character: question

jamesstarlopez  asked:

Where is a good start to finding out your type, would you recommend taking a test then reading about the type you got or what are similar to that type. Should you start with functions first or start off understanding each function? The main question, how do you understand each function and how can it contribute to you in the real world?

If you’ve already taken the test, yes, read up on that type. If it fits, stop looking. If it doesn’t, read up on the similar types to see if one of them resonates better. Over-thinking is something you do not want to do, it only adds confusion.

Also, acknowledge that type is not going to explain everything you do / think / believe / want out of life, so don’t bother wondering if, “If I don’t do ____, does that mean I’m not a ____?” No, it doesn’t. Brain function, not behavior.

If you’re a total newbie, start with broad generalizations of types and then start learning about the functions. Too much function stuff at the start, especially if it’s not explained well / is too vague / generalizing will only confuse you.

Once you figure out which functions you use, you will ‘understand’ them. If you’re honest with yourself, you should be able to figure out fairly soon which functions are prominent because they are automatic and ‘drive’ you. But it takes the right cognitive function description to make you say YES, YES!! Once you know what a function does, and realize you have it, you’ll start noticing what it’s doing in your stack. (For example: ESFP. Te: “Oh, THAT’s why I feel such a desire to have something to show for my time… and why I set myself deadlines and goals even though I struggle to make them… and why I get frustrated when people want to just discuss and not SOLVE THE PROBLEM!”)

Once you know ‘em, you can start to ‘work on ‘em.’ You can find out: this is how healthy Se looks. Do I have healthy Se? Nope. Okay, so then I start doing THIS with it, instead of THAT, to make it healthier.

IE:

Healthy…

Se/Ni: opportunistic and good at pushing self / others to try new things in pursuit of a singular desired future (vs: unhealthy: reckless, never finishes anything, only thinks about today).

Ni/Se: uses futuristic impressions and insights to guide oneself toward having the motivation to make their dreams real and learns to ‘check’ impressions with evidence (vs: unhealthy: lives in fantasies and idealism with no motivation to move forward / make anything happen and/or avoids forward motion).

Ne/Si: maintains an optimistic attitude toward the future with confidence they can change direction mid-stream in pursuit of new, better ideas as they present themselves (vs: unhealthy: pessimistic, scattered, and reluctant to try new things or finish anything).

Si/Ne: meticulously collects detailed information to construct bigger, better ideas and see them through with a positive outlook toward change (vs: unhealthy: rigid refusal to try new things and/or adapt as the world shifts forward, holds on to old resentments and bad habits, and dismisses anything abstract as ‘too weird’).

Fe/Ti: makes objective judgments based on sound reasoning and uses people skills to bond others in a common goal to finish projects and accomplish tasks, while feeling comfortable sharing their emotions and resolving conflict (vs: unhealthy: manipulation of others and/or excessively judgmental attitudes, bullying behavior and venting without caring whether others are comfortable with your feelings or not).

Ti/Fe: seeks logical consistency and precision in self-expression, in order to explain their perspective so that it can benefit or educate others, with the desire of overall social betterment (vs: unhealthy: relentless criticism of everyone and everything, needless nitpicking and corrections, sometimes aimed at making others feel stupid or inferior).

Te/Fi: makes factual assessments and can organize the external world and oneself to accomplish personal goals or to achieve desired tangible results (emphasis on ‘doing’ rather than ‘analyzing’) that align with one’s deeper values and interests in life (vs: unhealthy: aggressive controlling techniques and/or steamrolling over others to accomplish tasks, using factual knowledge to shame or intimidate, and seeking success at the cost of personal relationships).

Fi/Te: allows their sense of fairness and deeply held beliefs to guide them as they make tangible plans to achieve literal results and make their desires a reality while respecting others’ independence / right to be themselves (vs: unhealthy: doing or saying whatever they want, regardless of how hurtful it can be to others, having rigid, intolerant moral judgments / refusing to associate with others with different values, and no ability to follow through on getting what they want from life).

- ENFP Mod

anonymous asked:

hi emma! i wanted to know where you got your planner. it’s so cool, and less work than making a bullet journal

Hi! Definitely is a lot less work, one reason I love it so much :’-) It is the Simplified Planner from EmilyLey.com xx

anonymous asked:

I usually agree with you on most things but I can't get past you not believing non-binary identities are valid and real. No, not all NB identities are trans people in denial "because science". Didn't we once say bi people couldn't exist? Put simply, most in the community know it's aphobic and exclusionist radfem, TERF-Y, SWERF-Y rhetoric. It's also strange how the state of California, among other places and organizations, can even accept these identities exist and are valid and yet you can't.

If you’ve been a follower for a while, then I’m sure that you’ll have seen me say that I’m open-minded, and if you disagree with me on things, then that’s totally fine. We’re not clones, we have different ideas, and it’d be a surprise if you did agree with me all the time.

The problem that you have with this kind of ask is that you’re not giving me something new to think about. You haven’t given me a reason to at least consider a different point of view. Instead, you’ve done nothing but attempt to guilt-trip me into changing my view. And when you do nothing but guilt-trip others, sure, they might publicly change their views, but you haven’t actually changed their views. In that guilt-trip, you’re trying to frighten me into changing my opinion. 

