Ello loves! I'm pretty sure I'm autistic, but I'm not sure how to tell my parents? Sorry if this is annoying but do you have any advice? 💜
i was in the same situation so i’ll tel lyou what i did and see if it helps!
before i told my mom and dad about me being autistic i did a loooot of research, about 2 years worth (so i suggest putting some time into it if you haven’t yet). i told my mom i had something i needed to tell her baout and that i wanted to send her some stuff over email, which i did
i sent her a lot of documents about autism and why autism is underdiagnosed in girls due to the way asd presents in girls, and sent her some things about stimming, autistic burnout, traits of autism in girls, etc and told her why i felt like these applied to me
she talked to me later after reading the email and we discussed how i acted when i was younger and how autism would explain a lot of the things i do/did
we then talked to my therapist about (i don’t see him anymore) and he agreed with the diagnosis as well
i then forwarded the message to my dad to let him know but we don’t talk much so i didn’t really sit down and talk to him about it
i don’t know if this will help but maybe you could try something along the lines of an email with information and resources about autism? i wish you the best of luck! maybe also look at some accounts of people talking to their family about autism and see what would be the best thing for you to do regarding your family
Because I love this child and he needs more love, especially his relationship with Yuuri ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
While Phichit is an incredibly friendly lovable cinnamon roll, he won’t stand for anything threatening his best friend Yuuri, even if the threat happens to be someone Yuuri loves. Yuuri clearly adores the Victor he knows now (just as much as he idolized the distant figure in the past), but Phichit won’t forget how much Victor hurt Yuuri in the past, unintentional or not.
I headcanon that on top of being a skilled figure skater, Phichit is an academic genius who skipped grades and entered college in Detroit super early where he met Yuuri, which explains their long acquaintance despite the age difference. He is very, VERY protective of Yuuri. I’ll put up a more detailed headcanon post later (and if there’s interest, possibly prequel comic of pre-YOI anime Detroit college days).
One thing that really gets me about today’s society is how emotional/psychological child abuse is normalized and even celebrated.
I’ve noticed a phenomenon of parents getting together and talking about how they’re such a Mean Mom or Mean Dad and how they’re raising their children to be respectful. They talk about destroying their children’s possessions, isolating them, humiliating them, and/or publicly shaming them.
And when these people hear about, say, a parent smashing a kid’s phone for not cleaning their room or burning their possessions or filming a punishment or embarrassing moment and putting it up on social media, they commend the parents for “teaching the kids a lesson”.
Why the fuck do we, as a society, think this is okay?
It doesn’t teach kids valuable life lessons, it teaches them to be scared of repercussions. It’s bullying and child abuse and for some reason, people think that’s commendable.
Whenever I hear people saying “haha I bet that 14 year old learned a lesson”, it instantly makes me suspicious of them. I will instantly think of you as either a potential child abuser or a child abuse enabler.
As a survivor of psychological abuse, people dismissing this behavior as “harmless life lessons” makes me wonder if it really was abuse. If I deserved it. If I really deserved to have my pet’s life threatened because I was a liar.
It’s not cute. It’s not “good parenting”. It’s intimidating, shaming, and traumatizing your child into compliance.