child advice

“Don’t let anyone dictate how you live your life. Chances are they don’t know what the fuck they’re doing either.”

“Thanks…Grandma, but I don’t think that’s the best advice to share with your 12 and 16-year-old grandchildren.”

“There is no best advice, child. I’m only telling you what I did. Your parent’s generation failed you so it’s up to you to teach you. The first lesson is to pay attention to any and everything. The second lesson is to revise what you learned from the first lesson. Just pay attention and raise yourselves. Things won’t always be this easy and I won’t always be here to make it any less.”

It is very easy to conform to what your society or your parents and teachers tell you. That is a safe and easy way of existing; but that is not living. To live is to find out for yourself what is true.
—  Jiddu Krishnamurti

Okay but guys we all thought that both Victor and Yuuri started behaving like two embarrasing parents since episode 8, but the truth is they’ve been treating Yurio like their own son since the series started.

Dad trying to give some advice.

REBELLIOUS CHILD THINKS HE KNOWS BEST “DAD, I MADE IT, STOP BOTHERING.”

ALWAYS BEING SUPPORTIVE TOWARDS HIS KID.

THIS BEING ONE OF THE FEW MEMORIES WHICH CAN MAKE HIM SMILE LIKE THAT.

NOW WE HAVE THE PATIENT DAD.

And this… they look like a family on vacations.

THEY JUST WANT THEIR SON TO HAVE SOME FUN.

BUT THE BABY BOY IS JUST TOO CLASSY FOR THIS TYPE OF TRIPS.

“OH FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, DADS, I ALREADY TOLD YOU BOTH I CAN’T TAKE BATHS WITH OTHER PEOPLE, AND WHY CAN’T WE STAY IN A BIGGER HOTEL?!, THIS SUCKS I’M GOING TO BED.“

BUT FIRST GIVE ME FOOD.

AND A BATH. SUCH A DEMANDING CHILD.

Also…

Always be sure to teach your kids manners.

“OK YOU TWO, STOP WITH THE FLIRTING! YOUR SECOND HONEYMOON WAS WEEKS AGO.”

Always wants their attention.

PROUD PARENTS. “He’s grown so much…”

“Yeah, that’s our son!”

“We did a good job!”

*THE EMBARRASSING FLIRTING CONTINUES*

“I swear I don’t know them.“

“PLEASE DON’T CALL ME AFTER YOU BOTH KEEP FLIRTING LIKE TWO NEWLY WEDS ON LIVE TV.”

“I’M OUT OF HERE. BYE”

“I’LL CHANGE MY LAST NAME TOO, SO DON’T COME LOOKING FOR ME.”

OKAY BUT JOKES ASIDE, I JUST LOVE THIS BECAUSE VICTOR AND YUURI ARE 27 AND 24, SO JUST IMAGINE, YURIO IS 15, HE IS STILL A KID, WITHOUT EVEN NOTICING IT MIGHT HAVE BECOME A NORMAL HABIT FOR BOTH TO TREAT YURIO AS A YOUNGER BROTHER OR AS THEIR ADOPTED 15 YEAR OLD SON, HOW COULD THEY NOT?

JUST IMAGINE THESE TWO NERDS WHEN THEY ACTUALLY GET TO HAVE THEIR OWN KID?!

anonymous asked:

What would be some behavioral/psychological differences between a kid who's been raised for combat and a child soldier? She's in her mid-teens on what was supposed to be a routine training mission when shit hits the fan and she ends up getting captured. The enemy armed forces that have her assume that she's a child soldier that's been otherwise coerced into this and treat her as such. So how would they be trying to establish rapport with her or subvert her loyalties? (and utterly failing) [1/2]

What, if any, chance do they have of actually succeeding, given that she’s been training since she was 5? Is there any way for them to manage to turn her loyalties? And what would be going through her head during all of this beyond disdain and escape plans, regardless of whether or not she turns? [2/2]             

I get what you’re asking here, you’re asking if a child soldier can be saved through the power of friendship. The answer to that, upfront, is no. Child soldiers and children raised for combat are not misunderstood misanthropes who’ve never had a support network but know what it is and can be approached in the same way you would the average loner.

