change your mindset change your life

Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.
—  Sydney J. Harris
{Final Chapter: PART 30} I Won’t Stop You // Jeon Jungkook, Vampire!AU

Originally posted by jengkook

Pairing: Jungkook x Reader

Genre: Vampire!AU, Fantasy, Angst, Smut

Summary; N/A.

“And in the end, he had everything he had only ever hoped of having; her, only her - for the rest of time.”

Warning: Although this chapter doesn’t have an M rating, there are some scenes of slight mature/sexual content.

This is the final chapter to this series! If you would like to read my author’s note, I have placed it at the end of this post after the chapter for those who wish to see it~ Thank you, and I hope you enjoy IWSY’s final chapter ^^

{Part 1} // {Part 29} {Final Chapter: Part 30}

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You are in charge of how you react to the events that occur in your life.
Thus, you are in charge of how your life appears to be.
Is it happy? Is life worth living? Do your wildest dreams dance in your reality?

Or is it filled with problems? Annoyances? Pesky little things that never seem to go away?

Change the way in which you react to the events in your life, and you are able to change the way in which life’s events treat you.

—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself…the height of a man’s success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. …And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.
—  Leonardo da Vinci
The most extraordinary feeling you can ever feel is being lost in something. A few seconds of pure unconsciousness, being oblivious to your surroundings and feelings, but only aware of being astray. That feeling is rare. It comes alongside the things we notice the least, like dancing with heat to loud music, singing your favourite song out loud with passion, perhaps kissing someone and feeling a rush of heat in your stomach. Being frightened of something, like a fast car that almost hit you while you were crossing the street, or a fierce wave that crashed against your body and drowned you beneath the salt and the sand. Being lost does not necessarily mean losing your route, but it means losing your mind for a bit. Losing awareness. Consciousness. Focus. It’s healthy to get lost, it’s healthy to lose yourself in something. We all need to lose ourselves every now and then in order to find ourselves again. It’s significant to lose your care for the world every once in a while. It’s like surviving a car crash and recovering with a whole new mindset. It changes you, it changes your mindset and your lifestyle. So, get lost, even for a few minutes. Lose yourself.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid ? Think about it…
—  Kevin-Santiago.C.R

I think the most important lesson I took away from Bojack Horseman is that you can’t use your negative experiences - an abusive childhood or relationship, shitty parents, failure, mental illness, etc - to justify your shitty behaviour

You can’t control what happened to you but you can’t use that as an excuse to be a terrible person, and I think what the show is trying to tell its viewers is that at the end of the day, while you can’t change the past, you can control the way your past dictates your present and future…if that makes any sense

Like, you can’t help the fact that all of these shitty things happened to you but you can do something about the way you react to them and how these reactions affect your current life and relationships

And it definitely isn’t an easy thing to do, especially when these past experiences instil behaviours that you’ve been practicing for so long that you don’t even realize you’re doing them half the time - but it’s possible to change, it’s possible to want to be a better person, and it’s possible to become a better person

It’s fucking hard as shit to change your mindset after so many years of thinking that this is the norm, that this is “just the way things are”, but it can happen if you really want it to and are willing to work to make it so

But when you don’t have that motivation and you stew in your self-loathing you become a sinkhole that pulls everything and everyone in and you destroy everything around you - just like what Bojack and his mother are doing

But at the end of the day you have to admit to your faults and try to learn from them or else you’re going to be stuck in that sinkhole forever 

Idk this show is just very real and very raw when it comes to talking about mental illness, isolation, abuse/trauma, loneliness, and the fear of being forgotten or left behind - it does such a great job at portraying these things that it’s almost scary sometimes, and some of the episodes can be very hard to watch

And the way they handled Beatrice’s character and her background…it was so chilling?? It was downright disturbing and then you suddenly find yourself feeling sorry for a terrible person because you realize how complex she is - like idk that entire storyline fucked me up so bad

But it’s just so good, and it’s had such a huge impact on my life

Plus, as a person who identifies as asexual, it’s just so relieving to have a positive portrayal of an asexual character - season four did a fantastic job with Todd as he comes to terms with who he really is, and the reaction to his acceptance of it was just so great (Some shows should take fucking note, cough cough Riverdale)

I can’t thank this show enough for existing tbh

One may not be able to change the entire world around them, but they are always able to change the world inside them self.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin | Instagram 


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Nineteen Things I've Learned at Nineteen

     1. Mindset: The characteristic that differentiates you from everyone else. A vehicle that is driven daily by you. How you perceive and express the unique soul that you are. Something that changes with you as you grow older, no matter what. Your experiences help with the rapid evolution taking place in your mind while living in this seamlessly changing world we roam about. Accept change even if you don’t want to, because in all honesty you’ll be a different person a  year from now. Capitalize on any opportunity put before you that can enhance your mindset, friend. An open mind, is key. Don’t live life shunning ideas out when it can potentially be the things you love.

