check you privilege

Alright I’m going to break this down for y'all.

Yes, not ‘all white people’ are racist and shitty, but all white people do benefit from our society being deeply engrained with racist behavior, both socially and economically.

Not 'all men’ are horribly misogynistic, but all men benefit from and unintentionally partake in misogyny through a system designed to promote the idea of women being inferior.

Not 'all straight people’ are homophobic/transphobic, but all straight people unintentionally promote homophobia/transphobia by asking invasive and personal questions, and try to cram LGBT+ individuals into their own boxes of what a 'gay’ person should be.


Having privilege doesn’t mean that you are a bad person; it means that you might not be aware you are acting like one.

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King Philippe and Queen Mathilde welcomed the US Electoral College’s President and First Lady to Brussels on May 24, 2017.

Hamilton bootleg thoughts

It’s hilarious that some anti-bootleg people are saying “I’m not privileged! I’m just saving money to go! And I’ll still have to drive, like, 4 hours!!”
oh no…. how terrible it must be….. four hours….. and here I am, continents away, thinking I was so unfortunate….. oh you have opened my eyes…… 

smh there isn’t even a confirmation that it’s gonna be filmed, just an old article from last year that said it might be filmed: 

“I said we WANT to film the show with this cast before the year is out. That’s all I said. There are no plans for anything yet.”— Lin-Manuel Miranda (@Lin_Manuel) October 5, 2015

come on guys. stop telling us to wait for something that probably isn’t even going to happen. you can guilt-trip me into buying tickets (and I will, with pleasure) when they tour in Armenia. thanks.

anonymous asked:

What do you think of Foucalt? I feel like most modern SJ people and academics draw from him with their everyone is an oppressor check your privilege you are complicit and infected with bias rhetoric.

uh.. idk where foucault says that stuff

Okay, I wanna clarify a few things about this post i reblogged last night. Apparently i missed some tension over it last night while I was gone, and I just want to say some things.

No one hates straight people. No one is saying straight people are inherently bad. i understand it can be a shock at first to think “wait, IM part of that group!”.  but If you’re straight and a good person, alright! If youre straight and a great ally, even better! You can be straight and have a healthy relationship, and thats an awesome thing. Cherish that! No ones calling you out directly. a lot of hetero relationships AREN’T healthy, and people don’t realize that because its made out to be the norm. 

The point of that post is to call out straight culture as a whole. If you personally don’t contribute to the “i hate my wife” jokes, then it doesnt apply to you. If you know that about yourself, then don’t worry about it. You aren’t a part of the problem. 

The reason we say general things like “straights” and “men” or “cishets”, WHATEVER, is so that people can’t separate themselves. If we say “some straights”, the problematic people will immediately stop listening because theyll assume they don’t have to worry about it. Accusing the group as a whole forces people to think about how they do things. If you know you aren’t part of the problem, even after reading a post or complaint, then move on! You’re fine! Nothing to get defensive about? and in that case, even you should realize the ridiculousness in the behavior.

But recognize that a lot of Straight Culture is this idea you have to hate your partner. The “ole ball and chain” jokes. The wedding cake toppers of brides dragging their husbands around. The thought that your partner isn’t your best friend. My stepdad flirts with my moms friends and calls them his “Second wife”, and my mom has no problem with that. Ive had multiple friends in hetero relationships that become controlling, just because thats what’s expected. So many married people in my family have this “i hate my partner” attitude, and get into disagreements and lie to each other and go behind each others back. 

sure, i joke with my gf sometimes when shes purposely annoying me and i say “omg shut up i hate you”. but i say it while laughing, she knows i dont mean it, and i dont go around complaining about her to other people. im sure straight people in healthy relationships do the same thing! thats different.

and the point of the post  i linked to specifically, is that as a community who has had to fight for their right to not just marry, but simply exist and love the people they love, why would we want to joke about hating our partner? so many people hate us already. when straight people make the “i hate my partner” jokes, we cant relate. we just question why. people in hetero relationships can take love so for granted, its always been an option to marry 5 times, when lgbt folks still have a hard time holding their loved ones HAND. 

overall though, its the same as complaining about “not all men”. of course not ALL men act a certain way. but its common enough that complaining to a group as a whole is more effective. if you know you aren’t part of the problem, then you know the complaints dont apply to you. laugh at how ridiculous the rest of your community/group is, and help make it less harmful. keep up your healthy behaviors and try to make other people realize how to be better, too.

like, im white, and i know im not a racist person individually. but poc still have a right to complain about white people as a whole. seeing a post that calls out all white people makes me stop and reevaluate my own behavior. 

so yeah, no one hates straight people. theres nothing wrong with being straight. theres nothing to get in a tizzy about, especially if no ones directly attacking you or your relationship. 