Child soldiers/kids who’ve been put through any kind of brainwashing are a difficult subject to discuss because it is profoundly disturbing and messed up. The assumption is that if they’re kidnapped from their families, they’ll grow to secretly hate their captors and jump when the first opportunity comes for escape.

That isn’t how it works. In the training, they’re driven to hate their parents and view them as weak. As they’re systematically broken down, they grow to love their captors and consider them family. They develop a deep and abiding loyalty to them.

Falling prey to this conditioning has nothing to do with how strong someone is or isn’t. It’s not a matter of mental or emotional strength. Breaking them down and rebuilding them from the inside out is what their handlers do. They are very adept at it. These children are conditioned through empowerment, which is part of why it’s so seductive. They’re taught to believe that they are better and stronger than everyone else, that other humans are weak. That weakness must be destroyed.

You won’t reach them by treating them in any way they’ll perceive as weakness and if you react the way they expect then you play into the hands of the people who programmed them, then you’ve reinforced the child’s conditioning. The mental conditioning is a booby-trap for the people who might try to help them. Every intuitive choice, every choice that feels natural is going to be the wrong one.

You cannot reach them if you come to them with an assumed understanding of who they are and what a human being is. There’s the person they were, who they’ve learned to despise and the person they see themselves as now. Approaching either of those individuals, whether it’s the person they were or who they currently are, will lock you out.

The average person with no understanding will simply reinforce the child’s views and their handler’s views, and shut out of any way to help them by the child’s dismissal. That’s if the kid doesn’t kill them first, which they will because that’s what they were conditioned to do.

A child overcoming this programming requires years and years of therapy, if they’re fortunate enough to receive it at all.

Abuse isn’t cured by the power of friendship.

We’ve talked about #child soldiers and #children and combat on separate occasions, we’ve even compared them to each other and explained the difference. They are not, however, totally separate.

The main difference:

1) Children Raised to Combat are a long term investment. This is someone whose training has been the focus of their life, with the intent to turn out a solid, above average combatant. These children who won’t see combat until they reach their late teens/adulthood.

2) Child Soldiers are expendable assets given a gun, often given drugs like “BamBam”, told they’re immortal, and shoved onto the battlefield on the idea they’ll give the adult soldiers pause, gun a few down, before getting gunned down themselves. They’re not “soldiers” so much as they are distractions. They are also never sent out alone. You’re not up against one, you’re up against many.

Both have the option of having been put through cultish/psychological programming, but the difference between the two is fairly obvious. It’s a disoriented and drugged child violently kidnapped from their village versus a member of the Hitler Youth or another, similar, organization.

They are both psychologically damaged but in vastly different ways, and those circumstances make it nearly impossible for anyone who isn’t a child soldier or comes from a similarly abusive background to relate.

The irony is going that the Child Soldier is going to be much, much easier to turn because they were never really inside the system to begin with. However, even with just a scant few months, the deprogramming is going to take years. They’re never treated as important. A child who has been raised to combat is valuable, they often see joining as their choice, and they know their own worth. They’ve never known any other kind of normal and are in a much better place to evaluate why their side is the right one. They are co-operative participants, rather than forced. They’re going to see the instructors in their lives as friends and family. They’ll believe in the cause.

A good way to look at the thought process of the adults behind these training programs would be to take a look at the French novel/film “La Femme Nikita” where the assassins are all druggies and runaways pulled off the streets, cleaned up, sobered out, and trained to kill people.

Why is this important?

Because it inspires loyalty. You take people no one will know and no one will miss, people who are not regularly getting four square meals a day, and get them off the streets. You give them a safe place to sleep, regular food, and a purpose. From their perspective, you save them. The threat of expulsion comes next, but what you ask them to do next is not that much worse for them than the hell they were living in before.

