I'm sorry to bother you, but do things really get better? I'm 16 right now and everything I know is sadness and exhaustion and anger and then I talk to my parents and they just complain about adult life... is it worth it to go on?
oh gosh, i promise, it’s worth waiting, buddy. i know there are a lot of people who say, oh it gets better. and it does in some ways, but what it really gets is different. the people who are angry and mean and horrible often stay that way. the people who cut you off or who flip you off or who piss you off often are the same people at 16 as at 26.
i think i hated people telling me “it gets better” because what could get better about being a mentally ill queer cuban girl in a world that wanted to eat me. i got spat out. my writing isn’t published because i’ve been rejected so many times i don’t even notice anymore. i was told a few times “make it less obviously homosexual”. what is going to get better about that, i said to myself. the memory of it will never be a nice one.
things got different slowly. like i didn’t realize until i was far on the other side of it. i wasn’t kidding in that last post when i said today i read my writing at 15 and it was painfully obvious how depressed i was. i didn’t have a diagnosis. like you, all i knew was that i was exhausted and angry and sad all the time and when i talked about it, i was told “everyone feels that way sometimes.” i felt that way all the time. in this story, i don’t suddenly wake up after turning 18 and have a magical life where it is all bunnies and flowers and loving. it took me 3 years of trying before i finally managed to quit self-harm completely. my eating disorder and i are still not on speaking terms, luckily. i’m slowly getting a handle on my ocd. i didn’t realize that the biggest thing that was changing was me.
yeah. being out of the house made it easier. away from where people knew me as a certain person. being someone new or being who i was or being in a room full of people who didn’t care how gay i was. being in control made it better. finding real and true friends made it better. being able to make my own plans and choose my own story and do more than just wait until i was old enough to be taken seriously - it got better.
but honestly it’s me. i learned how to shake hands with depression, he and i are such good old buddies i sometimes see him before he’s even coming. and i’ve gotten so good at getting out of his embrace, because practice makes perfect, same as anything. and i’ve learned things about myself i had no idea about at 16. i didn’t even realize i’m funny. i had never been skinny dipping. my only kiss had been sort of an accident. there was a lot i cared about then that i don’t care about now, because in my new world outside of that, the people i surround myself with don’t care either. i’ve worn a dinosaur onesie pajama set to eight parties now when 19 year old me wouldn’t be seen without her makeup. i wear glasses in public even though i’m nervous they make me look like a bug. i have tattoos and new piercings and a bank account (and no money) and i have love. and i don’t mean with a partner, although i’m blessed enough to say i have that as well - i mean. i just found it. i taught myself how to look for it. i figured - listen, i’m here still, so i might as well, like, try to enjoy it. and it wasn’t overnight. it still goes away sometimes. but i love so much and so easily now. i laugh more because of it. i let myself love dogs and movies and silly things. and this love sort of … makes things better. because it reflects off of everything into you. like a mirror.
at sixteen… at sixteen i was very suicidal. i didn’t know that it applied to me, because i thought i was just annoying and lazy. looking back now i always pull a face at how obvious it was, and how close i got to walking myself into a grave. it was more than a close call. death, like, waved. i actually believed i wouldn’t make it past 18. what was the point? what was the point of anything? i think if i’d told myself then, “it gets better”, i would have laughed. “maybe for you!” i would have said, “you have money and a life and you’re not like this.” but it did get better. in inches. stick around to see it. stick around to see everything wonderful that’s waiting in the wings for you. that knows your name. a fate of beautiful moments that are small and precious, like butterflies landing on fingers or snowflakes on tongues, or just sitting with a good book during the rainfall. hell, stick around to write the book, because (trust me), if you believe in your art and yourself - it can be done.
