celibacy

Don’t assume a girl (or anyone for the matter) waiting for marriage to have sex for religious reasons is her being oppressed by her church.

If you want to have sex, go ahead. I don’t mind. But don’t go telling me my celibacy isn’t worth it or is pointless or detrimental to my self worth.

Basically if a woman does anything for her religion like being celibate or wearing a hijab, leave her alone. It is her choice.

I’m not worthless because I have sex or don’t have sex. I’m not worthless because I am modest or immodest. It’s my choice and I am worth it.

“You shouldn’t have sex before you’re married because your partner will only want you for sex and won’t spiritually enrich you! I want my man to stick around for my personality and because he likes spending time with me :)”

Okay
but gave you ever considered
that you can have all of these things
and also have sex
Don’t devalue my relationship because you see sex as something that is done *to* you instead of *with* you. If sex is a substitute for feelings in a relationship, then your relationship is the problem and will be a problem with or without it, so please remove yourself from mine.

i mean, it cannot be that foreign that a couple could survive without sex. there are people in long distance relationships, couples who are physically not able to have sex, couples who are asexual, couples who abstain for religious reason etc. etc. really, it should not be a surprise that a person could date and be happy without sex. for some people, having sex is really really important. for others, it’s not. for others still, not having sex is really really important. different strokes for different folks

anonymous asked:

You are fifty shades of fucking wrong on that celibacy=\= asexual post

I was not the admin who made that post, but I’ve read through it and it is not wrong

celibacy  

1. abstention from sexual relations.
2. abstention by vow from marriage: the celibacy of priests.
3. the state of being unmarried.
(source)

Asexual

1. Biology.

  1. having no sex or sexual organs.
  2. independent of sexual processes, especially not involving the union of male and female germ cells.

2. free from or unaffected by sexuality
(Source)

If we ignore the bit about plants, asexuality is the lack of sexuality, or the lack of sexual attraction. Celibacy is the choice to not have sexual relations, the choice to not get married, or the state of being unmarried

Asexuals can enjoy having sex, or have the desire to have sex. Asexuals can have a sex drive. Asexuals can masturbate. Asexuals can do anything sexual that non-ace people can, they just don’t have the sexual attraction.

Plenty of non-ace people are happy to have sexual relations with people they’re not attracted to, why can’t asexuals

SUMMARY:

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. It is not a choice, and has no correlation to sexual activities or desire

Celibacy is a choice to not have sexual relations or get married, or can be used as a term for the state of being unmarried

Therefore celibacy =/= asexuality

Thank you

-Tyler

That devastating rejection is absolutely inevitable. If you are serious and men realize it they will cease being attracted to you.

If you don’t play the game, the role, you are not a woman and they will NOT be attracted. You will be sexless and worse, unnatural and threatening.

You will be feared and despised and viciously maligned, all by men you know perfectly well you could charm utterly and wrap around your finger just by falling into the female role, even by men who have worshipped you in the past.

How is that possible? Obviously, because they never were worshipping you. That’s the bitter truth, and you’d better catch on now.

— 

Dara Densmore, On Celibacy

I’ve linked this before but it’s too good not to post again!

let me be clear

my choice to not have sex in my relationship is not about guaranteeing a happy ending. my choice to not have sex is for religious reasons. if this relationship never works out, if we don’t get married, and we just break up, i will still stand by my choice. because it’s not about me and my boyfriend. it’s about me and my God. 

you may not understand, you may not agree, you may think it’s stupid

but i don’t owe my pussy to anyone, and i don’t owe an explanation to anyone either

my body, my life, my spirit, my rules

The Blood (Title Sequence)

Don’t you think the title sequence to Sherlock would be a good place to hide subtext? Well, let’s have a look at one detail (I already talked about the Gherkin in the title sequence here): the blood.

The title sequence ends with a few shots of a petri dish with blood and a chemical reaction that’s part of a forensic analysis of the blood.

Due to the position of these shots at the end of the title sequence, I suppose a) they’re important and b) they tell us something about Sherlock.

On a literal level, they show a substantial part of Sherlock’s work, i.e. chemical experiments and forensic analyses.

But there’s more to it: the blood seems to boil when the reagent is added. This could be part of the idea of “solving crimes as a metaphor for sex” (see LSiT’s meta on A Study in Pink): solving crimes excites Sherlock, it stirs his blood.

But I think we can take the subtext even further. The blood Sherlock analyses in the scene these shots were taken from is Ian Monkford’s. Those are the original shots in The Great Game (33:26–33:32):

Remember? Ian Monkford’s blood had been frozen before it was applied to the abandoned car (that’s one of the things Sherlock found out by his analysis). Anticipating the possible objection that “frozen blood” might refer rather to Mycroft, the “Ice Man”, than to Sherlock, let me answer: Yes, that’s right. But the show is called “Sherlock” and not “Mycroft”, and therefore I’d argue that the title sequence tells us something about Sherlock, not about Mycroft. Then again, Sherlock can be rather frosty himself.

The name of the man whose blood Sherlock analyses from is telling: Monkford. A monk is someone who – like Sherlock – has chosen to lead a celibate life. But as for Sherlock, his celibate life gets disturbed. Something or someone makes Sherlock, the cool and (sometimes) seemingly asexual man who is “married to his work” become hot-blooded and passionate. Guess who that someone is. I’ll just mention the drop lingering on the pipette’s tip for ages and leave you to your own deductions.

(Another possible objection: It’s Sherlock himself who adds the reagent to the blood, not John. Yes, right again, but Sherlock has chosen to let John enter his life. He has chosen to include John in his detective’s work. And (again, see one of LSiT’s amazing metas) during the best man’s speech he’ll deduce himself into being in love with John.)

So, to cut a long story short: The shots of the blood in the title sequence show Sherlock’s sexual awakening triggered by John in a nutshell. They are the culmination of the title sequence, so we can safely assume that’s what the story is heading for and has been from the beginning. Long live TJLC!

Not having sex in my relationship allows me to have spiritual clarity
I can determine for myself if this is the person for me, without being clouded by “but that dick too bomb though”
I have gotten lost in a person before, wrapped in love and the high of being with a person that gave me sexual intimacy
But losing yourself in a man that is not led by God is dangerous
Leaving sex out of the equation allows me to not miss red flags or misinterpret sexual intimacy for the kind of intimacy necessary for marriage
I take sex as seriously as I take marriage
As marriage makes two bodies one, so does sex
So if we’re not at a place where we’re ready for marriage, then we’re not in a place where we’re ready for sex
Sex and marriage can lead to life changing responsibilities and consequences
To minimize the importance of one and not the other seems to cheapen the value of both

It began hundreds of years ago, deep in the Albanian Alps—an unusual tradition where women, with limited options in life, took the oath of the burrnesha. A pledge to live as a man. To dress like a man, to work like a man, to assume the burdens and the liberties of a man.

But these freedoms came with a price: The burrneshas also made a pledge of lifelong celibacy. Today these sworn virgins live on, but their numbers have dwindled. Many Albanians don’t even know they exist.

What happens when the society that created you no longer needs you? And how do you live in the meantime?

The Oath of the Burrnesha: Women Living as Men in the Albanian Alps