The problem when most people look at these situations and setups is that they miss the deeply embedded trust, loyalty, and respect these children feel for those who train them. They have a lifetime and a normative societal state to banish their doubts. They will know what the outside world is like. They’ll have been educated. If they’ve been handled by someone skilled, then everything they see will merely confirm their sociological programming. Questions will be encouraged. Pride in their skills, pride in their country/mission, ego, and self-esteem are encouraged.

You’re looking at your character having an attitude similar to the Spartans in 300. Or, you know, Starship Troopers.

A person who understands their ideology and philosophy is far more useful and capable of independent operation than a blind follower. You want your elites to be capable of independently operating on their own.

You can’t force someone to be good at fighting. You can’t force someone to learn. Like the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

However, the real problem with this question is a critical failure to understand how soldiers operate in warzones, specifically in regards to enemy combatants.

Child Soldiers are still soldiers. They’re enemy combatants and they’re treated like enemy combatants.

This is the concept that’s hardest for most people to grasp.

It doesn’t matter, at the end of the day, whether or not they’re a forced conscript. Child Soldiers are treated as enemy combatants, not children because, well, they are. The sad truth about them is that they’re not really kids anymore. They’re brainwashed and weaponized. The moral barrier that will stop the average child from killing someone doesn’t exist for them. It’s gone. Their innocence is gone. They are exceedingly dangerous. They’re likely to betray and kill their “rescuers” if left to their own devices then return to those who kidnapped them in the first place.

This is a behavior pattern which does not normally make sense to those who have never been abused, but it is very real.

What’s been done to them can’t be cured with kindness, at least not in the early stages and the average person can’t relate to them. It’s difficult enough for most people to relate to adults who’ve been through your garden variety child abuse, and this is on a whole other level. These kids are systematically broken. That is the point of the breaking. So, that when the average adult treats them like a kid they kill them.

Child soldiers are unpredictable, including for seasoned combatants. It’s hard as hell to tell when they’re going to snap, and there’s a certain level of psychopathy just lingering beneath the surface because (as children) they’re brains can’t register that death is real.

This is true with children and you see it a lot with children dealing with grief, they lack an understanding of permanence and struggle with the concept of death. Minors don’t grasp consequences the same way adults do, and there are different standards regarding their ability to do so consciously.The training child soldiers undergo preys on that. It preys on the limbo. So, they’re handlers feed them cocaine and tell them they’re invincible and they believe them. The important thing about child soldiers is that they don’t know what they’re doing. Their psychology is exploited by their handlers.

You can feel pity for the dog that’s been abused to the point its mind is broken. It won’t stop the dog from killing you.

So, you’re asking these soldiers to take a ticking time bomb with them. Someone who is a direct threat to their lives and their mission. No matter the amount of pity they feel, this is a time bomb they know better than to take. This is especially true if they’re working in enemy territory where she’ll have numerous chances to betray them to her comrades. They’re not equipped to handle her.

She belongs in a POW camp, away from combat, with people who can devote their time to helping her figure out how to be a human instead of a weapon.

Right now, a weapon is all this character knows how to be.

-Michi

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References and Resources:

It is worth remembering that child soldiers exist in the real world, both in our present and throughout history. There is a body of research available on the subject, and worth looking into if you want to do it justice.

If you are a minor, I insist that you approach this subject with the aid or help of an adult. Child soldiers are disturbing material.

The CNN article on Ishmael Beah is an excellent place to start. Beah was a child soldier in the Sierra Leone eventually captured by enemy forces and rehabilitated by Unicef. His memoir A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier is worth looking into if you intend to take the true child soldier route.

If you’re interested in being depressed or learning more about the African diamond trade and how it ties into the Sierra Leone then Blood Diamond with Leonardo Dicaprio is a good movie to invest some time into. The movie goes through great pains to ensure the treatment of child soldiers and their training is accurate.

The book Blood Diamonds: Tracing the Path of the World’s Most Precious Stones which the movie referenced extensively, though only two chapters in the book discuss child soldiers directly. Instead, it focuses on the use of diamonds to fund the RUF in the Sierra Leone. You may find this book more helpful for worldbuilding and it’s discussion on the funding a revolution.