stick around most of all because what gets better is you fall in love with yourself. the world doesn’t become suddenly sickeningly sweet, even if the people around you become better and you’re given more opportunity. that’s wonderful too but… what happens is that over time, the stuff they told you stops sticking. you realize that just because your nose is crooked it doesn’t even matter because it doesn’t stop you from being the best dang ping pong player in your family. you realize you have a family, even if they’re not blood. you realize you are your own family. and you learn to take care of yourself and yes, it gets ugly at times, but you manage. and inside of managing there’s all these wonderful successes like mac and cheese and getting the bills done and the smell of clean laundry and friends that make you laugh so hard you almost pee and an apartment with plants in every corner and a hairless cat in sweaters or a dog with a bowtie or both and watching movies and reading books and seeing art, all of which haven’t been created yet, and possibly you’re the one who makes them. and managing … managing doesn’t have to be big. sometimes it’s just making a small difference. and sometimes the person you make a difference to is yourself. and that’s amazing.
stick around because, trust me, somewhere in there, you meet your younger self in your dreams and you tell her - oh gosh, i promise, it’s worth waiting, buddy.
Some Things Kent Has Said to the Rookies While Sober: (See Drunk
1. (About his blind date) “He’s a nice guy, but he kissed me and then he left
me at the door? What the fuck?” (“Maybe he wants to take it slow?”) “I’m not
the fucking Pope, James. I’m horny now.”
(“The Pope doesn’t—”) “Maybe I need to flash my ankles some more. I’ll wear
booty shorts for the next one.”
2. “I hope everyone here knows that if a—” (shouting) “—hot, tall, single dad in this establishment would like to buy me a drink and take me home tonight,
I would literally leave all my
friends in a heartbeat—” (turning back to rookies) “—Sorry. I see you guys like
3. (On why he isn’t speaking to Jeff) “Jeff convinced me to watched ‘Me Before
You’ yesterday. He promised me nobody dies. I cried the entire time when I was
trying to order takeout afterwards. And then I cried on the toilet. I’m so fucking pissed. I can’t
even look at him right now.”
4. “Dom and I are going to sing ‘I Have Nothing’ for the AcesTV special. I practiced every single fucking night in the shower this past
week, and my neighbors filed two complaints against me, so just letting you know to like, get ready to eat my
5. “My favorite things? Kit dressed up in one of those cute bowties they make
for cats on Etsy. Mashkov’s ass in nice jeans. Extra guac in my burrito.
Finding the love of my life and then realizing that they’re actually a prince or
Batman. And winning the Cup every year. I don’t ask for a lot. It’s not a lot.”
+1. “The lighting in the locker room is amazing,
what the hell, did they change the bulbs? It makes my abs look fantastic.
Someone help me sext my husband, he’s gonna want to see this.” (Smacks rookie’s
arm.) “No, not like that. Take the photo from the top-down, do you not know
your angles? God.”
If it's ok to ask, could you please show how you draw Bendy? I love how it turns out when you draw him, but I'm struggling a lot to draw him and it gets really frustrating sometimes :(
I always find it a bit weird getting asked stuff like this, since I don’t really have a specific process with how I go about drawing, or at least it’s one that I don’t think about while drawing. Still, I tried putting together a tutorial if it helps.
I’ll put my notes here if it’s a little too hard to read.
1) Start with a circle(head), and a bean (body). In the game, Bendy’s body looks more like just an oval, but I figured for actions and posing there would be more of a bend. (* Since we don’t know for sure if Bendy has a neck or not, adding one is considered optional).
2) Add the eyes (”Pacman Eyes”) and the frame for the face. Try to imagine the McDonald’s “M” or a heart. Next, add a line and a circle at the end as a guide for where you want to place the arms and hands. Make sure the “shoulders” are pretty close to the top of the body, since they’re going to be slightly covered by his bow tie
3) Next is the horns. They should arch around and connect at the base of the circle, forming the rest of the head. For the top of the horns, try to imagine the arc that a crescent moon has. For the arms, try to keep the elbows of the arms curvy. Most rubberhose cartoons kind of had these noodly looking arms. Drawing fingers on the hands were sort of the same way, though instead of noodles, they kinda looked more like sausage links. Also start outlining the legs and feet.
