child's welfare

I want to know why people who think that sex work is bad think that sex work, the act of exchanging sex for something of concrete value, is so much worse than casual hookups, people having sex to procreate, drunk sex, breakup sex, sex you have because you want to feel closer, and all the other weird reasons people have sex–sex to just get losing your virginity over with!–so much worse than all these reasons and ways of having sex.

Talking to other sex workers and people in harm reduction, we keep encountering the idea that sex work is more “high risk” than any other kind of sex except gay sex.

This is demonstrably untrue, however. When sex workers are given the tools to have safer sex, we have exponentially lower rates of sti infection that the surrounding population of civilians of pretty much any age.

Sex workers need protections from civilians, not the other way around.

I understand that a lot of people think sex should ONLY be had in the context of a loving and committed monogamous romantic relationship, but relationships end. At a certain point (say, 2017) divorce rates and breakup rates and hookup culture all combine to make the censure of sex work seem truly hypocritical and ludicrous. So many people are having so many kinds of meaningless sex for stupid reasons, but it’s adult women, trying to leverage the one thing society agrees that we have of value, that need to be protected from themselves.

But take it to the logical legislative conclusions.

Can we really be sure that drunk co-eds can be trusted to make good decisions about who to have sex with? what if in two weeks they find out the person they were sleeping with was LYING to them and sleeping with other people? what if he was doing it without condoms? That’s pretty fucking rude and unethical, shouldn’t we protect young women from this all too common scenario? CAN we? what does that look like?

What about a couple having sex to get pregnant when neither of them is really feeling it but they both want a baby?

Under Oregon law, a stay at home housewife having sex with her husband who pays her bills and mortgage, is trafficked.

And it’s frankly shameful that people criminalise adults under the guise of concern trolling about sexually exploited children when they aren’t lobbying even close to as hard to a total reboot of the child welfare system–Texas’s CPS system recently made international headlines after human rights abuses so bad they make Minnesota’s or Oregon’s look fine. (I’m being bitterly hilarious, the abuses of different cps systems are never fine).
People are willing to support misogynist and racist abuses overseas and at home (TPP, H&M, Goodwill) and they’re willing to close their eyes to child abuse in the the very system made to protect them, but they love to jerk off to the idea of exploited people and being the magical white saviours of fragile exploited women and children. it’s this ONE SPECIFIC CONTEXT they love to circle jerk about.

They don’t give a damn about other kinds of slavery, they don’t publicise instances of it, they don’t organise against it, they don’t support sex workers trying to organise to aid vulnerable people. they genuinely JUST care about this one aspect of sexuality, regardless of how interconnected all misogynist and racist abuses are and the realities of survival under global capitalism.

I think it’s amazing. Just amazing. In one hundred years, nothing has changed except to become worse for poor people around the world, but the middle class is still more concerned about legislating adult women’s sexuality than real change that would protect vulnerable people.

  See, this is the kind of Republican/Conservative bullshit that pisses me off!
  First, they think it’s impossible to care about more than one thing at a time. Like no one could possibly care about Americans AND refugees.
  But, the deeper issue – the issue they’re trying like hell to cover up – is that they don’t give a flying frak about our homeless children either! If they did, they wouldn’t be cutting welfare, food stamps, unemployment, and disability! They wouldn’t be fighting so hard against raising the minimum wage! They wouldn’t be cutting education spending – from pre-school to college! They wouldn’t be cutting money for housing! They wouldn’t be killing the Affordable Care Act (ObamaCare)! They wouldn’t be cutting funding for Planned Parenthood! They wouldn’t be cutting funding for veterans! They wouldn’t continually blame the poor for being poor! They wouldn’t be spending 8-14 BILLION dollars on a wall the majority of Americans don’t want, and most experts say won’t work, instead of helping either Americans or refugees!
  These hypocritical chuckleheads cry “America First,” but their actions have made it all too clear they don’t care about Americans either! Well, unless those Americans have the word “millionaire” after their name.

Some thoughts about the “DC sex trafficking ring” stuff spreading all over FB this week:

You know statistically, it’s very likely that missing kids are runaways/throwaways (50%), or that they’re reported missing due to a simple miscommunication (38%), or were taken by a non-custodial parent, which typically happens as a kinda revenge against the custodial parent (7%). That’s 95% of cases right there.

