I saw your "abuse game" post and while I have never been abused and have two loving parents who never laid a hand on me or my sisters, it scares me how some people will look at the list and say, "spanking isn't abuse, it's discipline, kids need the shit beat out of them." If everything on that list was directed towards a spouse or partner, it would be deemed domestic abuse. I can't understand why it's not okay to hit another adult but fine to hit a small child in the name of "discipline."
yeahh because nobody gives a shit about children, their rights are the least known or protected and when children get hurt everyone gets away with it all the time, they can easily be used and most of the time they’re considered property, have you ever met a parent that didn’t have a strong feeling of “ownership” over their child? as a society we treat children as property that is only allowed to behave in a specific way so if they’re behaving like humans they need to be “disciplined back into order” meaning, they need to be objects we decided they are
i literally got a reply on “don’t hit your kids” post from an abuser saying “hell yeah i’m going to hit my kid if the little shit yells and doesn’t listen, i want a child, not a monster.”
fucking. horrifying. just the idea that if the child doesn’t act like “designated child behaviour set by adults which is basically expected behaviour of slaves” it is considered to be a monster and hurting it is justified.
as a society we take out our shit on the most vulnerable and unprotected ones and of course children are going to be the first target, their bodies are small, they can’t defend, they only know what you tell them, you can even have them shut up about being abused, you can even make them feel guilty for being abused! heaven for abusers. they can get away with it every time. nobody will come save the child or even believe the child about what’s happened. and abusers want to keep it that way, they want to feel justified in abusing children and they don’t want laws or any kind of opinions to make it harder for them to do it, or to feel less justified doing it, they don’t see children as humans, just objects and property and slaves.
I feel like only people who are talking about children’s status in society and children’s rights are people who’ve been heavily abused and realized something’s wrong with it, and how impossible it is to escape abusive family after you’ve been born in one, how devastating are the consequences for society as whole, because all these children will grow up (unless they get killed by the abuse or commit suicide because they’re all at very high risk of suicide) and form the future and all they’ve learned is how to tolerate abuse and take on responsibility for things they don’t have any control over, and how to struggle for survival while suicidal, depressed, anxious and suffering from trauma, and of course you have entitled ones who will grow to be narcissists, and so the trauma goes on and on and society is forming into a bunch of victims and abusers and this is currently only getting worse. I think for any improvement in society we need to raise children’s status, women’s status, to reach a level of actual functioning society where everyone is considered human and we can actually get something done and stop destroying ourselves and everything else.