tumblr: *characterizes mental illness by hackneyed cliches*

someone whose only knowledge of mental illness/mental health comes from tumblr: *uses cliche*

tumblr: F@#%^ YOUR ABLEIST @$$, YOU STEREOTYPING M#%^*%^# STIGMATIZING MENTAL ILLNESS AND MARGINALIZING OUR SUFFERING CHECK YOUR NEUROTYPICAL PRIVILEGE YOU F#%%*ER

  • tumblr: This peanut butter and jelly sandwich is racist.
  • Me: What?
  • tumblr: This peanut butter and jelly sandwich. It's oppressing me.
  • Me: What are you talking about?
  • tumblr: The peanut butter and the jelly are intentionally segregated, and simultaneously are trapped within the confines of the bread - the WHITE bread. It's important for children to see that peanut butter and jelly can be happily integrated, otherwise they might grow up to make hate sandwiches of their own.
  • Me: I think it might just be a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
  • tumblr: We thought you might, you white cisgendered male. Check your privilege.
  • Me: You know there are actual racial problems in America, right? Conservatives across the country are passing voter ID laws that are openly intended to suppress the minority vote. Why don't you focus on that?
  • tumblr: Yeah, but this peanut butter and jelly sandwich hurt my feelings. Haven't you read The Fault in Our Stars? Feelings are sacrosanct.
  • Me: No, they're not.
  • tumblr: That hurt my feelings.
  • Me: I'm starting to think that you're more concerned about finding excuses to feel personally victimized than you are about the well-being of minorities in America.
  • tumblr:
  • Me:
  • tumblr: That's racist.

In other mildly writing-related news. I recently discovered “Diggy Diggy Hole” by the Yogscast and that song seriously makes me want to write a book about dwarves. I used to have an addiction to Dwarf Fortress– and let me tell you I have some weird stories.

A high school teacher wanted share an important life lesson with his students.

But a dull lecture just wouldn’t do. So he planned a simple interactive exercise. All he needed was some scrap paper for each student and a recycling bin at the front of the room.

He set up the exercise by telling the class that they represent the country’s population and everyone has a chance to get rich. But there was a catch:

“To move into the upper class, all you must do is throw your wadded-up paper into the bin while sitting in your seat.”

The results were about what you’d expect. Most of the students in the front made it into the bin, and most of the students in the back didn’t.

The teacher explained: “The closer you were to the recycling bin, the better your odds. This is what privilege looks like.”


Understandably, the only students who complained about fairness were those in the back of the room.

Students in the front of the room, however, focused only on the task at hand with little consideration for their advantage — their privilege.

That’s how privilege works. It can give us clearer insight into both our present and future. But it can also distract us from the challenges people behind us face in pursuit of the same goals.

In that sense, people with privilege can themselves be an obstacle to social mobility for the underprivileged.

The teacher concluded with a statement that gets to the heart of the matter:

“Your job as students who are receiving an education is to be aware of your privilege and use this particular privilege called ‘education’ to do your best to achieve great things, all the while advocating for those in the rows behind you.”

Sorry bro, but before you tell girls to wear /decent/ attires, maybe you should check your privileges first. For the longest time, you have never experienced gender-based oppression as much as women and the LGBTQ+ did. Tip lang naman.

How to spot an obvious troll in the otherkin tags.

I saw a post the other day where someone was saying that they aren’t sure how to identify trolls. Before getting into it, I want to say that there are other ways to suck as an otherkin besides just being a troll. You can be a lousy person with toxic ideas and still be serious about your kin type. That should be addressed, for sure. However, there are a lot of people who are so obviously trolling that their blogs are not worth a second glance. Somehow, those are the people we waste 95% of our time defending our reputations and identities against. Below, I’ve made a list of things that probably mean someone’s a troll. All the examples are made up, but they’re pretty damn close to stuff I’ve actually seen in the tags.

1.      Any post containing the phrase “stop oppressing me.” If an actual otherkin disagrees with the prevailing idea that we are not oppressed, he probably knows by now that his opinion will be unpopular and likely even get him hate/horrible anon messages. If he really wanted people to understand his feelings of oppression, he would have to write a lengthy post justifying his position and politely requesting that the discussion surrounding oppression be re-opened. I have seen posts like this before.

Instead of doing ANY of that, trolls write things kind of like this:

“I’M SANDWICH KIN! WHEN YOU EAT PEANUT BUTTER, THAT’S CULTURAL APPROPRIATION! OBVIOUSLY! GAWD!”

“I CAN’T BELIEVE NO PEOPLE OF CHLOROPHYLL WERE CAST IN LEADING ROLES FOR THAT FILM!!!! PLANTS HAVE FEELINGS TOO!” 

The way trolls write often suggests that it is self-evident that grass needs representation on TV because having a house plant is slavery. Even if someone actually believed that having house plants was slavery, no one in their right mind would expect everyone to immediately go “oh, wow, now that I think about it, yeah!” without any explanation as to why or how having a plant in your house (rather than outside) is slavery. Angry posts that demand you “check your privilege” but offer no context for why you should do this are troll posts.