Underage people who run away or are kicked out have an increased chance of entering the sex industry, but a study conducted in NYC showed that extremely-few underage sex workers are even pimped: for some kids, doing sex work is actually preferable to whatever shitty things were keeping them trapped at home. I don’t wanna argue about the “ethics” of underage sex-working or whatever, it’s just a reality of what some teenagers do to survive in nearly-impossible circumstances.

Which brings me to another concern about how we ignore the systemic, and much more difficult to address, reasons why kids end up missing. It’s rarely stranger-danger, and more likely something like abuse (physical, mental, sexual, etc.), or a broken child welfare system, or queer kids feeling unsupported at home or whatever.

Politicians and law enforcement and whatever other opportunists love to jump on whatever new sex trafficking panic rears its head (which happens routinely in different forms) as a way to crack down on already-marginalized communities (poor ppl, poc, sex workers, illicit drug users). They arrest a buncha of adult streetworkers and massage girls, tossing em into the inherently-VIOLENT carceral system, and get pats all around for “at least doing SOMETHING”.

And ppl point to sketchy-but-more-benign magazine-salesperson recruitment posters and stuff as proof of trafficking (pix of which a number of folks on my feed have been passing around this week), thinking that that’s what trafficking looks like, just out in plain sight like that (believe me ive had some sketchy jobs like that and so have my friends but they were technically legal and non-sexual! There are tons of ways to economically exploit highschoolers that won’t get you thrown in prison bc “free market” n shit).

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-a woc friend who is shy and wants to remain anonymous.

but just a reminder: the stats around trafficking are deliberately vagued up by antitrafficking orgs who stretch the definition of youth and the definition of trafficked, but the info we have gives us no reason to believe that sexual exploitation numbers differ materially from sexual abuse and rape numbers; that is, two thirds of sexual abuse and assault are committed by people known to the survivor or even their family.

if you want to support kids and survivors of sexual violence, you need to be supporting the creation and funding of youth shelters, day centers, drop in centers, the renewal of RHYA and the inclusion of LGBT in the population services it funds, and a total overhaul of the child welfare system AND the DHS: adults in foster homes and developmentally disabled adults are exponentially more likely to be sexually exploited and abused than almost any other category of adult.

I literally just put this on twitter but Re:Phoenix Rally, I’m sorry but if you bring your young child to a fucking protest, ESPECIALLY with how many people have been hurt recently but cops and protesters alike, you’re a bad fucking parent.

Your child isn’t here to help you make political statements. Your child is a responsibility, and one you should take fucking seriously. You knowingly brought your kid into a dangerous situation, KNOWING FULL WELL HOW THESE EVENTS HAVE GONE IN THE PAST, so don’t you cry to the internet when predictably, bad shit goes down and your kid is hurt.

Honestly, I feel bad for the children. They didn’t fucking consent to going out and facing the possibility of being gassed. YOU, their PARENT, made that choice. So fuck you.

nytimes.com
Foster Care as Punishment: The New Reality of ‘Jane Crow’
For women in New York’s poorer neighborhoods, the threat that a child will be removed to foster care for little cause is a grim reality.
By Stephanie Clifford and Jessica Silver-Greenberg

“It takes a lot as a public defender to be shocked, but these are the kinds of cases you hear attorneys screaming about in the hall,” said Scott Hechinger, a lawyer at Brooklyn Defender Services. “There’s this judgment that these mothers don’t have the ability to make decisions about their kids, and in that, society both infantilizes them and holds them to superhuman standards. In another community, your kid’s found outside looking for you because you’re in the bathtub, it’s ‘Oh, my God’” — a story to tell later, he said. “In a poor community, it’s called endangering the welfare of your child.”

“We’ve inflicted the most devastating remedy we have on these families, then we’re basically saying, within a month, ‘Sorry, our mistake,’” [Sankaran] said. “And these families are left to deal with the consequences.”

Broad content warning – removal from family, people being arrested post-partum, mentions of suspected (not actual) child abuse – stuff in that vein.

