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🍂PARENTHOOD: HEAT🍂
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Had this thought because of the hot weather we are having where I live. I needed to get it out there lol.

Mrs Chen makes an appearance since it’s rare that people draw her and I honestly tried to pit her in some how 😂😂😂😂

I know that I forgot to give Eddie his tattoo so sorry about that but it slipped my mind 😂😂😂

Enjoy 😊

reminder to be fucking kind to kids, it does not matter whether you are a kid person or not, always be fucking kind to a child. They bump into you? smile and say ‘sorry hon’, they’re knocking your seat? Just ask them kindly to stop!!! You don’t have to be a dick to kids!! Children are still growing and rationalising the world around them, if you are a dick to kids, they don’t understand that you’ve had a tough day, they don’t understand that you’ve just been yelled at by your boss, all they understand is that they are a problem, they’ve done something wrong. In their minds adults are the authority, we are the people they look up to, they think we’ve got everything together. You yell at them and they internalise that shit!! They go about their day all bubbly then stop in the middle of joking with friends, remember you yelling at them and go off in a corner and cry. Don’t be a dick to kids, you don’t have to like them but fucking tolerate them and be decent.

kids, the animal world & gender

This morning, my 5yo asked us if his new boy-kitten would grow up to be a daddy cat. We said that no, he wouldn’t, and were about to explain that this is because the kitten is desexed when my son said, “Oh, that’s right - because if you don’t grow up to be a mummy or a daddy, then you’re not a boy or a girl, you’re just a person!”

It turns out, he’s been lowkey assuming that there are three grown-up genders: mummy, daddy, and adult, such that anyone who isn’t a parent is, in some sense, nonbinary. We explained that, while he’s right in thinking there are people who aren’t boys or girls, your adult gender isn’t determined by whether or not you have a kid, and used examples of people we know as proof. He accepted this with a nod, then went off to play with the kitten, 

We had a related conversation at bedtime last week, when the “story” he’d chosen was a book of facts about Australian animals. One of the entries we read was about the barramundi fish, which are all male as babies and only turn female during spawning season. This prompted him to ask if human boys could turn into girls, too, and while he was a bit too sleepy for a detailed conversation, I said something along the lines of, “yes, there are some people who look like boys when they’re little, but who realise they’re girls and change when they get older.” He accepted that, too, and then we read another entry about a particular type of bat.

These are only two small examples, but it’s endlessly fascinating to me to watch how kids are trying to figure out what gender is and what it means from the world around them. There have been times when my son has come home saying that pink is for girls, because that’s what he heard at school, and so we have a conversation about how colours are for everyone. The point is not only that children absorb what’s going on around them and try to process it through an individual lens, but that how adults answer their questions plays a massive role in comprehension, too. Don’t tell kids they’re silly for asking these sorts of questions or act as if the truth is obvious: they’re not, and it really isn’t.