS?

Oh I forgot, the poor children that get AIDS from blood transfusions, and the ladies who are genetically prone to cancer or exposed to environmental factors. It’s not their fault.

Wonder what my wife did to give herself diabetes at age 3? She must’ve done something to make her immune system render her pancreas useless. The laughs keep coming.

Type 2 is lifestyle though…well if that were the case how many of you bacon eating, craft beer swilling paradigms of health and fitness would have diabetes? It’s still genetic. Sure lifestyle choices can exacerbate health challenges but show me a person who gave themselves diabetes and i will show you the unicorn they rode in on.

“But so many diabetic people are fat fatties.”
Where my bro-science gym bros at? We all know insulin is a growth hormone right?
Maybe you’ve read about competitive bodybuilders supplementing insulin to get BIGGER?

So imagine your pancreas doesn’t work right you gotta take insulin to balance out blood sugar levels so you don’t die. You inject insulin, a growth hormone (makes tissue BIGGER, fatty tissue, muscle tissue), but it’s not an exact science because so much affects blood sugar; stress, exercise, other hormones in the body. So your sugar might crash….. and pancreas still don’t work. You gotta drink a lot of a sugary beverage or eat mass amounts of simple sugars like candy to raise the blood glucose level, again, so you don’t die. Those calories get stored somewhere. Sure diabetics have a choice. Most choose not to die, and we vilify them for being overweight.

Anyway I’m rambling…remind me why diabetes is funny again?

Sensory Help

My BFF is due in August (probably going to be early), and there’s a high possibility the child will have sensory issues since both mom and dad do. I’m looking for suggestions for sensory plush toys. You can tag me, send me messages, etc. Thank you in advance. And thank you to @grimthetransman for your suggestions and help. 

Dear Future Wife,

Sometimes, when I’m typing out an assignment, and I stop to take a break, I crack my knuckles, stretch my fingers out, and think about the relationship you’ll have with my hands.
I think about how you’ll intertwine your fingers with mine, how I’ll brush strands of hair away from your face when it’s windy and I want to look at you.

How my thumbs will gently dig into the muscles in your shoulders, working away the stress of a long day, and how you’ll hold your hands up against mine, comparing their sizes, marveling at how they fit together so well.
I wonder if you’ll be able to feel my pulse racing, the first time we hold hands, or if I’ll be able to feel yours when I cup your face in my hands to kiss you.

I think about the days you’ll come home, and I’ll be cooking; how I’ll dip my finger into the curry or the sauce, and hold it up for you to taste – relishing the feeling of my finger against your lips, while you enjoy the spice.
I think about my hands holding you, playing a crucial part in my memories of the way you feel on the rare nights we don’t get to sleep next to each other.

And I think about my hands holding our children, putting band-aids on tiny, scraped knees, fixing little ponytails, securing diapers, doing up the laces on the cutest little sneakers.
My hands were made to hold you, to work together with yours in building our lives together.


Charity is not supposed to be this difficult

I want to talk about the time Donald Trump put a charity’s entire staff through professional hell: 

In the fall of 1996, a charity called the Association to Benefit Children held a ribbon-cutting in Manhattan for a new nursery school serving children with AIDS. The bold-faced names took seats up front.

There was then-Mayor Rudolph W. Giuliani ® and former mayor David Dinkins (D). TV stars Frank and Kathie Lee Gifford, who were major donors. And there was a seat saved for Steven Fisher, a developer who had given generously to build the nursery.

Then, all of a sudden, there was Donald Trump….“There’s this kind of ruckus at the door, and I don’t know what was going on, and in comes Donald Trump. [He] just gets up on the podium and sits down.”

Trump was not a major donor. He was not a donor, period.


But now he was sitting in Fisher’s seat, next to Giuliani.

“Frank Gifford turned to me and said, ‘Why is he here?’ ” Buchenholz recalled recently. By then, the ceremony had begun. There was nothing to do.

“Just sing past it,” she recalled Gifford telling her.

So they warbled into the first song on the program, “This Little Light of Mine,” alongside Trump and a chorus of children — with a photographer snapping photos, and Trump looking for all the world like an honored donor to the cause.

Afterward, Disney and Buchenholz recalled, Trump left without offering an explanation. Or a donation. Fisher was stuck in the audience. The charity spent months trying to repair its relationship with him.

I can’t be clear enough: This is not done. One does not do this. Fainting couches would be appropriate, here. Everyone who was there, a collection of elites celebrating themselves, knew that is not done, too. This behavior is considered gauche even by the standard of rich people in Manhattan, just think about that.

The most frustrating thing that ever happened to me while working a high-dollar charity fundraiser was when a volunteer staffer took pledge information himself from our top major gift prospect who was leaving early, rather than ask for a grownup. We wanted to strangle the guy, but of course it was fine. The donor didn’t just up and forget. You get wound up at these things, because the big stuff (it rains and no one shows up, a wall collapses onto the assistant district attorney) is out of your control and the little stuff no one cares about (the cheese plate is almost empty!) is nonstop.

Party crashers happen, usually people experienced with the charity circuit, usually friends of friends of guests looking for free drinks. The check-in tables would be staffed with earnest volunteers or underpaid charity staffers who aren’t going to start fights. Maybe they call their boss over to give the ok, and their boss does not have time for this shit and needs a few more bodies to fill the room anyway and waves them in. Maybe the party crasher even throws in $10 for a raffle ticket. The assistant district attorney is buzzed enough to bid big on silent auction items. It’s fine, it’s fine. You get through the night. The next day, you write thank-yous and count money.