     2. Love: A word with an infinite amount of meanings. A choice not a feeling. People say, “Love fades away.” the only reason for that is because they chose to stop trying with that person. If both of you wake up everyday wanting each other as much as you did in the beginning of the relationship, it’s bound to last. Love isn’t easy, it’s just as difficult as people claim it is. But, have you heard the phrase, “Nothing good comes easy?” So, why give up as soon as you both experience signs of hardship?

     3. Happiness: As temporary as it currently is, possibly one of the best feelings you may experience. The state of well-being. The small moments in life that you wish could last forever. Ultimately the goal everyone wants to reach in life. Happiness may exist more in other peoples lives, but you should never envy them. Because, eventually, you’ll experience true happiness. A happiness you thought would have never been present in your life. Seize that moment and never let it go. If you’re still afraid that won’t happen anytime soon, don’t worry at all. It’ll come when you least expect it.

     4. Depression: The feeling of being stuck. Helplessness. Hopeless. Tired. There are ways to soothe it, but it never really feels like it goes away. The hole you are trapped in seems to be too far down to see the light on the other side. You’re a great liar, because everyday you go out it’s unnoticeable. The second you get home, you find yourself in your room overthinking the unthinkable. Bottling everything up, because who wants to hear about it anyway? That’s the best way to lead yourself to self destruction. It may be hard to know exactly what you’re feeling, but people love you. No matter how much you disagree, there are people who care and want to listen. Your walls don’t need to be as high as mountains, because even the greatest people will get tired of being pushed away.

     5. Loneliness: Alone. By yourself. A room full of unfamiliar faces. Some people’s worst nightmare. A feeling you dread. But, comfort can be found in being alone. You may find out things you never knew about yourself, because no one else was there with you. No one else was there to give you advice, or another point of view. That can help you grow as an individual, showing you that you’re just as strong by yourself. A little step towards loving yourself.

     6. Music: Have you ever closed your eyes while listening to one of your favorite songs and sang as loud and sincere as you could? Falling victim to the sweet melody. Thinking of all the things that you and the artist can relate in. The lyrics are the emotions that you cannot express in words. The beat is the different layers of sound that can instantly trigger that emotion in your brain. Music is an escape from reality. A safe haven. A stress reliever. A shoulder to cry on.

     7. Insight: A person is letting you into their life. Giving you the details of certain problems they have faced. Not holding any detail back. You’ve been told you’re a good listener, and you love when people vent to you. Because they trust you, and depend on you. You get to speak your point of view and comfort them, but don’t feed them lies. They’re telling you for a reason, don’t sugar coat anything. If something they are doing is preventing them from accomplishing their overall goal, point it out. If you told your problems to somebody and they responded with things that you didn’t want to hear, but you know deep down it’s true. How would you feel about that person?

     8. Doubts: It’s only normal. A gut feeling that is hard to shake off. You may have doubted yourself many times before. Something as simple as thinking you’ve done poorly on a test, or maybe as extreme as doubting someone’s words towards you. The great thing about doubts is, that the uncertainty that you felt for the short/long period of time will become a certainty. It’ll be answered, and then a new worry will introduce itself and that’s just part of the process of life.

     9. Defense Mechanisms: You once loved someone so deeply. You loved them so, because you’ve never been hurt before. Gave them everything you had, and it still wasn’t enough. They left. It seems as if they never cared for you in the first place, you were just an item for the time being. You may have been lost and confused, because this hasn’t ever happened to you. The person you’ve gotten attached to has detached. And it hurts. It hurts so fucking much, and you’re left picking up the pieces in the end. The promises to yourself start rolling in. “I’m never going to be that attached again.” “I’ll never let anyone break through my walls again.” etc… You’ve built your walls strong and high. You’ve grown weary on people’s intentions with you. You’ve toned down the feelings you’ve once felt. Pushed people away when you’ve felt they’re getting to know you a little too much. The only person you’re hurting is yourself, because you may have pushed out some of the greatest people you could meet. All because you never want to hurt like that again.

