honestly straight people look i’m glad you wanna be an ally, that’s good, nowhere did i ever say that wasn’t good, but you GOTTA get over yourself. if you really freak out every time you realize someone’s not straight because you think it’s a test of whether you’re a good person and you’re SO scared of reacting wrong, that’s not good. and it makes our existence fundamentally about you and your self-image.
please chill and learn to see us as the ordinary individual human beings we are, not as symbols, not as exotic curiosities, not as monsters who are gonna bite you if you make a well-meaning mistake. and if you catch us online joking amongst ourselves about awkward straight people, realize it’s not meant for you, take a lesson from the joke if you recognize yourself in it and leave well enough alone. constantly dealing with straight people’s othering behavior is exhausting enough without having to hear your tale of guilt, and real allies know that. be that ally. spare us.