child-abuse

anonymous asked:

I loved how much was said in the Descendants without being expressly said. There's a lot of subtleties I think people who diss the movie missed. The Villain Kids say A LOT about their home lives without saying it out loud. Their silence (even villains love their kids) and other off comments (where I come from it's prepare to die sucker) speak volumes. Even their dancing differs so dramatically to Aurodon. I think if people watch it a second time, looking for subtleties, it's really deep.

Yes its a really amazing movie. (I just finished watching it again lol).

There a lot of subtleties you realize the second time around. I realized that once I watched it the second time.

Like how much the Evil Queen’s behavior with Evie contrasts with the other kids parents.

The way the kids behave in general is a very expressive form of their home lives just like you said.

You realize a lot when Mal is suddenly so torn when Ben tells her she isn’t evil.

And when Ben and Carlos are talking the way he sort of trails off when laughing.

When upon seeing his Dad’s statue Jay says “Killer” and being the first one to want out of the room.

The whole thing is a very good way Disney expressed that love and nourishment is required otherwise people don’t turn out the best.

Mal is so disbelieving when Ben tells her he cares (after she realizes the spell is over). Jay is always for himself in the beginning and Carlos is generally very quiet and indifferent. He is used to be treated roughly so I figured that’s why he doesn’t pick fights very often or doesn’t work hard to get out of them. Evie (although its expressed her Mom loves her) is always copying her in everything she can. The girls SAID they were afraid of their moms sometimes.

The thing this movie showed was that 3 of the kids had awful parents. One of the parents wasn’t really that bad of a “parent” but a bad “person” .

I think that’s just as important to show that because people are bad doesn’t always mean they hate or abuse their kids or are bad parents. Descendants explains both things very well.

It touches on a lot of things that are important and what’s interesting is that it expresses it in such a way that kids will understand it better. Why? Because kids are very smart and receptive and if they don’t understand the whole concept they will slowly understand it bit by bit. A child’s mind works differently from adults and they pick up on more than they let on.

I bet some kids realized things in the story even we haven’t realized yet.

You need to have an open mind for new things. That’s what Disney teaches us doesn’t it ? 

:)

eeeghgg sorry but I kind of feel like No One really cares about disabled people except disabled people themselves??? Not even on tumblr?

like autistic people are murdered by their parents and people act like it was out of “mercy” and show sympathy for parents having to “put up” with autistic children even if they are the ones abusing their children?

Like parents are literally giving their autistic children bleach because they think it will cure them of autism? And barely anyone even talks about it except those within the disabled community?

I’m sure if parents were giving their gay or trans kids bleach in hopes of “curing” them people would actually be talking about it and would actually care but for some reason no one even gives a shit if its autistic people because we aren’t even treated as really human a lot of the time

it’s genuinely really distressing to me that the model of parent-child relationships doesn’t seem to match up with the agreed-upon model for healthy relationships in general.

like

any healthy relationship should be based on mutual consent and a degree of equality. honesty and trust are key. abuse should never be present, and if it is, the abused party should be able to leave the relationship.

but so often, parent-child relationships aren’t like this at all. no consent is involved, not ever on the part of the child and sometimes not even on the part of the parent. children who run away from home are, more often than not, returned back home by law enforcement to whatever godawful home situation was worse than living on the run/being homeless.

equality is completely lacking in most parent-child relationships, with the parent having almost total autonomy over their child. same goes for honesty and trust: parents rarely trust their children, and can (ab)use their power to keep important information from their children as well. kids, in turn, don’t trust their parents not to abuse their power, and will often lie to their parents in order to avoid punishment.

lastly, child abuse is still largely normalized in many western societies. parents on facebook trade tips on how to punish and humiliate their children as they might trade cooking tips. spanking is still legal (and often encouraged) for parents in America across the board, and for teachers/school officials it’s legal in 19 states. there are apps and devices used to monitor and control children (the mosquito, tattletype) which would be considered infringement of basic rights were they used on any other group of people.

basically, i’m just becoming more and more opposed to the way parent-child relationships currently work, because the potential for abuse is so frighteningly huge

anonymous asked:

You're a fucking misogynist. Lena's a hero and if you don't think so you can go set yourself on fire.