     10. Relationships: What makes us human? The ability to talk? Walk? Morality? The creativity we may possess? Our brain? Or is it the relationships we build with people we meet throughout life? Meeting the different personalities, different mindsets, and characters out there in the world. Bonds of trust being formed over simple or complex communication. A friend, family member, or significant other. These relationships that are crafted are symbiotic. You both learn something from one another. Whether it’s a new word, or a new perspective of a situation or idea. Lessons are always a result of a relationship good or bad.

     11. Obstacles: A certainty in life. In fact, life wouldn’t be the same without a little struggle here and there. The two options are success or failure. There may be some obstacles you cannot overcome at the time it arises, but you will be able to once you’re ready. And if you still don’t succeed, everything happens for a reason, don’t get discouraged. Maybe the task was for you to fail, because when a door closes, three more open.

     12. Lost: There’s no way to explain this feeling. Pure emptiness and misdirection. You ponder on the choices you’ve made to get you to the spot you’re in. Contemplating the direction of the next step you should take. Worrying if you take that step you’d become even more confused. But then there is also the possibility of finding your footing once again. Leading you on the right track that you needed to be. Our minds are powerful, sometimes they get away from us. But things will fall into place, no matter how far you’ve wondered off track, you’ll get to where you need to be.

     13. Life: An infinite amount of questions flutter around life. In short, It’s what you make of it. You are in control of everything for yourself. The things that happen around you is decided by fate. Negativity may plague your life, but you can live it positively. Or your life may be full of positivity, but you live it negatively. Sometimes you can be dealt shitty cards, but that doesn’t mean you’re out of the game.

     14. Path: The story you’re going to tell. The journey you are living in this moment. The decisions you’ve made, the things you have learned. The skills you’ve picked up, and the people you’ve run into. The mark you will leave in this world, and on the people you have come into contact with. The path you cannot see, because it’s not carved in front of you yet. And why would you want to look back?

     15. Past: Things that you cannot change. Things that already happened. The anchor that can hold you down, from swimming up. Why continue drowning?

     16. Morality: Something as simple as cracking a smile back at someone who smiled at you. The restoration of faith in humanity. Or the, “Are you fucking serious?” question you ask yourself consistently about ten times a day. Why treat somebody the way you wouldn’t want to be treated? Instead of speaking out of impulse, think about the things you’re about to say. The way you present yourself and how you treat people can be changed, for better or worse. Everyone you speak to is human, they have feelings. Take that into consideration.

     17. Forgiveness: A hard thing to do a times. It may feel like the person that has done wrong to you, doesn’t even deserve it. But holding on to a grudge can affect you from moving on and forgetting. Instead of taking the knife they stabbed you in the back with and stabbing them back, drop it. Two wrongs don’t make a right. You have the opportunity to be the bigger person. It’s something you owe yourself, because showing forgiveness is harder than showing anger. And you want to prove to yourself that you’re stronger than they thought. Forgive and Forget.

     18. Value: Know your value and the value of everything else you have. Don’t take anything less than what you deserve. If someone isn’t treating you with the same kind of respect you treat them, it’s time to cut ties. You are worth the world and more and some people will see that, but not all. Don’t take anything you have right now for granted either. Because as soon as you do, it’ll be taken away from you.

     19. Wisdom: Elders, peers, siblings, parents, family, teachers, and friends. Everyone lives a different life. The more you ask, the more you’re aware of the different places people come from. There is no same resolution to identical situations. Expand your knowledge of why people do things a certain way. Everyone was raised differently, don’t expect the world to be just like you.


everyone please please please google growth mindset

i feel like i constantly see posts saying “i hate math” “i’m just not math brained” “i can’t fulfill my dreams because math got in the way” 

i’m reading a book by dr. carol s. dweck called “mindset: the new psychology of success” and she explains very clearly with 100s of examples what the differences between fixed and growth mindsets are. she then goes on to show you how you can change your mindset. no, she’s not saying everyone can do everything all the time and you’re always going to succeed with a growth mindset, but she does show how you can change the way you deal with failure in order to be more determined to pursue your dreams. 

you’ve been trained all your life to believe that math is difficult, and it is, but so is learning how to play the guitar or being an athlete. you have to put in the work and tell yourself that you can succeed. also, plenty of people work through disabilities every day. there isn’t one correct way of doing anything in math and although at the end of the day there is one answer, you have to concern yourself more with where you went wrong and how you can fix it, rather than giving up and calling yourself a failure. 

you have failed, you are not a failure.