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What New Stats Show About The School To Prison Pipeline For Black Girls Is Worse Than Anyone Could Have Imagined 

Judging by the statistics, the national focus on the troubled plight of Black boys with initiatives like President Obama’s My Brother’s Keeper may be missing a real crisis that’s hidden in plain sight: Black girls are treated even more harshly in American schools than Black boys when compared to their white counterparts—leading to them now being the fastest growing population in the juvenile justice system.

The numbers are jarring: Black girls across the country were suspended six times more often than white girls, compared to Black boys being suspended three times more often than white boys, according to the U.S. Department of Education’s analysis of the 2011-2012 school year.

Only 2 percent of white females were subjected to exclusionary suspensions, compared to 12 percent of Black girls.

Because males are suspended in greater numbers than females, the harsh treatment of Black boys tends to draw all the attention. But a new report by the African American Policy Forum and Columbia Law School called “Black Girls Matter: Pushed Out, Overpoliced, and Underprotected” shines a spotlight on Black girls in public school, playing particular attention to what happens to them in the New York City and Boston school systems.

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Here’s a little mind exercise

If you think it’s okay for parents to use “light” corporal punishment against their kids, let me ask you this:

Do you think it’s okay for a teacher to use the same “light” corporal punishment against a child in their class who misbehaves?

Do you think it’s okay for police officers to use “light” corporal punishment against people in the streets who committing violations?

Do you think it’s okay for correctional officers to use “light” corporal punishment against prisoners in a correctional institute?

Do you think it’s okay for a man to use “light” corporal punishment against his wife when she does something that he considers disobedient?

If not, why do you find it acceptable for a parent to inflict any level of pain and fear against a child as a form of discipline, but not when the situation is a non-parent with a child, or an adult with another adult?  What makes parents hitting children an acceptable scenario but not the rest?

anonymous asked:

Can you provide evidence that beating is harmful to children? No, seriously; not trying to claim your argument is bad. It is just, it is difficult to convince my uncles to change their habits with my younger cousins.

Spanking tends to increase child aggression 

Physical punishment encourages kids to continue the cycle of abuse.

Children who were hit are at a higher risk for criminal behavior

Physical punishment doesn’t actually curb behavior.

Physical punishment is associated with increased odds of mood disorders, anxiety disorders, alcohol and drug abuse/dependence, and several personality disorders.

etc. etc. etc. I mean you can google this all but here’s some shit from scientific journals.

Also, even if it did work, WHICH IT DOESN’T, there are other ways that actually work, that don’t involve abusing people

It’d be saying, that you don’t care about non-abusive methods, because you WOULD rather abuse your child, or person in your care.

Tereszka who grew up in a concentration camp was asked to draw “home” and what she drew was scribbles. It shows how the horrors of the concentration camp warped her mind. This photograph was taken by David Seymour in 1948. 

This really rubs me the wrong way. It seems dangerously close to justifying abuse. (from etsy, found on pinterest).

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To me, this does justify abuse. It says in more words, that love is stalking and distrust…I mean, when you get this from your parent, how are you supposed to know that it’s not ok in general?

I’m sure I’ll have some people jumping all over me about how I’m overreacting or it’s supposed to be cute or whatever (just like they did about a post a few years ago about a dad and his shot gun in regards to his daughter…AW SO CUTE GUN VIOLENCE TO PROTECT THE WIMMINZ) but I don’t care. I’m from an abusive household where this type of mentality and actions were acted out and it wasn’t fucking cute. 

Malawi has passed a law banning child marriage, raising the minimum age to 18 in a country where half of girls end up as child brides.
Women rights campaigners hailed the move as “a great day for Malawian girls” and said the law would help boost development in one of the world’s poorest countries.
But they warned Malawi would not end child marriage without concerted efforts to tackle poverty and end harmful traditional practices like early sexual initiations.
"This law is extremely crucial because child marriage is a big, big problem in our country,"said parliamentarian Jessie Kabwila who helped push for the new legislation.
"The country will for the first time clearly articulate that we are saying ‘No’ to childmarriage."
Malawi has one of the world’s highest rates of child marriage. Half of girls wed before their 18th birthday and nearly one in eight is married by 15.
Early marriage not only deprives girls of education and opportunities, but also increases the risk of death or serious childbirth injuries if they have babies before their bodies are ready.  Child brides are also at greater risk of domestic and sexual violence.
"This law is very important because of the number of girls who drop out of school because they are going to get married, and because of the high numbers of girls who are dying when they are giving birth," Kabwila told Thomson Reuters Foundation in a phone interview.
"We cannot talk about development if we have child marriage. Women’s empowerment is a crucial player in development and women cannot be empowered if they are not educated."