Black History Month 2017

Planned Parenthood strives to create a world where sexual and reproductive health care is accessible, affordable, and compassionate — no matter what.

Black women have always championed reproductive freedom and the elimination of racism and sexism as an essential element of the struggle toward civil rights. This Black History Month, Planned Parenthood honors the resilience of Black women like Dr. N. Louise Young and Dr. Thelma Patten Law,  two of the first Black women health care providers at Planned Parenthood — and the resistance of women like Angela Davis who continue to fight for the full dignity, autonomy and the humanity of all women.

In commemoration of Black History Month each year, we lift up and celebrate those who have defied their time and circumstances to become Dream Keepers and freedom fighters. #100YearsStrong of Planned Parenthood could not be possible without the vision, tenacity and determination of those who have kept and protected the dream of reproductive freedom, justice and autonomy.

The 2017 Dream Keepers

Ida B. Wells-Barnett
Journalist, Civil Rights Activist

Ida B. Wells-Barnett was the most prominent Black woman journalist of the late 19th and early 20th century. Her research and reporting around the lynching of Black people helped to bring national attention to the crisis and pushed federal legislation to hold mobs accountable.

Marsha P. Johnson
Activist, Stonewall Rioter

Marsha P. Johnson, co-founder of the Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries (STAR), is credited with being one of the first people to resist the police during the Stonewall Riots of 1969. On the commemorative anniversary of the riots in 1970, Johnson led protesters to the Women’s Detention Center of New York chanting, “Free our sisters. Free ourselves,” which demonstrated early solidarity between LGBTQ rights and anti-prison movements.

Former Congresswoman Shirley Chisholm
Black Feminist, Former Presidential Candidate

In 1990, Shirley Chisholm — along with former Planned Parenthood Federation of America president Faye Wattleton, Byllye Avery, Donna Brazile, Dorothy Height, Maxine Waters, and Julianne Malveaux (among others) — formed the group African American Women for Reproductive Freedom to show their support for Roe v. Wade, doing so with what we now call a reproductive -justice framework. The former New York representative was the first African American woman elected to Congress. During her seven terms, Rep. Chisholm pioneered the Congressional Black Caucus and was an unwavering champion for women’s reproductive rights and access to health care, including abortion. In 2015, President Obama awarded Rep. Chisholm with the Presidential Medal of Freedom Award.

Dr. N. Louise Young

Dr. N. Louise Young, a gynecologist and obstetrician, opened her practice in Baltimore in 1932. She later operated a Planned Parenthood health center that was opened with the assistance of the local Urban League and other community partners.

Dr. Thelma Patten Law

Dr. Thelma Patten Law becomes one of the first Black women ob-gyns in Texas. She provided health care for more than 25 years at the Planned Parenthood Houston Health Center, which opened in 1936.

Faye Wattleton
Author, Advocate for Reproductive Freedom, Former President of PPFA

In 1978, Wattleton became the youngest individual at the time and the first African American woman to serve as president of the Planned Parenthood Federation of America (PPFA). During Wattleton’s 14–year tenure, PPFA became one of the nation’s largest charitable organizations. Under Wattleton’s leadership, the organization secured federal funding for birth control and prenatal programs; fought against efforts to restrict legal abortions; and, along with reproductive health allies, helped to legalize the sale of abortion pill RU-486 in the United States.

The Coiners of Reproductive Justice

Black women’s existence has inherently challenged the “choice vs. life” argument. However the creation and coining of reproductive justice ushered in a new framework where women of color could express all of the ways their sexual and reproductive autonomy is systemically limited.

Dr. Dorothy Roberts
Author, Scholar, Professor

Dorothy Roberts is an acclaimed scholar of race, gender and the law. Her books include Fatal Invention: How Science, Politics, and Big Business Re-create Race in the Twenty-first Century (New Press, 2011); Shattered Bonds: The Color of Child Welfare (Basic Books, 2002), and Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction, and the Meaning of Liberty (Pantheon, 1997) — all of which have shaped and informed scholarship around reproductive justice.

@DorothyERoberts


Monica Roberts
Historian, Founder and Editor-In-Chief of TransGriot

Monica Roberts, aka the TransGriot, is a native Houstonian and trailblazing trans community leader. She works diligently at educating and encouraging acceptance of trans people inside and outside the larger African-American community and is an award-winning blogger, history buff, thinker, lecturer and passionate advocate on trans issues.