Right. I’m misogynist?

Really?

And Lena’s a hero? This is your hero?


You want to bow down and worship her, you go right ahead. I would never stick by a homophobia, racist, abusive person like her. 

When I was about 7 was the first time I remembered being physically abused, I never lived with my mum or met my dad because their consumption of hundreds of drugs, drinking non stop and smoking. so I was adopted by my grandma. She is a very angry person but I remember now that I made the mistake of never standing up for myself. I would do something wrong and she’d come thump her fist hard into my back multiple times, I would cry and run into my room and hide under the blankets and she’d yell “When I cried my mother just hit me harder", she ripped the blankets off and hit me with a wooden rod, right across the fingers as I tried to protect parts of my body, I would yell and cry for her to stop but she never did. If I ever stood up for myself she’d yank my hair back and yell right into my face then slap my face until i’d pull away. She’d try get any bit of skin, she knew the weak parts like my ears, fingers, backbone, knees and she’d hit me about 20 times with a metal cote hanger. I went to school for years bruised and broken not saying a word. I’m 17 now and I’m taller so she can’t hit me but even when I was 14 I still held back every tear as I got hit and accepted it, that was how life was to me. But it wasn’t. I don’t want young boys/girls thinking that it has to be this way, if you’re a victim of any type of abuse reading this PLEASE, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF, BE STRONG, LOOK THE PERSON ABUSING YOU RIGHT IN THE EYE, TELL THEM THEY CAN NOT TOUCH YOUR SKIN, THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO LEAVE ANY MARKS ON YOUR SKIN. TELL A FRIEND, A SCHOOL TEACHER, A FAMILY MEMBER, TELL SOMEONE. MAKE YOURSELF SAFE, CHILD ABUSE IS NOT OKAY.

Social workers, doctors, nurses, teachers and humanitarian staff who have worked inside Australia’s detention centres have united in an unprecedented show of defiance against new laws that could see workers in detention centres jailed [a 2 year jail sentence] for speaking out about abuses.

“If we witness child abuse in Australia we are legally obliged to report it to child protection authorities. If we witness child abuse in detention centres, we can go to prison for attempting to advocate for them effectively.

I guess these poor children don’t deserve our protection. There are no words to describe how foul and devastating this is. The doctors, healthcare workers and other staff standing against this act are absolutely incredible. 

Attention all non-Asian peeps

Stop joking about how abusive and controlling Asian parents are.

1. Why are you even joking about child abuse in the first place??? Why

2. You are contributing to the stereotype of all Asian parents as abusers, the stereotype that every Asian kid is struggling under the iron grip of their parents over grades.

What does that create? The assumption that abuse is “normal” for Asian kids and that Asian abuse victims are just whining. Abuse is NOT normal in any culture, regardless of how barbaric you want them to be. 

It also creates a situation where kids don’t want to report abuse because they don’t want to contribute to the stereotype. When I was sent to the counselor I had to choose between trying to get help and not drilling the idea of every Asian kid being grade slaves into her head. We shouldn’t have to convince people that mistreating us is abnormal.

Please stop. Those jokes hurt people and help perpetuate abuse within the Asian community.

Reblog if you think Autism Speaks should be charged with:
  • Fraud
  • Child abuse
  • Hate crimes
  • Torture (for supporting ABA and JRC)
  • Genocide (according to the UN, “causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group,” like ABA and JRC and the institutionalized abuse they promote, and “imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group,” which they spend most of their money on, are forms of genocide.)
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On 23 July, 1991, a cooler was found beside the Henry Hudson Parkway in New York City. To the horror of the finder, when they opened the cooler they discovered the decomposed body of a young girl inside. An autopsy showed that the little girl had been asphyxiated, raped and sodomized. The case went cold for twenty years and the unidentified girl was known as “Baby Hope”. Finally, in 2013, the case was reopened as information came in which led authorities to a woman by the name of Margarita Castillo, who stated that her 4-year-old daughter, Anjelica, had gone missing in 1991. She reported that Anjelica’s father had ran off with the child and she never reported her missing. DNA samples from Baby Hope and Magarita proved that the baby found inside the cooler was Anjelica. The investigation led to 52-year-old Conrado Juarez, Margarita’s cousin, who confessed to torturing, raping, and sodomizing the girl before smothering her. He also admitted to tying Anjelica to a table and starving her. After a long 22 years, Baby Hope was finally laid to rest under her real identity, Anjelica Castillo.