4) Finishing touches! Add some more detail to the shoes. Bendy is sort of imitating characters like Mickey or Bimbo, so the shoes need to look pretty big, and the toe part of the shoes needs to look large and rounded - as if someone pumped air into the shoes to inflate it like a balloon. Don’t forget to add a little triangle shape in the shoes to make it look like his shoes have heels. Add Bendy’s smile and his bowtie, which should sit at the top of his body.
5) Final touches! If you haven’t already, add three little lines on the back of Bendy’s gloves. When adding black, the face, gloves, and bowtie stay white. And you’re done!
What do you think Mamoru and Usagi's wedding planning was like? Not a fan of the PGSM version, so I'm looking for a different headcanon to replace it with. :c
I personally love the implication in the manga that Usagi and Mamoru’s wedding is a spectacle. Ten bridesmaids and they’re all wearing their own elaborate wedding gowns and veils? Sign me the heck up.
Why is Chibi Chibi there? Who the heck cares, of course the paradox-causing childlike form of the most powerful sailor senshi of a dystopian future is invited. Usagi Tsukino will not let a little thing like a couple thousand years get in the way of her wedding guests. Her future daughter gets an invite! Her alien friends get an invite! Her talking cats will MC the wedding and people will just accept that as a perfectly normal development in Usagi Tsukino’s life. (Maybe not that last one. But Luna and Artemis and Diana will still get places of honor.)
It’s obviously gonna be a western-style wedding. Usagi’s been dreaming of one since she was a kid. Kenji will balk when she starts to talk about the masses of people she plans to invite and nine different types of fresh flowers that are all imports and the enormous fancy venues she is considering (cathedrals or concert halls or Disneyland or the botanical garden or or or…). But of course, most of it gets mysteriously donated or something (Michiru pulls a few favors for the venue, Haruka calls on a friend who owns a limo company after the idea of flying Usagi there via helicopter is rejected, Mako does the wedding cake herself and secures the flowers). And Mamoru pays for a lot more than is normally expected of the groom (and is way more invested in things like the napkin colors than anyone really anticipated).
The ceremony sounds like it will be weirdly lopsided with Usagi’s literal army to Mamoru’s… well, depending on what fanon you subscribe to, he might have the Shitennou, or just Motoki, or Shingo, or a white cat in a bowtie as his groomsmen. Maybe all of them. That still won’t add up. That’s okay. The senshi are there to support them both. They fill in both sides of the aisle as needed.
The party that follows is legendary. They will still be talking about it for hundreds of years to come. It’s a multi-day affair. The food never stops. Sometimes they stop for naps, just a mess of people in various states of fancy undress piled on one hotel room bed.
Usagi’s family had no idea what they were in for. There are the friends they expected, the ones who Usagi has excitedly talked about so thoroughly for so many years that they feel like part of the family. But also a bunch of really famous pop stars showed up? Who knew the Three Lights were even still around? And also this woman who smells like flowers and carries herself like a queen, and everyone definitely thought Usagi was exaggerating when she said that she was friends with Michiru Kaiou, but there she is, playing the violin. A bunch of people definitely knelt in front of Usagi and Mamoru. A few people kissed her hand. Weird magical shit kept happening. Flower petals spontaneously falling from the ceiling and such. The white cat got into the champagne and started a loud argument with one of the Three Lights. Nobody else found any of this strange.
And if you think this is the end, you are mistaken still. This is only their first wedding. Every couple hundred years, Neo Queen Serenity and King Endymion decide to reaffirm their marriage, just for the heck of it. Just so Serenity can wear a (different, bigger, fancier) white dress.
A neighbour’s cat was expelled from her own house by the neighbour’s other cat. As we always have cat food out, she made our house her home. Turns out she was pregnant! Here are the kittens with one month and a half. Two have been adopted, we’re keeping the mom and perhaps one or two kittens, depending whether they are adopted or not.