Dr. Iva Carruthers
Past President of Urban Outreach Foundation, General Secretary of the Samuel DeWitt Proctor Conference

Carruthers uses her ministry as a vehicle for addressing social issues, particularly those involving people of African descent both in the United States and abroad. She is past president of the Urban Outreach Foundation, a nonprofit, interdenominational organization that assists African and African-American communities with education, health care, and community development.

@IvaCarruthers



Rev. Dr. Alethea Smith-Withers
Founder and Pastor; The Pavilion of God, Washington, DC; and Chair of the Board of Directors for Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice

Rev. Smith-Withers has been an active advocate for reproductive justice for many years. She is currently serving as the chair of the board of directors of Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice (RCRC). She is the founder and pastor of The Pavilion of God, a Baptist Church in DC.  She hosts “Rev UP with Rev. Alethea”, a BlogTalkRadio show.

@RevAlethea


Rev. Dr. Susan Moore
Associate Minister at All Souls Church Unitarian

Dr. Moore’s ministry has focused upon the challenges facing urban America. An HIV/AIDS and teen pregnancy prevention educator and trainer, she has worked with several community and faith-based groups, including the DC Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, Planned Parenthood, and AIDS Action Foundation. She actively advocates for a national, coordinated AIDS strategy to reduce racial disparities, lower the incidence of infection, increase access to care, and involve all stakeholders.


Bevy Smith
CEO and Founder of Dinner with Bevy

A Harlem native and New York fashion fixture, Smith is outspoken about women’s empowerment and social justice. She gives back by connecting and engaging a network of top leaders to promote social change.

@bevysmith


Mara Brock Akil
Screenwriter and producer and founder of Akil Productions

Mara Brock Akil is the co-creator of hit TV shows Girlfriends, The Game, and Being Mary Jane.  She is a tireless advocate of women’s health and rights.

@MaraBrockAkil


Tracy Reese
American fashion designer

Relentless PPFA supporter, Reese is a board member of the Council of Fashion Designers of America.

@Tracy_Reese


Kimberlé W. Crenshaw
Scholar, Professor at the UCLA and Columbia Schools of Law

Kimberlé W. Crenshaw is a feminist scholar and writer who coined the term “Intersectionality.” Kimberlé  is the co-founder of the African American Policy Forum, which developed seminal research on Black women and girls and the school-to-prison pipeline and policing, including, respectively: “Black Girls Matter: Pushed Out, Overpoliced and Underprotected” and “Say Her Name.”

@SandyLocks

Angela Peoples
Co-Director of GetEqual

Serving as the Co-Director of GetEqual, Angela is working to ensure that Black lives and gender justice is a guiding force in LGBTQ work.

@MsPeoples


Jazmine Walker
Reproductive Justice Leader

Jazmine is a big fine woman who specializes in reproductive justice and agricultural economic development.

Her dedication to public scholarship and activism is driven by a passion to amplify feminist and reproductive justice discourse around Black women and girls, especially those in Mississippi and the broader South.


Amandla Stenberg
Actress, Author

This Black queer feminist makes us look forward to the next generation of feminist leaders and thinkers.

Her YouTube video, “Don’t Cash Crop My Cornrows,” clapped-back against the cultural appropriation of Black fashion and style and won our hearts.

@amandlastenbergs


Charlene A. Carruthers
National Director for Black Youth Project 100

Political organizer Carruthers is building a national network and local teams of young Black activists.  She is committed to racial justice, feminism, and youth leadership development.

@CharleneCac


Monica Simpson
Executive Director of SisterSong National Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective

At SisterSong National Women of Color Reproductive Justice Collective, Simpson works to amplify and strengthen the collective voices of indigenous women and women of color to ensure reproductive justice through securing human rights. She has organized extensively against the systematic physical and emotional violence inflicted upon the minds, bodies, and spirits of African Americans with an emphasis on African-American women and the African-American LGBT community.

@SisterSong_WOC


Deon Haywood
Executive Director, Women With A Vision, Inc.

