STOP villifying people who decided they don’t love you. There are a lot of people who spend their entire lives never really knowing what love is. How then can we expect them to understand the intricacies of romantic love? They have never experienced it themselves so they don’t recognize it when they see. Or what someone called love, was far from what we would recognize as a loving relationship.
They don’t understand how to give it and if they come to the realization that they don’t love you; let them go. People don’t fall in love. It’s not an accident. It’s a conscious decision to love someone and a conscious decision on a daily basis to continue loving someone.
And some of us aren’t all that easy to love… Just thank God they discovered early in the relationship that it wasn’t love. Lust is not love. Attraction is not love. Someone stroking your ego is not love. Sex is not love. And if you are married and find out you don’t love your spouse but have children, have the common decency to decide to stay married until the youngest turns 18 (providing you can stay civil with one another and faithful). Your children didn’t ask for all the problems associated with divorce. The only thing it will cost you is being a decent human being. Embrace your humanity. People treat animals better than they do one another.
Everyone carries baggage into a relationship and all of us want to feel and be loved. Be as understanding toward him or her as you want them to be to you and your feelings. Not everyone will like this message and a lot will think I am wrong. To each his/her own.