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I’m pretty disgusted with the “My parents hit me and I’m fine,” defense while people are saying that they were spanked and they AREN’T fine; that they were spanked and they still feel lasting effects of it, mentally and physically. 

If you don’t feel that you were harmed by getting hit, great, but why are you trying to silence people who are saying that they’re harmed by it; people who are trying to speak out against the abuse they endured. 

Really all you accomplish is silencing abuse victims.

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Oakland County Child Killer

Between 1976 and 1977, an unidentified killer stalked the roads of sleepy Oakland County, Michigan, abducting and killing at least four children, two girls and two boys: Mark Stebbins, 12, Jill Robinson, 12, Kristine Mihelich, 10, and Timothy King, 11. Mark was strangled and sexually assaulted with an object. Jill was killed by a shotgun blast to the face, Kristine was smothered, and Timothy suffocated and assaulted in the same fashion as Mark. 

Each child had been held captive for several days before being murdered, and laid out neatly where they were meant to be found. Jill Robinson was found within view of a police station. The killings resulted in a mass paranoia in the area; children were rarely left alone for a second, and at least one innocent man was beaten for the mistake of talking to a child.

A massive investigation heralded several suspects, but no solid case has ever been built. Recently, some have come to believe noted serial killer John Wayne Gacy has been implicated in the murders, but it seems unlikely, as it did not match his modus operandi of raping and killing older teenage boys. In 1978, the killing stopped cold.

Perhaps the most chilling aspect of the case was a letter written by Timothy King’s mother in the “Detroit News”. Marion King begged her son’s captor to let him go so that he might return home and enjoy his favorite meal, Kentucky Fried Chicken. When the boy’s body was found, an autopsy showed that the killer had fed him fried chicken. (Source)

This Shit is UNACCEPTABLE 

Woman and child attacked.


I want her found and arrested. What she does to the child is totally unacceptable. Yes, the child hit her, but that is because he saw his caretaker getting attacked. It doesn’t give this bitch the RIGHT TO SWING AT THE CHILD AND PUSH HIM ON TO CONCRETE! 

Information on the perpetrator, Nook Babiiee.

HER YOUTUBE ACCOUNT:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2w8ZvM3VDE [Open]

location of attack: 3500 Brookside Pkwy S Dr Indianapolis, IN 46201
Perpetrator’s Alias: “Nook”
Perpetrator’s alleged address: 9406 E 42nd Street Indianapolis, IN
Video: http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=b10_1426395873


CONTACT:
http://crimetips.org/

HER PHONE: (317)-564-9488

Her “boo“‘s PHONE:
Jawon Jones (765)-669-1978

HER KIK:
obey_ogtigger

HER BF’s:
yungkaine

HER INSTAGRAM:
10_13_13_doe, NOOK_PAGE

HER ASK.FM:
http://ask.fm/Nook_Page

Faith-Healer Parents Who Let Their Child Die Should Go to Jail

By Jerry A. Coyne

In America, 43 of the 50 U.S. states confer some type of civil or criminal immunity on parents who injure their children by withholding medical care on religious grounds. If your child has diabetes or a severe infection, and you pray for her instead of giving her insulin or antibiotics, she’ll probably die, but you’re largely off the legal hook. But that immunity doesn’t apply if you injure your child by withholding medical care for nonreligious reasons; for that, you can be prosecuted for neglect, abuse, or even manslaughter. This privileging of religion is dangerous to children—and has killed many of them. In Idaho, for instance, parents are immunized against prosecution for involuntary manslaughter or negligent homicide when they let their kids die in the name of faith. In fact, parents there can’t be prosecuted for anything if they rely solely on faith healing.

The Followers of Christ, a Pentacostal and literalistic sect of Christianity that rejects all medical care (including the use of midwives) in favor of prayer, flourishes in both Oregon and Idaho. But those neighboring states differ strongly in how they deal with faith-based treatment. In 2011, Oregon eliminated all religious exemptions from required medical care. In that state, members of faith-healing sects, like the parents of 13-year-old Syble Rossiter, have been convicted of manslaughter for relying on prayer instead of doctors. Rossiter, who had juvenile-onset diabetes, met a particularly horrible death, one completely avoidable had she been given insulin.