Haywood works tirelessly to improve quality of life and health outcomes for marginalized women of color.  Since Hurricane Katrina, Haywood has led Women With a Vision, a New Orleans-based community organization addressing the complex intersection of socio-economic injustices and health disparities.  

@WWAVinc


Rep. Sheila Jackson Lee
Congresswoman, D-TX 18th District

Congresswoman Jackson Lee has been a staunch supporter of Planned Parenthood and women’s health.

This year she has become a valuable champion as a member of the House Judiciary Committee, where she was vocal at both hearings displaying a clear understanding of the important role Planned Parenthood health centers play in the communities they serve. She also came to the floor on several occasions and attended a Planned Parenthood’s press conference, lending her voice in the fight against backwards legislation.

@JacksonLeeTX18


Del. Stacey Plaskett
Congresswoman, D-US-VI

Delegate Stacey Plaskett became a supporter of Planned Parenthood this year when she spoke out for Planned Parenthood health center patients during a Oversight and Government Reform hearing, where she is a member, commenting that she would like a Planned Parenthood health center in the Virgin Islands.

@StaceyPlaskett


Del. Eleanor Holmes Norton
Congresswoman, D-DC

As a fierce, passionate, Black feminist and reproductive health advocate, Congresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton has supported Planned Parenthood unwaveringly. She also sponsored the EACH Woman Act and, in 2015, held an event with young women on abortion access.

@EleanorNorton


Rep. Joyce Beatty
Congresswoman, D-OH 3rd District

Rep. Beatty has been an active supporter of women’s health during her tenure in Congress, cosponsoring legislation, signing onto pro-letters and always voting in the interest of women’s health.


Rep. Maxine Waters
Congresswoman, D-CA 43rd District

Since arriving in office in 1990, Rep. Waters has voted in the best interest of the health of women and communities of color, making a career of addressing these issues by closing the wealth gap.    

I can say very definitively that race is an invented political system; it is not a natural biological condition of human beings. The human species is a single race. It is not biologically divided up into distinguishable races.  - Dorothy E. Roberts (b. March 8, 1956) 

She is an internationally recognized scholar, public intellectual, and social justice advocate, she has written and lectured extensively on the interplay of gender, race, and class in legal issues and has been a leader in transforming public thinking and policy on reproductive health, child welfare and bioethics.

I’ll be fine.“ – For caregivers, it may translate to: I’ll be functional. I’ll be productive. I’ll make sure that life continues on as normal. I’ll be strong and people will see my strength.  I’ll be the rock. I’ll be the touchstone. Because I am the safety net and I cannot have holes; lest someone fall to me in the wrong moment and I fail them.

But just like nets, I may need minor repairs. I may need another pair of eyes to watch and see where I am wearing thin. I don’t need you to fix me. I just need you to help me recognize my own damage.

—  “Someone Else’s Rock” - The book I’ve titled but might never write.

anonymous asked:

I just read that operation cross country helped bust a child trafficking ring. What’s your take?

They say that every year.

There are a few really important things you have to bear in mind when reading anything about “child sex trafficking.”

One: you have to remember that the definition of trafficking law enforcement uses–despite the federal definition which requires “force, fraud, or coercion”, when it comes to minors, any sexual transactions for money, food, or shelter, are “trafficking” regardless of whether elements of force, fraud, or coercion are involved.

Which at first glance makes sense, right? If you’re under 18 its statutory rape because you can’t consent.

But then remember the totally inadequate number of shelters we have as a country, especially youth shelters, especially shelters for LGBT youth. Most youth shelters require that you disclose who and where your guardians are just to get inside or get a meal, regardless of why you ran away; and for the vast majority of youth runaways, who are LGBT, they ran away because of abuse at home. So they aren’t going to be able to access the shelter system, because that requires putting themselves back in certain danger.

Trading sex for shelter becomes the best option to these kids, and as a csa survivor, I am not going to tell them which kind of sexual abuse is better for them. They get to decide that for themselves and I’m going to A) respect their decision and B) fight like hell for conditions where that isn’t a choice they have to make anymore, including the creation of shelters, day centers, and drop in centers where they can go to be safe without having to let their abusive pieces of shit parents and foster parents know where they are.