jezebel.com
Judge Jails Kids, Compares Them to 'Manson Cult' for Refusing to See Dad
At the end of June, a Michigan judge held three children aged 9, 10, and 15 in civil contempt for refusing to see their father and sent them to a juvenile justice facility for an unspecified length of time. The children’s parents have been involved in contentious divorce proceedings for five years; in a lengthy tirade, the judge called them “brainwashed” and likened them to “Charlie Manson and the cult that he has.”
By Anna Merlan

THIS IS NOT OK. This is an abuse of power and a demonstration of how our court systems need serious reevaluation. 

anonymous asked:

When you know the phrase "abusers breed abusers" so you're terrified of having children. Anytime someone asks why, you give vague answers like "I couldn't handle the stress." In reality, the answers are "I don't want to be a mother like mine was" and "I don't want my kids to grow up feeling as dead inside as I do."

Like seriously why the hell is it so strongly encouraged to make your child fear you from physical pain in order to make them be obedient and then pass it off as “tough love”??? Bullshit. If your child is doing something so bad that it requires you to beat them into obedience and respect, you’ve already fucked up parenting.

How To Run Away From Home Masterpost

Ordinarily I’d just push y’all to the main blog, but the likelihood of clickthroughs from Tumblr is low, and I think this is really important information for a lot of folks out there in Tumblrland. This post is LONG.

Here’s the most important info from the HTRAFH series I posted on OSG this week. The OSG proper posts are linked throughout the text.

Where are you going? Who can help you? What do you need?

Not only do you need to pack a bug-out bag with some or all of your life necessities, but you need to be emotionally prepared for the fallout.

This is not an easy decision, and it should not be made lightly. Being completely independent and unsupported by your parents is fucking hard, which is why >70% of runaways go back home within a day. People doubt you and belittle you, it’s hard to get systematic support from schools or social workers, and you’ll be in therapy basically forever. It sucks. But it can be worth it.

Leveraging your freedom with the emotional and social consequences of being parent-free makes running away and life after being kicked out really difficult. When you commit to getting out, you have to make a lot of uncomfortable and difficult decisions that center on: which is worse.

  • Which is worse: living in a homeless shelter or feeling like a hostage of your family?
  • Which is worse: getting a crappy job or being financially dependent on family members who use money as a form of control?
  • Which is worse: uncomfortable conversations with police and social services or enduring abuse?

Make a Plan

What should you plan? How do you even get started?

The most important things you’ll need to know how to find are: housing, money, and support.

If you had to get out of the house in two minutes:

  • Where can you go?
  • How can you get there?
  • What would you do the next day? The next month?
  • How can you get food?
  • How can you get money?
  • What else do you need?
  • How can you keep from getting dragged back “home”?
  • Who can and will help you stay away?

Come up with a concrete plan that covers those things. If you can, come up with alternate plans in the event things don’t go the way you thought they would. Your friends’ parents may be generous to let you stay for a week, and they might even feed you when you’re there, but you need to think beyond that.

You can’t live off of other people’s generosity forever. Couch-surfing and crashing with someone rent-free must be a temporary part of your plan.

You’ll want to find long-term housing, whether it’s with a shelter, a hostel, or a transitional living program. At some point you will need money–for shelter, food, health, and fun. Find ways to make a living, even if it’s doing something as passive as taking surveys and watching videos on your phone.

Talk to people. See which friends can help you out, and who can point you in the direction of case workers. Call shelters and social services to ask for help. Apply for grants and financial assistance. You never know who is willing to help until you ask them.

If nothing else, know where to find a homeless shelter and food bank.


Pack Your Bug-Out Bag

What’s a Bug-Out Bag?

It’s a bag that’s ready and waiting for you when you need to get out–whether it’s a temporary relocation or a permanent escape. It’s a term used by the preppers but it’s also used among runaways and throwaways as a bag that has the bare essentials for striking out on your own.

