Why are we so afraid to explain things to our kids?!

Jennette McCurdy, star of a show on Nickelodeon, has recently been in the spotlight for some racy photos that have surfaced on the internet of her in lingerie. They were discussing it on The Talk today and Carnie Wilson was guest hosting. Aisha Tyler had said that McCurdy shouldn’t be held responsible for something she assumed would be kept private (I agree 100%). Carnie shook her head and said “my 9 and 4 year old love that show. How do I explain these photos to them if they see them? She’s a role model to young girls and she should have kept that in mind.” (That’s not word for word but the idea was the same).

My question is, why are we so afraid of explaining things to our kids? Why do we expect “role models to young girls” to live up to a standard that no other 21 year old woman is held to? Jennette McCurdy expected that these photos would be kept private. What we’re really asking young women to do is banish their own sexuality, just in case our own kids might see it. If you don’t want your kids to stumble across images of a girl in her lingerie, monitor their internet and television. Otherwise? Learn how to explain sexuality to your children. It isn’t the worlds responsibility to monitor the things your kids see.

I have a daughter and I hope to be able to have open conversations about these sorts of things when the time comes. And I hope that I never shame a young woman for being sexual just because I’m too afraid to have a conversation with my child.


Why this movie wasn’t bigger I’ll never understand.

James Ingram and Carnie Wilson - Our Time Has Come

During the mornings he [Brian] would take four-year-old Carnie and younger sister Wendy to feed carrots and sugar cubes to the horses that lived in a field down the road. When Wendy, then not quite three years old, accidentally sunk her foot into a bath of scalding water, Brian scooped his shrieking daughter up in his arms and sprinted her off for treatment at the small hospital across the road, with his wife and older daughter fast on his heels. The image of her father taking immediate control of the situation would never leave Carnie’s memory. “I was running right behind him, thinking, ‘That’s my big, strong daddy carrying Wendy.”
—  Catch a Wave: The Rise, Fall & Redemption of the Beach Boys’ Brian Wilson by Peter Ames Carlin (page 181)

Advice/Wisdom of the Week for your Sign
  • Aries: "Generally speaking, life is so rich and full of variety; you have to remember all the time that there is a comical side to everything." -Wislawa Szymborska
  • Taurus: "If you don't accept failure as a possibility, you don't set high goals, you don't branch out, you don't try - you don't take the risk." Rosalynn Carter
  • Gemini: "To love one's self is the beginning of a life-long romance." -Oscar Wilde
  • Cancer: "Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness." -August Wilson
  • Leo: "A healthy outside starts from the inside." -Robert Urich
  • Virgo: "The most important thing I think we need to remember is that we're a work in progress. Do not be ashamed or afraid to ask for help." -Carnie Wilson
  • Libra: "It is better to have your head in the clouds, and know where you are... than to breathe the clearer atmosphere below them, and think that you are in paradise." -Henry David Thoreau
  • Scorpio: "Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure." -Oprah Winfrey
  • Sagittarius: "When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth." -Cynthia Heimel
  • Capricorn: "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." -Groucho Marx
  • Aquarius: "We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot." -Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Pisces: "For every good reason there is to lie, there is a better reason to tell the truth." -Bo Bennet