One of the most frustrating things about the hate that Kaidan and Ashley get is the fact that most of the time, they’re criticized for things that people defend in other characters.
People like to talk about how racist Ashley is, for believing that humans should rely on themselves, rather than aliens, and guard themselves because thus far aliens haven’t been the most trustworthy to their race.
You know who else is super racist? Wrex and Garrus. With Garrus, it’s more microaggressions and off the cuff comments that are as bad as Ash’s pretty inconsistently written “I can’t tell the aliens from the animals” line. But nonetheless, he says some shit that absolutely rivals if not trumps the ONE comment Ashley makes. Wrex, though, he’s all over the place with being an ass to other races. But why do people defend it? Oh, right, because he’s just trying to stick up for his race that has been beaten down. Sound familiar?
And her religion. She mentions it just a few times, and the furthest she goes is just asking Shepard if they believe in God. That’s it. That’s ALL. However, she gets accused of being some kind of Bible thumper, but yet Thane’s religion is super cool, and he can practice it freely.
And Kaidan, people think he’s boring because he’s more introverted and nerdy, and is super paragon. He gets ragged on for being cautious and for expressing concerns throughout the series.
You know who else is rather quiet and nerdy? Liara. But I never see any criticisms of her for that. It’s always “Haha awww my adorable nerdy space girlfriend”. It’s cute and sweet when she’s protective, or tells Shepard that she cares or wants them to be careful. It’s completely acceptable for her to be calm and introverted. But Kaidan? Oh how dare he.
A lot of haters also like to call him out for telling you his backstory, and asking Shepard to learn from his mistakes. You know who else tells you their backstory? Literally everyone else. Everyone has some traumatic backstory, and in most cases, they ask you to fix it or do their dirty work. You know who never does? Kaidan Alenko.
If you’re going to hate them, and absolutely insist on putting the hate in the tags where people who like them will see it, check yourself first. Because if you’re praising Thane’s religion, but bashing Ashley’s, you’re kind of in the wrong. If you’re all about Liara being introverted and quiet, but think Kaidan is boring and brag about blowing him up, make sure you’re aware that the double standards are totally alive and well.