This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. They mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.
Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe. Life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
Estaba furioso, era tarde
En el mundo que mis demonios cultivan
Sentí la emoción mas extraña pero no era odio, por primera vez
Si, estoy cambiando, si, me he ido
Si, soy más viejo, si, estoy siguiendo adelante
Y si no piensas que es un crimen puedes venir, conmigo
La vida sigue, no te das cuenta?
No hay un futuro para ti y para mí
Estaba esperando y buscando sin cesar
Pero nena, ahora no hay nada que yo pueda hacer
Así que no te pongas triste
Existe otro futuro esperando ahí por ti
Lo ví diferente, debo admitir
Alcancé a ver, voy tras el
Ellos dicen que la gente nunca cambia, pero eso es mierda, lo hacen
Si, estoy cambiando, no puedo evitarlo
E incluso si lo quisiera no sabría como hacerlo
Otra versión de mi mismo creo que encontré, por lo menos
Y no puedo esconderme siempre
Maldice la indulgencia y desprecia la fama
Hay un mundo ahí afuera y esta llamando mi nombre
Y está llamando por el tuyo, chica, está llamando por el tuyo también.
Géminis, Sagitario, Cáncer. (Yes, I’m changing - Tame Impala)
I have this strange feeling that I’m not myself anymore. It’s hard to put into words, but I guess it’s like I was fast asleep, and someone came, disassembled me, and hurriedly put me back together again. That sort of feeling.
Since our morning can be that make-or-break time that sets you up for a good day or a bad day, I googled a lil bit to try and find some stuff that might be helpful for establishing few nice habits that (with no special effort I hope) will put you on the path of stringing together good day after good day. So here they are;
1. Drink a glass of water (if possible warm one so you get your body going because it was 8! hours without any water!! And you can add some lemon that will help get your digestive system ready for the coming meals, and make the water tastier or maybe a little bit of honey!
2. You probably heard this one like hundred of times but TRY TO WAKE UP EARLIER! There are so much benefits of waking up early and here are some of them that people who wake up early are proved to do;
Studies from 2008 showed that people who wake up earlier earn better grades!
Better planners - using that extra time in the morning for organization and setting goals is awesome?!
Get better sleep (the irony tho, but for real!) - your body is getting more restorative sleep and is in tune with earth’s circadian rhythms.
They are more optimistic and satisfied
3. Do a stretching routine
Your body will be thankful and you’ll feel awesome. Here’s a5 minute stretch that you can do in the morning to wake up your body (or if you have any work out routine - that’s even better!)
4. Listen to your favourite music
Or anything that is uplifting and makes you feel good! Here’sone playlistthat’s really calming if you don’t have any ideas on your mind. If you don’t feel that one, check out this one!!
5. Eat a real breakfast
Because you will have more stable blood-sugar levels, and you will be less hungry over the course of the day. And these are just the statistics for people who eat any breakfast. When you eat a healthy breakfast, the doors to a productive day swing wide open. A healthy breakfast gives you energy, improves your short-term memory, and helps you to concentrate more intensely and for longer periods!! So eat and NEVER EVER skip it please!
6. Smile at yourself for 30 secons in the mirror
This one might be awkward (well, it is) but you’ll be surprised at the positive thoughts it inspires plus it’s basically just a matter of designating some time as true “me time” and seeing a happy you reflected back in the mirror.
7. Set 3 most important things you need to get done for today.
Once you establish the habit of getting the most important three things of the day done, you’ll be able to build up confidence and go for bigger and bigger things. A funny thing also happens, all of the smaller stuff that you thought needed to get done either does get done without being on your list of three, or fades away because it wasn’t that important to begin with.
And before finishing, I just want to leave this quote here;
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” ― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay
when you think about it, it’s kind of funny how people can change
like how when i was younger, my favorite food was macaroni and cheese
and now i detest it
or how you said you loved me
and now your heart belongs to someone new
BEFORE ANYONE TAKES OFFENSE TO THIS: I DO NOT MEAN ALL WHITE PEOPLE, NOR DO I MEAN ALL BLACK PEOPLE.
Okay, so being transracial is becoming a thing now. However, I WILL NOT HAVE IT!!! More and more white women are claiming to “feel” like they belong to a different race or wanting to become a different race and going through drastic changes such as getting chemical treatment to have more melanin in their skin and lip injections. Usually, I’m a very open minded person, but I am so sick and tired of more and more white women (not all of course) using their privilege to decide that they want to just slip into another race because we black women are a fucking trend in their eyes. Wanting to copy our hairstyles and renaming them, appropriating aspects of our culture (ex. claiming that Rock and Roll is white music, despite the founders of it were all black), thinking it’s cute to say Nigga or Nigger and get offended when told they can’t say it. I’m tired of some white girls saying shit like their “inner black woman” like we’re some sort of fucking spirit animal.
This is a prime example of the transracial trend going on.
Not only am I annoyed with that, but I’m also sick and fucking tired of being told by some of my own community that I’m not black enough. All for dumb shit. I’m called white because I’ve actually left the country, because I sometimes go swimming in the ocean or lakes, for liking other genres of music than just rap and r&b, for speaking correct English, because I don’t like watermelon, because I’m not a Christian, because I’m in touch with my sexuality, because I play bass guitar and fucking love rock & roll, because I like being free spirited, because I’ve dated white boys, because I take my depression and ADHD seriously and don’t pray on it or ignore it, because I don’t know every rap song or every rapper, because I have a lot of white friends, because I can’t twerk (and have a little ass), because I take the time to learn about other cultures and foods, because I’m stick thin, and the list goes on and on. I’m really sick of all of this. I’m sick of feeling that I have to fit inside a box and if I do anything outside of it, I’m not black enough or being called stuck up because I don’t act stereotypically black. I’m sick of being told I’m too nappy headed, that I’m too dark (like that’s supposed to be a bad thing), being told that only light skinned girls and white girls who are wannabes (wanting to be black so damn bad *cough* Kylie Jenner *cough*) are beautiful. And what’s worse is that some white people think that they too have the right to tell me that I “act white” or that even they are “blacker than me”. I’m just saying that these groups of people can fuck right off and kiss my black ass. I’m going to continue being a Carefree Black Girl.
I’m sorry for all the profanity but I just needed to rant or talk to someone.
Also I believe that we need more Carefree Black Girls who don’t fit into the stereotypical black girl box. We need more SZA’s, Zoë Kravitz’s, Solange’s, Esperanza Spalding’s, Erykah Badu’s, Lupita Nyongo’s and more Janelle Monáe’s. Women who don’t let their race define their personality.
Deep in the wintry parts of our minds, we know that there is no such thing as a work-free transformation. We know that we will have to burn to the ground in one way or another, and then sit right in the ashes of who we once thought we were and go on from there.