anyways rhaegar cheated and made many wrong choices, yes, but aerys was the one at fault for elia and her children’s deaths by denying them safe passage to dragonstone with rhaella so it would be nice if blame was put where it’s due. if not for aerys, elia would have made it to essos and likely found by her family with her chidren. if not for tywin, elia could have returned to dorne and her children could have sworn to never sit on the iron throne. if not for tywin using gregor clegane as his personal rapist and murderer, elia and her children wouldn’t have died. rhaegar did not want his wife and children to die, lyanna didn’t want her family to die. mistakes were made.