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anonymous asked:

Hello, just wanting a quick For-Dummies answer here. I've read some of the posts on your blog enough to know ABA is bad and torture etc. but we had a speaker who was an ABA (which made me double take when I heard), the thing is he just talked about stuff they do such as teaching kids to substitute odd behaviours with better ones, e.g. kids who love "nappy-content painting" are taught to use playdo or use prompt cards to get baths, and things like that, I didn't really understand why it's bad?

Hi anon! I’ll do my best.

ABA is a scientific method:

  • the first step in ABA is the observation of the individual and their response to their environment in order to identify unwanted “target behaviours”
  • the second step is the systematic use of behaviourism-based techniques (aversives, rewards, operant conditioning) in order to eliminate unwanted “target behaviours” and encourage wanted behaviours

ABA as a “treatment” for Autism:

  • the basis of ABA is behaviourism and the medical model of disability, aka the deficit/illness/”broken baby” model
  • ABA’s main focus is on the normalization of behaviour (ie. extinguishing stimming, table readiness, “quiet hands”, eye contact) rather than on adaptive learning or accommodation
  • and the end goal of ABA is often for autistic children to be “indistinguishable from their [allistic] peers”
  • falling in line with those values, ABA principles push for neuro-normative methods of expression, like talking, even when alternative or neuro-atypical methods of expression, like AAC, would be better for the autistic in question
  • in ABA the consistent use of positive reinforcers/rewards and aversives/punishments to enforce behaviour— reinforcers being withheld until the wanted behaviour is performed, aversives being used when an unwanted behaviour is performed
  • common reinforcers include edible treats (gummy bears, chips, cereal); praise and verbal or physical affection; tokens that can be exchanged for “privileges”; stickers or stamps (often on a behaviour chart); a piece of lego or of a puzzle (aka a component to something the autistic wishes to play or complete); access to a favourite toy or beloved object; break time or a moment of rest from the “therapy”; access to the autistic’s special interest; time spent engaged in a “preferred activity” (aka something fun, like going to the park or watching a DVD)
  • an increasingly popular method of reinforcement in the ABA/compliance training world is the use of a clicker (a training device for animals that make a loud sharp “click” sound to indicate that the wanted action has been performed and that a treat or reward is forthcoming)
  • common aversives include the removal of tokens, stamps, stickers, or desired play components (lego, puzzle pieces); the confiscation of favorite toys or beloved objects; the withholding of snacks, water breaks, or recess/break from the therapy; the prevention of engagement in the autistic’s special interest or preferred activities; the use of “taste aversives”, such as pickle juice, vinegar, hot sauce, wasabi, or any other “effective” edible substance (the taste aversive is applied to the autistic’s mouth through the use of a spray bottle, or a q-tip, cotton ball, or pacifier soaked in the substance of choice); the use of tactile aversives (some examples are styrofoam, glue, bar or liquid soap, a piece of carpeting or upholstery fabric, sandpaper, or whatever incites tactile defensiveness or distress in the autistic); and the withholding of praise and/or physical or verbal affection
  • in DTT (Discrete Trial Training, which is considered a softer, kinder version of ABA) the therapist or practitioner will not look at, engage with, or respond to the autistic unless they perform the wanted behaviour, and any unwanted behaviours are ignored in the same way, or met with “passive resistance” from the therapist 
  • ABA as a treatment for autism focuses in part (and often a large part) on compliance training— for a truly horrific example of compliance training, see here (warning for massive ableism, dehumanization of an autistic adult, infantilization of an autistic adult, the demonstration of compliance training/ABA on an autistic person)

What you describe in your post:

  • does not sound or look or smell like ABA, so I’m going to go ahead and say it’s not ABA
  • so while the speaker may have truly been an ABA therapist that follows ABA principles, they either didn’t give a very good explanation of ABA or they intentionally left a lot out to make it sound friendly and great
  • in the case of your “nappy painting” example, that is a good and clever use of sensory tools/providing a good and healthy sensory diet for the autistic, and/or a commendable application of AAC in order to provide a more effective method of expression for the autistic and reduce their frustration
  • but neither of those things are ABA
  • I’m not sure how it happened, but somehow any attempt at all to teach an autistic child anything became known as “ABA”— this really shouldn’t be the case, since ABA is a distinct scientific method, not just any kind of therapy, and especially not just parenting
  • the calling-everything-ABA thing may have arisen out of the fact that, in the US, ABA is the only therapy that insurance companies will cover for autistic children, and so a lot of not-ABA therapy gets called ABA therapy so it can be covered
  • but seriously, what you describe is not ABA, but it is exactly what the parents of autistic kid should be doing— providing alternative communication methods, putting a good sensory diet in place, substituting unsafe sources of sensory input seeking for safer and more effective sensory input
  • aka, parenting their children in a way that understands and accommodates their individual sensory seeking and communication needs