Then, the cops classify any two people working together as “trafficking” each other, even if both parties are under 18, and ESPECIALLY if one party is a person of colour. All you have to do is look at the news for this; people of colour traveling with their own children or with little kids about to be adopted get flagged as traffickers even when they are 100% not. So it becomes exponentially worse when people of colour are working in tandem with white people for safety (because it’s always safer to have someone you can check in with who knows where you are and knows to come looking for you/alert friends if you don’t show up at a certain time). Those people, whether they’re kids or adults, get screwed by the system, framed as pimps and traffickers and have their lives and any chance at a future destroyed, while the white people they were working with for safety reasons get labeled “victims” and get off lightly.
There’s NO ability to look at survival sex and safety plans with nuance, on the part of law enforcement. Their goal is arrests and that is all.

And back to point one, they used to report how many of the kids they arrest are runaways and foster kids who weren’t even reported missing. I don’t know if they still do that, but the last OCC report I read did and it was damning. The overwhelming majority of the kids were runaways, mostly from foster homes that hadn’t reported than missing, and I don’t know if you can read between the lines there but I can. Those kids were likely better off on the streets than they were in the foster system and they ones who weren’t old enough to send to jail were simply returned to the foster system.

Did you know the Texas child welfare system was written up for human rights abuses?
Meanwhile kids routinely die in foster care in Minnesota and Oregon. And those are the states I’m familiar with because I know social workers working in them.

Until we have something better to offer kids than situations that routinely lead to abuse and not infrequently death, I support them running away. You can read Tara Burns’ account of how she survived foster care–it was by “trafficking” herself, often to the same cops who “rescued” her by returning her to foster care.

And finally, the vast majority of the people arrested during OCC were adults doing consensual adult sex work like I do, aka trafficking myself/being a trafficking victim of myself.

Until we have law enforcement who don’t get funding from arrests; until we have law enforcement that isn’t routinely exposed as sexually exploiting vulnerable women and girls (Oakland PD, Alaska PD, Seattle PD, SF PD, and the forces that covered for Daniel Holtzclaw to name BUT A HANDFUL); until we overhaul child welfare and foster care; until we BELIEVE and SUPPORT survivors and don’t require them to go thru grueling and humiliating processes with little chance at ever getting justice just to PROVE their sincerity; until we’ve changed the world?

operation cross country will remain what it has always been: a destructive farce that serves as masturbatory fodder (in both senses of the term) for the men who profit off it and which serves to reassure white people that sexual abuse and exploitation can’t happen in their neighbourhoods, not in THEIR homes, when we know for a fact that 2/3 of sexual abuse are committed by family members or other people known to the survivor.

And that’s what trafficking is, just dressed up in a fancy term to confuse and befuddle the issue: it’s sexual abuse. And it happens most often in homes, behind closed doors, by perpetrators most men will never ever recognize or admit as “traffickers.”

Throw that word out and call it what it is: sexual abuse and sexual exploitation. Then we can stop targeting safety partners of colour and go after the real enemy: the cops. Foster care. Woody Allen. Weinstein. Your fucking dad. All those men who’ve been safe and protected for so long.

Destroy them.

Episode 100, part 2 and let’s have some FUN

oh. not fun.

Not fun at all. While Yami is having possibly the worst duel your correspondent has ever had to sit through, and Honda and Otogi are fuckin around with life and limb, the Kaiba brothers have been hurtled back in time to a moment both of them would rather forget…

“already dead” is just about as vague as vague can be, and “an accident” doesn’t really clue us in much either. It’s possible Mokuba’s avoiding the memories but I think it’s more likely that he just doesn’t. know. Like Seto is not famed for his willingness to discuss the past. At all. Ever. And Mokuba was only about five years old when they arrived at the orphanage. I think Mokuba genuinely doesn’t know what actually happened to either of his parents, and has no one to ask.

It’s also not clear what happened immediately after Seto and Mokuba’s father’s death, except that upwards of six relatives (a) existed but (b) cared only for whatever money was involved.

Seto was defined during this period as being very crankily protective of the hobgoblin that is his younger brother.

Seriously, is tiny!Mokuba supposed to be cute?? Cause he’s sure as fuck not.