“Mags, if you don’t change your opinion, then you’ll basically be an aphobe and a radfem and a TERF and a SWERF, and you don’t want that, do you?”

It’s transparently manipulative, and I’m actually a little offended that you think that I would fall for something so ridiculous, especially when none of those things have anything to do with the subject at hand. I mean, come on. Let’s think this through together.

  1. How does not believing in “non binary genders” equate to being bigoted towards asexuals? 
  2. Radfems think that misogyny is wrong, and every other decent person will agree with them on that one point, at least. That doesn’t mean that everyone that’s against misogyny is a radfem. 
  3. How does not believing in “non binary genders” equate to being “trans exclusionary”? You know exactly how much I genuinely support trans people, so don’t even attempt that, please.
  4. How does not believing in “non binary genders” equate to being “sex worker exclusionary”? 

As far as the “biphobia existed/s, gotcha!” is concerned, this is where your main point actually fails.

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation that has spanned history and all human cultures. Bisexuals have been forced to be closeted because of biphobia, but it doesn’t matter where you go, or in what time period, you will find examples of humans that are bisexual. (In fact, I personally believe that bisexuality is the norm, just at varying degrees, and eventually, we’ll lose the labels to simply act on personal attraction, but that’s a discussion for another time, if anyone is interested.)

However, when it comes to “non binary genders,” when you look at “third genders” across the world and through time, you find the same things over and over again. Those “third genders” were homosexuals, bisexuals, eunuchs, religious designations, trans people or people that simply didn’t fit the gender roles and/or stereotypes at the time. Old “third genders” would be considered sexist, homophobic, biphobic or transphobic today. 

To put it more simply, let’s say that we have a hypothetical “tomboy” lesbian woman.

In some cultures and time periods she would be a “third gender” for being a lesbian or being more masculine or having more masculine interests. Today, in the likes of Europe or the US, if you looked at a “tomboy” lesbian woman and decided, out of nowhere, that she couldn’t possibly be a real woman because of her sexual orientation or interests, that would make you a homophobic misogynist. 

On the other hand, if you have a bisexual woman, whether she’s a modern Italian or an ancient Egyptian or Native American – there may be different terms used, but she’d always be a bisexual woman. Far into the future, she’d still be a bisexual woman, even if the terms change yet again.

I’m not even going to bother addressing your sneer against science, because it’s more than a little embarrassing that you’re trying to enforce a belief whilst discrediting the only way that you’d get me to agree with you. 

Finally, California has just reduced the penalty for knowingly exposing a partner to HIV, so you don’t want to hold up their views as some kind of paragon of virtue. The National Union of Students in the UK redefined bisexuality to include heterosexuals that have same-sex friendships last year, too, but I doubt that you’d think that was clever, either.

If you want to believe in “non binary genders,” fine. If you want to identify as “non binary,” fine. It’s not my business. 

If you want to engage with me and have a reasonable discussion, if you want to give me new information and see where we go from there, then I’m absolutely going to give you the benefit of the doubt and be open-minded. And if we end still not agreeing, then we can agree to disagree and we can still totally be fine, no hard feelings at all.

But if you come here and try to manipulate me, if you try to throw baseless accusations at me, then I’m going to rip every last word that you attempt to use against me apart and make you look like a complete fool.

Do I make myself clear?

Question:

Oh, this is so embarrassing. I need help answering a question. Okay, so as it is Asexual Awareness Week, I felt it was time to ask. I understand that asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. I have a very strong aversion to the idea of actually dating or being physical with anyone, but I have always identified as heterosexual. Sometimes I see guys and I find them extremely attractive, but I’d never want to do anything about it… When I heard of asexual orientation, I wondered if perhaps I was ace. However, is it possible to be asexual and still be turned on by, like, reading about sex.

anonymous asked:

Hi Emma! Our school doesn’t have the letter grade system (A, B, C, D) instead we use percentages. I’d like to ask, what do you consider a low grade? If you get about five mistakes on a test do you feel happy with it or disappointed? I’d like to ask for your advice bc I really don’t know what to base on when receiving my grades. Should I be happy? Should I be sad? I don’t know.

Hey there :-) Grades are quite subjective to each person. For instance, I might be super smart in algebra (I’m really not hah!) and think getting 90% is ‘bad’, but then might struggle with biology and think 20% is a ‘bad’ grade when I’d be getting 50% at most. Does that make sense? As I rule of thumb and a generalisation, 50% is the pass mark so anything below that isn’t ideal - but doesn’t necessarily mean a ‘bad mark’. Sometimes seeing your mark as a percentage is a bit more daunting since it seems like a larger gap between your marks and full marks. For your sake, I feel 5 mistakes is fine. I would maybe be disappointed if I’d made stupid errors but if I learnt from them, it isn’t all bad. Try not to look supercritically at the mark but at what you did. Learning from your mistakes and rectifying them in the future is the best way to improve xx

anonymous asked:

you should have put in a trigger warning for the creepy sims i wasn‘t ready for them 😂 PS: i am a new fan of owl

Welcome to the fandom XD May his feathers bless you.

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