In conclusion:

  • ABA is a distinct scientific method that arose out of the behaviourism movement and the medical model of disability; ABA employs the systematic use of operant conditioning, positive reinforcers, and aversives; and ABA is largely focused on behaviour normalization and “indistinguishability from peers”
  • autistic children may benefit from some occupational therapy to help with sensory integration, or speech therapy, or play-based therapy to foster development at their own pace, but all of those things should be the frosting (or smaller part) of their life, and the main part of their life, the cake, should be composed of the same teaching, play, mentoring, and time together that non-disabled children receive from their parents
  • and ultimately, in order to parent your autistic child well- to teach them to use AAC, or to provide sensory input catered to their brain’s needs, or to grow them up into healthy, self-confident autistic people- ABA is completely unnecessary, and often even detrimental to those goals

That ended up being longer than I intended, but honestly, this is the best I can do while still doing justice to the topic. I hope it helps.

4 Myths about Child Custody Gender Bias

MYTH 1: Domestic violence is rare among custody litigants.

  • Studies show that 25-50% of disputed custody cases involve domestic violence.  [Source: S.L. Keilitz, National Center for State Courts, Domestic Violence and Child Custody Disputes: A Resource Handbook for Judges and Court Managers (1997); J.R. Johnston, High-Conflict Divorce, 4 Future of Children 165 (1994)]

MYTH 2: Mothers frequently invent allegations of child sexual abuse to win custody.

  • Among false allegations, fathers are far more likely than mothers to make intentionally false accusations (21% compared to 1.3%).  [Source:  Bala & Schuman, Allegations of Sexual Abuse When Parents Have Separated, 17 Canadian Family Law Quarterly 191-241 (2000).]

MYTH 3: Abusive fathers don’t get custody.

  • Allegations of domestic violence have no demonstrated effect on the rate at which fathers are awarded custody of their children, nor do such allegations affect the rate at which fathers are ordered into supervised visitation. (i.e. abusers win unsupervised custody and visitation at the same rate as non-abusers). [Source: Kernic, Monary-Ernsdorff, Koepsell & Holt, Children In The Crossfire: Child Custody Determinations Among Couples With A History Of Intimate Partner Violence 11(8) Violence Against Women, 991-1021 (2005)]

MYTH 4: Fit mothers don’t lose custody.

  • Mothers who are victims of DV are often depressed and suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder, and as a result, can present poorly in court and to best-interest attorneys and/or custody evaluators. [Source: J.M. Golding, Intimate Partner Violence As A Risk Factor For Mental Disorders: A Meta-Analysis, 14 Journal of Family Violence 99-132 (1999); Kernic, Monary-Ernsdorff, Koepsell & Holt, Children In The Crossfire: Child Custody Determinations Among Couples With A History Of Intimate Partner Violence 11(8) Violence Against Women 991-1021 (2005)]

Honestly, if you want to claim you believe in corporal punishment because you just want to do what works,

despite the insurmountable data proving it does not work, you’re really just saying you want to hit people when they do shit you don’t like, and that you don’t give a fuck about what actually works.

Also, even if it did work, WHICH IT DOESN’T, there are other ways that actually work, that don’t involve abusing people

You’re saying, that you don’t care about non-abusive methods, because you WOULD rather abuse your child, or person in your care.

"The wounded recognized the wounded."

This upcoming month is Child Abuse Awareness month. I ask that anyone who follows and/or sees this please call your states hotline to report any suspected child abuse.

As a social worker that works with victims of child abuse, children are very rarely ever abused only once. If you suspect it, please report it.

Your call may be the only hope that child is counting on for a better tomorrow.

realbatter asked:

Hello! This isn't really a question, I just want to say thank you for bringing up the spanking of children and providing facts that prove that it really isn't alright. I've always thought that it was wrong and terrible, but I've never had anything aside from my own experiences as someone who wasn't spanked (or physically punished at all) as punishment for mistakes. Again, thank you so much for bringing it up.

It never fails to blow my mind how many people will openly and shamelessly defend hitting children as a form of discipline.