I suppose that, having died suddenly, their father didn’t leave a will, cause the fact that the relatives managed to get the inheritance and ditch the kids is a pretty damning indictment of both the father’s legal presence and whatever passes for child welfare services in YGO-world.

Like sending kids in your care to the orphanage of the shadowmen is just NOT OKAY, y’know? Like it’s … not easy to do. It’s actually pretty hard to give a kid up for adoption without losing any other kids you may have!

So at this point, Mokuba’s memories - with the dull colours and the creeptastic shadowmen, intersect with the virtual reality they’re currently in, because the two brothers look around…

… and see the full-colour version of events…

… minus their “relative”, who has immediately driven away, leaving the boys with nothing in this world but their stylish handbags.

Mokuba looks back. Seto doesn’t. (For those of you who are worried about the mid-term exam: yes, this is a demonstration both of the Theme and of the two brother’s individual characters as they exemplify their respective archetypes.)

Having so far been almost exaggeratedly disdainful of events, actually seeing himself and his brother as they were at 9 and 5 years old evokes, rarity of rarities, a spontaneous and reasonable emotion from Seto Fucking Kaiba

So. How is Noah doing this? Like HOW is Noah doing this? Is the VR actively using their memories right now? Because Noah hasn’t had a chance before this to mine them for data. There weren’t CCTV cameras on every inch of the orphanage, there CERTAINLY weren’t any in the park/playground. Gozaburo could have provided data for most of the orphanage, but not for these particular moments of the brothers alone together. Seto and Mokuba, being different ages and very different people, probably have different memories of this time. Although I do suspect Seto’s memory is eidetic, which would help. But could even that really be enough to produce such perfect renditions of the past, of a past both brothers have tried to forget? Or is the VR simply sketching the basics and letting the imaginations and emotions of the brothers fill in the details?

However it’s happening, they’re shocked…

Mokuba especially is rattled, maybe because he remembers it less clearly and maybe because tiny!Mokuba is having a visibly more difficult time than tiny!Seto

Tiny!Mokuba ran away from the orphanage and went to a park, and current!Mokuba seems to have forgotten, until he sees it play out in front of him, that the incident ever occurred, but once he sees it…

(This strongly implies that Mokuba does remember his mother, so she probably didn’t die in childbirth, sorry fic writers.)

And their EXPRESSIONS here, I just can’t, because Mokuba is, for the first time, seeing just how desperate and sad their situation was. As a little kid, he was sad, he’s watching other sons play with their not-dead mothers and crying, but as an older kid, he’s really recognising the pain he went through and how alone they were, and it shows on his face in empathetic horror. But for Seto, this is the second time he’s recognised the awfulness of this situation, and his expression is a soft, tired, recognition…

okay once again, I think they were going for cute but the flat-top-round-bottom eyes are just fuckin creepy #sorrynotsorry

tiny!Seto found tiny!Mokuba and came to bring him back to the orphanage, wearing a faintly anxious smile, that Mokuba is probably extremely familiar with, to the point of not being able to really differentiate it from a genuinely happy smile, I suspect

On the way home, Mokuba explains his reasoning, maybe he could turn back time to when their parents were alive and things were okay…

And there’s nothing, nothing at all, that a nine-year-old can be expected to say to that, because a nine-year-old shouldn’t be left alone to deal with a twice-bereaved five-year-old, or, in fact, any five-year-old, ever, but especially not when they themselves are twice-bereaved so FOR FUCKS SAKE where are child welfare services?? or the orphanage staff??? or their fucking relatives????

But it’s only tiny!Seto and tiny!Seto doesn’t have much, but he does have a very strongly-held set of emotionally-unhealthy principles and dammit, he’s going to preach them!

THIS is where this comes from and it’s not a fun “oh Kaiba! lol!” line. When Kaiba calls someone a loser dog, he’s evoking the absolute worst moment of his life, the terror that grips him before the dawn, the one place on Earth he will never, ever go back to. It means powerlessness. 

And then things get … maladaptive. 

For tiny!Seto, and probably for grown!Seto, happiness is just revenge on those who wronged you. Like literally, the point of being happy is to spite those people who tried to make you unhappy.

No wonder he’s so fucking cranky all the time.