Monster an autobiography by Sanyika Shakur aka Kody Scott about his sixteen years spent as a gangbanger may be helpful. Gangs have a different method in their recruitment of child soldiers but, at the end of the day, the attitudes and mentalities end up in a similar place.

Destined to Witness: Growing Up Black in Nazi Germany by Hans J. Massaquoi isn’t a book about child soldiers per say, but it does document the effect Nazism had on the German people. If you ever wondered how the average person could fall victim to widespread propoganda, participate in such heinous acts, or wondered how the Nazis worked then this is a must read book.

Check out Boy Seamen on Wikipedia, a page discussing the ranking and usage of young adults as sailors in the British Navy and others at the turn of the century. Russel Crowe’s adaptation of Master and Commander: Far Side of the World has an accurate representation of the ages that were put to sea. Patrick O’brien’s series is a must read for anyone interested in doing any writing about the British Navy.

We bring up the Boy Scouts of America sometimes when discussing children raised for combat and while it isn’t a direct 1 to 1 comparison, most of the skills studied and mastered by the Boy Scouts as they gain badges are the sorts of supplementary survival skills you start children on when preparing them for a lifetime of combat.

You don’t have to look far to find the history of children studying and used in warfare. There’s a wealth of information out there, if you start looking for it.

Astrological Counseling based on Your Most Afflicted Planet

For those of you still learning, afflicted means that a planet is receiving hard aspects. For example, if your Uranus has squares, a quincunx, semi-squares, and an opposition to it, this is afflicted.

Moon: You have to experience your emotions fully and acknowledge each hard aspect and how it plays out in your life. Use your moon sign to express your feelings. Exhale all the times you’ve been hurt and nurture your inner child without letting it come out as immaturity. Inhale the love of the universe and visualize it wrapping around your soul.

Sun: You’ve been made to feel inadequate or that you don’t matter. Build yourself up from within, pursue creative projects when you are all by yourself so you have no concern for others’ criticisms. You can even literally stand in the warmth of the sun and visualize your self-esteem building. Exhale all your moments of embarrassment and inhale an acceptance that many things weren’t as big of a deal as you made them out to be.

Mercury: Realize that all the times you were made to feel dumb were just because those around you didn’t understand the way your mind works. Keep your intellect sharp by challenging yourself to read stimulating information, do word games, anagrams, Sudoku, puzzles, math equations, and logic exercises to create new mental pathways. Spread your ideas to those who listen, brush off those who don’t. Every time you get an idea, write it down so that it doesn’t slip away. Don’t cling to a hope that your thoughts and ideas will be recognized, the universe appreciates you even if that novel of yours hardly sells any copies. It is worth it to put your projects out there.

Venus: Realize that current beauty standards are based in perversion. You are a goddess full of grace if you choose to find it and embrace it. Your femininity could have been wounded by trauma or just having been made to feel like you don’t fit what women are expected to be. You can break free from gender norms and find yourself. Release guilt and allow yourself to experience pleasure. In a man’s chart where Venus is afflicted, the way he perceives women is tainted by all the times that women lied to him or manipulated him. He must learn to not project his hurt onto women.

Mars: You feel like you’ve had to fight all your life. Others may not give you a break but you can give yourself a break. Make time in your day to release anger thru physical activity, exhaling frustrations, going into nature to inhale peace. You are exhausted because this world expects you to be full of drive and ambition. Realize that aspiring to excel might not actually bring you fulfillment. You may always feel the need to do more, but release expectations, worry less about accomplishment and more about health. Allow yourself to get more than enough rest, this competitive world is not the way humans are meant to live.

Jupiter: Your capacity to have “abundance mindset” has been squashed by all the times you had to ration your resources. You can learn healthy indulgences and be reasonable about cutting down on what is unnecessary. You are hesitant to be generous because you have experienced not having enough. When you receive positive aspects transiting your natal Jupiter, you’ll be able to lighten up (I can tell you when these happen)! Gaining more knowledge hasn’t happened as well as you’d like. Jupiter afflicted makes it difficult to have an optimistic disposition but you can choose to find light in many situations.

