child-abuse

you hit me when i was little. i think i was five the first time i wanted to kill myself, because of you, and the feeling never really went away afterwards. eventually, at nine, i concluded that i should do my best to be a good child so you wouldn’t hit me anymore. you were the parent, stronger and smarter and you wouldn’t ever yield, so i would. we still fought, but you didn’t hit me. at twelve, you told me that suicidal people were stupid. i realised that i must be stupid, in that case, and did my best to ignore those feelings so i wouldn’t be stupid.

i’m older now, and you say you love me and you haven’t hit me in years, and you hug me and tell me that i’m your world and you apologised for what you did but i still don’t feel safe in your arms and i know you’re sorry but i’m still scared that you don’t actually mean it and one day we’ll be back at square one

One thing that really gets me about today’s society is how emotional/psychological child abuse is normalized and even celebrated.

I’ve noticed a phenomenon of parents getting together and talking about how they’re such a Mean Mom or Mean Dad and how they’re raising their children to be respectful. They talk about destroying their children’s possessions, isolating them, humiliating them, and/or publicly shaming them.

And when these people hear about, say, a parent smashing a kid’s phone for not cleaning their room or burning their possessions or filming a punishment or embarrassing moment and putting it up on social media, they commend the parents for “teaching the kids a lesson”.

Why the fuck do we, as a society, think this is okay?

It doesn’t teach kids valuable life lessons, it teaches them to be scared of repercussions. It’s bullying and child abuse and for some reason, people think that’s commendable.

Whenever I hear people saying “haha I bet that 14 year old learned a lesson”, it instantly makes me suspicious of them. I will instantly think of you as either a potential child abuser or a child abuse enabler.

As a survivor of psychological abuse, people dismissing this behavior as “harmless life lessons” makes me wonder if it really was abuse. If I deserved it. If I really deserved to have my pet’s life threatened because I was a liar.

It’s not cute. It’s not “good parenting”. It’s intimidating, shaming, and traumatizing your child into compliance.

Barring a small handful of common-sense exceptions, kids should be allowed to hang out in their room with the door shut, and as they get older, locked. People need to be alone sometimes. That’s just sort of a common experience. This may come as a surprise to some folks, but children & teenagers are people. Sometimes they’ll get sad and they’ll want to be alone. Sometimes they’ll get anxious and they’ll want to be alone. Sometimes they’ll want to be alone and not really have a reason for it; that’s okay, too.

June is LGBT Pride Month, which means that today is a fine day to say this.

Parents are obligated to love, support, affirm, and protect their LGBTQ children. It’s not an issue of the parents’ rights to raise their children how they want to. It’s not a matter for individuals to decide. It’s not even a subject that’s up for debate. The rule is that parents have a duty to their children, and that duty doesn’t stop just because the child happens to be LGBTQ identified.

ya’ll are like “child sexual abuse survivors can’t remember their abusers names, eye color, height, weight, and social security number? they must obviously be lying” meanwhile you can’t remember what you had for lunch last tuesday so go fuck yourselves

The Subtle Maliciousness of ch. 85

It’s taken me a while to put all these thoughts into words. This is going to be a close reading and dissection of the events that take place at Cochlea during the chapter. Before reading any further, please understand that none of this is intended as “hate” on any character, especially Arima. So if you are going to read it that way, I would prefer you just stop now. It’s going to talk a lot about complicated and abusive relationships and the complexities of what love does and doesn’t mean. No one is obligated to read this post, and I totally understand if it isn’t something you want to read or how you want to see the chapter. You are welcome to opt out of the post at any time or disagree with me when you finish it.

For simplicities sake, when I refer to “this chapter” I’m referring only to the events that take place in Cochlea. I’ll leave my thoughts on the rest for other posts.


Like most of the fandom, I sobbed during chapter 83. Not only were the reveals in the chapter earth shattering, the send off Ishida gave to Arima was heartfelt and gentle. It was beautiful. In one chapter, Ishida laid bare that mystery of a man - his secrets, his dreams, and his failings. We were in Kaneki’s place, there. Truly seeing Arima for the first time just to lose him. It still gives me chills, just typing this.

