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Keeping Warm || Charlice

Charlie was sat on her bed as she was talking to Alice. She was wearing her long purple fluffy jumper over her jeans which made her cosy and she had her duvet over her legs as she flicked through her magazine. When Alice arrived in her room she almost jumped and placed a hand on her chest, “I still haven’t got used to that.” She laughed and threw back the covers and closed her magazine, placing it on the desk. She skipped over to Alice and wrapped her arms around the smaller blonde. “Hey how are you?”

They predicted that acts of compassion and empathy—employees who assist bad bosses by going above and beyond, helping bosses with heavy workloads even when they’re not asked—would be negatively linked with abusive behavior. In other words, such acts of kindness might help lessen future rude or abusive behavior.

The study, however, found that wasn’t true. “Abusive supervisors didn’t respond to followers being positive and compassionate, and doing things to be supportive and helpful,” said Charlice Hurst, an assistant professor at Notre Dame’s Mendoza College of Business who was a co-author on the paper. Their findings, she said, seem to “clash with common sense.”
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Have a horrible, emotionally abusive boss? Here’s what NOT to do. - The Washington Post

…what. That’s only surprising if you’ve never been abused or bullied. Of *course* being nice to your abuser/bully doesn’t make the abuse stop. People abuse because they like having power over you. Whether your response is to get angry, cry, shut down, or bake them cupcakes, they still get to control your emotions and sometimes even your behavior.