Saturn: You feel like this world is constantly beating you down and you rarely get cut slack. Use this to find compassion for those who are struggling and learn to be lenient with them, realizing that they may not have as great capabilities as you do. You’re tempted to judge others because you had people treat you harshly and now you feel frustrated at those who take it easy. You feel resentment towards people who don’t realize the same things you’re aware of. You can find the balance between diplomacy and being realistic, despite your tendency to point the finger at peoples’ faults. You’ve had to work hard and you subconsciously dump your hardships on others whom you think had less strife than you. Find the lightness in your heart, consider all angles of a situation instead of coming down on someone else. Work thru your inner angst, allow yourself to feel what you have suppressed.

Uranus: Chaos has brewed inside you because you didn’t get the chance to experience your wild side in a healthy way. You were taught that stepping out of line would get you in trouble, so you felt like you had no choice but to obey, even when the rules felt unnecessary to you or when the leaders were controlling you out of their ego instead of based on what is best for everyone. An example of this is if a child is taught to go along with what parents say, not question and not talk back, these children grow up with very little self-worth and incompetency at thinking for themselves. Remind yourself that questioning and rebelling doesn’t make you disrespectful, it makes you a free thinker. In your adult life you feel compelled to do crazy things because of how boxed in you were before, and you have the choice to be wise about letting out your Uranian nature and finding healthy outlets.

Neptune: Life circumstances have prohibited you from fully experiencing your connection to the divine. Having to act practically without getting the chance to develop your intuition has dimmed your soul. You feel like something is missing in your life but you’re not sure what. It is possible that you went thru a phase where you were seeking your next high, to lose yourself in altered consciousness out of your overwhelm of the real world pounding on you. Make time to develop your soul, attending an organized retreat would be beneficial to you. Spend time in nature, feeling how the dirt between your toes connects you up to the sky. Silence your mind while holding stones and allow yourself to slip into other dimensions. Hypnotism would be therapeutic for you. You can discover your connection to spirituality by learning to let life be as it is, then opening yourself to the vastness of the unknown. Meditate on that concept alone.

Pluto: The times you had your power taken away from you has built up inside you as a compulsion to make others feel less powerful. You dominate conversations and like to psychoanalyze others. Realize that just because you may have studied psychology does not mean you are correct about the motivations behind someone’s actions. People aren’t as manipulative as you may project them to be. Learn to be gentler about what you perceive to be someone’s faults. You can be the Phoenix rising from the ashes if you choose to be.

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Don't be a parent...

If you can’t handle the fact that your child might come out gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle
the fact that your child may have a mental illness.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child following a dream that you’re not too fond of.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child dating someone outside your race.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child being different.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child looking different.

Don’t be a parent if you wont have family time with your child.

Don’t be a parent if you plan on not being in your child’s life forever.

Don’t be a parent if you have doubts.

Don’t be an abusive parent, mentally and physically.

Don’t be a parent if you get mad when your child opens up to you and tells you the truth yet you punish them only for at least telling you the truth.

Don’t be a parent if you’re going to end up being a horrible parent.

Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle being a parent, don’t be that weak ass parent to not love your child the right way they deserve to be loved.

Don’t be selfish.

OCTOBER 2016 update: Reminder: Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the thought of your child being LGBTQ+, Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to show your child the importance of manners and respect. Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to show your child how to be grateful & humble. Don’t turn your child into a rude and spoiled little brat. Don’t be a parent if you’re going to raise it to become a jerk. Don’t be a parent if you can’t accept your child following a dream you’re not too fond of. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child dating someone outside your race or religion. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child being different. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child looking different. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the fact that your child may have a mental illness. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle your child having a disability or health condition. Don’t be a parent if you wont talk and try understanding your child. Don’t be a parent if you won’t have quality time with your child. Don’t be a parent if you’re not going to teach them, inspire them, and provide them with support. Don’t be a parent if you won’t put your child before you. Don’t be a parent if you won’t teach your child good values and behavior. Don’t be a parent if you plan on not being in your child’s life forever, on purpose. Don’t be an abusive parent. Don’t be a parent if you can’t handle the idea of being a parent. Don’t be a parent if you’re going to be selfish. Just be a parent that loves their child unconditionally.

