Have you noticed how parents judge other parents based on how well can they control the child?? Like you’re considered a good parent if the child is obediently spending all day working and never makes unwelcome noises or anything that would annoy the adults? If you can train your child into an obedient robot-slave-profit-machine then congrats you win the good parent medal everyone should look up to you be proud of making your child super convenient to your life? If the child has feelings or wants and needs and asks questions or shows any kind of behavior that adults consider socially unacceptable then parents are to force it back under control, shut them down and remind them to be as convenient as possible unless they want to be a burden to the family and punished for it. And parents fucking fall for this shit, they will abuse their child into obedience literally just to uphold their social status and to be able to brag to others just how well they’ve trained the child, hell, they will even order their child around in front of others, only to show off at how well they’re able to control and humiliate them, and this kind of sick sadistic slave-fantasy will generally be approved upon! The image of obedient child equals a good child is like a disease that adults spread and uphold and force onto children.
No human being is born to listen to orders of another! No not even if you gave them birth and kept them from dying, and now expect they’re required to do whatever you want in return, they don’t owe you obedience! They don’t owe you their lives put under your control! Their lives belong to them! Honestly if you bring the child into the world that requires them to tear themselves apart for the comfort and satisfaction of others, that’s not child’s fault, it’s your fucking fault, you had the control over having the baby, the child did not. Fucking protect your children from those who would subject them to a life of being controlled and forced into obedience, rather than becoming the perpetrators of this abuse because it’s fucking convenient and it would take you 2 minutes of thinking about what would be a better thing to do.