2.      Any post that contains really angry statements followed by “uwu.”

“I’M A TRAFFIC CONE! MY PRONOUNS ARE CONE, CONE’S, AND CONESELF!!!! I’M SUPER OPPRESSED CUZ HOW MANY CARS HAVE RUN OVER TRAFFIC CONES???? uwu”

“YOU’RE A WORTHLESS PIECE OF CIS-SCUM SHIT FOR NOT UNDERSTANDING THAT HOT DOG IS A GENDER! uwu”

The “uwu” looks ridiculous next to these all-caps screaming statements. No one who is serious does this.

3.      Any post where someone describes needing to eat inedible things in order to physically survive. People who are serious about being kin might want to eat food that they associate with their kin types, but no one seriously believes that their human body needs to eat diamonds, rocks, or other non-food items in order to survive.  

“I ATE MY MOM’S WEDDING RING AND SHE GROUNDED ME! DOESN’T SHE REALIZE SHE’S STARVING ME BY ONLY GIVING ME FOOD TO EAT AND NOT DIAMONDS????”

If someone actually ate a diamond, they would probably get sick (best case scenario) or end up in the ER (worst case scenario). Either way, they would quickly learn that their body cannot process that as food. Therefore, if someone is claiming theirs can, they’re a troll.

4.      Anyone who automatically adopts new pronouns the moment they awaken as otherkin. Some otherkin are also trans/non-binary/what-have-you and choose to use neo-pronouns. However, people who are not trans know they are not trans, and I have a hard time believing that anyone who’s serious actually thinks their gender is cat.

“I’m a 17-year-old girl who just realized I’m voidkin, so I guess it’s voidself now.”

“For a long time, I’ve felt like my gender was somewhere between whale blubber and football. I guess that kinda makes me genderfluid because I fluctuate between those two things, but I think blubself really has a nice ring to it, so I’m thinking of going with blubber pronouns.”

5.      Anyone whose “kin type” is obviously some convoluted political statement or non-subtle jab against trans people rather than an actual identity.

“I identify as not-in-debt-kin, which is also known as trans-not-in-debt-ual. My pronouns are don’t, charge, and me. If Sallie Mae calls again, I’m going to yell at them for not respecting my new identity!”

“I’m gonna identify as a dolphin and demand a fish tank in my office building and insist on being fed live fish! If people won’t do this, I will decide they are oppressing me. SEE HOW THIS IS EXACTLY THE SAME AS WHAT CAITLYN JENNER IS DOING????”

6.      Anyone who makes posts that are nothing but an announcement of their kin type (which is usually something inanimate like a chair or a desk lamp) followed by a melodramatic speech which feels like a mean-spirited parody of how LGBTQQIA2SP people often talk about coming out.

“I’m desk lamp kin. Ever since I was a little child, I’ve always been very upset that I couldn’t press down on my foot and make light come out of my nose. This has been so isolating and alienating! Every time I go to Office Max, I strike up conversations with inanimate lamps. My mom thinks I’m crazy for doing this because she doesn’t understand the deep emotional impact that being a desk lamp has on me. Last year, I finally got up the courage to wear a lamp shade on my head. For the first time in my life, I felt FREE. I felt like MYSELF, but then my school sent me home because they don’t allow hats at school. FUCK MY SCHOOL. It’s not a hat!!!! This is how I express myself. I am a lamp, and asking me not to wear a lampshade isn’t respecting my culture or my religion or my gender (all of which are lamp).”

7.      Anyone with a really long list of clashing/opposing identities, genders, and disorders in their description that make no sense when combined (or at all).

“Jenna / 18 / actualy divine / demon-kin / TV-kin / fundamentalist Christian / nonbinary genderfluid truscum / tucute / radfem / semi-autistic / demi-allistic / hella sexually attracted to guys / asexual / demisexual / autochorissexual / allosexual / self-diagnosed with a rare form of pancreatic cancer, a benign tumor that I cannot actually feel or see, and .”

8.      Anyone who constantly takes the language of “triggers” out of the context of trauma and other mental health issues.  

“I’M A FLOWER-KIN AND IT TRIGGERS ME WHEN YOU PICK FLOWERS!”

9.      Any blog that conflates being trans with being otherkin. Some otherkin are also trans, but no otherkin seriously assumes that all non-otherkin are cis.  

That should get you started.

Notice to anyone making “jokes” where the “punchline” is anything like any of the following:

  • “as a transmelon bananakin”
  • “check your privilege”
  • “omg you said apple, I am so triggered”

you aren’t original. you aren’t edgy. you aren’t witty.

you’re railing against boogeymen you’ve created in front of a circlejerk of others who would rather toss cliches at those effected by bigotry than take a second to examine how you might contribute to it.

but really, though: y'all are boring.

very, very boring.