If you’re 13-15 years old I want to emphasize that you don’t have to be hyper-vigilante of what’s been happening in the world. You need to be aware of it, but you don’t need an opinion. You should have this in the back of your thoughts; you should be aware, but this shouldn’t be your biggest concern. You’re too young to let this completely fuck over your mental health. Go ahead and march, and get informed. But don’t forget to get some sleep, do your homework, pet a dog each day, and reblog Robbie rotten memes. Don’t forget you’re still in your adolescence.

Reactive Attachment Disorder & Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder - Demystifying the DSM-V

Okay, just as a heads up, I haven’t covered these two in class yet.  I don’t know these as well, so please take them with a grain of salt.


These two disorders are weirdly kind of similar.

BOTH of these require social neglect – meaning that their caregivers have neglected them at some point when the character was a child.

They just have different reactions to that neglect; Reactive attachment disorder is when all the bad shit experienced is internalized, leading the character to be depressed and withdrawn from others.

Disinhibited social engagement disorder, on the other hand, is when the character externalizes their feelings, and becomes excessively and unhealthily social.


Reactive attachment disorder

First, your child character needs to show a consistent pattern of being withdrawn and reserved behavior towards their caregivers.  This is seen through BOTH:

  • The child character doesn’t, or very rarely, wants to be comforted when they’re upset
  • The child character doesn’t, or minimally, feel comforted when others attempt to do so.

There also needs to be problems in their social interactions and emotions, seen with two or more:

  • Very little social or emotional response to others
  • Doesn’t show very many positive emotions
  • Unexplained anger, sadness, or fear appears when interacting with caregivers (even if the caregiver is not threatening in any way).

The child character also needs to have experienced abuse, in one or more of the following forms:

  • The character was socially neglected or deprived, because caregivers didn’t provide comfort, affection, or even interaction.
  • The child character had frequent changes in who was caring for them as they were growing up, which prevented them from forming stable relationships
  • Being raised in a place or situation that makes it difficult to form individual bonds with caregivers (for example, an orphanage with lots of kids and only a few caregivers)

The neglect seen above needs to appear to be responsible for the child character’s problems.

The character can’t have autism.

The character needs to have begun showing symptoms before they’re 5 years old.  The character needs to be older than 9 months.

Specifiers:

If the character has had these problems for more than 12 months, you add the specifier “Persistent”.

If the character has ALL the symptoms listed above, and at a high level, add the specifier “Severe”.

In short, the child character has been failed by their caregivers.  So they won’t let anyone else close so they can be hurt again; or even have never learned how to develop those attachments in the first place.


Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder

The child character has to have a pattern of approaching and interacting with strangers, and has two or more of the following:

  • No or very little reluctance approaching and talking to strange adults
  • The character is overly familiar either verbally or in physical behavior.  This is inconsistent with the child’s age.
  • The child character doesn’t really ever check back with their caregiver after going off on their own, even when in unfamiliar situations
  • The child character is willing to leave with strange adults with almost no, or no, hesitation.

The child character also needs to have experienced abuse, in one or more of the following forms:

  • The character was socially neglected or deprived, because caregivers didn’t provide comfort, affection, or even interaction.
  • The child character had frequent changes in who was caring for them as they were growing up, which prevented them from forming stable relationships
  • Being raised in a place or situation that makes it difficult to form individual bonds with caregivers (for example, an orphanage with lots of kids and only a few caregivers)

These symptoms must be distinguished from the impulsive symptoms seen in an ADHD diagnosis.  

The neglect seen above needs to appear to be responsible for the child character’s problems.

The character needs to be older than 9 months.

