Notes I took from my Daddy as advice for ALL Caregivers

I asked my daddy, and he says “the best way to make them feel good is attention. Not too much to oversaturate them, but you don’t want to make them feel like they’re not needed or wanted. Give them as much as you can, but give them space when they want. Every time you can, give them time. But when you need space, you have to tell them too.”

“Find out their interests. See what you can do to help them get into little space, and what works best. Experiment with them to see what makes them feel happiest in little space.”

“Set rules. Make them achievable, but not overwhelming.” (Also punishments, but not all spankings -me)

“Interact with them when they’re little. Get involved. Listen to them talk about their drawings, and tell them how much you love it. Put it on your fridge.”

“If they ask you to name stuff for them, such as a stuffie, do it. It’s a huge honor. It means you’re really important to them and you matter so much to them.”

“Read stories to them (via Skype if you’re ldr). And find a board game, like battleship that you can play ldr, if you are.”

“It all boils down to finding a happy medium for the amount of attention she wants and you want to give.”

“Never expect a relationship to be 50/50. Always be sure to put more in and be ready to get less out, just in case. Once you expect 50/50, you’ll always be disappointed. It doesn’t mean the partner is a bad person, but we’re all only human, and we can only do so much.”

(From me) If they fall asleep early, send them a cute paragraph for them to wake up to. It’s super fun to wake up to something sweet from Daddy.

Not his exact words because I was typing fast and didn’t reread anything until now, but take this stuff to heart. Sorry it’s not extravagant, these are only notes, not his exact words. He sounded much more exhilarating.

Postcard from B’s-LOG magazine scanned by me (katokathy) 

This is from issue November 2017