If it’s so normal and well-intended, why don’t men tell other men to smile? — Abbi Crutchfield (@curlycomedy) October 31, 2014
Ok so this week’s mantra isn’t really a mantra as such but it is still important nonetheless.
By now you must have seen the incredibly uncomfortable viral video which depicts 10 Hours of walking in NYC as a woman. If you haven’t, you can watch it here. In true viral nature the video has sparked discussion and debate across the internet. From what I have seen most responses have been negative and a lot of the negative responses are unfortunately coming from men.
This tweet absolutely nails the overwhelming negative response the video has sparked. Many people on my Facebook homepage have posted this video and I have seen a few guys complain that she is ignoring nice guys, etc. One article even went as far as calling the woman in the video an “average bitch” which is absolutely f****** disgraceful. This tweet, among many other thoughts, sums up what I wanted to scream through my computer screen.
Fair enough she could have said hello back to the people who were just saying hello but at the end of the day she still doesn’t owe them that. Feminism to me is standing up against what guys think they’re entitled to as well as wanting equal rights for women and men. Some guys think they’re entitled to a greet, a date, a kiss, sex all because they have chosen you to be their object of desire. BIG DEAL. This doesn’t mean I have to reciprocate and no this doesn’t mean I am ‘friend-zoning’ you. It means you’re creeping me out and I want you to go away. Anyway, “nice guys” do not stalk a woman down a street if she ignores their greet! This is something I feel very strongly about as I experience it A LOT and I will debate and debate and debate about it.
I think it is very easy for guys to dismiss this as they are not the ones who deal with this almost every where they go. If somebody doesn’t make eye contact with you, or ignores you, what gives you the right to follow them down the street until they answer? If they don’t want to talk to what appears to be a strange man, why does that then make the woman bitch?
I have seen an overwhelming amount of posts in response to this video which have made me want to face-palm and weep for humanity. I don’t know if people aren’t clued up enough or are genuinely think like this. I don’t really like telling people what to think but you have to realise it is not flattering. I don’t need to lighten up because that’s just how men are. It is not innocent. It is extremely unnerving.
If you watch this video and feel there is nothing wrong with it:
- Watch again and think about how you would feel if you had to deal with this for 10 hours
- Think about how you would feel if you were watching your daughter, sister, friend, loved one
- Think about it from a female perspective
- Read some thought pieces on the subject written by women - here’s a good one Mic posted.
This rant will never be over.
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- Catstello XO