I have done these dumb events (galas, meet-and-greets, cultivation events, a bunch of stuff ending with “a-thon”; all different versions of more or less the same thing) enough that they’re a regular subject of my stress dreams. The worst of those dreams did not approach the Trump at ABC story.

To be clear, these kinds of big-money, public scenes philanthropy are inherently tacky. Everyone involved is aware of the awkwardness of spending a ton of money on events for the privileged in the name of charity, of all things. The rich folks get to treat the whole thing as a sport; blessed with the privilege of detachment, many people prefer to keep things light. Trump, who evidently doesn’t have fun and who I suspect thought his very presence was his most generous donation, needed no such defense mechanism.

Once he was onstage, Trump played the part of a big donor convincingly. Photos from the event show Trump smiling, right behind Giuliani, as the mayor cut the ribbon. During the “celebratory dance” segment of the program, Trump mugged and did the macarena with Giuliani, Kathie Lee Gifford and a group of children.

Look, don’t judge, we really didn’t know at the time that you couldn’t leave Trump alone with children.

“I am just heartsick,” Buchenholz, the executive director, wrote the next day to the donor whose seat Trump had taken. Buchenholz provided a copy of the email.

“I immediately said ‘no,’ but Rudy Giuliani said ‘yes’ and I felt I had to accede to him,” Buchenholz wrote. “I hope you can forgive me.” Buchenholz said that Fisher did remain a donor, despite the snub.

Of course it was Giuliani. It’s so easy to see why they’re friends. Who else can match Trump’s disregard for people less important? I bet they yell at waiters together and then laugh about it. I bet they wouldn’t recognize the taste of an un-spat on burger.

But note: it was fine. The donor is, apparently, capable of empathy, and understood he was inconvenienced by an influential liar who demonstrated none to speak of. The executive director performed the requisite damage control. The wall did not collapse onto Kathie Lee Gifford. The very important people present exhibited enough tact to ignore the turd in the punch bowl, at least in front of the kids.

As is a common theme in his life, Trump’s weak power move ultimately accomplished nothing, intimidated no one in the Manhattan society pages crowd whose white-tied respect he’d so thirstily craved ever since he was just another rich guy in–the idea–Queens. His social skills are such that he couldn’t even deliver a proper own to the faces of elites he so resents. Trump reconfirmed himself to his betters as a clown, not worthy of being taken seriously, not in on a running joke. But it was a performance: on that day Trump got on TV, and he did the Macarena, and TV always loved him like Manhattan never did. A happy ending for everyone important. Fuck Manhattan, anyway, right?

There’s not an event staffer on the planet who could have gotten out of that situation without having their day ruined. Trump dumped weeks of needless work on them. And what hits me hardest in the gut about all this is, because of all that new work, whoever at ABC was working the ribbon-cutting was deprived of any joy from very best part of any big schmoozing event–when they’re over.

My god, do you know what it must take to cause a PR nightmare for a charity for kids with HIV? That’s one distinct accomplishment for which he can truthfully take credit.

How to explain your disability to kids

I’m babysitting for some of my regular clients, and the kids (11, 9, 7, and 4 year old twins) have never seen me with my cane before. They’ve seen me in various braces, and once with my arm in a sling, but nothing as high profile as my cane.

When the kids inevitably asked (as soon as I walked in the door), I just stated it simply “Sometimes my legs don’t work right.” “Like now?” “Yep, just like now.” And that was that, they moved on with their days.

You don’t have to make explaining your disability to kids complicated. You don’t have to tell them exactly what’s wrong. A simple “My legs/joints/whatever don’t work right” is all you need most of the time.
If they ask why, then you give them a simplified version of your condition, but honestly, they don’t usually ask.

With the same kind of matter of fact tone that you would use to explain to them why balloons float, most kids will find the answer satisfactory. “My legs don’t work right” gets the point across that that’s just the way things are.

How to write D/deaf/HoH characters

this has probably already been done, but i am so sick of reading fanfiction that has totally inaccurate portrayals of deaf/HoH characters, so I’m making a guide

This turned out really long, so you can read the whole thing under the cut

ATTENTION: If someone wants me to do another one of these resource posts for a more specific D/deaf/HoH issue, such as how to write deaf children, different types of hearing aids, deaf accomodations, etc just shoot me an ask and i’ll make one!

Keep reading

“The first image refers to pedophilia in the Vatican. Second child sexual abuse in tourism in Thailand, and the third refers to the war in Syria. The fourth image refers to the trafficking of organs on the black market, where most of the victims are children from poor countries; fifth refers to weapons free in the U.S.. And finally, the sixth image refers to obesity, blaming the big fast food companies.
The new series produced by Cuban artist Erik Ravelo was titled as "The untouchables”, are photographs of children crucified for his supposed oppressors, each for a different reason and a clear message, seeks to reaffirm the right of children to be protected and report abuse suffered by them especially in countries such as Brazil, Syria, Thailand, United States and Japan"


“When CP Mary went to Uganda in 2008, the Danish media had impoverished children (some with Aids) “singing” about how Mary lives in a big house and has lots of clothes. Now in Bangladesh, once again, someone who was supposed to speak to Mary about the children’s plights starts talking about how beautiful she is. Mary mentions tiaras and gowns. She’s explaining to them where she comes from but I think it’s very insensitive and the Danish media LOVE it. That’s not the only thing she’s does as CP…” - Submitted by Anonymous