Why? (Please Read)
Dear family & friends,
On February 27th 2015 Aaron Zavala and I became licensed foster parents.
We chose not to publicize this decision as we went through the lengthy process to be approved because we know that the general public has reservations about “foster kids”. Tonight I will answer the question most of you have asked; “Why?”
My answer is simple: “Why not?”
But you might be thinking: BUT YOU ARE SO YOUNG?!!!
I am 25 years old. If this had been a pregnancy announcement I highly doubt any of you would message me saying “You’re too young tohave a child.”
“Okay. Fine…BUT YOU WON’T BE ABLE TO GO OUT AND PARTY?!!!”
Binge drinking and hang-overs lost their appeal in my second year of undergrad. But I’ll gladly take coffee with cream if you are insisting I have something to drink.
“Okay, Fine…BUT THIS IS A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY?!!!!”
When I was 21 I started my career as a licensed social worker and began my Masters Degree at OSU. In the past four years I have held a full time job, attended school with honors level GPA, purchased a house, and started a tiny side business with the horses. If you believe I made this decision lightly without thinking of the level of responsibility, please allow me to correct you; Children are the HIGHEST responsibility a person can have.
“Okay, Fine… BUT ARE YOU READY?!!!”
No. Haha. No person can be “ready” for a child they have never met. Life is unexpected. If you are asking if I have mentally prepared myself for the stress that children bring; then yes. I have made peace with the fact that there will be less sleep in my life, less free time, less “play money”, and unidentifiable stains in my future.
“Okay, Fine… BUT YOU WON’T GET TO DO THINGS YOU ENJOY?!!!”
Oh, I guess you are right… Kids HATE ponies, playing outside, Disney movies, video games, camping, rock climbing, creating art, and dancing
……….. (-_-) Really?
“Okay, Fine… But, why? Why really?”
Because we are able to.
Because there are tired caseworkers looking over lists of homes that don’t really “fit” … but the child HAS to go somewhere.
Because there is a child somewhere out there tonight that needs a home.
And if we, as people who are willing and able -don’t- help.
…. then ask yourself this: Who will?
-Bri McDonnell, LSW & Foster to Adopt Parent