Specifiers:

If the character has had these problems for more than 12 months, you add the specifier “Persistent”.

If the character has ALL the symptoms listed above, and at a high level, add the specifier “Severe”.

No fucking apologies. Seriously. It doesn’t matter what cowardly, weak, inhuman abusers say. Your life isn’t theirs; it’s YOURS.

I’m sitting on a train next to a little girl and her father. The dad got up from his seat while the girl was still sleeping. She woke up, but wasn’t worried as to where her father went. Meanwhile, I was terrified. She gave me a look and said, ‘Don’t worry, he will come back. He will never leave me.’ Soon enough, the father came back and kissed her on the forehead. She then whispered into my ear saying, 'When someone loves you with all there heart, they will always return to you. They will always find their way back, and they would never leave you forever.’ I realized from that day on that you never loved me…And I’ve been waiting for you, but you left me forever.
— 

Xspeak

The lesson I learned from a little girl named Charlotte

anonymous asked:

Itachi, Kakashi, and Tobirama as a dad.

Did some Tobirama here just recently, and I have Itachi here

Itachi

•Itachi is kind of a chill father? Not the type who’s overeager or overenthusiastic, even when the baby is first born. He’s just chill

•Don’t get him wrong, he loves his child, but his eagerness is more subdued and internal. Which is a blessing for his child when they’re older, because he’s not one of those embarrassing dads. Aka not the dad who rolls down the car window and yells “Have a good day at school honey!! Love you!!!”

•Itachi is an understanding father too. He knows children can be difficult. During their teenage years especially. He’s going to be the parent his child comes to for advice, because he doesn’t judge. At most, he’ll express his disliking for something if he thinks they’ve made the wrong decision, but he’s more for giving his advice rather than chastising them

•Don’t be fooled though, Itachi is very protective of them. He would do anything for them. It’s just not in a theatrical way, if that makes sense. Like if he hears someone is bullying his child, he goes and talks to the parents of that child, making certain no one else hears about it, because that would embarrass his child probably. And if the parents get a little snippy, Itachi threatens the shit out of them. I mean maybe not threaten, but he’s intimidating when he needs to be. Lmaoo Don’t talk to me or my son ever again

Kakashi

•Kakashi is also a chill dad but he’s a witty dad. The dad with the jokes who makes all his kid’s friends laugh. But his kid thinks he’s soooo embarrassing. They just don’t realize how cool Kakashi is

•He tries to be his kid’s best friend tbh. He succeeds for the most part. When his kid is younger, he definitely succeeds, because he’s so fun (and childish tbh) Like he sits down and picks up their toys and plays with them, Kakashi literally knows all the names of their toys and knows all the little scenarios his kid likes to act out

•So he’s a very loving and fun dad. He knows he has to be, since he’ll be busy with work a good percentage of the time. He doesn’t want to neglect his child, so on the days he’s not busy, he focuses on them 

•Random thought but okay: Kakashi pretends to be sleeping no matter how much his little kid tries to wake him up in the morning. Jumping on him, pushing him, yelling at him, he pretends to stay asleep just to mess with them then he’ll scare them with a “BOO!”

•Bath time with his kid is always a treat. Gives them those bubble beards and bubble mohawks

•Calls them “______-chan” or “young man/young lady”. The latter especially when he’s scolding them

•I tried to be serious with Kakashi’s headcanons but I can’t wow okay let’s try

•One of the biggest talks Kakashi has with his child beside birds and the bees is about shinobi life. He’s going to let them choose whether or not they want to follow in his footsteps and be a shinobi. As the child of the Hokage (or former Hokage) and if he’s not Hokage yet, then fine, the child of the famous Kakashi of the Sharingan, that’s a lot to live up to. Kakashi has faced tragedy and hardship in his life and he needs to explain that to his child. The life of shinobi isn’t all grandeur. He wants them to know that before they make a decision. Because really, Kakashi doesn’t need his child to take after him and be a shinobi. It’s their life, Kakashi doesn’t want his fame to dictate it

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