Chances are, you can’t fit everything you need in a single bag–and even more likely, you won’t have access to the things you need to put in a bag. But figuring out exactly what you need is the key to planning a bug-out bag and your immediate future.

When I left home, I had an extra pair of pants and my wallet with a few dollars inside. I didn’t have a phone or a debit card or anything. Now I have a hoarded 300-square-foot apartment–living proof that if you keep pushing through, you will eventually have the material objects you need.

But if you can make a bug-out bag, find a safe space (or several safe spaces) and gather the essentials. If you’re in an abusive situation where your possessions and privacy are strictly controlled or monitored, you’ll have to be extra sneaky.

Good places to hide stuff:

  • between the mattress and box spring
  • underwear drawer
  • coat/pants pockets
  • bottom of a clothes hamper or trash can
  • an air vent
  • friends’ houses
  • sticks of deodorant
  • old pill bottles
  • book/binder safe
  • potted plants
  • battery compartments of electronics

What do you need in your Bug-Out Bag?

Anything that you might need or want if you had to get out of the house in less than five minutes. Here is a one-page printable checklist for pre-packing your bug-out bag:

edit: As a youth who was kicked out in a time before cell phones were ubiquitous, I neglected to include a phone on this list. However, if your parents pay for your phone, it can be cut off at any time or be used for blackmail against you. If you can spare the $10, get a burner phone at Walmart for emergencies.


Who Can Help?

What kind of things do you need on your Bug-Out Bag info list? Think about what you’ll need once you’re on your own. Money, food, housing, medical care, emotional support…

Keep a list of all of the people and places that can give you that so you know where to go in the middle of the night. These can be:

  • friends
  • family members of friends
  • your own sympathetic family members
  • social services/child protective services
  • the police
  • hotlines
  • domestic violence centers
  • shelters
  • food banks
  • employment offices
  • clinics
  • college financial aid offices
  • the library, which can put you in touch with all of the above

Seriously, I cannot emphasize the last one enough. Your local public or school library has so many regional-specific resources available for you if you just ask. If nothing else, the library is a good place to stay during the day when you have nowhere else to go.


Resources

Note: These links are mostly US-specific because that’s where I live. A quick Google search for these service keywords and your country or area will go a long way in finding supportive providers.

Crisis Hotlines and Chat Support

Most crisis help lines can help you out when you plan to run away from home by searching for shelters and case workers for you, or just by talking through the reasons you want to run away from home. They’re a great resource to have on hand when you’re feeling lost.

Abuse Reporting and Recovery

Whether you’re trying to become emancipated, press charges against your parents, or you just need help with the emotional fallout when you run away from home, these organizations can help you find the resources that work for your specific situation.

Homelessness

Shelters gain and lose funding all the time, so it always helps to search for what’s still open in your immediate area. These websites and organizations can help with that search, but again: libraries are often safe spaces and the staff there know what’s in your neighborhood better than a stranger on the internet.

Transitioning to Independence

Many of the homeless shelters and youth programs listed above have transitional housing programs, but here are two good resources for getting help transitioning to independent living when transitional housing programs aren’t available.

  • Help When You Need It: connects you with local providers for financial, food, and housing assistance
  • Year Up: transitional living programs that get you employed and housed within a year

Health and Wellness

Many homeless youth struggle with receiving adequate health care on the streets. These two sites help connect you with general and mental health services in your area, but they are by no means exhaustive lists. Search for free or tiered-payment clinics in your area for local providers.

General Youth Support

Most helplines and providers focus on immediate problems such as homelessness or abuse, but youth who run away from home have any number of other issues to deal with, from dating to drugs to staying in school. These organizations help supplement the day-to-day drama you have to deal with. Many larger cities also have youth centers, so be sure to search for what’s in your area.

  • Boys and Girls Club: outreach and after-school programs, as well as counselors and case workers who can connect you with local providers
  • ReachOut: information and advice for common issues facing youth today
  • YWCA: programs and services for at-risk youth
  • CenterLink: LGBT-focused community and youth groups

If you have any additional resources to add to this list, please reblog them or send me an Ask and I’ll update the list here and at OSG.