This breaks my goddamn heart because Seto SHOULD NOT BE A FATHER, not even in his slightly-more-stable end-of-canon self (give him a few years) but ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY not as a grief-stricken nine-year-old.

Current Seto and Mokuba watch this play out and then Mokuba says, aloud, to Seto…

… something that didn’t come up on the godforsaken subtitles. But according to @ginrou and a few others, he said “you used to say those phrases a lot, big brother”, so this isn’t some one off, some grasping attempt at comfort in a sudden moment of desperation. Seto repeatedly told Mokuba (a) don’t cry, (b) that’s how they get you, (see) happiness is the best revenge so be fucking happy out of spite, (d) I’m your dad now, and (e) I’ll protect you. Those are heavy things for a nine-year-old to believe, and quite a fucking lot for a five-year-old to hear and internalise. 

The scene changes and the brothers can see themselves inside an empty classroom (STRONGLY implying that they also went to school in the orphanage? is that normal? I never lost my parents at a young age in 1980s Japan) playing chess

They play chess. Surprising no-one, Seto wins. Mokuba was initially like “aw shucks, again?” but then immediately was like,

which is ADORABLE because Mokuba is ADORABLE and you know who else is adorable?

SMUG, BUT NOT MURDEROUSLY SO, SETO

anonymous asked:

I have this friend/acquaintance of less than a year who is Hispanic like me and doesn't believe in Black lives matter. She is an "all lives matter" person. Her argument is, why do black people have to exclude themselves? Native americans, muslims, and Hispanics are also discriminated against. My question is, do you think I should continue to talk some sense to her or should I just stop talking to her and being her friend altogether? I would really value your input.

Well, you are not responsible for your friend’s willful ignorance. And yes, it is willful. But if you want to help a sista out, I assume she can read and use google. That’s literally all it takes–0.65 fucking seconds.

What is it about BLM that offends people? Should marginalized people make no efforts to strive towards equality and fairness?? Historically, it’s effective to have groups that target civil rights protections of specific groups in addition to groups that broadly address everyone’s civil rights. The more, the merrier. 

For example, targeted representation, in no particular order:

  • League of United Latin American Citizens? National Council of La Raza? Hispanic lives matter.   
  • Asian American Justice Center? Asian American Institute? Asian lives matter.
  • Anti-Defamation League? American Jewish Committee? Jewish lives matter.  
  • American Arab Anti Discrimination Committee? Council on American Islamic Relations? Muslim lives matters.
  • American Indian Movement? Native American Rights Fund? Indigenous lives matter.
  • National Organization for Women? League of Women Voters? Women’s lives matter.
  • Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD)? Human Rights Campaign? Queer lives matter. 
  • Children’s Defense Fund? Children’s Advocacy Center? Kid’s lives matter.
  • International Organization for Migration? National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights? Immigrant lives matter.
  • American Disabled for Attendant Programs Today (ADAPT)? American Association of People with Disabilities? Disabled lives matter.

It needs to be understood that like Black Lives Matter, none of these groups is about exclusion. They’re about all of these marginalized groups right to INCLUSION, PROTECTION and EQUALITY. None would exist if the white male supremacy of the establishment hadn’t taken very deliberate actions across history to block our civil rights. 

Does your friend know literally anything about history? How about current events? Does she care to understand, contextualize and THEN form an EDUCATED opinion?

Examples of what these groups have fought/are fighting against:

And to reiterate:

Also, friendly reminder:

huffingtonpost.com
Fighting Legalized LGBTQ Discrimination On The Adoption Front In 2017
Several states allow adoption agencies to bar queer prospective parents. That must change.

“It’s no secret – there is a crisis in our foster care system. Children are aging out of the system because there aren’t enough families to adopt them. Twenty-five percent of the over 427,000 children in the foster care system are eligible for adoption, but every year, thousands of children remain in the system awaiting a forever home. And, each year, over 20,000 of those youth age out of the system, meaning that they enter adulthood with no parents or home.

“All children deserve a family to love and care for them, that can provide them comfort, witness their successes, and ease their pain. We must stop future efforts to enact child welfare license to discriminate laws in additional states, and work to overturn those that already exist.”

Read the full story here