But one of the strongest parts of how Arima’s death was handled in ch. 83, for me, is that it didn’t, ultimately, erase the nuanced portrait of Arima that we had all been painting in our heads. It gave us a means of connecting, of seeing him with sympathy, but it also showed him as a man with fears and flaws and, ultimately, weakness.

The Arima shown in ch. 83 was someone who saw Kaneki - or the person he turned Kaneki into - Haise - as the only good thing he ever did in the world. But, as a man who was never shown love, as a man who was never treated as anything other than a tool himself, Arima was someone who ultimately struggled to see Haise, who he cared for deeply, as a person and not a tool as well. Even during their last battle, Arima is molding him into what he needs him to be. Even as he himself is dying, Arima is giving commands.

They truly loved me,

Only they didn’t know how to love.

What a stupid God.

And in ending his life as he did, Arima once more parallel’s Kaneki’s mother. Arima’s rebellion, in the end, was only ever able to go as far as saying no. He could never fight back. He could never turn on the people who abused him, who turned him into a weapon. Instead, he let them work him to death. Instead, he passes the battle onto Kaneki.

Just like Kaneki’s mother.

Again, I don’t think this condemns Arima, but rather shows him as ultimately a scared, abused, and broken person. And ch. 83, I think, left us with this beautiful portrait of Arima in all his flaws. A man who only ever wanted freedom.

Keep reading

Runaway: Part 2

(( OOC: Based off of “We Were Infinite” by @wolfstar-puppylove ( with minor changes to fit into my marauder time-line. *thumbs up* ) 

Regulus played by: @siriusly-not-over-remus​ ))

Walburga: *lurches for her wand* *Whirls around and points it at Sirius, here eyes crazed*  

Orion: *takes a step forward, stunned* Walburga-

Sirius: *hits the ground, writhing* 

Sirius: *trembles, the pain subsiding* *hears his parents talking, but can’t make out what they’re saying through the ringing in his ears* 

*the door creaks as Regulus appears, unnoticed by Walburga and Orion

Sirius: *struggles to sit up and fails* 

Sirius: Reg… *falters, too weak to finish* 

Regulus: *doesn’t budge, simply stares* 

Sirius: *thinking desperately* Regulus… Help me…

Sirius: Don’t just stand there! 

Sirius: REGULUS!!!

Sirius: *chokes* Reg… 

*struggles to roll over, attempting to get up* *nearly passes out* 

Sirius: Run… I have to run

Sirius: *spots the fireplace* 

Walburga: *shrieks* SIRIUS!!! 

To Be Continued

Let’s try this again

so a few months ago I made this post asking for donations to help me escape my emotionally abusive father and pay for college in a few years. I received 2 donations totaling to $38.00. while I am eternally grateful to those who were able to donate, I’m still in need of more to become financially independent. my PayPal email is (ravenoc75@gmail.com) and anything you can send will help me tremendously. In return, I can provide the following:

  • $2 or more: Sigil for any word or phrase
  • $5 or more: Pendulum reading (yes/no question, amethyst stone)
  • $10 or more: Both of the above OR I can provide you with a spell for a given situation (what herbs or gems to use, what incantation to say etc.)

please, donate what you can, if you can. if you aren’t in a position to donate, please reblog. i don’t deserve to live like this and i can’t stand it much longer.

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MY NEPHEW NEEDS YOUR HELP

He is currently living with his father and step-mother and is unable to see his mom because his father found out he is TRANS. His father is trying to say that my sister’s home is damaging to my nephew, Jake’s, health and keep him from seeing his mother.

My sister is a mother of 3 and her current income is not enough to even begin to fight for custody over her son. We only have $40 raised so far and are worried that he will be sent to conversion therapy.

PLEASE help by donating HERE and spreading the word

Hey, guess what?

If you have a shitty father, you’re allowed to be angry about it.

If you have a shitty father, you don’t have to love them.

If you have a shitty father, you don’t have to feel bad or guilty about being angry and not loving them.

Your feelings are VALID.

They had no right to treat you like that.

Do something nice for yourself today; you earned it.