children and parenting

I think people are undervaluing how amazing it is that the LEGO Batman Movie had a character who was excited to have two dads. And it wasn’t subtle. It wasn’t hidden in the background. It was front-and-center with Robin being beyond ecstatic about having Bruce Wayne and Batman as his fathers. It was a mainstream, highly-marketed, big-budget children’s movie that showed that having same-sex parents is not only acceptable but also something to cherish. And I think that’s absolutely wonderful. 

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Mother and daughter goals 👩‍👧👸🏾

“When I first learned the piano and played those wretched scales, the teacher beside me had a pencil in her hand and she hit my fingers every time I played a wrong note. [Consequently] I never learned to read music because I hesitated too long to play the note on time. Because I was always [thinking] ‘Is this pencil gonna land?’ See? And that gets built into your psyche. So, people are always—although they’re adults and nobody is screaming at them any longer—they hear the echoes of that screaming momma or that bombinating poppa in the back of their heads all their life long. And so they adopt the same attitude to their own children and the farce continues.”

Alan Watts

The Holidays are coming.

You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
You are not obligated to see your abusive family.
YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO SEE YOUR ABUSIVE FAMILY!!!!!!!!
Make other arrangements.
You don’t need to put up with your abuser’s shit just because it’s a Holiday. Your feelings matter.

We can tell our children that school is important until we’re blue in the face, they’re not stupid. They see the loudest applause is for the kids on the field. They know teachers are paid poorly and don’t drive fancy cars. They know people plan Super Bowl parties but mock the National Spelling Bee. In other words, they see the hypocrisy, and we can’t expect society to correct itself. If we want to have any lasting influence on the way our kids approach education — the way future generations approach education — then we have to grab our pom-poms and paint our faces and celebrate intellectual curiosity with the same vigor we do their athletic achievements.
—  LZ Granderson

au where Holt and Kevin are 20-something newly weds, and Jake, Gina, Charles, Amy, and Rosa are the middle school aged kids who live in the same neighborhood, and Terry’s their beleaguered babysitter in high school, and whenever the kids wear him out too much he brings them over to the Holt-Cozner house, and eventually they’re over there all the time eating dinner and doing their homework and playing with Cheddar, and Holt and Kevin are like what the fuck we agreed we wouldn’t adopt kids, how did we end up with six goddammit

What happens to children with parents/a parent who doesn’t deserve to be called that?

- they lose bits of themselves

- they are afraid of being parents

- they aren’t fully themselves

- they live in fear

- they are missing out on lovely experiences

- they are sad (even when they aren’t)

- they feel helpless for being born

- they will never ever be like those who have good parents

SO FOR THE SAKE OF HUMANITY, DON’T HAVE A KID IF YOU’RE NOT READY TO TREAT THAT CHILD LIKE THE MOST PRECIOUS THING. OK. 

WHY?

BECAUSE IT FUCKING HURTS, THAT’S WHY.

THANK YOU. 

It costs $233,610 to raise a child — before college

  • To arrive at the $233,610 figure, the Department of Agricultures looks at not only how much parents spend, but what they’re actually spending on: everything from housing and food to childcare costs and presents.
  • And over the last 55 years, some of these costs — like food and clothing  — have fallen considerably. Other costs have gone up.
  • Childcare costs, have risen from 2% of overall expenditures to a robust 16%. Read more
The Zodiac Signs + Meeting the Parents

NOPENOPENOPENOPE: Sagittarius, Capricorn, Taurus, Aries

“Sure, sounds fun” *Internal freak out*: Scorpio, Libra, Aquarius, Virgo, Gemini

*Is actually excited to see them*: Cancer, Pisces, Leo