Where is a good start to finding out your type, would you recommend taking a test then reading about the type you got or what are similar to that type. Should you start with functions first or start off understanding each function? The main question, how do you understand each function and how can it contribute to you in the real world?
If you’ve already taken the test, yes, read up on that type. If it fits, stop looking. If it doesn’t, read up on the similar types to see if one of them resonates better. Over-thinking is something you do not want to do, it only adds confusion.
Also, acknowledge that type is not going to explain everything you do / think / believe / want out of life, so don’t bother wondering if, “If I don’t do ____, does that mean I’m not a ____?” No, it doesn’t. Brain function, not behavior.
If you’re a total newbie, start with broad generalizations of types and then start learning about the functions. Too much function stuff at the start, especially if it’s not explained well / is too vague / generalizing will only confuse you.
Once you figure out which functions you use, you will ‘understand’ them. If you’re honest with yourself, you should be able to figure out fairly soon which functions are prominent because they are automatic and ‘drive’ you. But it takes the right cognitive function description to make you say YES, YES!! Once you know what a function does, and realize you have it, you’ll start noticing what it’s doing in your stack. (For example: ESFP. Te: “Oh, THAT’s why I feel such a desire to have something to show for my time… and why I set myself deadlines and goals even though I struggle to make them… and why I get frustrated when people want to just discuss and not SOLVE THE PROBLEM!”)
Once you know ‘em, you can start to ‘work on ‘em.’ You can find out: this is how healthy Se looks. Do I have healthy Se? Nope. Okay, so then I start doing THIS with it, instead of THAT, to make it healthier.
Se/Ni: opportunistic and good at pushing self / others to try new things in pursuit of a singular desired future (vs: unhealthy: reckless, never finishes anything, only thinks about today).
Ni/Se: uses futuristic impressions and insights to guide oneself toward having the motivation to make their dreams real and learns to ‘check’ impressions with evidence (vs: unhealthy: lives in fantasies and idealism with no motivation to move forward / make anything happen and/or avoids forward motion).
Ne/Si: maintains an optimistic attitude toward the future with confidence they can change direction mid-stream in pursuit of new, better ideas as they present themselves (vs: unhealthy: pessimistic, scattered, and reluctant to try new things or finish anything).
Si/Ne: meticulously collects detailed information to construct bigger, better ideas and see them through with a positive outlook toward change (vs: unhealthy: rigid refusal to try new things and/or adapt as the world shifts forward, holds on to old resentments and bad habits, and dismisses anything abstract as ‘too weird’).
Fe/Ti: makes objective judgments based on sound reasoning and uses people skills to bond others in a common goal to finish projects and accomplish tasks, while feeling comfortable sharing their emotions and resolving conflict (vs: unhealthy: manipulation of others and/or excessively judgmental attitudes, bullying behavior and venting without caring whether others are comfortable with your feelings or not).
Ti/Fe: seeks logical consistency and precision in self-expression, in order to explain their perspective so that it can benefit or educate others, with the desire of overall social betterment (vs: unhealthy: relentless criticism of everyone and everything, needless nitpicking and corrections, sometimes aimed at making others feel stupid or inferior).
Te/Fi: makes factual assessments and can organize the external world and oneself to accomplish personal goals or to achieve desired tangible results (emphasis on ‘doing’ rather than ‘analyzing’) that align with one’s deeper values and interests in life (vs: unhealthy: aggressive controlling techniques and/or steamrolling over others to accomplish tasks, using factual knowledge to shame or intimidate, and seeking success at the cost of personal relationships).
Fi/Te: allows their sense of fairness and deeply held beliefs to
guide them as they make tangible plans to achieve literal results and make
their desires a reality while respecting others’ independence / right to be
themselves (vs: unhealthy: doing or saying whatever they want, regardless of
how hurtful it can be to others, having rigid, intolerant moral judgments / refusing to associate with others with different values, and no ability to follow through on getting what
they want from life).
- ENFP Mod